My boyfriend had a child when we got together. I’ve been in her life going on four years. He has full custody, and her mom is supposed to get her every other weekend but usually finds some excuse not to come to get her. She does still take her, but it’s once in a blue moon, and half the time, she’ll get her a day late or bring her home early. So to her, I am her mom I’ve been raising her, and I’ve never asked her to call me mom, but she does. She calls her mom by her name, and that’s been her choice, never forced. My question is…Say something would happen to her dad. I can’t help but fear that she’d have to go live with her mom, where she wouldn’t be well taken care of. Would it be out of line to ask her to let me adopt her daughter? She’s already been asked to sign her rights over and refused. We would obviously still let her see her child. We would never keep her from her bio mom. I just want the best for the child, and she’s proven over the years she’s not capable. She has a drug and alcohol issue, and she and her boyfriend are abusive to each other as well id hate to have her grow up in a home like that if the worst were to happen when it could’ve been prevented. Also, am I crazy because I’d like to have a plan?
Yes yes yes. Sounds like you are her mama more anyways