I Think it’s Kinda shitty that people look at it as Family Shouldn’t ask or be paid for babysitting! Why do they even have to ask? Out of Consideration for our Family Helping we ourselves should offer them a little money for helping. Also you don’t really know how a Child behaves when they are away from their parents. She’s 62 I’m sure she at some point has a hard time. She didn’t choose to have the child it’s not her responsibility or even Problem to help figure out your babysitting
That’s a way for some extra cash for her. You know your child is being taken care of and you can’t put a price on that!
Since u posted this in the other group I’m gonna put what I put in that group to this question…If shes watching ur child that much then yes u should pay. Also shes probably on a limited income. Stop being cheap
My mother in law watches my son and we pay her $50/week I mean she isn’t demanding tho. She comes to our house to watch him takes the dog out and helps clean too so I can’t really complain
As a grandmother, if you truly resent paying her to “take care of your child” you should place him in after school care. Taking care of your kid is not her responsibility, it’s a choice. Maybe you are both helping each other out. Do you know her financial situation, do you even care? It may not be just about you & your needing or wanting free daycare. Your GM may need a little help, while she’s helping you. That’s what families do.
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Well one way or another is to help her with her needs but sometimes other families don’t charge but anyway if they don’t charge you it’s your responsibility to help them out with something
Where would he be if she didnt watch him?
You do realize that $65 is HALF of what daycare costs are? I think you should pay if your relative is watch your kid for more than just occasionally.
Grandmas are on a fixed income. Give her a break negotiate. But don’t expect for free.
Do you not think your grandmother’s time is worth it and how much would you be paying a daycare I going to say shame on you
I’m 62 and agree with her totally…even when we get older we still like to get paid
…period…
Several Questions:
1.) Why wasnt compensation offered from the start? Or was it?
2.) Was compensation discussed before having your child stay with this person?
3.) Why do you feel her time watching your child isn’t valued with compensation?
4.) If you do not have the money to pay this person for childcare (are your going to school and working part time, single mom just making ends meet) did you make this clear?
I’m a stay at home mom, if a friend of mine needed temporary help with their child I wouldn’t charge, if it was more than once in a while and was a weekly thing I would charge. I may already be “home” with MY child, We choose this for our family, this takes money from our household to feed them and time away from my kids to tend to another.
Doesn’t matter how good of a child your son is, he can’t be left alone. It’s like you are saying it’s an easy job so it’s worth less. I paid my sister in law 60 bucks a week 22 years ago to watch my daughter while I was working. Show some appreciation and gratitude and pay her or take your son to daycare and pay 3 times as much
I watch my granddaughter for no charge but if she wasn’t watching him, you’d be paying someone else and I’d rather mine be with family I know and trust even if it means paying them
I pay someone not related to me $20 for a full day not 2-4 hours…grandma is crazy…she doesn’t have to pay overhead or anything.
Wow. These comments are Sad and Hilarious! Defenitely Definitely y’all aren’t Baby Boomers or GenX’s! That there lays the problems
Maybe your grandmother pays CV that out of her pocket to feed him.or maybe she takes them out to lunch maybe it’s for gas money it’s hard when you get social security
Do you provide food?
Not being smart but you would pay someone else. If it bothers you that bad, I would find someone else to keep him
Umm…yes. If you value the care and provider, pay for it. If you can’t afford it, work out an exchange. But, family or not, if they’re your daycare provider, you pay no matter what
I think you should pay yes I do. Now if you just ask her maybe to keep a couple hours while on a date or out to eat once in a while No an I really do not think she would charge you either
I watch my grandkids Sunday-Thursday 3:30am to 2 pm ages 2 & 5 and get 400 every two weeks and compensation for food and snacks. Just know the kids are safe in my house with their grandma and papa and have everything here just as they would at home. Considering they lived with us until a couple years ago. But yessssss pay whoever is watching your child
If it were an occasional thing that’s different
Uh yeah Most daycares are 200$ a week per child (that is full time but you get the point)… 65$ isn’t much and although she is family, she is taking her time and energy to watch your child, she can have whatever stipulations she wants… it’s not greedy at all in my opinion.
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I think you should check in to daycare or even just afterschool care I bet it would cost you alot more then $65 a week! It would probably be that per day
You just never know. Grandmas are wise . She might be saving that money for you to have over when she can no longer do it . I know a couple who did this for someone living with them to save money. When they moved out … they handed over a nice lil nest egg.
I think she should be paid if you took him to a day care you would be paying more than 65.00 a week grandma’s shouldn’t have to babysit anyway
Yes you should pay her grandmas are on a budget to maybe that little extra you give her would help her buy some drinks an lunch for your child not to mention if your running late she isn’t charging you a dollar a minute when your late my daughters daycare did this to her you have it easy pay the lady. Keeps every one happy
I paid my mom when my kids were little, and I bet anything the money I gave her went into buying things they liked,ice cream outings ect . Suck it up and pay family they dont owe it to you and think what you would have to pa a licensed sitter
Whether the child is good or bad, how can you drop YOUR child off anywhere and not pay them for their time and services?!? I don’t care if it’s your momma that watch them. And you talking he a good child and all that so take him to work or how about quit since you feel like he is such a good child and you feel like you shouldn’t pay someone to care for YOUR child!!
Having 5 kids i know you have to pay something or one’s will NOT want to do so. PERIOD.
I paid my cousin $20 a day for anything over 2 hours. It’s not just time it’s the convenience she’s offering you. Also your kids with family instead of a stranger. Seems like a win win to me.
No child is well behaved all the time, they have their moments! Id try talking to your gran, coz it sounds like you rely on her to care for your son, compromise with your gran , $65 is fuk all for someone else watching YOUR CHILD family or not. Period.
Um very well behaved or not, just him being there means she’s liable, responsible and has to feed him, bathe him, play with him etc. If it’s an everyday job, then you compensate her what you can!
She is probley on SS and surely could use the extra money while you know your child is getting the best care from her
Your attitude is wrong it’s your kid nothing is handed to you
You want instant gratification
It’s no ones responsibility to take care of your kid especially for free you had they kid they didn’t they did there part already in raising kids now it’s your turn either pay for sitters or stay with your own kid
I guess you lost me at, “My child isn’t a hard child to watch!” Compared to whom ? He’s 5! My oldest daughter wasnt hard to watch at 5 either, but still had to be watched, fed, entertained, etc. It’s not fun or easy watching children. Sorry boo, it’s not.There are grandmas out there willing to watch for free but unfortunately you do not have that pleasure. I’ve warned mine, when you have children, they’re yours! Don’t have them and expect me to watch them all the time. (However, I will if I need to depending on circumstances but I’m not telling them that, nor will it be permanent) I watch my neighbors babysit every dang week and weekend, 3 little grandkids bc both parents work crazy hours at the hospital. Sorry, but if you work insane shifts and keep popping out kids, the least they could do is pay them. They’re practically having to raise them. I know it takes a village and it’s hard working and raising kids, but it’s your responsibility to figure it out. Not grandmas.
Key word “MY” child, so therefore YOU are responsible for he/she, no one is obligated to help.
If $65 is too much, you could always quit working so you don’t have to pay, and continue taking care of your own “well behaved” child.
Since you would like someone to babysit for free, inform your job you are willing to work 2-4 hours for free.
It’s your child, so take care of your child, and ALL the expense that comes with raising them.
I think $65 is very generous and u should be grateful knowing your child is safe and with swine u total trust
Yes you should pay her. I’m sure your son eats,drinks and uses the bathroom at her house.Thats her food he eats,her drinks he drinks,her water he uses while using the bathroom and washing his hands.Her electric he uses while watching TV. You can’t have everything for free.Im sure she uses the money you pay her to buy food,snacks,drinks for him.
You would have to pay someone else. At least offer
I practically raised 3 of my grandkids, never got a cent for it, but now they are grown teenagers,they get good grades and are better behaved than other kids I’ve seen,I would like to think that it’s because of me
Yes you should pay, you’d have to pay anyone else. Why take advantage of grandma?
Is she on a fixed income. Maybe she needs the money. If that is not the case then families do for families.
If she didn’t need the $$ she wouldn’t ask. And $65 isn’t much
Yes you should pay you’re getting a good deal &beside that you don’t have to worry about him that’s worth 65 dollars alone
Kids need to think about it just like us with them our children we to had to do daycare and if YOU have to pay a daycare it’s not cheap. They have a system that even if you don’t need them YOU still pay. This grandma don’t. Tell your kids that bitch about you charging them it teaches them still to pay BUT not as much. And if you don’t like it pay the DAMN daycare prices YOU did.
Out of respect yes it takes away there free time to earn money anywhere else and it’s a job caring for kids and a commitment
My mother doesnt ask for payment but thats also because she never gets time with my daughter unless im working
Omg is this girl for real? I don’t care if she is family: she has committed to watching your child on a regular basis so you can go to work without having to worry about who’s watching him? Shame on you for not insisting on paying her!
I would never take money from my kids for keeping my grandkids
Honestly, if shes watching him, i wouldnt complain about 65$ a week. Thats nothing. U could take him to a daycare and be paying 200 a week or more depending where u live. No, grandmothers shouldn’t ask for payment. But maybe she needs a little extra help too.
O my gosh! Pay her. It’s not nearly what you’d pay a sitter. And maybe it helps her pay a bill or do something nice for herself. Kids are hard no matter how well behaved they are. Sheesh!!!
It’s called appreciation, cause your kids having there kids, where are you gonna get that service in the real world called responsibility, life isnt cheap period, Nd on top of all that they get spoiled!!!
I would never charge my girls and 62 is not old. If your struggling I definitely would not understand. Is grandma struggling too. She is charging roughly 4-5 dollars an hour which is not a bargain. Can you offer maybe to do something for her too? Clean house, laundry? Maybe she will knock her price down.
My mother in law says if we are working there is no reason we can’t pay her since we are out making money and it would still be cheaper than child care, however she says it’s different and wouldnt want paid if we are having a husband/wife night. I think its 100% fair!
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My mom watches my boys 3 & 1 my oldest is autistic my baby is very hard fussy kid always cranky. She watches them 40+ hours a week I pay her $75 a week and she buys all the food and snacks and she spends her 75 a week on stuff for my boys. New toys haircuts shoes clothes everything you name it. I’m very blessed to have my momma watch my kids while I’m working.
She is asking for less than minimum wage. Its more than fair. As a former nanny/teacher, I charged $12-$25/hour depending on the ages of children. Occasional watching like once in a blue moon is one thing, but a regular 3 day work week deserves compensation. It is a fair price. And a better rate than what you would get anywhere else.
If it is a regular thing then yes you are obligated to pay. Now if they tell you they will do it for free that’s a different story but 65/week is nothing really.
If she offered her services and no agreement was mad then she cant demand it after starting it. She may ask, and you 2 can come to a mutu amount if that’s what she wants. But if you just assumed she should because she is family, then yes you SHOULD have to pay.
I make 60 a week for 2 and that’s 12 hours a day swing shift so that 5 days one week and make 45 12 hours 4 days
You owe her and shoudn’t be even fighting it!
Yes family should be paid. Your lucky itd only 65 and not 165.
Are you working for free too?
This is just complete common sense. I don’t even see why this would be a debate.
She should be paid… demanding to get paid is not okay tho. You should sit down with her and figure out a good price that you can agree on… I don’t pay my parents, but I do help buy groceries and what not for my son.
Yes you should paid her . You are going to work knowing he safe and well taking care of. With all the abuse and sexual abuse do you really want to take him somewhere else and what find of income does she have she might need the money.
$65 and not $50-$75 a day? I’d say your getting off cheap. She’s providing you a cheap safe environment and your helping her pay a bill or provide proper food for your son. Count yourself lucky!
Yes, she should be paid if it’s scheduled childcare, regardless if its family. If it was your grandma asking to take him for a visit, that would be different. #MyOpinion
Seriously $65.00 for up to 12 hours a week is $5.41 per hour - really are you going to begrudge her that?
I think its time she take them to a day care center stop taking advantage of her grandma. Obviously she feels like she is being taken advantage of if she is telling you to pay.
Just because she’s family doesnt mean you shouldn’t pay her for her time. Yes it takes a village but if she’s only charging $65 imagine the money she’s saving you. AND she providing meals I assume. $65 is nothing.
I’m bout to turn 60 I have my 2 grandsons that are teenager’s I’m going to court next month for custody neither of their parents help me at all and I watch 3 of my grandkids so their parents can work and they pay me I’m on SSI so I need the money be happy your grandma helps you
I paid my mom not 65$ she watched my 3 kids
So, I know my opinion is probably going to start a fight but I don’t really care.
I think she’s over charging you for sure. Yes you should pay her something. She is going a service for you. But she shouldn’t ask an arm and a leg to baby sit her own grandchild. Mother in law never asks that I pay her. EVER. But I do. I give her some money and take her to lunch or something when I can. My mother NEVER ONCE asked me to pay her. But again I do for her as well. I take her to all of her appointments no matter how far they are and I don’t ask for gas money.
It’s a give and take. You do not get something for nothing.
we should not take family for granite but make the offer to pay
Day care costs or even private babysitter cost would be double that, and you don’t know what kind of person is keeping your child. Suck it up, and pay her. That $65.00 barely covers what your lil one eats while at grandmas house, and grandma is probably on a fixed income!!
No, but if grandma is hurtin for 
and asks for it…Im paying her to keep the 6-9hrs of childcare/week.
Your mom raised you it really isn’t her job to watch your kids you had them and you should be ashamed of yourself try to find a babysitter for less hum you can’t find one and one that you can trust our kids think we owe them forever NOT
obviously if they’re wanting you to pay then they could use it and you should be grateful that they’re doing it for you because that is cheap compared to daycare
Try paying some stranger…definitely be more than 65.
You can take him to daycare instead and pay them…
Senior citizens are on a fixed income as it and your 65$ probably helps her out. You get someone you trust who loves your child at less than half the cost of daycare. Seems like you should be counting your lucky stars instead of complaining.
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$65 a week is nothing idc if she is family you need to pay her. Stop being so entitled. Some people geez
Think you’re being a little unfair for being livid. Granted, I do think family should be willing to help you out. But the fact that you are EXPECTING family to NOT WANT money for performing a FT job is a little selfish. You should at least be offering to pay your grandma. You’re not entitled to free childcare. They are your kids.
Really, you would pay someone else why not family. Thats stupid to ask would you do it for free?
Pay your Grandmother. Her time is valuable too. Not to mention you have peace of mind ssa wwwknowing that your child is with someone who loves them. And for only $65 a week? That’s a steal.
She should receive something for her time . Of course her income is limited and she provides worry free child care a stranger can’t. Nothing in life is free. Out of love n respect paying her is the right thing . Why do younger folks think they should get a free ride just cuz they family. No ma’am is time is worth something.
$65 a week is nothing for child care.
I keep my cousin’s son while she works and get $100 a week
You definitely should pay her & if you weren’t atleast you should bd offering to pay her something! Rude woman
Uh that’s cheap don’t complain and she doesn’t have to do it at all? FYI he’s your child not hers you could have to pay daycare call around and get prices??
It ain’t the fucking $$ family sticks an that’s the way I was raised but I’m a north Georgia hillbilly y’all should have been raised in these hills an learn your manners
Pay that lady! 62 year old watching kids, she better than me. I’m 32 and don’t like watching kids lol
If she didn’t watch him , you’d pay someone else too ? Right ?
I can see both sides .
I personally wouldn’t charge , but I don’t want to be taken advantage of either ?
Yes 65 is way cheap. Plus she is spending her time with your child. She be doing her own thing.
Grandma’s attitude is not the problem!!! Maybe its YOUR attitude that is…
Quit being cheap ! Why should she or anyone babysit for free ? You are basically paying her $5 and change an hour … way too low for anyone … Get a better job if you can’t afford it ! Grow up !!!
If you need day care to work the 65 a week is cheap. You won’t find it that cheap anywhere else.
Look i wouldnt ask my family to pay me but in saying that i guess its a personal choice and what your mum is doing is baby sitting which shes probably saving you a shit ton in childcare fees so work it out would you rather have help and extra money in your pocket or have no help and pay for childcare? 65 is bugger all think of it like this you are paying her for her time and im guessing she feeds yoyr son do $65 would only just cover what hes eating
Does she need the money? Does she provide food for them?