I need some opinions. The father of my child as a baby mamma. She has a son with another man. Today I just found out that her second son (the one with the other man) name is the same name I had picked at eight weeks (I am now 20 weeks). Do you guys think I should I pick a different name or kept the same name that I’ve picked out?
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I would change it so the kid wont have two siblings with the same name.
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Change it. Less drama.
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If you like it keep it. If it’s gonna bug you then change it. It’s all up to you and how you guys feel about it.
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Have this conversation with your childs father.
What’s the baby’s father saying?
Definitely change it.
If you like it, keep it. My son and my bil son have sons with the same name but spelled different. The children you speak of will have different last names so it doesn’t really affect you or your baby. (In my case both boys have the same last name.)
Change it to save the child any problem that may occur when they are adults. My grandson has the same name S someone else and has had a lot of trouble as a result.
Change it! I think there are so many names to choose from why make it complicated and full of drama. In the long run you’ll be glad you did. Good luck
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Stop dating guys with “baby mamas” or girls with “baby daddies”. And can we please remove those words from the English language along with bae, boo, and any other stupid word we use.
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It will get really confusing for everyone; seen that very situation before ; it may be best if you find another name, you never know it may fit the child better😊 good luck
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If you change it you will always regret not picking it… maybe see if you can spell it differently to make it unique to YOUR child but I wouldn’t change the name 
If the name means a lot to you I would keep it… I named my daughter Naomi … from my grandma. . And then 2 of my cousins named their daughters the same name. But my daughter was 1st.
If you had to ask I would say keeping it causes doubt. Find something strong and overcoming to represent all you had to endure during this pregnancy 
Change it absolutely. It will be weird for your child to have same name as his brother. Lots of great names. That will keep your child feeling unique. It is not really about you at this point
I don’t think it should matter. Name your child whatever you and the dad decide. I’m sure growing up, he will run into others that share his name.
Pick a different one. I get wanting a certain name but not worth the stress of explaining it
Your baby your naming
Keep the name. Its not like her second son is your hubbys. I wouldn’t let anothers womans kid get in the way. This is your son, name him as you want.
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Duh…are you stupid? He wont be with you long…so pick a name that YOU LIKE.
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How attached are u to the name? If u have other names on your list, then I would consider a different one.
I’d pick the same name. No your kid and no your mans kids so why not?
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By experience, my sister was named out of spite, because my dads sister used the name my mother chose.
So mum used it anyway, that was how her life started, she suicided at 16 years old.
She hated her name, it was Shane. 
I dont understand the question but name YOUR baby whatever you want!
Change the name. Be odd brothers with the same name
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I feel dumber for having read this.
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It’s your baby name him what you want to.
The kid with the same name is not your kids’ sibling so I don’t see the issue with it. If you’ve been having the name picked out then keep it.
No way ,I’d change it .Why identify your son with another baby mama’s son’s name . Pick another one better .
A family member had the same problem. Her and her exs wife were pregnant at the same time. And they both named their kid the same first name. My family member just called her son by his middle name…
I understand the annoyance but i would definitely change it!
Similar happened to me but with a friend, I picked a girls name I liked and she decided to name her child that, we both ended up having boys, I had my son Jacob then when her son was born 3 months after she named him Jacob, it really annoyed me
It’s really all about your comfort. You will be this kids mom until you die. Make your parenting as easy as possible.
Sounds childish to me!!! Name your baby the name you already chosen.
Mostly ppl are saying they aren’t related so keep the same name. Problem is the child that is related to her son will have 2 half siblings with the same name. That will be the wierd part.
I would change it because she is permanent on fact that she has ur childs half sibling…if was just gf i would say no.
Wow you’re petty. Pick the name you want.
Different last names so name it what YOU want
Did she pick it out of spite
The dynamic is super confusing, but if it makes you uncomfortable and you think this will make it even more confusing, just pick a different name that doesn’t have any confusion or drama surrounding it.
My youngest daughter is named K. Magdelena after her grandmother. I’ve always wanted a child named Leni (Lay-nee) so I call her Leni and her dad calls her Lena (Ley-na).
I have a younger sister who wants a child named after our grandmother who raised her. The name is Elaine. A cousin named their child that and my whole family lost their minds.
It’s an honorary name so they don’t even call her by that name.
I would keep the name you chose but maybe use it as a middle name or choose a middle name that you like and use that.
As another commenter said, it could be confusing for the BD’s other child to have two siblings with the same name.