I’m 33 and trying to have my second baby. My first is 11 so there will be a big age gap. I would love to hear from some other moms that have kids with a big age gap. Also would love to hear from moms that had babies in their 30s. I’m nervous…I’m not old but I’m not 21 this time either. Am I crazy for this ?
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I am 11 years older than my sister and 13 years older than my brother. I loved the age gap, we are at different stages in our lives now, and sometimes it’s hard but we are still super close
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My daughters are currently 26 and 16 1/2 years old. I was a 38 years and 11 months when my now teenager was born.
Mine are 12 years apart, I had my oldest at 22 and just had my third one at 37. My oldest is a great big brother and loves other two. Only different with the age of me having them is I’m older and have less energy but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
I have a 20year age gap between my first and second and it doesn’t feel strange at all! The bond they have is beautiful to see, it might sound crazy when I say it to other people but for me it was the right thing - good luck!
I have a 14 year old, 11, and two 10 months old. I had the twins at age 34. It’s a nice age gap because the older ones are very helpful. I feel more patient this time around but a lot less energy.
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I have my first at 24 who was 1 month away from 9 when I had my second at 33. He is AMAZING with her. He comes running when she cries, helps grab stuff or entertain her while I cook or clean. He loves helping too. He says she is his baby. He loves her so much. The age gap is great for us.
I had my daughter when I was 18 and I had my son at 36. they are 18 years apart
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I had my 1st at 27, 2nd at 30 and my 3rd at 42. The age gap is lovely. My older two dote on their younger sibling. I’ve now got babysitters if I need it and I trust them completely. Their ages now are 24, 21 and 9. Best three decisions I’ve ever made and I don’t regret my last choice whatsoever. It’s the best! 
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I have 4 kids. 18, 16, 18 months and 3 months. My older kids love their baby brothers! They help out a ton
25,22,18,10,5 the last was very unexpected at 38 and on birth control but he was the best gift ever. Having the gap allowed me to bond with each of them while the others were at school. It’s Def hard being older but they keep you young at heart
My 4 sons have 2 different fathers and their ages are 20, 17, 7, and 1. It’s wonderful lol they love them and help so much.
I had my last baby at 31 no complications or anything and there is an 11 yr age gap between my youngest and oldest and my oldest is so great to my youngest
I am 39. My daughter is 10 and my son is 2. I was worried about the age gap but wanted my daughter to have a sibling. Now that my son is able to play and talk, my 10 year old and him spend time together. Colouring, playing in the sand box, playing with her dolls and clothes. The bond they have is amazing and beautiful. 
I say go for it. 
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I have age gaps between mine. 13 year old, 7 year old n 2 year old. The only thing that seems to be difficult is family outings trying to find something that interests them all.
I was 19, and 28, when I had my boys. There is a 9 year age gap. I wouldn’t change it for anything, especially now, that my oldest is moved out, and married. I still have one of my babies at home, for a while. They have always been close, especially now, at 24, and 15.
I’m 34 and I just had a newborn, and I also have a 16-year-old and a 15-year-old and my teenagers. Love the baby and actually help me out which is really nice. I also have siblings that are 10, 13, 14 and 16 years older than me… I’m close to some of them. I think it just depends on how they all grow up together.
My oldest and youngest are 20 years & 6 months to the day apart.
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My oldest is 6 ,8 and 10 years older then his siblings and you couldn’t tell 
they fight and play . But I will say having my youngest almost in my 30s was alot harder . On my body and sleep schedule and just how you raise them also is different
I have an almost 11 yr old son, 2 yr old daughter and 6 1/2 month old son. So I have a large age gap and a super close age gap. Older son helps when I need him to. And he loves them so much.
Your not crazy at all!! Mine are 16, 12, and 2 so lots of big gaps. I absolutely love it! All three have never had to fight for my attention, they’ve all had different years when they needed me more obviously as babies and toddlere but they are so close and get along very well. My 12 year old is such a good help and adores his little sister! My 16 year old lights up when he sees his little sister. I had my first at 19 years old and my last at 34. I wouldn’t change a thing!
My sisters are 13 and 15 years older than me and they have always been more like mothers to me than sisters. We aren’t super close. I don’t even talk to one of them because of the age difference. Hopefully this won’t be the case for your children.
In terms of being older, I was almost 32 when I had my son. You definitely will feel the sleepless nights and will possibly have less patience, but with the right support system it’s totally doable.
Best wishes for you!
I was in my early 20s with my first and had last 2 11 and 12 years ago and I’m 51.
13 and 4 year old.
They love spending time with each other, the oldest is so great with her little brother.
My little brother and I are almost 15 years apart. The bond we have is unmatched to that of my brother of a year and a half. I’m 34 and currently pregnant with my 2nd. Mine will be 10 years apart. So I’m hoping it’ll go good. As far as my pregnancy it hasn’t been the easiest.
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I was 21 when I had my first, he’s 9 now. I’m currently 30 and due at any moment with my second. I cannot vouch yet what is like being parents to kids of such a gap, but I was much older than all of my siblings (7, 8, & 11 years to be exact) and it was fine.
My boys arr 26 and 28…daughter just turned 15. I had them at 18 & 20 and had my daughter in my 30s. They have all three always been very close.
My oldest daughter is 16 and baby is 5. They have the most adorable relationship! He is her baby and he worships the ground she walks on! I had my girls (15 and 16 now) in my 20’s and my son in my 30s. Its a great dynamic and it was much easier in my 30’s.
I have 3 kids. My oldest child will be 22 next month . MY middle child is 8 and my youngest is 2. Wouldn’t change a thing. I was 41 when I had my daughter. It has helped teach my boys to be the most caring human beings possible.
My boys are 9 years apart. They were not close growing up, but now that they are older (20 and 29) they are a lot closer
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My oldest was 18 when his baby brother was born. I was 40. Now I’m 61 and things are great. They are very close
My kids are 7 years apart. Not a big gap but bigger than a lot. My son is turning 11 in January and my daughter is turning 4 in February. They fight like any other siblings… which I didn’t think they would. Lol. They love each other so much though. I had my son in my 20s and my daughter at 33.
I’m 39 and pregnant with my second (due in January) my daughter is 10. She is super excited. I’ve been back and forth feeling regret and excitement. I love my relationship with my daughter. She is super excited to finally have a sibling and I’m actually grateful for the age gap. I got to be fully present when my daughter needed me in her younger years and now I will get to be present for the new baby since my daughter will be in school during the day. I’m sure I will adjust to dividing my time. Good luck!
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I had my daughter 6 days before my 30th birthday. My son was born in 2009. It was nice to have a few years to sleep in. Honestly. It really isn’t that bad. Plus my son helps out with her sometimes and there’s no squabbling. Might be easier than having 2 close in age but idk… 
Everyone may have different opinions on this. As for me I just had my twin girls last month. My oldest is 18 and my youngest is 11! They love their new siblings. It’s definitely an adjustment because there is that “ starting all over again” factor but you’ll definitely adjust! I’m 35. Pregnancy went really well. Everyone is different. If you are ready go for it!
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My kids are 23, 21, 19, 15, and 6 had my last at age 38. Wouldn’t change a thing!
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I have brothers 8, 14, and 17yrs younger than me and we got along fine.
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Best thing i ever did. First born is 15 i was 35 when i had my now two year old.
The boys are best friends and my baby is absolutely tge best decision i ever made. Im older i have more patience. I enjoy it more
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I just had my 5th baby at 38 years old. My oldest is 21 and my youngest was 14 until the new baby. My girls love to babysit their baby brother!
My brother and I have a 10 year age gap. We have never been close. Haven’t seen him for years. We hardly ever speak to eachother. I grew up basically as if I was an only child and still feel that way.
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I had my son when my daughter was 10. She was soooo happy and excited. I also had her at 20 and my son at 30. It’s a big difference (pregnancy wise, my son died at 2 days old) because I wasn’t exactly “ready” with my first like I was with my second. I absolutely want another one, and I don’t feel like the age gap will have a negative impact. The older sibling will be able to help out and it will be easier than having two small children at one time. When they’re older, they cherish having siblings more because they’re more aware.
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My children are 31 almost 32 years old my second Is 30 years old my 3rd 15 years old and my 4th is 7 years old had her at 42 yrs old 
quite a amazing journey and the love between all of them is beautiful to watch as a mother.
Mine have 10 years apart and there bonded. It will be good 
I’m 50 and have a 24, 15 and 14 year old girls. The 15 and 14 is 15 months apart. It was almost like having twins. I had to start over with them two. I don’t regret it all.
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I was 36 when I gave birth to my first my brother and I are 18 years apart
3 boys then 10 years later had another boy 
I had him 5 days before my 37th birthday love it… it’s the best
Had my daughter at 32. My son at 38. 2nd pregnancy was a lot different. But they get along and she’s a great big sister.
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Big age gaps have wonderful benefits 
My first son at 23 my second son at 35 and my daughter at 39 they all get along
I had my first at 26 and my second at 32
I have a 15, 8 and 3 year old on Friday
Not crazy. My daughter is now 13. We also have a 1 and 2 yr old- I’m 40. It’s great having an older child to help. It’s better having one baby right after the next- these last 2 will grow up together. It does get overwhelming. The oldest goes off to school and comes home and wants to be with the babies. It’s definitely a blessing
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21M,19M,17F, 5M,4F. My older 3 just love their younger siblings and they find them hilarious 
. I was 34 when I had my two youngest. My oldest daughter and youngest daughter have the most amazing bond I wouldn’t change it for the world.
My oldest 40
34
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My youngest 19
My kids are 29🩵, 26🩷, 19🩵, 16🩷. My boys are tens yrs apart & my girls are 10 yrs apart. Worked out well. I now have grandbabies from the older 2 kids & my younger 2 help if they need sitters.
My step daughter was 11 when our youngest was born, she’s 18 now. They get on but have nothing in common, she loves on him and was good when they were both younger but now she’s working etc they barely see each other so no real sibling bond like my other 2 have and they have a 6yr age gap. I have 8ys between me and my youngest sibling and we aren’t close. 6yrs was the max gap for me
I was in my early 20s with my first and second then early 30s with my last baby. It was nice in one way because the medical world advanced so much in those nearly ten years.
The only real “downside” was my physical body. I’m obviously not as young and in shape as I was when I started having babies. And it’s been really, really hard to get to pre-baby3 body. But as far as the age gap in the kids themselves, it’s been fine. We don’t expect them to take care of their little sister in terms of like diaper changes and things like that, maybe just keeping her alive here and there so I can take a quick Power Nap.
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My two are 7 years apart girl then boy. They weren’t very close as little kids but are great now (31/24)
My oldest and youngest are 11 years and 2 days apart. She’s 18 he’s 7. I love their relationship!! He’s always had this love for her. Ever since he could crawl he would leave my bed and go to hers and to this day he still does it lol.
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I had my youngest at 36, when my eldest was 15. They adore each other Also have a 14 year old and my daughter would have been turning 4 in January. Big age gaps aren’t an issue in this house!x
My son 30 and my daughter 20 are best friends.
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My oldest and youngest are 11 years apart. They don’t have the typical best friend type siblings relationship. They are 14 and 3 right now and my oldest is my youngest sons favorite person. They have so much love for each other.
My oldest was 8 when I got pregnant. He’s sad about sharing mom, and not being my one and only. Lately he thinks his 3 year old sister purposely tries to make him mad. But she’s literally just being a 3 year old. They are just starting to really play and have fun together. But a lot of times my son wishes it was just us again. I also had another baby whose 10 months old now. Things really got crazy once he arrived. But I’m excited to watch them all grow together. Every once in a while things are calm lol.
I tried for my 3rd at age 33. My others were 6 and 9. Feel complete now. It took 10 months to conceive at 33.
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My kids r 21,16,14 and 5. All of them get along with the 5 year old it’s like he has 4 moms My 16 and 14 year old fight constantly. I like big age gaps I get more help and while the older ones r in school I got more time to bond with a baby
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I had my first at 21, my second at 35 so I know how your feeling mama! Of course it was a little tougher at 35 but it still wasn’t horrible I got a happy healthy baby both times. When your pregnant you think what a huge age gap but I’m here to say my oldest is 13 and he loves his little brother so much there best friends, my littlest copies everything his big bubby does and my oldest is his biggest protector! They have a amazing relationship
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My oldest and youngest are 15 years apart. I have a middle child also. Five years from oldest and him ten years from him to youngest. I was 35 when I had my last. So they are 31, 26, and 16.
We had our 3 kids young we were 24 by the time our third was born and now we are 31 and my youngest is 7 and we have been thinking about having another baby. But it freaks me out. I don’t have any advice but makes me feel better that I’m not the only one who thinks the baby would be left out.
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My kids are 14.5 yrs apart (15 and 1) and I am 34. Both c-sections. Recovery after my second was definitely longer, but totally worth every second
Yea, it’s hard lol. A lot harder in your 30’s. My kids all have age gaps and it’s also hard lol.
I have a 17 year old bonus daughter, a 13 year old daughter and a newborn daughter
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My kids are 24 22 13 and 5 huge age gaps it’s much more challenging being older shorter patience .
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mine are 17 and 28 so 11 yr gap first at 16 second 28 so i get the whewww its different second time around and yes they are best friends
my kids are 29 and 10…the first when i was 24 last at 42…19 years apart
My boys are 11 years apart. It wasn’t a big deal. And now that the youngest is an adult they do things together whereas when he was younger the oldest didn’t want him around.
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I’ve been seeing age gap videos on TikTok and they’re so sweet!! I don’t think it’s a bad age gap, your 11 year old can still be happy about a new sibling and not feel too jealous at that age.
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I had my first son at age 28 he’s 7 almost 8 now. I had his younger brother at age 32 and he’s almost 4. There’s 4 years between them. And 8 years between my oldest and my baby daddies first son from his first marriage is now 15 . That’s an 8 yea gap .
I’m 38 with a 19.14.6.and 7m old. And also have 4 other kids in our care ages between 10_ 15 .
We have age gap kids. 16-11-5. It is definitely a challenge as you have to be able to parent each child differently. Your youngest will also thrive amazingly as they will be more mature because of having older siblings. My biggest advice is remembering they do have that age gap and that you’ll never treat them the same when it comes to parenting.
With all that, I wouldn’t change their gap and if we could we would be planning for our fourth now to keep the 6 years in between them each.
My sons were 14, 6 and newborn when i was 33. Now 32, 24 and 18
I liked having the time to spend with each one when they were babies… when they were all little they helped with youngest and were very sweet. It worked out fine. The youngest did get old, tired parents though and missed out in some of the things we did with our oldest but we had more money than we did at 20… lol its all good and they are great humans. It will be fine!
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I had a girl when I was 26 and another girl at 34… The oldest will be super helpful but also super jealous when the new baby comes. Make sure to set aside a day for you and the oldest at least once a week. 1 on 1 time with no baby. Remind the oldest many times that they are a great big brother/sister. Pregnancy for me was definitely harder in my 30s. I do not have as much energy as I did in my 20s.
13,8,22 months and soon to be newborn…
I think you just make whatever work, our 13 and 8 year old are the best big siblings
I’ll be 34 when this newest babe makes their arrival and honestly I don’t feel any different than I did at 25
I have a 17 yr old a 14yr old and a 4yr old… the older two love the 4yr old my 17yr old is a girl and she’s always acting like mommy my 14 yr old boy loves the 4yr old and teaching him sports and stuff… there all really close
I just had my second baby…babies are almost 8 years apart. Second baby is ivf baby. I’m 36. It’s a trip doing this again, but worth it!
I’m here for answer except I already have a 14&12 year old and want another baby now at 35…
My 3 girls are all close in age 10,13,14, my son is 2. I love that my girls were close and definitely wish my son was closer to their age BUT they are amazing with him and he adores them immensely. There’s definitely a big difference in their age with him but that hasn’t stopped them from being terrific siblings. They do things with him that I simply can’t like pretending to be his horse while he rides on their backs. And piggy back rides (he’s a big dude so I can barely hold him regular for long lmao). They play their games with him on his tablets and have been a huge help teaching him things like number/letters, colors etc. They snuggle with him for bedtime and he takes turns sleeping with me or them and he is NEVER lacking for attention. They loved helping do things like make bottles or grabbing clean diapers trashing dirty ones esp while I was having a hard time recovering after birth. They sing to him, nursery rhymes and their music, they make him laugh like crazy. They sit and read him books sometimes, or pretend to be dinosaurs with him. They make him food or share theirs with him (which is why my 2 year old thinks Takis are great:woman_facepalming:t2:). It was rough being all done with the baby/toddler stage and having 3 almost teens and then having to adjust to to bottles and diapers again but well worth it.
I’ve got one 21, 17, 9, and 6. They all are very close to each other. I was in my 30s when I had my last two. Honestly it depends on your health how it goes. I have bad genetics so my last two pregnancies were difficult. I think you should be just fine.
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Mine were 9 & 13 when my youngest was born and I was 33. I honestly loved the bigger gap and of I had known I would have gaped the older 2 as well. While I may not have had the same energy level I did in my 20’s other aspects made up for that. I found I was a more laid back Mom, I didn’t stress/panic as much and was able to just enjoy my little one differently. My oldest and youngest had/has a special bond. Plus the oldest were old enough to fully understand and experience the “newborn” stage which also plays a beneficial roll in curbing a unplanned teen pregnancy .
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I had my first kids at 29 almost 30 & 2nd one at 33, almost 34. I think as long as you don’t wait until your around 40, it shouldn’t be a big deal being pregnant. Just know after 35, there are higher risks & you’re considered a geriatric pregnancy.
I’m 32 and we have a blended family of 6 kids total- 26,16,13,9,7 and 4 weeks. The five youngest still live at home. The younger two and oldest are super helpful- the teenagers are well teenagers (boys) 
they don’t really seem to care too much as long as they aren’t required to change a diaper.
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Not at all this time around we have a lot more patience had my first at 20 and now 30 and big sister loves her baby brother and helps in everything with out asking definitely a plus having the help and watching them grow
My sister and I have a 11 year age difference, growing up we were very close as my dream was of having a sister I never did anything without her, I was 19 when I had my first child my sister was then 8 and today they also have the most beautiful relationship… There was a time that our age gap was difficult to maintain when she wa stil a kid amd I became an adult but now she is a adult and I’m 31 and now that we are back on the same life wave we are even closer than before…
There will be adjustments and changes as they grow but if they are raised loving each other and supporting each other 100% as we were then they’ll be fine…
My children also differ in age of 7 years and some times they fight alot as the 12 year old doesn’t want to always playbas much as the 5 year old but the do find ways to bond together…
My oldest is 13, twins who are 10 (this will be my 6th boy:flushed:) but with a baby coming the oldest could care less. Might be a boy thing 
But one of my twins is very helpful and even wants to know if he can be there when baby is born. I think it depends on personality of the oldest whether or not there will be a good bond. Also in my late 30s and it is not easy being pregnant to begin with so I’m not sure if it’s my age or just it is what it is 
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I had my son at 18 and my daughter at 27. They’re about 8 years apart, I know I wasn’t in my 30s. when she was younger my son was very helpful but since he’s now 12, there’s definitely some drama but when he’s not in one of his pre teen moods lol he’s a good big brother. it’s hard sometimes because my daughter wants to be around him and his friends and he doesn’t care for it but overall, they’re pretty good with each other.
I don’t think you’re crazy for it, sometimes it’s better when they’re older just depends on the kids I think. I could never have anymore at this age and I’m only 31. Kudos to you! I bet you will do just fine.
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Had my 1st at 20, 2nd at 21, 3rd at 25, 4th at 31. 11, 10, 6 and 2 months. It’s been lovely tbh xx
My two kids are 12 yrs apart.My son is 34 my daughter is 22.Best thing I ever did.First at 16-17 second at 28-29.I never wanted kids close together,just wasn’t me,I would never have coped with 2-3 under 4.Yes I didn’t it all over again but my older age from 16-29 worked wonders for my patience and knowledge
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We have 31 (my step daughter that I have raised since she was 7), 20, 18, 12.5 & 11 year olds. I was 6 weeks shy of 34 with #4 & 35 when I had #5. I wouldn’t change anything.
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My little sister is 14 and I’m 32 I love her to death and she’s close with my oldest daughter who’s 11.
My son is 11 and my daughter just turned 1 this month , honestly I love the age gap!! He’s such a big help and he’s also independent they have the closest bond he’s an amazing big brother! I wouldn’t trade their age gap for anything I’m also 33 and currently 14 weeks and I’m more worried about my daughter and this baby being so close in age I don’t want her to feel left out
Our oldest is 13, baby is 6 months and everywhere between. Our 2nd round of kids Our teenager flew the coop this last spring. I’m 37.
I think it’s fine. Our kids adore her. We enjoy her. Life is good.
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