I would just focus on your part as a mother and do what you need to to take care of your child. It’s not your job to make sure the father or anyone in his family has a relationship with the child. If they wanted one they would make an effort. When your child is older he will understand.
Nope. Don’t beg for people to be present
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No you need to stop just go the other direction
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Go Mama! You’ve done more than i ever would. They all have a choice and they decided not to be part of his life so when your son is older he can make his own choice
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no, time to move on , make a life for yourself and son , you had a loser ,sounds like he’s no good …
They always want to see their child once he or she is becoming an adult. ready to ask questions----I personally would NOT give him the privilege ( because that’s what it is, having a child) hasn’t done anything for your son. Be a little hard, like he has— a million times over. I think your son will need his Mum because he will be thinking and saying that it’s his fault that his “father” stays away
Personally going through the same dont waste your time hun your son will only be hurt in the end trust me your son will grow up knowing you love him and that’s all he needs it’s hard to see now but your son is better off this way because he has you to love him instead of growing up with someone who doesnt want him and is only forced to see him you got this hun keep doing what you’re doing by raising your son and just leave the past in the past 
Don’t keep trying, but document and get it certified otherwise you can get in trouble for other reasons like the grandmother. Documents are you only protection.
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How many hints do you need to make up your mind. Just being truthful and trying to have her understand and see just what is really happening.
No 
stop trying… I think you know the answer.
I say Fuck. Them. It’s their loss, not yours, and not your son’s.
The energy that you put into those other people is better spent on your son. If his grandmother and aunt want to see him they know how to contact you. Their lack of action says everything you already know
I feel sorry for your son. At some point he will want to know his father and I hope it won’t be to late
Keep a journal of letters to your son, memories of the things you to, and occasionally letters expressing the hurt and anger you feel toward your son for his neglect of his son. If you have not done so already, try to establish paternity. Someday baby may need to claim daddy’s social security benefits. Child support wouldn’t hurt either! If you never get a dime, at least your son can see the proof of his dad’s rejection 2o years or do in the future.
It’s a choice and they are choosing to not to be an active participant in your sons life. Take that time you are devoting to their drama and redirect it towards you and your son. You will reap the reward. Remember actions not words speak. If they want to be part of your sons life, they WILL step up. If not, move on and remember to love yourself through this process.
Why would you even want these people involved in your sons life. Love your son and have no contact with people who don’t.
Move on. They obviously would just tell him bad things about you and then he wouldn’t have anybody he could trust.
Good ridance to bad rubbish!
I’ve gone through the same thing my daughters father and I broke up when I was 3 months pregnant and left with another women, she dosent like me so he has to hide from her to contact my daughter she is 1 year old… her grandma only see her when she wants to and acts like I’m keeping her away which I’m not…so I tried to have any communication with them my daughter is fine it hurts , but sometimes our children are better like that then having someone show up only when they want to it’s his lost when your child grows up let him decide if he wants his father in his life he will see his father and fathers family true colors don’t put your energy into that anymore is not worth it
Stop stressing over them since they aren’t even trying to be apart of his life, it’s their lose and don’t worry so much about what they are saying to others cause you can’t stop it so there’s no point in you losing sleep over it. Focus on your son and just know that you did try but now it’s out of your hands.
Move on…even if he showed up once it would be to hard on kid when he left again…why put him through that…guys a looser…
As a mother of two, follow your heart. You seem to have done all that you could for there to be a relationship with him and his family. They seem to have made the choice for you. I will tell you this, at some point in his life you will need to find a very good counselor for him. He will have abandonment issues, caused by his father, which is normal for this situation. Don’t speak ill of his father regardless, bad parents tend to prove themselves quite quickly without additional help(if there is a future relationship with him). Keep it plain and simple. Mine are now 17 &18 and they know just who and what their father is. But my heart still breaks for them. <3 Good luck love.
Why? He walked away and didn’t look back. His actions speak volumes. Why would you want to force a relationship. If he wanted one HE would initiate it
They are the losers. Just concentrate on your life with your son. Not having a relationship is better than having a bad one. You are stronger than you know. God Bless the two of you.
I wouldn’t push it he will only hurt his feelings with broken promises family seems to be that way his feelings are what matters telling him I am on my way dont show up will hurt him leave it alone just show him all the love let him know how important he is to you dont mention dad he will find out for himself
Just because they’re blood related doesn’t make them family. Don’t bother trying to form relationships with them. It’s there fault they’re missing out on his precious life. Do what you need to do for the two of you and carrying with life.
Go love & raise your child…you and him is all you need! 
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Praying for you and your child. Let it be. Make your life with your baby and be happy. He will one day realize his mistake. God and your child is your focus. God bless you.
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Let it be, it is not your responsibility to ensure “family” loves your son, it is your place to make sure your son is safe and as far away as possible from people who will harm him (emotionally, physically or verbally) and with the actions other have been showing you I personally wouldn’t want them around my child and I definitely won’t force people to be around my child. Protect and love your son as much as you can and be happy that those “horrible” people are not in his life! I say horrible because who in their right mind treats a child that way. I give this advice from your side of things, going through it now, good luck mom, be strong and awesome as we know you can be!
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Let them go. Having people who are suppose to love you be scarse leaves questioning if you (the child) did something wrong. Esp if they walk past him without a glance. That’s brutally cold hearted. They do not deserve your son in any way shape or form. They just missed out on loving a beautiful little soul.
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Family is not always blood related. Surround yourself with good people. Love yourself and your son and that should be enough!!!
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Dad doesn’t want to be involved but do take him for child support he shouldn’t get away without paying for his child
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Cut all ties. Negativity and constant rejection is really tough on a child and hard to overcome as an adult. I speak from experience
Let it go. They don’t want to be there. My grandson finally told his dad at age 13 he didn’t want anything to do with him anymore. Would never show up or no call to say why. Same from the grandmother. Been no gifts, cards just nothing and now over 16, straight A student and does awesome. Focus on your child, anything is possible. It will be their loss not your child’s.
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Best to cut ties - that isn’t good for any of you - go live your best life & be hal happy! -good luck
Sad and tragic they are missing out going through the same thing with my daughter’s dad his loss both of these people are losing out on great kids
Just let it be. You’ve done your part in trying to have contact and visits between them. Your son doesn’t need those type of people in his life. There’s already enough negativity in this world. Be the mama bear that you are. Love your son
I wouldn’t continue trying to initiate anything with them. It’s evident that they have no interest in being a part of your son’s life, which is sad by the way. Continue to do what you can as his mother. When he gets old enough to understand the situation he’ll see who was really there for him and who’s always cared about him. Don’t force anything.
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Ditch all of them that want nothing to do with your precious son. You have given them plenty of chances to be in your sons life and apparently it’s not important enough to try and make those calls or visits! These people are adults making the wrong decisions and they will pay the price later in life when your son is old enough to know they never cared to have a relationship with him! Surround your son around loving friends and family only and DITCH THE LOSERS!!!
Do your best n raise your son ,shower him with plenty love, don’t mention anything negative about his father forget about the family who don’t want the relationship with him , He will one day be a man n see for himself, God will show u a way.
Stop chasing people who dont want anything to do with your child. Live as if they dont exist, the same way they live as if your son dont exist.
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Yes let them go they are not worth your son’s love. Tell him about then and show him proof cause they will try to turn him against you when he is older I know
No. Dont set up for hurt. Protect the lil guys emotional state right now. It’s not worth the hurt. Even though the say the awful things they are going to keep saying it and it’s only going to bother you more when they promise and don’t come through
Do not do anything with out a court order even with grandparents and aunts etc especially if father is on the run and grandparents are saying these things. This world is a crazy place and most thing happened to child via jealous or envious relatives. Please keep your son safe and stop all contact if the grandmother wants to be in said child’s life then she can go to the courts and file for those rights until then focus on you and your baby and dont let the rumors bother you. He has you, your all he needs. Try terminating parental rights as this is the safest bet to assure his family cant get ahold of said child (if what you’re saying is true )
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I would stop trying with them. You and your son sound like you will be much better off without them in your life…Make the best life you can for you and your son and forget the others
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I would keep your son as far away from his family as you can! They have made it clear that they don’t want to have anything to do with him. It’s not healthy for you or your child, time to move on.
You know the answer I would say is yes cause as the child gets older they will see you put forth the effort and the other parent didn’t
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Just leave the door open for them to contact you like if anything changes from what they know and leave it up to them to contact you so you know that you’ve tried and if anything emergency happens like your child gets seriously suck or hurt let them know and make sure there’s records you’ve done all this so if they try to take you to court for it you have proof you tried they didn’t
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It sounds toxic, I would keep the poor child far away from it.
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i wouldn’t waste your time if they haven’t made contact all this time they don’t want to be there move on your child will be better off if you find a real man
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They will let you know when they are ready. Don’t push it, though. It has to be their choice
I would just let them be and u are all he needs. It is there loss when u have tried
No, they can find you if they truly want to be in his life,
No when the time comes the truth will come through. Let it be and wait and see.
Leave it be don’t try to force a relationship when they don’t try
No way am i forcing anything if they want something to do with your child they will reach out to u dont go chasing nothing its there loss not yours yes it hurts i know but good luck
Do not initiate anything. You’ll be better off in the long run.
They don’t deserve to know him…
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You can’t make someone be a parent. I wouldn’t initiate contact
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Leave it alone and raise your son.
You can pick your friends…your nose…but not your family…dont ever feel guilty…get rid of them all😑
NO!!! Forget them all. They are the ones at loss.
Stay away from them. If they cared they would have made contact.
F–k no. They are way better off without that POS. Love and spend time with your kids. You’ll all be happy.
STOP TRYING TO FORCE PEOPLE TO SEE YOUR KIDS WHEN THEY DONT WANT TO. THATS HOW KIDS END UP HURT AND DEAD. Not trying to be mean but I am really sick of people trying to force people to be around their kids who dont want to be there. If they wanted to they would. Good lord. Let it go. You are damaging your child.
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Blessings flow your way.
Enjoy the little one to the fullest.
Screw him! I’d hire an attorney to go to court with you to strip the father of his parental rights… there’s a reason he lost custody of his other children, so he should lose his rights to YOUR son! You can’t MAKE someone (mom or dad) be a parent. You have to do what’s best for your son & you. It’s the bio dad’s lose.
Stop doing that…
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Let it be it’s their LOSS just take care of u son God is with u n son 
I agree with Crystal Vandell
People will see the truth. KARMA!
That is just sad:rage: I would NEVER just walk by my brothers kid. Fuck them he ain’t missing nothing. Thats so fuckin sad:astonished:
my husband has 2 sisters who have nothing to do with my kids, because they’re my kids… Bye bitches:v:
I do not keep them from my children, but I do not bring my children around either. One lives literally 20 houses away.
Forget about them all!
Do you really have to ask this question!!! He’s a bum ,his family is a bunch of douchebags. Keep going about your business and raise your son. I went through the same thing with my son. I told him his father was dead. He’s father would physically abuse me and his mother would say if I wasn’t such a bitch he wouldn’t have to kick my ass… My sons father never tried to find him. Might be because I gave him 172 stitches for putting his hands on me . Lol move on girl.
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Just leave it. Your son will find out anything he needs to know when he gets old enough so if you’re lying, he will know and if they’re lying, he will find out without your help. Just take care of your kids mental health and keep walking thru your own life. You can’t do anything about theirs.