Be grateful that she is willing to take care of your child…if you can afford a lil extra money to give…, why not?!
I pay my grandma to watch my girls. She’s never asked for anything ever and watched my kids for years without payment. I think you should pay her. It’s the least you can do n help buy snacks
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You are receiving TRUSTWORTHY, reliable care for your child. That is worth more than you are paying. Plus, if she is on a fixed income, she could probably use the money.
I say the situation is a win/win😊
She is asking for anywhere between $5 - $10 an hour depending whether 2 hours, 3 days a week or 4 hours, 3 days a week which is reasonable.
Its unreasonable to assume or ask that her time be provided for free, is her time less valuable than yours?
Ease of watching child plays zero factor.
I help watch my grandkids so there parents can work because I had help when I had to work. It’s good to be able to work and not worry who is watching them. They could be out partying or worse not taking care of them at all. If you can afford it and mom needs help pay her. At least be greatfull
She “Demands” you pay $65 and a day care will “Demand” you pay $200.
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It’s your grandma. That $65 isn’t much and think about it. It could be supplementing some income for her.
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My gma watches my nephew for 60 a week , 4am -8 am when she drops him off at school
I am old school if you have kids stay home and look after them your self or don’t have them. We poll people have a life to. Be great full pay up and shut up.
So she’s literally asking for roughly $5 an hr…stop your shit and pay her! If child care is so easy to find get someone else. And I hope it’s someone that you can trust and not worry if your child is being mistreated or messed with. And BTW…do you bring snacks and drinks or is that on her too???
Um yes u pay family and 65$ a week come on I know people that pay there mom’s and aunts and grandma’s 200$ a week try daycare I think 65$ is super fare member daycare is outrageous and your kid will get sick there
I think you should pay her because you would have to pay someone else. Whats the difference?Grandmas need money too. Plus, unless you were taking every morsel of food that he is eating and every bit of drinks that he is drinking, she is having to feed him. And the last time I checked food does not come free. Your attitude toward your grandma stinks. Pay her!! And, be glad that she is there to watch him and you don’t have to take him to a daycare where there are a ton of sick children.
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My grandmother watched me and my brother and any other grandchild that needed watching even after being a stay at home wife raising her 4 kids. She said she’d even watch my child if she was physically able. My mother helps me out tremendously and goes above and beyond by doing way more than just “babysitting” and she does not ask nor would never ask for payment and neither would my grandma or any other family member and I plan on doing the same for my children and grandchildren…I guess I was raised differently🤷🏼♀️
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You are paying her $65. Here are my questions for you…
1-Do you think knowing your child is in the safest hands possible is worth that amount?
2-Do you know that most child care providers have multiple children they are caring for and your child is getting one on one attention?
3- Do you think that your Mom may be giving up other things in order to help you?
4-Is your child much happier that you are making it possible for him to stay at Grandmas?
5-My last question… How much did your Mom spend raising you???
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Well its 260 a week or 450 a week. The going rate is very expensive. She giving yall a break
I mean you could quit paying someone you trust & start paying someone who won’t care near as much as your grandma!! Either way your gonna have to pay someone it sounds like, so you decide who that will be, family or stranger!! 
Are you getting paid to do your job…if you are so should she 🤷
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So if you don’t want to pay her get a different babysitter and see if they will watch your son for that amount and with the love that a grandma often has for her grandchildren. Strange thing to be ‘LIVID’ about. Maybe it’s you and she’s feeling used.
Why should you be mad,you should be thankful that your son is in great hands… Maybe if you can see past yourself,she might need the money.
I would pay her if it were my child…
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If that’s too much to pay your grandma, find someone else to watch your 5 year old. Simple solution.
My kids would not let me babysit for there kids for FREE. $10.00 per child/ per day
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You’d pay any one else. just because she’s your grandparent doesn’t change anything
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I don’t charge my daughter, BUT it is not your grandmother’s responsibility to watch a child YOU had…if you don’t like it, put your child in daycare…maybe she is trying to instill responsibility into you…a sense of displaced entitlement is not an attractive trait
Of course she should be paid to watch him. He’s not her kid. You would have to pay someone else a hell of a lot more to watch him. Stop being so damn entitled. No one owes you anything!!!
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She’s still watching your kid
So yes she should be paid
Would you expect the same kind of free childcare from a local daycare and or babysitter? 65 dollars a week is a fuckin breeze too
Yes you should pay, her time is just as valuable as yours. Grandma or not.
yes you pay people to care for your children. dont like it, find another alternative. 65 is cheap compared to what you would pay a day care and why would you resent helping your grand mother out?
Why wouldn’t you want to pay you grandmother? She probably the safest place for your child to be. I paid my mother 80.00 a week in 1983 who was elderly and retired on limited income. She had needs too.
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I think if you can afford it then yes, but if you can’t afford it then it should be done for free to help you get on your feet but you should still provide food for the child while they are there
I paid my mother bc her time was just as valuable as anyone else’s. Now that being said, I ask to get my grandbabies but by the same token, I don’t have them as much as she has your son, which makes a difference. You’re blessed…a daycare would makes you pay full time rates for the part-time hours bc they couldn’t fill the hours he’s not there & they’d lose money otherwise.
That is a stupid question and you are selfish to even think she does NOT deserve to be paid. Grow up and do the right thing. Family should never be taken advantage of, especially your MOTHER! 
Elaine Murphy this really boils my blood some fucking ppl are so entitled wow just wow firstly 2-4 hours 3days a week every week is NOT babysitting that’s a job. Your grandmother reared her kids you should be thankful she still around to help you with yours some people have no option but to depend on creches etc
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It should be paid for and although it bothers you she deserves something and that isn’t much cash at all!!!
I’m a grandmother and I have watched my grandbabies while their parents worked I did not demand payment they offered so maybe that’s where the maturity lies… you may think you’re entitled but you’re not.
And if your grandmother is demanding payment and that’s upsetting to you stop standing with ur hands out… #Stopelderabuse
You are gonna pay someone, why not her? It helps her out too!
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How much is it worth to have the piece of mind that someone who loves your child is going to make sure your child is safe and cared for?
How much is 12 hours of your time a week worth to you? I think you are getting off easy for $65. 40 years ago I spent more than that on child care. Check the price at a few day cares and you will appreciate $65 a week.
If you had to use a daycare, would you pay them? Y do expect someone to watch your child for free?
If you are livid that she wants to be paid, take him somewhere else. You dont have to leave him with her each week.
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And what is your complaint about 
if anything be thankful… Can I get her number? LOL… quit bein cheap and pay her because you know she in turns uses it on your kid…
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I raised my kids and I had my grandkids all the time, now that they are grown ,their kids grandparents can watch them. I am tired and refuse to help raise my great grandkids.
Could be a lot more if you put your child in daycare. This is her job. Pay her. Don’t be upset about it. You have someone you know watching your child. He stays at a place her knows. There is a lot pros here and I don’t think you are looking at that.
Are you doing anything for her or showing here any appreciation? or do you just drop him off and leave, then pick him up and leave? Any help putting toys away, do I need to go on? What grandma is asking is not much, that is way cheap, especially if you aren’t helping in some way other than expecting her to babysit for free. Grandparents want to enjoy there grandkids, not raise them.
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Yes. You are grown and you are lucky she is giving you such a cheap rate. My mom would charge me $62 an hour the hell.
If she asks for payment I would pay her but I think $65.00 is a little steep for 6 to 12 hours maybe negotiate payment? I watch my 2 grandbabies no charge but I really enjoy them.
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If paying her that piddily little amount makes you so livid, find another babysitter. Problem solved. If I were your grandmother, I’d be livid about your attitude.
Well this is what I’ve learned over the years that graditude is most often the best policy if that’s what they wish you to do and mind you if got anyone else to do it it like a nanny that was reasonable would be about $180.–$200. and that’s with light house keeping or more a week…so at three days or so do the math just because grandma is family does it mean her time is not worth alittle APPRECIATION and be lucky that is all she wants and I have 8 grandchildren and love every one of them because my time is just as important if it was just a night out or was a planned situation then no wouldn’t ask for money but that APPRECIATION is what you should think about…and why should matter that grandma is family…be glad she is family 
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Take the child to day care see how much it cost … And yes you need to pay her … She gives up those hours to watch your child … She certainly could be doing something else. …
Why don’t you quit work and care for your own child!! 
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I agree! U should pay ur mom! at that age ur mom should be resting! at that age 5 year olds can be a hand full for an old pearson! she had done her job for her kids i thing its right that ur mom gets paid for her time! if she offer than thats a diffent issuse
Depends on the person, my grandpa 68 watches my 10 month old 1-2 days a week for 8 hours. She don’t ask for money because she knows I don’t really have extra. $65/w isnt that bad better than a stranger watching him in this crazy world and though most grandma’s just want the visitation… she probably feels the money would help her
My parents used to babysit for a cost it mainly covered his food and that was daily. But for a date night and sleep overs I wasn’t charged ever. Also I have an elderly aunt that watches my kids here and there for $20 a day. I think that is completely reasonable grandchild or not they are providing a service
I can see both sides here but have to in the end side with grandma. She is giving up her time to watch him. It’s not just a once in a while thing. Look at it this way…if she was not there to watch him then you would he paying a lot more than that a week for someone to watch him. She raised her kids and now is her time to enjoy life. I wish my mom were still alive and if she was she would get paid because my kids would not be her responsibility to watch for free.
So it’s 3 days every week?? For approximately 4 hrs each time? Does she feed him care for him take time out of her day to do these things for you? Then yes pay her…he is being loved and cared for by someone you trust…can’t put a price on that. Be thankful and just pay her?! Smh
How is it any different from a daycare looking after him? You’d have to pay them so pay her
My mother in law charges me to keep my kids an they are her grandchildren
Honestly you would have to pay anyone else. And by your attitude I’m sure you would want paid if the roll was reversed. Get over yourself.
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If your grandma doesn’t have any source of income it’s unfair to expect her to watch your kid for free. If you took him to daycare or a professional sitter, you’d be paying a lot more.
Enroll your kid in a real daycare and then come back to this thread once you get that price per week, and see how silly this sounds. 
There is no set rule either way. But it does have to be agreeded on by both sides. Its not wrong either way just a different look on it. But you both have to agree… BOTH
I don’t see why… she deserves it…she could be doing something else but she chose her grandson…
Yes I think you shoukd
Pay her something and $65 a week is not much , it’s not once awhile this is something weekly
Your taking advantage of your grandma expecting her to baby sit your kids. Shame on you … I bet you wouldnt do it for free
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My mom never charged me when she’d watch my two kids who were under 5 but I’d give her money here and there just for her doing me the favor
Well its a job after all… you are using her time in your beneficial so I guess its fine… but if you think that is too much you should try a daycare or aftercare…
Its not her responsibility so think about that…
If anyone is babysitting your spawn, you should offer to pay them. That is just common courtesy and good manners and you should fully anticipate them saying, yes please pay me. It’s rude to expect someone else to babysit for free just because they are related. That includes Grandpa, Grandma, Auntie, Cousins, whoever.
If they say, No, we’re good. I don’t want any money, then great!
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Think the most she should be asking for is maybe $25 a week towards nutritious food for your child 
& herself
Yes you should pay. They help you out. If she wasn’t watching your child you’d have to pay someone else to. An $65 for child care is close to cheap.
yes, she should, aren’t you pd. for a job?
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I paid my mom $100 a week to watch my child
You are really for patience cause the older one is the less patience we have
Yep…she’s right…let me get me calculator out! About a million quid will do it! Lol x
Yes you should pay her for her work. Or if you dont like the amount she charges take him to a day care I guarantee you won’t like that price either. Remember your grandmother has Bill’s to pay also feel grateful you can help her too. Be grateful for what you have.
Yes!!!
You should be thankful for paying That little of Amount!!!’
Also every now and then you should give her a little extra for a bonus
$65/week is a steal as far as childcare goes. You should be thankful she’s not charging the going rate of most child care centers.
Nothing wrong with paying a family member! Why should they not get paid?! Do they owe you a owe you something that that they can’t ask for a little compensation for their time and help? $65 a week for 12 hours, is like $5 an hour…Do you really think there is a better option than that?! There isn’t! Childcare is expensive and you are lucky that you even have a family member that can help out for so cheap. Plus, she probably lives off a SS check meaning that little extra she asks for is probably extra for her that she might get to enjoy something she doesn’t normally get to! YES ABSOLUTELY YES even family deserves compensation.
My MIL and Mom watch my kids (my mom 630-12 and MIL from 12-6) and they both get paid for their help with my kids. They watch them Monday thru Friday and alternate when the other has something to do or whatever. But it works for us BC I rely on them so my husband and I can go to work. They would do it for free but we dont expect them too they raised their kids, they are helping us tremendously.
Why is your time more important than hers. It’s not an occasional thing. Pay up
Shit!!+ I wish we had someone that charged $65 a week lol rather than the $13/hr for our 12 to 14 hour shifts a day
Yes, pay her. I think $3 an hour is reasonable.
$65 is totally reasonable to help you out.
First question you should ask is ----- does she need the money? Perhaps she does - S.S. doesn’t pay for much!
It doesn’t matter how well behaved your child is. She is still caring for him. Making sure he is safe, fed and warm. It 2 to 4 hours a day of her time. No, I don’t believe you are entitled to free childcare because she is family. Get real lady.
Why wouldn’t you pay someone to babysit?! Your family is not obligated to watch your child for free.
My daughter and I live together and share expenses. I work full time and take care of my granddaughter all evening while she works. She is a handful. They will be moving in the spring and if she wants me to continue to babysit she will pay me.
But I will encourage her to find a sitter. I do have a life and need more than the 5 or 6 hrs of sleep I get now.
My granddaughter is very hyper and dosen’t sleep.
If it’s an occasional thing no. But if its constant then yes. Or at least provide his meals and snacks for when she watches him.
Does she feed your child while at her house? She she provide heat? etc then she fully deserves the money your giving she could register as a childminder then charge you more after all she doesn’t have too do it she chooses too an therefor deserves it if u don’t like it put ur child in a nursery
Seriously wow:rage: I find it amazingly wrong:face_with_symbols_over_mouth: how todays adults think it’s okay to take advantage of the elderly 
, they raised their kids already, raise your own …its time for them to enjoy their golden years.
Yes I believe that if they are watching your child they should be paid. They are on a fixed income and use their electricity too cook for and use their food to feed them.
Maybe have a chat to see if you can comprise a rate…maybe she doesn’t enough money for food or medicine …or her own personal money…good luck…
Does she watch him at her house? If so about all you are paying for is his food besides that your mother does not owe you anything. If you don’t like it find a Daycare! PS I watch my four grandchildren at their house and I do not ask for anything. It is my chance to bond with them. That being said not everyone feels this way.
Be thankful you have someone that you can trust that can watch him…#justsayin. I agree that’s very cheap so you really need to stop complaining and for her she probably buys food for him or other things that he may need…#bethankful
Nothings free, family or not. It’s cheaper than child care.
She watches him 6-12 hours per week? 65.00 is nothing!!! If she didn’t do it for you I’m sure you would be paying someone or someplace a lot more than that!!!
It’s $65.00/a week… get over yourself. Be happy she don’t charge more. That’s a good price… or you can always send your child to daycare and pay 3 times that amount
Families that dont charge are awesome but some families need extra money. And 65 a week. You t even find that for a day at a real child care facility. Stop trying to be a freeloader and lay the damn grandma
Why is their time not of value. She is doing you a favor and 65 dollars is nothing and maybe it is helping her out.
You’re wrong! I paid my mom $80 a week. I lived the fact that he was in good hands, being spoiled rotten. I didnt have to worry about him being abused. It also allowed me to repay her a little for all she did for me growing up.
She should def get paid but 65 dollars for 3 days a week, 2-4 hours is a little much.