Should be up to the child. Never force a child to call someone their mother unless they want to.
It is up to the child what to call a step parent… being forced to call them something is going to backfire and the relationship will be very one sided. The bio parent should be stepping in and telling their partner that’s not going to happen.
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Should never be forced. It’s up to the child.
I have step kids. My step son has recently started calling me “mom” after 5 yrs.
I sat down with him and explained im fine with him calling me mom. He can call me mama Jess. He can even call me pickle head if he wants. (I tried to make it fun for him) but I also explained he’s got a mommy and daddy that love him very much! But my heart amd his is always big enough to have have 2 moms or 2 dads or 2 whatever!
I have discussed this with bio mom, she was not happy at all. So we just told him, in our home you can call me whatever you feel like (with in reason!)
It seems to work for us…
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Absolutely Not her mother is in her life I have been a step mother for over 30 years was always referred to as step-mom that was what I was.
Doesn’t sit right with me
They are total asses ! Telling that to her. jmo
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Who the F as step mom thinks that’s ok? Hell no my child would never call another woman momma. My step daughter would never call me mama nor would I take away from her mom. Her mom is an amazing woman. Smh. The audacity.
Y te imaginas cundo son dos hombres o dos mujeres a quien le va a decir mamá o papá
Agree strongly with Nancy!
We are a blended family of 5 two are mine and 3 are my husbands we have them full time. We left it up to the kids my son calls my husband Rob my daughter and his children call him dad/poppa whatever 1 of his 3 call me mom the other two Steph which I’m fine with but they refer to me as my mom when talking about to me to their friends school etc
I never forced my step daughter to call me mom. She did that on her own. Her bio mom forced her to call one of her boyfriends dad and it upset her so much! And this is when she was 5. The child should do it on their own when they want to
The child may well choose to call them both mum…but it should be the child’s choice and never forced
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No. That’s something that should never be forced
As someone with both a step mom and step dad I say no. I consider them my extra mom and dad but since my birth parents are both present they are mom and dad. I love them all as parents.
No. It’s should be what ever the child is comfortable with. My son has been in his step sons life since he was 2 he will be 10 in a couple months. He answers cake my son my his first name. Recently he began calling him dad. When they are ready. They will do it on their one own
No!! It’s a bond that needs to be formed between the woman and the child. You absolutely cannot force that on a child.
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Its 100% up to the child if they call their step parent mom/dad. And to be offended by such is gross. Upset over what? That someone loves and cares for your child the way you want/do? It’s a blessing. Stop being bitter.
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You should never force a child to do something like that.
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I’ve been Maddy my step daughter entire life since she was 2 and I wouldn’t change that she loves her mother more than anything and I just love being in her life being called mama is never even a thought
It should never be forced! I have 3 step children and one biological daughter. If my bonus children WANT to call me mom then they are welcome to otherwise, Olivia or Liv is fine with me. Their mother is present as well as their step dad who they call by his given name. A child should never be forced
My step son calls me both I know it hurts his bio mom feelings but whatever the kid is ok with I’m going to force him to call me anything
Coming from a broken family myself as a child, never ever force children to call a step parent any form of mom or dad. Let them do that themselves if they choose to. It is extremely traumatic for the child.
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No, not if real mother is present…
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No, if the child does it on their own,that is different. Nobody should try and make a child call someone mom or dad that isn’t their bio parent.
Coming from a stepchild, don’t force ANYTHING because it will only cause resentment and that child will go right back to calling stepmom by their first name. I call mine Mama Steph, and I did that on my own. She told me that I already have a mom, and that she wants a different relationship, although similar. My stepdad said something of the same sentiment. I call him by his first name. He wants me to be comfortable. As should you. Don’t make your kids in a blended family uncomfortable. The kiddo will call you mama if they’re ready.
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Absolutely not. My ex introduced his gf as their new mom before we were even separated (I found out after I left him). When we went to court and I demanded he not ever encourage that, he threw a fit and said it should be allowed. The judge laughed at him and said she was not to be allowed near the kids till they understood boundaries.
no way should only be called by her name
Absolutely not. The child has a mom.
Never force the child. Step mum should be known by her first name as the child is already doing
FFFFFFFF NO 
. If the child decides to call her it HERSELF, then okay. But forcing and even encouraging her to when she clearly has a mother is disgusting of dad and step mom. Y’all be doing too much and BEGGING bio mom to teach yall respect 
Totally up to the child. I have a two different sets of step kids. My 1st set called me by first name and my second set calls me momma then my first name.
No, no, and more no, bio mother need to put her foot down right now, NO CHILD OF MINE calling another woman mom unless they kin. Sorry not sorry. Cause when he leave or she leave step mom go right back out the window. So close the window on that messy stuff.
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I don’t think it should ever be forced or encouraged. It’s the child’s decision 
. I personally grew up with no step parents but I had plenty of my friends parents I called mom and dad. They are not just titles but terms of endearment. What a wonderful life to have more people to love.
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Whatever is most comfortable for the child and let them know your name. My step daughter calls me by name but often slips out “mom”. <3
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The child should be able to call the step mom by her name as long as her real mom is in the picture. Dont force the child to call anyone one mom except her bio mom
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Um, no way! Especially if biological mom is in the pic, I would flip my lid!
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That is absolutely not ok, I have a step daughter and I would never try to force her to call me mama.
Mother should be mama and that is the way it should be. As the child is older she will decide
No that’s disrespectful to their actual mom. Even if it’s not around her.
No. That’s something a child needs to feel comfortable doing on their own.
Imo…no. if they want to great, but maybe the bond isn’t there yet.