Can I have some positivity for the working mommas? I am halfway through my maternity leave and dreading going back. Due to personal circumstances, not going back isn’t an option. I dont wanna leave my boy. I never thought I’d be hesitant go return to work. I love my work. I just dont want to miss a single moment. They grow up so fast. Please just send positive vibes and thoughtful advice on getting through this.
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Hang in there mama! I feel ya. I just returned last Tuesday.
Hey mama! I’m a working mama to two littles (3 yr old & 9 month old). It is very hard at first leaving your babies! Just shower them with love when you get home, be excited to see them and be present always. Let them know that mommy works to support them and always reassure that you’ll be back to get them when you get off work when they get older. My oldest asks me every morning if I’m coming to pick him up after work so I’m always reassuring in that aspect and it seems like it helps him have a better day.
giving your child the life they deserve is normal parenting. It’s hard to go back, but if you don’t, are you willing to let your child go without the things they need?
Just remember to take it one day at a time. I had a hard time at first but it got better.
I feel this. Most women dread going back to work after their baby is born. But once you go back, start a routine. & it will get better in time.
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Yeah, you may go ahead and cry for a while. We all do. It’s so tough! But there are some pluses to going back to work other than actually being able to have a roof over your head and food to eat.
You will have quiet times when you don’t have to be on alert for baby crying & you can do things without interruption. Go ahead and have a complete and lucid thought!
You can have adult conversation and not feel isolated. If you have an office job, you can even sit down for more than 5 seconds.
You have a reason to get dressed and fix yourself up and find time to bathe and do your hair. It’ll make you feel more like a sophisticated working mom & less like a disheveled, smelly milking cow with spit up, drool & pee on you. BTW, I recommend wearing a housecoat & putting on your outerwear at the last minute to avoid going to work with bodily fluids or sticky stuff on you.
You save yourself some of the frustration and relentlessness of tending to a baby 24/7 when someone else is caring for them. Someone else is dealing with all the crying, diaper blowouts, biting, fussiness, getting kicked or head butted or swatted (my boy was very wiggly and uncoordinated at first).
You actually have time to have coffee, tea, and/or a soda & get to finish it before it’s cold, warm or flat. AND you get to eat all your lunch without interruption and while sitting down and eat it before it goes cold. Aaahhh.
You get to listen to whatever music you want to going to and from work (or maybe even at work) with radio, earbuds/headphones instead of hearing crying, fussing, or just being constantly on alert with ears cocked for baby sounds. You can relax a little.
While you are away from your baby no strangers will make rude comments about what you’re doing wrong or give you disapproving stares or unsolicited advice.
You may be able to take time going to or from work or on a lunch break to run errands, grocery shop, get your hair done, go for a rejuvenating walk, or whatever without having to load the infant/child/booster seat, strap in a fussy baby/wiggly toddler/whiny child, cart the whole thing with you possibly interrupting nap time or being with a screaming little one who won’t be consoled. I gave up on nail polish and nice nails when my kids were little but you can go for a mani/pedi.
Your baby gets to socialize. My firstborn showed a definite preference and had a little baby “girlfriend” at daycare. As he grew, he loved being gentle with the new babies and once even dragged me back inside to meet one! Being a “lonely only” isn’t a thing when kids go to daycare.
You learn to make the most of your time when you do have that time together. And the first one is the hardest because you’re still learning so much. If you have more kids, it’s easier because you know the ropes.
It’s easier to get and keep kids on a schedule when you and the childcare providers are on a schedule too.
You have at least one other experienced person checking on your child for anything out of the ordinary who can alert you to changes, problems, or other things you might miss.
BTW, congratulations! As awful as it feels at first to leave your baby, it gets a little easier every day. You got this! 
Hang in there Mama! Take it one day at a time. 
It is a proven fact children grow up much more self reliant with working moms
Just remember, if he does something at daycare like rolls over, don’t think you missed his first time, when he does it for you that’s the 1st time for you and that is what matters! Just cherish the time that you get to spend with him and remember your not alone there are lots and lots of working moms.
Hardest thing I ever had to do but I woke up and told myself daily I had to make a better future for my baby. Good luck mama. You got this.
Could you possibly work from home?
Yes just take it one day at a time. It will get easier. I personally feel like it’s better for your mental health too. 
In case it helps, know that some of it is biochemical. The hormones are there to prevent our cave ancestors from abandoning their young during hardship. Times have changed dramatically, but our biochemistry hasn’t.