Don’t drop it! It is his responsibility not his parents! So like he is a dead beat dad sorry but if you can’t take on the responsibility of your child then that is what you are time to grow the f…up!
You know at this point he will not change. You can’t get blood out of a stone. Do what you think is best for you and your daughter.
At this point all you can do is give him enough rope to hang himself, by this I mean drop the case and hopefully in time he changes his life. When your child becomes an adult you will be able to say that you did everything in your power to help her father.
Of course he wants you to drop it. He obviously doesn’t want to take any responsibility for his own child. Why should you let him off the hook? He just wants to stay out of jail.
Have his ass locked up and I am telling you a few weeks in lock up he will straighten his lazy ass up he will get the child support some how stay on him or you will never get help and his parents should stand behind you are they will be
I can see dropping it during covid but he is the father he need to help, but then he hasn’t yet, I don’t for see he will ever. #deadbeatdad
If I’m not mistaken they will automatically send you the stimulas check if he owes any back pay. That’s what they are doing here in Columbus Ohio. I WOULD NEVER DROP THE CASE. He had money for his drugs, but can’t pay his child support…f@#! That!!! Girl that’s a no brainier. His parents should be sitting back and enjoying being grandparents, not being a father again. His child make him stand on his own two feet. I’ve been there done that. Trust me worry about your and your child. He made grown decisions, now he can act grown and be a father. Good luck chica!
Don’t drop it he decided to make a chils its his responsibility to pay for it
NO, NO, NO, do no other drop the child support, you might be feeling sorry for him but your daughter deserves that support
Why does he need a license if he refuses to work and why should he get a stimulus check if he hasn’t put into the economy?
Depending on the state they will not allow you to drop it… Texas automatically filed for my daughter i had no say in it
No way he should not be let off the hook. It is no ones fault but his He has had plenty of time to step up to the plate and hasn’t done it.
Ten yrs is a long time. I never received child support (3) kids. I raised them alone, my daddy help. Used to eat theirs leftover but now all of them are professional in their trade. The most satisfying thing is that last Sunday they all wished me Happy Fathers Day n every year. I’m happy with the decision I made 50 yrs ago. Good luck n make sure you can look yourself in a mirror whatever you decide!!!
If you give it up he parents may stop it too when he no is responsible for your child. And her grandparents won’t live forever
No never nada. I attached his inheritance. Thats how long I waited. Thousands of dollars never received.
do not drop he made a child now he must pay she will need much help in the years to come do not drop let him know he need to help you .
No way tell him to pay is child support n life will go back to normal. Ride a bike
Do not drop it. This is HIS responsibility to his child
Don’t drop, u will be sorry, if he does get the check he want give it to u, it will go on drugs.
No don’t drop it. He needs to help you out and be responsible. It’s his kid too!
Really? You are seriously asking this question? When there are things that your daughter wants to do and he’s not helping her? Lord, help me, I can’t even do this. Look sister, please grow up and have some concern for teaching your daughter the RIGHT thing to do to stand up for her and yourself, instead of just doing what is easiest. Damn, no wonder these poor children grow up confused about right and wrong and what to do
He should be paying it is his child too Not only yours tell him be a man
Be proud of what you do for your daughter and know she knows you are there for her.
He’s playing you girl!! Don’t stop the case against him. Don’t talk to him, hire a lawyer if you haven’t already and tell him to talk to him.
Do not drop the case. It’s not for you but your child.
Do not feel guilty about the stimulus check at all. We all make choices.
I have a different mentality…I dont want nothing that was forced to he given from someone. I never out my kids Dad on child support and I never will. My kids dont need his money and neither do I.
Pray about it and then do what you know in your heart is right…Just know that if he is using drugs the stimulus will probably go for drugs
Don’t drop it, this is his daughter too and he should help support her.
Oh no girl don’t give in. I raised three grand kids, well two of them all by myself cuz the dad’s didn’t pay a penny.and want to be the father of the year. So no that money is for ur child.
Don’t drop it . The money is for your daughter and her needs . He has a responsibility and needs to address it.
Do not drop the case nothing will change this is you holding him responsible
Hell no, your child deserves that support. Never got any support til after mine turned 18. Sadly it was only 113 a month
Your baby is entitled to that child support . Don’t drop it , you and her deserve it .
Sure, drop the case, that way he never has to take responsibility for his child. Hard to believe you are even asking this.
His stimulus check was taken because he is in arrears
Don’t drop it. But do talk to his parents about your reasons. They’ve helped you and don’t deserve to be blindsided. They need the truth instead of the lies he will tell them.
you have to accept reality, this man is a loser and is never going to help you, appreciate the grandparents and be happy they are there for your daughter
I’d not drop it hes just greedy at this point …hes taken from you and your daughter so now he hates being taken from…leadon learned on his part
Why would he be getting a stimulus check if he’s not been working for years?
NO do not. Drop it he shouldn’t get one penny!!!
My child is 36, she gets 60 a month from child support. It helps with her kids now.
Do not drop it! It will make you an enabler. He needs to take his responsibility.
You need that money. To start it is not yours. It belongs to your daugther. That’s for education, cloth, food, shelter. Maybe he will hate you at this moment because he is still young and taking drugs. If the streets dont kill him, later in live when he is more an adult in his fifty will thank you for it. If he doesnt want to go to jail tell him to pay for his CS.
Don’t even think of dropping the case. He’s the father, not his father. I’m sure the money would go for drugs anyway
Dont drop anything. He needs nothing if anything they should give u his stimulus check.
No. Do not drop the case and enable him any longer. Play the game, pay the price.
your child deserves better…if he does start working some day, they will attach his check and hopefully you will get the money for your daughter. Letting him off his responsibilities is to easy and it needs to follow him through life
I wouldn’t drop it, especially if I thought one penny of the money could be used for drugs, time to grow up
Don’t drop the case. My ex lives with his mother and is still a drug addict. His mom gives him an allowance for drugs. 56 years old.
No dont drop. Men are getting away with not paying a penny towards the expenses for their own children.
Definitely not it’s his responsibility to help support your child. Don’t bend under pressure from him. Why should you be financially strapped and not him.
Look the man obviously isn’t going to pay either way. He will just keep going to jail…once he goes to jail that is considered payment so you will never get money anyhow. Drop it… he will never help if he hasnt thus far…
Do not drop it the case . Leave it active and if he ever does start paying use it or put in savings for the child …
DO NOT DROP IT!!! That check should be going to you! Thats what happens when men wanna make babies & then run from their responsibilities!!
Your crazy if you drop the case he needs to grow up and be a man! He made his bed now he has to lay in it! My ex is 40 and still will never grow up…and if nothing changes with the child’s grandparents then it’s win I say…I have a similar situation with my ex husband and his parents
Don’t do it he has to take responsibility and be an actual dad even if that means he spends time in jail to learn what that means
My ex owes me $60,000 in back support. He doesn’t hold jobs because of it. Granted this is all back support because he never paid. They only want you to drop it to live their lives without the responsibility of the child. We divorced 20 years ago, he’s still living with his mom at almost 50
No, these are his consequences for being a sperm donor. Is child-support passing the money on to you?
Either way why support his drug habit. Someday your child is going to grow up and say mom why didn’t you do more to help? Or make my dad be accountable (as if we could) Or like one of mine who tells me, why did you get involved with losers?
My ex never gave me a dime for the kids. For me, it was just easier to drop it and move on. It was hard but it was better then dealing with him.
If you drop it, then forget about EVER seeing anything from him in the future. Then the next time your child needs something and you don’t have the money for it, remember that you gave him back money that was hers. You’ll regret it I’m sure. Does he feel bad for her when she goes without? I seriously doubt it. I’m speaking from experience.
DONT DROP IT.He helped make her and he needs to step up to the plate and support her. He sounds like a real winner. NOT
Don’t drop it my daughter is 35 now and my x stills owes me lots of money I got his stimulus money at least I got his stimulus.
I wouldn’t drop it once you do he’s got you where he wants you a person who want take care of thier own is sorry!!
No I know that’s easy for us to say but believe me it’s me a long time to learn that word for me first and my kids
Do Not Drop It, so what if it causes him a hard time, it’s causing u and the child to have hard times, ur child comes before him that’s for sure, it’s his fault if he gets into trouble over not paying.
Sounds like u are writing about my brother. Exact same situation ! If u can find it in your heart to drop it I would, then u never have to be bothered by it again. But stipulate that if he ever comes into money, you are entitled to get some. He has to live with the consequence of knowing he did his child & u wrong. Glad she has a wonderful relationship with her grandparents! ( they r the best) also if he never paid u a dime, he never will. So why continue living with broken promises and heartache. Just love the child, grandparents and move on to more positive life. He has to live with his issues and u will be the better person from it. Just my 2 cents.
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Nope, allowing the harassing behavior is not good either, its time to set him stright!!!
Do not drop the child supper case. Time for him to grow up
A bit late, and have you written proof that is the situation or is he playing you for a softie 
If he is not working(and of course not paying any tax), how the hell he is getting stimulus check? Confused 
Don’t drop the CS. Don’t give into him. You would be teaching your daughter that his behavior is okay.
Absolutely not!! Sounds like he needs to grow up!!
Don’t drop it. You’re right, he does need to grow up.
A real father would figure out how to help care for their child
Let him suffer it seems all he cares is the money and not his daughter. He needs to grow up.
Don’t drop the case. You have at least 8 more years ahead of you in raising your daughter. You don’t know what might come up. Is he supposed to see your daughter? Or is he seeing her because his Mom lets him?
From one mother to another do not drop it. Use that for you and your daughter that is your priority not him. Hes grown and needs to learn to take care of himself!
Do. Not. Drop. The. Case. Your are right when you say you would just be enabling him.
Talk/Ask his parents. They are who deserve the check. They may prefer he not get money to buy drugs. Give the option to the ones that it effects the most.
Don’t drop it, he will only spend the money on drugs, your daughter deserves that money. Tell him to grow up.
Im supposed to get child support but didnt get my sons dads stimulus check
do not drop the case and make it easier to do drugs and potentially o.d. I would encourage him to get into rehab every chance you get.
Why do him a favor, your child has the right to that money!!
#1. NO
#2. Hes a deadbeat
#3. He cant ‘reclaim’ his stimulus, he is ineligible.
#4. No!
Takes 2 people to make and raise a child. Your doing your part.
NO, DONT DROP IT!
NO don’t drop it and keep his stimulus check your daughter and you deserve it
Dont drop it. Its his fault it is the way it is. Not yours your dtrs or his parents
No do not drop anything but a hint get job and support your child
Don’t do it. They will take it for back child support. You and your daughter need this and don’t feel bad about it. As if he he going to give it to his dad and mom for helping you I don’t think so
Do no ever drop this case he has to and should pay his share to support his daughter my daughter never got money from her ex either this is shameless I so many ways
No. Don’t drop it. You are owed his stimulus check.
If he is on drugs,forget it. You won’t get a dime. If he works then go for it
No… do not drop it. Tell him to start making payments and it will go away on its own.
I can’t believe that you would ever consider dropping this. One day he will need to grow up. All you do is allow him to continue his life style. He must soon realize that all his problems are his own fault not yours or his daughters. Not no, HELL NO.
This kind of stuff does not need to be on Facebook. That’s between you and him. Nobody else’s business.
Do not drop your case if you are on assistance you will lose it because you have to have an active child support case in order to receive it
Do not drop the case. His extra money will go to drugs instead of your daughter who deserves it!!!
No, he helped make her, he should pay. And that is for all parents you need to pay for your children.
In all honesty, I would drop it. Clearly you’re doing well without his help and on top of that, he doesn’t see his daughter. Why would you want support from someone who’s non existent in your child’s life? The way it sounds, whether you drop it or not, youre never going to see a penny so why bother? Sounds like he is pos deadbeat and you like to have that control on him.
No do not drop it he needs to take care of his daughter
I would think about if I drop it what will he do with the stimulus check - do drugs with it? There may be another stimulus check in another month or two - what will he do with that?