Pray for him. Talk honestly with him and don’t belittle or seem as your are telling him what to do.
Get him busy! Help him find positive hobbies/activities that give him self-confidence and fulfillment. Sports, volunteering…
I’m glad you caught this early! Get him into counseling or rehab now!
This guy and his girlfriend are both recovering addicts. They could help you.
At his age, he’s probably experimenting. Educate, educate educate. He doesn’t want to have to wear a life vest in his 30s or 40s and qualify for hospice due to heart failure. I’ve seen it, it’s sad. Coke and speed aren’t any good for the heart.
I need more information. What kind of test was it? Many different things cause false positives for cocaine on dip tests and swabs. Did he say he did it?
energy drinks can show up as a false positive for certain drugs too… I wouldnt freak out on him right away until you know for sure it was the actual drug. you dont want him to not trust or confide in you anymore. he could end up pushing away from you and doing worse
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This can be deadly, I would contact the juvenile authority, maybe intervention is needed
The weed was more and likely laced with coke. However the concern I have is u knew and didnt stop ur child from smoking pot. He needs to go to rehab and u need to reevaluate some parenting perspectives
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Get him help before its to late at 14 he still has a whole life ahead him that cpuld be completely gone from jail to worse if not helped now
Where I live, our jail has a scared straight program for teens. Might be worth looking into.
He needs rehab. They have therapists there that can help him through his issues. He may need a few months in, but I’d switch his schools or put him in home study
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Honestly just show him what the affects are kid prolly experimenting or did it with his friends I tried it at that age to
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He needs Jesus. Praying for you.
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Therapy,and have the police show him what jail looks like.So him the homeless,and talk to them.If his father isn’t around get him a Big Brother.
Put him in military school
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I am a recovering addict and I know you have to really want to change in order to change. He is young enough that you can force him to go to a recovery center. You’ll have to make sure he stays away from friends which means he’ll probably rebel later on. I wish you the best if luck my thoughts and prayers are with you 
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Get him into a center for kids and find out he can learn about what it all does to his brain. And body. Its also who hes hanging with parents need to work together
Since he is a minor you can have him committed in a rehabilitation facility whether he likes it or not. Tough love
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Why the f*ck are you asking Facebook?? 
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Some of these comments are actually laughable.
I’m sorry I don’t have a solution, but hope stuff on your end gets sorted out
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Rehab and counseling right away.
I was doing coke for a hot minute. Maybe a month? And let me tell you! The cravings are BAD! after I tried it I wanted more and more and more. It’s not easy!!! Just letting you know, depending on how long he’s been doing it… I’ll be harder unfortunately.
Put him into a rehab place since he’s a minor maybe get counseling
Can u say boot camp and get him straightened out
Melissa you have your head up your butt.
Me i started smoking at 11 trust me as a kid and peer presusre YES IT DOES LEAD TOO OTHER THINGS IM 56 NOW I STILL LIKE TO SMOKE BEFORE BED TRUST ME NIP IT IN THE BUTT U TURNED OUT VERY WELL
Ground his ass. He’s 14. He wouldn’t be going anywhere except school if he was mine. He also needs counseling.
To all the parents who are dishing this parent how about all of you have your kids tested for drugs then see how Mary Poppins of parents you all really are to the parent I don’t know how to advice you but it’s going to be a long road for your family if your child does want help and turely does that’s half the battle and you are a good parent your seeking help try and keep up and help your child I wish you all the luck
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My heart goes out to you both. Addiction and the life that goes with it, is not an easy road for the person addicted and their family and friends.
Find support groups for yourself. Keep your health in balance. Have resources ready for when he is ready.
You could force him to rehab but if he had friends and a lifestyle that is about drugs then this won’t help when he returns.
You only can control yourself, your reaction, your health.
Don’t enable this habit ad much ad you love him. This will be hard not to do. This you need support.
God bless.
If i did this when I was a teen and my parents found out, I wouldn’t be alive to tell the tale 
. Anyway… my mom would tell me I had too much time on my hands if I had time to do something like that. I’d obviously be grounded until time ends itself, as a parent, if my children do something like this, they DO have too much time on their hands obviously. They’ll be finding a job after school, staying home doing jobs around the house, they’d be kept close by so I know this problem would end. If it still wouldn’t end they’d be going to a treatment facility so I KNOW it’ll stop. Can’t talk to your dealer can’t get the drugs 
. Phones being taken away is step one, teens revolve around cell phones (trust me). If they have any Xbox or Facebook take the computer/ Xbox/ PlayStation (the means) away. Until they can learn to act like an adult they’ll be treated like a child. Oh and if you think even remotely it came from another kid at school, I’d warn the principal bc he’ll always have a source if it’s another kid at school. If it’s an adult obviously I’d tell an officer, your child’s life is at risk.
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Send him to Military camp
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Get to the root of the problem. And then get him some help, he’s clearly crying out for some…
Why was he tested? My nephew would sell to get his. Until an undercover FBI agent. He was in a boys place for months and kept going back cause he didn’t stop. Once a very smart guy is not now. Have him tested again just in case the result was false. That is what I would do. AND no weed Mommy!! Have a friend who quit and was hard for him but he did it. Get a handle on your son Hon. And how is affording to buy weed? Back streets? Weed is not pure there. Can be laced with coke. That is how dealers suck them in. Find out who he is getting pot from. IF he will tell you.
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I’m sorry . Listen to his side of the story … There has to be an explanation
Counseling to help him sort out why he’s doing this. Rehab if it looks like he can’t stop. Love and understanding, but firm rules from you. My daughters half brother was using heroin at 14- as a result of abuse and issues with his moms home- he’s 22 now and been clean since rehab at age 15. This does not have to be the end of the world, but if he’s really doing hard drugs- treat it like the threat to his life that it really is
Rehab and counseling.
I dont buy that you didnt know or a least suspect.
Not eating ir sleeping, sketchy friends, missing money.
Coke is not cheap and people dont just give it away.
I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. Coke was thick everywhere at every bar and party.
It’s obvious when people do coke because they never shut up!
Your kid was either away from home too much or you ignored the signs.
At 14 he doesnt need rehab, he needs locked down tight. Hes not addicted, he’s partying.
He doesnt leave your house until he realizes you mean business.
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Omg! I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I just want to send prayers to you. I have no advice.
(hugs to the mom)
Beat him senseless the first two times, third time kick him out
He smart and knows what’s good,
Let him find out in his own
Could’ve just been mixed in his weed. Did you ask him about it?
I asked my husband who was a coke addict for 3 years right before we got together he said that your son needs to talk to someone who has done it. My husband now has mental issues because of it he has bad anxiety & depression and some other stuff. He has admitted it ruins your life mentally and if he gets to far into he is screwed. My husband also said stay calm don’t go after him hard because it will just make him want to do it more. He said the best way to go about it is pay attention to his behaviors and when he is at a low and down on himself that’s probably that best time to talk to him because he is feeling the worst on it.
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Take him out of school. My parents took my out when they found out i was doing drugs and i believe it saved my life, it was truly a huge wakeup call even as a teenager
Addiction is a illness and it can start very young, you can ground him cry to him it doesn’t matter, until he gets help with the power of addiction your wasting your time, our is he just experimenting at the moment, you didnt say.
The addiction has to be treated period if your son is willing, I know Ive dealt with addiction with my son for years.
Send his butt to rehab. Find one that has a psychiatrist and therapists. The can detox him in a safe environment and get hom therapy to find out what the main issue is. Most people start doing heavy drugs as an escape from something. Therapy will help.
I would have a talk with him and listen to what he has to say. Maybe something is going on and this is a way for him to get your attention. Maybe it’s just him being curious as all teenagers are at that age. He probably doesn’t even know he did it, the weed could have been laced with it. Now is your time to really listen and hopefully he has enough trust to open up. Freaking out won’t help him talk freely best of luck
Show him what kind of life most hard drug users live. The health issues. The constant in and out of jail. The minds of groups they socialize with. Then remind him of what kind of life he has the opportunity to live in and how he’ll be risking most of that by dabbling in this
This is a awesome group of people that could possibly direct the person in a better direction then a holiday group. Also mu inbox is always open for someone looking for help
Sounds easier than it is it could go either way it could make him rebel more or it could wise him up maybe a week in a boys home would scare him straight idk but all I know is when I got my ass beat it just made me that much better at not getting caught gotta be firm but carefully so punch him, hug him, punch him, hug him and keep repeating until desired progress is reached:rofl:
good luck I wish you the best with him lead by example
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Maybe his weed was laced? Either way. Sit down and talk with him, you want him to trust you and feel comfortable to tell you anything, look into family counselling and consider a rehab program or a AA program if he’s using a lot. If it was one time in his weed or one time he tried it then I’m unsure if he needs rehab in my honest opinion… if he’s been using it a lot then deff for sure. Kids experiment with drugs in their lifetime (at least that’s what I’ve witnessed and been told) but I didn’t know it started that young 
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Recovery is possible…Dont hesitate to be strong and act quickly and fiercely if necessary. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
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Rehab now if you wait till after Christmas or new year it will just prolong exposure. At 14 you have the right to force rehab at 16 he has the right to refuse.
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Sounds like you need to find out why, & then counseling,& possibly treatment.
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Take him to the nearest hospital and find out where they admit people his age and getting admitted getting help now don’t let it go on suicides real
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Pediatrician. Also, s trip to talk with juvenile office. They can help get him into programs.
I know your struggle. But until they except they have a problem and wanr to change. All u can do is pray.
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855-514-3434 addiction help line
Holiday page asking about drug addiction advice? 
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At 14 he should not be out of your sight unless he is at school or sports. Now he certainly won’t be. When my son was 16 and pretty much had it made at that age. School, sports and his Jeep. I reminded him about all of the gifts and freedom that he had. If he messed up, it would be gone. I also kept a home drug kit at home when he turn 17 and started getting a bit on the cocky side. His girlfriend assured me that kept him straight for the most part.
Don’t threaten your kids and not follow thru. Follow thru just once, that usually works
Why would a 14 year old be tested for this ?
Try talking with your child first. Find out what he is going through and start there. Stay calm and no judgement towards him. Instead, let him know you are there and would love to connect.
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drug counseling
Family counseling
Rehab
Talk to a drug hotline see what they suggest
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Do you know if he has been around ppl that u dont know or ppl you dont feel comfortable him bei g around cuz maybe thats where he could have gotton it from and try and get him help like rehab will be your best bet
You knew he was smoking weed??? 
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If he gets arrested, let him sit in jail for a week. It’ll set him straight. But truthfully, he’s probably just going through a rebellious stage. Make schooling, grades, college and a successful career top priority. Make him join clubs and maybe start a sport.
Beat his ass 14 years old shouldn’t be exposed to hard drugs like coke discipline your kids don’t let um smoke weed you new he smoked weed at what age 13? so you new and did nothing or you’ve let your child do whatever he wants for so long he doesn’t care about disappointing his parents because he was never made to feel guilty or a afraid of what his actions may cause
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Have him share on Christmas