Ask family or friends if they can speak to him about what’s going on. Perhaps they can bring him awareness from a 3 person perspective.
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The first year of marriage is always the hardest in my opinion… but maybe you should talk to him about how you’re feeling?
Get counseling right away!
I’m not sure how long you were together before you got married, but the “honeymoon” phase, that they say is the best, is actually the hardest phase of the marriage. Even when you live together before getting married, there is still stuff to learn after you get married. There is always something to learn about your spouse. First, I would suggest sitting down, just the two of you, and having a conversation. If you have done that and it hasn’t worked, try marriage counseling. If that doesn’t work, it may be time to separate.
Have you two met before or did you just marry a stranger?
Communication.
I mean listen to hear, not respond.
Therapy can help but do something before you’re both ready to leave.
Invest in marriage counseling.
Consider it an insurance policy for your marriage
Honestly,I’ve been married for 2 yrs and they have been the hardest… we dated 2 yrs before getting married and we didn’t live together before we got married. Been together a total of almost 5 years. I would try counseling. But my husband and I have learned to really communicate and be honest about how we feel. Neither should get upset when talking about your feelings. Best of luck
I ha e been married for 15 years 16 In December and marriage takes work alot of work and I even have issues still with my husband bit we are working on it still
Try marriage counseling
There are certain years of marriage that are harder than others, 1st, 5th, 7th and 10th for sure I’ve always heard. March will make 9 for us and it’s been spot on lol forgive quickly, and do a date night weekly. Doesn’t have to be anything special but just y’all two each week. It goes a long way! Also try to be intimate every week as much as y’all can work out. It makes a huge difference! Good luck!
Get counseling fast. I didn’t and now my marriage ended 2 months before our one year anniversary
Sometimes counseling works and other times it just doesn’t. You both need to fully commit and by that I mean you both really want to work on your marriage and furthermore you both have to want to be willing to go to a counselor and not be pushed by your partner.
So see a damn therapist dont ask facebook 
We got counseling before we got married our Pastor always would have engaged couples to go through marriage counseling before he would marry them…
But, yes I’m bringing faith in to it, without God helping us and being with us every day we wouldn’t have gotten through it…
We’ve been together for 15+ years, and next year will be our 10th year …
They need a couples therapist.
Marriage counseling. ALL marriages go through turmoil but if you truly want it to work, you can make it work but it takes BOTH. Go on dates, make at least one day/night of the week for each other. Never stop dating your partner.
You both need therapy…cause it shouldn’t be that hard in yr 1. I’ve been with my husband 17yrs, married 11 of those yrs and we only had a rough patch in 2012 because of his anger issues which we worked through. Talking & being 
honest FROM YOU BOTH is the only way to get things solved. Good luck
My husband and I have been together 20 years. Some are better than others. Some I’d like to forget! Life’s stressful! As long as there’s no infidelity don’t worry about whether or not he’s happy. Worry about whether or not you’re happy. Find things that provide you with happiness. Things will get better and then life will happen and they’ll get worse. Then they’ll get better than before! We are all growing and learning and changing. It’s a cycle that never stops.
You guys can try therapy. It’s sounds like you guys have had some big issues that you needed to deal with and haven’t yet. If you can’t work through the issues or he refuses you will have your answer on what to do. Def double up on BC while you guys figure it out.
I have been with my husband for almost 16 yrs married 7. Marriage takes work. Mine and my husband’s marriage is not perfect but we both work hard to make it work. We have had ups and downs but you have to work at it. If you feel counseling will work try that. If you feel like he isn’t trying talk to him. Very last thing would be split up but try other things before you resort to that.
The first year is so hard. ALL Mmarriages have periods of struggle. Cimmunicate. Be kind to eachother and seek counseling if you need to. 18 years for us. We are just coming out of a rough patch.
Figure out if you’re dealing with a narcissist because and keep you just at a fingertips distance and constantly guessing and trying to make them happy when nothing ever seems to work it’s how they entrap you
First couple of years of marriage are the worst. It’ll get better.
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I fought with my husband after we got married and questioned it for quite awhile but now we’ve been together 11 years and I can honestly say that he didn’t mature emotionally until like 10 years in. Communication is everything. Everything. Everything. You both need to figure out eachothers love language and be willing to work on it. Smoke a joint and start talking.
If you have not had children, please don’t thinking this will fix it because it won’t. Until you are sure where this marriage is going, don’t drag a helpless child into the picture.
Marriage takes a lot of work. You won’t always like the other person. I believe love is first a feeling, then a choice. If you loved them once, it’s possible to love them again. Marriage and love is to be committed enough to stay and fight through the hard times.
Being cheated on is a completely person choice if you are willing to work through it and the cheater is committed to changing their way for the better of the relationship.
Hard times do not include abuse. Abusive relationships should always end as fast as possible for safety.
Toxic relationships can heal if BOTH partners are willing to accept and change their own toxic behaviors for the better for themselves, and others.
This is some weird advice, but I kid you not, it gave me wonderful insight. I did a composite on our natal charts and it made so much sense. We still fight, we still talk about divorce after 5 years, but my husband also has borderline personality disorder and military ptsd, while I have ppd ptsd so it’s a different ballgame.
Download the In Love While Parenting app. We both learned a lot from it! Talking about just learning to communicate is much easier than actually doing it. If your marriage is worth it, you both should sit down and talk about how you love, how you receive love, what approaches work, what triggers you, and what you expect.
Why be with someone that is making you feel so small, insignificant, and inadequate? That doesn’t sound great to me and the marriage only just started. That’s concerning
Sounds like you both jumped into this marriage too soon. Whatever happened to long courtships and taking time to get to know each other before jumping into bed…let alone a marriage?? Ive been married 4xs. Trust me i understand. Sounds like it wasnt a match made in heaven. Get out.
U can get out b4 its too late
My grandparents fought then to bed if you are feeling this so soon
The 1st 5 years of marriage is the hardest. Communication is the key.
learn to effectively communicate not arguing
Move on…go be happy…
If you’re not happy, please start over!! You only live once!!
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Sounds like you need to talk to him 
I feel like the communication within the relationship isn’t ideal and for me personally it’s a very important part so perhaps start with having those tough conversations and if it feels like it just blowing up every time and turning into a fight then seek some counselling ? All the best x
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Sounds like these issues were there way before marriage and they should’ve been dealt with prior to that commitment instead of getting married and thinking things would change. Marriage and kids don’t fix relationship problems. Sounds like either you both stopped appreciating each other or never did to start with. You both might have personal issues you never dealt with and need too.
So many comments saying walk away. So sad. Your communication is broken. Self esteem sounds like it’s breaking, but this relationship is not over! Figure out each other’s love languages, look into attachment theory, maybe you guys have very different attachment tendencies you need to explore. Have authentic, “lay out all the cards”, uncomfortable conversations. Go see a therapist individually and together. There’s so many things you both can do. You both have to be all in, but you have to work at it. Challenging situations can promote the most beautiful growth together and as a couple.
Walk away before u have kids! Nothing worse than feeling alone in a relationship
Better to get out early than hang in there and hope things work out. You will just get older and lose your self esteem. If it isn’t working and a few counseling sessions don’t help and there are no children involved, move on. You both deserve better.
Ask yourself… What do you want? It’s a two way street. Stop trying to please men who are not emotionally mature to say hey, this is what’s up. You are good enough!
You need to develope Friendships outside of your marriage. You need more balance. Do things to improve yourself and satisfy yourself. You are responsible for your happiness and no one else is.
If he already cheated-which you hinted at at least twice - why are you even asking? You know you have to go. There is no expiration on marriage mistakes or cheating. Take it back -he may/will get worse.
I hope your husband is reading this because he is the one you should be seeking advice from about your marriage not social media. Start talking to him not the fake world of Socialmediums
Read 5 love languages together and His Needs Her Needs (this is a Christian based book but it is still great. You can still get the basic information you need even if not Christian)
First year of marriage I hear is the hardest bc you both sort of need to adjust to more responsibilities of being a couple. Of course the longer you date the better you know each other. I cannot suggest enough that communication is absolutely always the answer when it comes to relationships. Don’t hesitate to from day 1. It will reveal both of you and then you can decide to stay or move on. But don’t give up so early. Relationships are work for both and always will be. Once you guys find your flow, all things, big or small become almost natural and easier. If you guys do love each other, you’ll find out one day that you need each other. Hope this helps and I’m telling from mine and others experiences.
Couples counseling. Trust me when I say just because you are in counseling with you SO does not mean it’s the end. It’s a way to open up and figure out how to communicate properly without blaming each other. It opens up accountability between you and your partner and it is a healthy way to get you relationship back on track.
Nobody values the sanctity of marriage anymore. You don’t just “walk away”. You work at it each and everyday. Nothing worth having comes easy & you’re going to have to work for it.
Sounds cheesy but talk about it. No argument. Just talk. If he starts to argue just walk away. My husband and I have only been married 3 and I swear that first year was almost then end of it but we talked and it’s been much better ever since. If I have any issues, I talk to him about it.
Either go to marriage counseling or throw him away.
My advice would be to be more positive about yourself, he will turn around!
There’s a huge difference in Getting Married and Being Married.
The atmosphere after the wedding is tough and tense. Not all couples make it. We stayed together for 8yrs,thn lobola, 3yrs later celebrated but ijo. I could tell he had his uncertainties and fears as me but we never spoke abt. I heard him say 'if life of marriage is like these…) then I could guess my fears of him too. I think at times is best to go for marriage counseling b4 anf after… You need to be strategic on the tense feeling. I even took responsibility of paying balances on photography… Just to make peace. The translation to ‘lenyalo le boima’ is a lot dear. Try make it work, if meant to, it will pass. That is why when having functions, we need to be minimal on wish list not to feel burdened after the celebration
It sounds to me like these issues were already there before you got married. You started out with baggage and the first year of marriage without any previous baggage is a learning experience and adjustment. Marriage is not the solution to solving relationship issues. The two may need to decide your true feelings and if you both want the same things from each other and your marriage.
If he wants to be done, then be done. If you guys can’t communicate then there’s zero hope. Don’t prolong the inevitable.
Have you thought about trying counselling?
The first year is the hardest. I been married for 1 year and a half. We been thru so much. But you gotta remember you chose to make a commitment. For better and for worse. Of course this dont apply to violence and cheating. It all depends on the situation. What’s happening thats making you feel like this.
It’s not just a saying; the first year is the hardest. A lot of couples don’t survive it. Talk to him. You’re only going to know if you ask, but be aware it may not be what you want to hear.
Well, you didn’t give a whole lot to the story. There’s two sides to every story and your side is very vauge to begin with.
Communication is key.
Communicate with him, not social media, about your concerns. A lot of guys get pretty upset if they feel like you’re not willing to share your thoughts and feelings and turn to think that you’re hiding something. Marriage means you share literally everything, or so you should feel that way with a good partner (you should only ever marry a good partner to begin with 
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Being married is a lot more then just being in a relationship. It sounds like you guys weren’t together very long in general, however arguments among marriage isn’t uncommon. If you guys weren’t together that long prior to being married though how do you know you’re fit to be together through marriage? You don’t. You should be with someone, while living together, for a few years if not more (I’d give it a minimum of 5 years but thats my personal preference) to even make the decision that yes, I could marry this person. Or no we’re not fit to be together- and thats fine since marriage didn’t happen it won’t be expensive and a super long process to get divorced 
but you skipped that step for what reason exactly? Unless the dude is loaded or you had an arranged marriage there’s zero reason ever to just jump head first into marriage. Divorce is expensive and can sometimes take years to officiate depending on the case or funds.
Like I said, communicate with him of your concerns. Speak to him about your guys’ relationship. We are not in a relationship with either of you and with the vagueness of your story there’s not much else anyone can give advise for other then you two have serious communication problems and probably got married way too early in the relationship. You don’t need to necessarily run away, but if he refuses to want to hear you out about your concerns then obviously it’s never going to go anywhere.
I would say try to communicate effectively and if that doesn’t work seek professional help, like a marriage counselor or therapist
If you haven’t lived together before, that could be mainly it. Creating a whole new routine of living with someone can be rough at first. Talk it through and see if that’s been the challenge.
Many are the adjustments and compromises that have to be made when first married. The secret is communication. Remember how precious your love was to you that made you both want to marry.
Get help.
If not counselling then there are fun books you can share to help you understand. Hopefully it is something you both want to do but if not you can go ahead yourself.
The world situation is putting stress on all at this time.
Be kind and communicate kindly.
God bless.
Ahm… Have you been to marriage counselling? Or seek advise together from your closest friends (there are cases that friends knows you better than yourself alone). They can help to save your marriage I think.
I would tell him this. Don’t act distant if it’s only because he acts distant. Sit and stare into each other’s eyes and don’t say a word. Find the love you have and build on it. Tell him your fears and don’t sound like you’re just complaining. Ask him what you can do to make it better and tell him vice versa.
Sit down and have a good ole fashioned heart to heart chat. But each take it in turn and dont interupt each other.
Try explaining things . Dont put each other down.
I been married 30 years we have always argued. Maybe he does care.fornyou but your love styles are different ours are. First.year isn’t always roses as you getting to know what living together as a married couple is all about. Look up Dixie Thankey she does free online short courses or if you got the money then she goes.more indepth.
Life’s short. Marriage isn’t a life sentence. If you’re not happy now, ask yourself if you will be happy six months from now. Is there light at the end of the tunnel? Probably not. When things start going bad, they usually only get worse. Why wait for the inevitable? iI’s time for you to get out of Dodge City.
Jesus. Jesus is always the answer. Too often, we feel that we have needs that aren’t met but these are needs we need to find in Christ instead of our spouse. Seek a relationship with God and then your spouse. When you allow God to control you, your marriage, the problems are much easier to tackle. Its spiritual warfare. Satan wants to plant seeds of doubt, unhappiness, discontentment. Which leads to divorce. The solution is Jesus. Shoot the messenger if you must, but it’s the truth.
Sounds a little toxic. What do you want? Your happiness matters just as much as his. You do not have to stay with someone because you are “married”. Evaluate the pros and cons and go from there
Maybe try talking setting a certain time where you both sit down and talk about whats bothering you. Don’t make it about an argument and ask what or how it can be managed/repaired.
If you both want this to work, communication, and counseling. Marriage isn’t just 50/50 is 100/100.
Go outside find some hobbies u can’t always be up each others ass. Tough right now with covid. You need other social interactions with other friends to help. balance relationships.
Get out of your own way, do something that makes you happy. You’re in your own way because these feelings you have of anxiety don’t go away or subside even when you make up. You have to decide to be happier, do something you’ve always wanted. Your spouse thinks you’re unhappy cause you are you’re anxious about the unspoken feelings between the two of you.
Go with your gut and walk away now I’m pretty sure he’s saying it’s all your fault? that what a narcissist do
Can you honestly just hang out with him and be content or have a good time? Is he also your best guy friend ? If the answer is no…he’s not the one
Marriage is about adjustments…there are very few fairy tale marraiges … they lived happily ever after, most of pairs consist of husband being the youngest of the siblings and wife being the eldest amongst siblings so a miss match sets in as wife wants to continue dominating … so one needs to sacrifice and adjust to other …
children will be alway’s the casualty for a relations like that.
Serious relationships are a big deal you have to be alot of different people for each other you got to be best friends,F$#! Buddies, therapist, business partners and the list goes on so find the weak ones for each other make sure you set goals as a couple make sure they align with each other and fix it,or realize you guys can’t be all that for each other and walk away and try with someone different
Date night weekly
Be a girl friend
Only comment on the things you appreciate
Talk him up to your friends.
Expectations need to be adjusted.
I think you can fix it if you both want to. You need more communication and maybe set a day to spend together where your focused on each-other and do something fun and romantic. Sometimes all you need is to have steamy sex to remind eachother why your with them and that you love each other. Spice it up in the bedroom…. wear something sexy and do that thing he likes and have him try that thing you like. Try to remember to not snap back immediately at things that are perceived rude maybe he just didn’t word it right. Sometimes we just have to let things go. But if it’s something important and he’s not doing it or is doing something you can’t put up with you will resent him if it’s not resolved. So try to talk calmly and in a nice manner not accusatory so much as let him know how you feel. Like it hurts my feelings when you ignore me or I don’t feel very loved when you don’t show me affection. Try to make it routine to always kiss and hug goodbye when going to work etc. little things throughout the day if you can. Try to find time to be a little playful come behind him and hug him, rub his back when you’re watching a movie. Usually it gets reciprocated if he still cares. I started having problems in my relationship last month and almost ended it. He realized that I was going to end it and knew exactly how to fix it. He apologized for being a jerk and we set up a special night for us and we stopped the fighting and things have gone back to normal. It’s something we both need to always work on though.
Do Date Nites!! If you want to rekindle? Make arrangements for fun night!! Counseling is also helpful!!
Couple counseling, and do you have a date nigh? Something fun and light hearted
Communication, consistency and trust are the three key things you need in a relationship, in that order.
Therefore I suggest sitting down and having a real conversation with your husband, make it into a date night at home, cook a meal and light some candles, play some games, do something fun and make it fun, don’t turn it into an argument and agree before the conversation to listen to the other person first, don’t be defensive as that turns the conversation into arguments, ask why? Why do you feel like that? How can I be a better partner to you? What can I do to make you happy? Visa versa.
Another suggestion is that you both write down why you both fell in love with each other, good memories you have together and when times get hard, which they will, that list will remind you of why you are both together.
Communicate. It’s really not hard, this is your life partner, the person you should be able to talk to about anything.
As you get older, it becomes harder to leave. They always say - Love Yourself First.
But are you happy? If you answer no then you must make a change. Don’t settle for behavior that is beneath your character.
Get counseling or walk away
Nonlonger compatible. Not worth saving rhe marriage. Leave and move on.
Make him happy ReFall in love with each other have some good ol
Pack your bags and get out,it ain’t going to get any better.
Need to set down and have an honest talk
Sounds like he might be projecting…
Go to therapy. Individually and a marriage therapist.
Don’t have kids! Leave….
You mean, MY HUSBAND AND I, the rest i wont read, wrong start are usually bad endings.
What where you doing before you got married