Yeah it sounds to me like they are hoping for a long-lost connection to be rekindled between the husband and the friend
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Some of yâall are just hateful humans. And the phrase grow up is seriously awful. It has nothing to do with being grown up! If the woman feels something is off then it probably is.
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Your sister in law is purposely hurting you because she is a C£¢âŹt. Now that we are past that she does this to hook them up . Knowing she is doing this to you and he runs as an excuse to go see her when she is a round makes him a disrespectful a-h@@¢=âŹle entertaining it for his EGO or he would not do it . WOMEN JUST KNOW . When I was first with my hub 19 years ago my sister in laws sister was hitting on him and he knew it . She was down there at her sisterâs house out of town when my hub went to visit his family since at that time we were together over a year . She finally called him and was pushing him to hook up with her when she came through town . I gave two choices because I knew what was being pushed but I made it clear . Itâs a we or I walk or he feeds his ego and I walk . It was over as soon as she tried because I do not play that ego game . I spoke to my sister in law and let her know that will not be entertained and it never was by her but she did not push her sister to do it so out of respect I am sure something was said to her and she stopped . I saw her sister years later at a party and she avoided me the entire time because she knew I donât play those games and my hub was respectful to me the entire time we were there except for the hellos and goodbyes being cordial .You have two choices to communicate to him or give him back to the C$_&t sister and her player friend who is feeding his ego . He is allowing it and being a boy toy and not a man in a real relationship. Itâs as simple as that .
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I truly believe that when you are married, there is no reason for either of you to hang out with the opposite sex alone. Its inappropriate.
I quit reading after âHis sister has disrespected me before about telling childhood stories.â TF?!? 
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Yaâll know just because you trust your man, that doesnât mean he wonât cheat, trust is great but if they acting shady then you have a right to be suspicious.
How many women do you think said âI trust my husbandâ before finding him to be a cheat. 
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RidiculousâŚstop showing that inferiority. Go with him hold your head high if they have ill intentions thatâs on them not you. People do lose contact and reconnect. I suspect this is just your own insecurities.
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Not at all. There is no reason for your husband to be hanging out with another woman who doesnât want you around.
Let him know that you will be joining them everytime no reason for you not to be there if itâs a get together because what it sounds like is the sister in law is trying to hook them up or sheâs already hiding an affair that has happened.
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Nope. Iâm sorry thatâs disrespectful.
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If your gut is telling you that your SIL is stepping on your toes, she most likely is. Trust your gut. Your hubby needs to stand by you. Period.
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You sound insecure and jealous over nothing
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Sophia Poulos Elysia Drizzy Den Den the sister in law, the friend and my husband would have caught my hands at this point. Metaphorically speaking ofc
Are you sure there is really a âfriendâ or is he just having his sister call and say a friend is there so he can have some time away from you and all that controlling jealousy? Because if I was him Iâd be at my sisters much more often if I couldnât even talk about my CHILDHOOD and past that happened long before you came into the picture. 
. Bet the âfriendâ is a divorce attorney.
But really, you sound miserable. And the friend is probably going through some shit Iâm positive you know nothing about, and his sisters house is probably and safe and worry free place for her. Especially if her husband is at home constantly drinking/drunk. You havenât stated a single red flag from your husband but you gave use all a red scarf with all your flags. If him and his sister talking about their childhood is so dIsReSpEcTfUl to you, then leave 
. If you clearly and obviously donât trust your husband, donât stick around.
Mmm. Iâm friends with my brothers childhood friends and when they come down they call me to come over. Personally I dont see anything wrong with that. Itâs fun reliving old memories.
My suggestion is either go with him or put something on at your place. She might be worth getting to know.
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Go with him if it bothers you so much⌠And its not disrespecting you by telling childhood stories unless its about them screwingâŚ
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Or how about you just grow up and quit trying to control who he can have as friends and stop being jealous
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Honestly I would tell the husband itâs you sisters friend I donât feel the need for you to hang out. Iâd also make it clear to the sister in law sheâs your friend donât see the need for my husband to hang out. You want the 4 of us to do something fine otherwise you enjoy your time with your friend.
I have a feeling in my gut your right if you can keep your mouth closed and go with him every time you may find out about the floozy or figure out what she up to. Tell your husband they cross boundaryâs and that upsets you and you want him to intervene for you tell him crossing boundaries. Is what screws up families causes drama
You sound controlling. Is the childhood friend not to be trusted around or is she not known by you??
Are they not allowed to talk about his childhood? Or still be friends with childhood friends now that we have all grown up? Are we not allowed to pop up and visit old childhood friends?
If it bothers you so much, tag along. Or host at your place? Is your husband not to be trusted?? Yea we get your sil is disrespectful, but is your husband a cheater??
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Oooh my gaawwwwd!!! grow up 
Its so weird that youd give someone you dont even know so much head space, its clear youre not secure in the relationship. Instead of lashing out you need to face issues within yourself and your partner head on
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Sounds like your sister in law is trying to hook them up and purposely trying to hurt you.
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Tell her to get lost
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No ur not over reacting. I wouldnât trust her
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Yes. Youâre absolutely over reacting
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Iâm confused about this, is it your husband you donât trust or your sister in laws friend? Canât you ask your husband outright what it is youâre concerned about?
if itâs his sisterâs friend they might have grown up together or have been around each other often? iâm super close w a lot of my brothers friends just because we either grew up together or have seen each other often throughout the years
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Either you trust your husband or you donât
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Telling childhood stories is disrespectful now? Lmao. Sounds like this has less to do with the friend and more to do with the fact you donât trust your husband.
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No your not your husband Should respect you.
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Youâre 1,000% over reacting. Your jealousy and insecurity is getting the best of you. Since when are childhood stories disrespectful? The way you are acting is childish.
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Theirs a huge lack in info. This is odd. Ig trust your gut. Go with him if he doesnât like that then Iâm going to be bold enough to say he cheating
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I never realized how insecure everyone seems to be. I mean my husband is still friends with a bunch of exs and ive never so much as batted an eye at them talking or seeing each other. Hes your husband not ur property this screams insecurity and control issues. My im the odd man iut here but if you trust him you trust him.
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This is not ok, heâs married to you and needs to respect that. Its not about being controlling its about respect. The fact he lies to go see her is a red flag. Tell them to visit at your place. I wouldnât go visit another man without my husband. Stand your ground as there is no reason he needs to go visit his sisterâs friend, heâs a married man. I trust my husband 100% he has female co worker friends but he doesnât go visit them alone lol
I know he wouldnât cheat on me but no reason for a married man to be around other women without his wife.
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No. He doesnât need to go see this chick.
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Hmm when my brother is in town I go with him all the time to hang out with his male friends. Either to their house or out at a bar for drinks. My husband has NO issues with this as Iâve known these boys since they were all very young! Maybe he knows her from when they all were growing up together??
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Your husband needs to cop on especially when he knows it bothers you 
Talk to your husband and explain to him about your feelings or your concerns. Sometimes guys donât know about the girls feelings. They need to be told.
So I personally think this is a bit of an over reaction to the situationâŚbut I also realize I think that bc my boundaries are different than your boundaries and at the end of the day he either needs to respect your boundaries or he needs to man up and tell you he thinks your being overbearing and yâall hash it out.
But the making up excuses to go is the same as lying to me so thatâs when Iâd put my foot down.
Hi there is the link 
Grow upâŚyou sound crazy.I have friends both male and female from when i was a kid.I wish i would allow anyone to tell me who i can and can not be friends with.You have issues fr.
My brothers best friend has become a family friend- he stays at all of our housesâŚ. His family and if my partner had an issue with him I honestly can say that I would probably tell my partner to either deal with it or pack upâŚâŚ
Just because it upsets you doesnât mean you can tell your husband what to do- if you trust him there should be no issue and as for his sister- well if she canât discuss their childhood then girl you need some help with what ever underlying issue you have with that because itâs part of who he is and what shaped him to become the man you married. Embrace it as much as you can