No I would not drop it
No…he has to learn to take care of himself. He can’t take care of a 10 year old either. Be very careful with this situation, as I have seen these bad situations go from bad to horrific. You keeping contact with the parents may have backlash that he feels all stems from you! Please be careful and keep your daughter safe🥰
NO!!! he has to grow up take responsibility for his kid. Keep letting g him off the hook and he will never learn responsibilities. He needs to get help to get off the drugs and act like an adult.
Hell to the naw! Pay for your daughter to join cheer this year!
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The only way he’d get that money back is if you paid it back to child support. He doesn’t want to get a job because child support will withhold money and give it to you.
He needs to grow up, be a man and take care of his daughter. Don’t do it!!!
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Continue with your case… Sounds like he wants you to drop so he can just continue to use…maybe he needs to get into some trouble to straighten himself out and become a real father
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No dont drop it its his responsibility to help take care of your daughter too not just yours i fell for the please drop it i have a warrant and im gonna lose this real good job i have if they catch me i promise i will help you and guess what haven’t seen a dime and he lost that job anyways!! That child support will follow him the rest of his life keep letting it rack up and hopefully one day he will wake up work hard and u finally see some money
Do you get any state assistance for your child? If you do and you drop the case against him then you won’t be eligible for any assistance. It is the states way of getting paid back for money the are dispersing for his child. If he Evers comes into money the state will take it in order to be reimbursed.
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Two words Id be saying because I’ve said this to my ex husband when he asked as well, tough shit! I didnt make them alone and I will not support them alone 
No. Also, you don’t have to keep answering his calls. Tell him to email you first if he needs you.
Don’t! His responsibility too!
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He needs to be accountable for his actions. If his (god forbid) parents died tomorrow then what.
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Nope. Do not drop it. He needs till be supporting his child.
This isn’t about you. This is about your daughter. He had more than enough time to make it right.
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Most definitely do not drop it!
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I definitely would not drop it. My x husband is over 10,000 in arrears tho and I havent gotten his stimulus check so I’m not sure how true that is either
People like him are literally the reason why child support is a thing. Don’t drop the case. Those consequences are his own doing.
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So you’re wanting to know if you should drop your child support case so that your ex, who’s never paid child support or help with his child, can get his stimulus check so he can buy drugs? I’m sorry I’m completely blown away…
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Girl DO NOT
MAKE YOUR LIKE HARDER ! And his life even EASIER ! Change your number or ignore his damn calls!
Noooooooo
Get her in cheer!
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You need that help his parents shouldn’t have to take care of him or his child but thank God they do help some just tell him when he gets a job and helps you some your drop the suit
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Heck to the No, no no!! Do not drop the child support case, they took it because he was in arrears…my ex tried to play me like that…looks like that’s the only way you’ll get anything out of him… if he cared anything about the child he would have been there from day one! Hes playing you like a fiddle…it will do him good to lose his license, spend time in jail…make him grow up!! I wish there was a way that he could work during the day and take money out of his pay check…I was married to a narcissist, con man, sociopath and a pathological liar…my life was no picnic…he will do anything…anything to keep his butt out of hot water…Dont listen to him, dont ever be alone with him, trust me if you drop this charge you will regret it the rest of your life…trust me I know what I’m talking about! PUT THE SCREWS TO HIM!!! He did it to you, Karma!!!
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Hell to the no! He needs to support his kid and be held responsible for not doing so!
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Dude are you serious? Why would you even think about dropping the case when he don’t help you for shit? Fuck him it’s his fault he lost his license not yours why tf are you asking!? Tell him to grow tf up and to grow some balls and pay his fucking child support you don’t sit her and question helping a bum no.
Sorry NOT sorry
Hell no …I wouldn’t even waste time thinking that one over …
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Noooppp he deserves what he getting for not helping raise his child and i know for a fact that having back child support doesn’t keep you from getting a job bc my husband’s father ALWAYS could find a job while he was a kid and he just started paying the child support about 8 years ago my husbands the youngest at 24 but his middle brother is MR so his dad will being paying child support for the rest of his life
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DO. NOT. DROP.IT. !!! He made his bed now hes gotta lay in it. Maybe if he kept a job and stayed current on his cs they wouldnt have had to take it from his check. Fuck him girl.
Nope ,don’t drop it ! Maybe some time in jail will make him man up🙌
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DONT DO IT!! Hes old enough, he NEEDS to support his child!!
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Don’t drop it… He can get his licence back and have everything dropped if he does the right thing and helps to support his child… That’s why the program is there… And you should get any help from the program that you can… Why should he not help support his child in any way he can… If that means the government takes all or part of his money then do be it!
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WAKE UP!!! You need all the financial support you can get. Take your emotions out of the equation and let the legal system hold him accountable and responsible for producing a baby.
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No girl don’t drop a thing! If he goes to jail that is on HIM not YOU.
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Kirsten dayuummmm. Besides the drugs- this sounds SO INCREDIBLY familiar… only dance alone is almost $800 a year and we’re still ‘waiting to see’ what he can do 
Don’t do it!!! Speaking from experience!!
Sounds exactly what i go thru but my son is 12 my ex is almost 40 and never in a million effing yrs would i drop shit! Lol don’t do it 
I went through the same thing many years ago with my children’s father, the same scenario, I dropped the case and he did turn his life around got a job, became more present in their lives and has been the best dad to them since then, I went through many hard times after and he was always there for them when I wasn’t able to be but this is just me speaking…idk if it is always the best decision to drop a child support case…it’s just one of those decisions that will have to be made on what you think will benefit the children more…maybe he needs this to hit rock bottom but if he has enablers and it sounds like he does he will never hit it and nothing will change unless you do it
Don’t drop it. He lost if he wanted the extra money then he should pay his dues
Horse shit I say, let him deal with it.
This sounds almost exactly like the situation with my Dad. He was on drugs and not much of a part of my life through childhood. My mom had been awarded child support and he was never able to pay. I am 38 now and my father has struggled to find work, keep his license, and stay out of jail. The worst part is that all the money he has been paying in for the past 20 years, and his inheritance, has all been taken by the government and my mom has never seen one penny. If my mom had just dropped the case years ago then he may have had just a slim chance of helping, maybe at least be able to do something for his grandkids. Instead he continues to pay the child support agency and his money does not benefit my mom or me anyway. I SAY DROP THE CASE… especially since at least you get help from his family.
Girl no, don’t drop the case. He is just as responsible for your child as you are! Make him be accountable. Let him go to jail for not helping provide for his child. That’s the bed he has chose to lay in! This was all HIS choice not yours!
My oldest daughters dad has always been in and out of her life and is greedy. I recieve child support which he has always complained about. (400/month). At one point he begged me to take it out of court and to let him write me a check 1st of each month, I stupidly agreed, I also let him pay me only 200/month instead. 1st would come and he’d complain and would make excuses to not pay me. After 5 months of that I put it back in court. Our last custody battle, he tried to get child support lowered because I gave him more visitation. That backfired on him, he dropped it once he found out the courts were going to raise to 998/mo. I kept it at 400. He still complains.
So my advice is don’t let him get to you! He needs to grow up.
Your absolutely right HE needs to take responsibility not his parents.
If he owes you support his stimilus should be taken. As a mother you should not drop the case it isn’t your money…it is for your daughters support so it is money for her.
Girl keep your shit up your are doing great! Don’t revert to his level
No… He made that baby why should his parents be the ones to support her?
Don’t do it. Even if he’s never given you a dime. First of he is lying to you. When you drop the case they even ask you if you are being threatened of forces to do so and ask if you are sure a million times. His kid, his responsibility and if you drop the case you are just making life easy for him to go around have more kids thinking it’s ok to have kids and not help maintain, raise or educate them.
The stimulus check will go to you for his back pay. Just like if he does taxes they go to you for the back pay. So either way he already owes 10 years of back pay and he won’t see a dime till that back pay is payed off. You have full custody of your child so having the child support on isn’t going to affect that. I made the mistake of taking it off my kids father and let me tell you to put it back on it’s more of a mission.
Don’t do it, I’ve been doing it for 10years never missed a court date, and will keep doing it! That’s my son’s money for anything he needs as well as some put away for college. No matter how tired you are or want to give up, don’t cause you need all the help you can get. They are grown men that helped make our babies and they need to own up to it weather they get there shit together or go to jail, it’s not your fault its there’s. 18 is when you become an adult, time to grow up. You got this 
Hell to the no you didn’t make that baby with his parents thank God for good grandparents, but fuck him my ex owes me 96,000 in arrears and when he goes on ssr ill get half his check think it will bother me hell no should if helped out when needed that money is for your baby not him
Your going to get the stimulus check towards back child support so they will give him his license back and that will probably stop the warrant. It’s his fault he could’ve been paying something towards cs and he wouldn’t be in this problem. Shit even if it was $50 they would’ve left him alone
H*LL no I wouldn’t drop it. He has had long enough to grow up and try.
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Dont drop it child support is not the reason he isnt working at all I know many men on child support with full time jobs it’s just another excuse leave the case open and let him pay for his choices maybe some time in jail will help him get clean
Tell him to sign over his rights then.
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You support her…why shouldn’t he? 
Do not drop it…of he owes back cs he still will not get the stimulus check. He needs to grow the fuck up. If he was a real man then he wouldnt have a problem being on cs. You need to tell him to suck it up butter cup. Dont feel bad. You did not have that child by urself.
Hell no I wouldn’t drop that case, he is a grown ass adult he should take responsibility for her! Tell him to stop being a dead beat and man up
The only way I would ever drop it is if he signs his rights away.
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I have very little to no sympathy for deadbeat parents who avoid taking care of their children and then cry victim when there are consequences.
No. Don’t drop it. He has a responsibility to his child, and you have zero responsibility for the consequences that he faces. He won’t get the stimulus money, but he CAN get his DL back if he shows up to court and sets up a payment plan for his arrears and stay current on both the arrearage payments and child support.
Don’t fall for his crap. He needs to grow up
Nope. Fuck him. And if he keeps bothering you, go to court for harassment.
Hell no dont drop one thing make him be responsible for his actions:call_me_hand:
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No. That stimulus check will be coming to you. That’s what happens when you don’t do your part and help take care of a child. Don’t drop nothing. He deserves everything that’s coming to him.
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You’ve done a great job so far and say his parents help out, ask them what they think, if her dad hasn’t been in prison before, don’t let him go there, your daughter won’t thank you later on in live, if she finds out you could have stopped it, good luck in what every you do x
You cannot drop a support order, in most states. Legally he is responsible whether he sees her or not. I hope you received the stimulus $$ for her, and why do you care if his life is hard because he’s on drugs? Not your problem, he is financially responsible for another Human !!!
Absolutely not! This is why he is the way he is NO CONSEQUENCES!! That would just be a greenlight to get even more fucked up
Some states wont allow that anyway. You cannot just call the child support office and tell them to ‘drop the case’. If you did in fact do that, they would want to know why. And it would require a court hearing. And it would b the judges decision. Thats his child. He is obligated to support ‘half’ of the cost to raise her. Whatever the state decides half is.
Don’t do it once you do you can never file again it’s his fault he is where he is not urs or ur daughters
He’s not getting his stimulus even if you dropped the case
You’re much nicer than me
I only see child support when it’s garnish do his stimulus check and his tax return is all the money I see
Don’t do it…that’s his problem not yours. But while his parents keep supporting him he will never grow up. My daughters dad is the same way and he is 34 years old he has never grown up because his mom helps him out, so I decided to not even bother and I’m raising my daughter on my own with no help of him nor his family. If you already put child support on him don’t drop it you keep living your life and raising your daughter.
Dont drop it. Hes just trying to manipulate you. You are not responsible for his inability to be a man.
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Fuck him. I’d let him go to jail and lose everything just for being a piece of shit father. Lesson learned, asshole.
Keep it. If you feel the least bit of guilt… remember all the times you’ve cried, struggled and sacrificed over the past 10 years.
Girl don’t you feel sorry for him!!! He OWES you! Not the other way around!
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Lol it’s his own fault if he was on time with his payments and his child support he would have gotten it. If he needs his stimulus check that bad lol he needs to to get a fucking job… Sorry not sorry. Lmao. He needs to fucking pay. Don’t you dare drop that shit. He’s gotten himself here not you.
He helped make her so he needs to help raise her
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Don’t do it. He will owe your daughter til he pays it off. Once she’s grown she will still get payments.
Girl just stop and re read everything you typed out, do not drop the case: it’s his fault he’s in all these situations not you. Your child comes first, and if he needs to go to jail to learn that then that’s his problem not YOURS
Do not drop that case. He will never learn if you do!!
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Do not drop the case!
Don’t drop it…if he goes to jail, maybe he will finally get clean, get his priorities straight, and start caring for his daughter. He’s trying to manipulate you and it’s working if you’re even thinking about it. Most states that suspend a DL for back child support, have a program that he can apply for a “Bread and Butter” license, but he has to be employed as that’s the only approved driving if I remember correctly. Tell him no, and if he keeps after you about it, get him for harassment.
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If you have received any help from the government be it ebt daycare ect… you have to keep the child support active and they wont give him back the check even if you drop it bc he owes back pay all hes doing is trying to get in front of the possible 2nd stimulus check. And cs office wouldnt tell him to have you drop it they would tell him to pay it and try to get all the info they can out of him to get paid… bc when he pays you that money goes in an account and makes the state interest until u receive it
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Do not drop it! Also, when the stimulus was being written into law it specifically stated that everyone would receive it EXCEPT if you owed back child support… so he’s full of shit. And if he’s anything like my ex husband who owes over $7k in back child support and hasn’t seen his kid in over 5 years (and also in and out of jail for being an addict) he probably just wants to be off the hook. Good luck though, stay strong for you and your child! 
Not a chance, hes a grown ass adult. If he doesnt like it then he should get his shit straight and take care of his responsibilities.
Do we have the same baby daddy? Lol girl take that dead beats money!!! And don’t listen to his nonsense
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Nope don’t drop it. Many people here I agree with on that. Also speaking from experience, my ex had plenty of chances to turn his life around, he chose not to. My daughter will be 4 in a few months. He hasn’t seen her since she was 3 months old. Due to various reasons. Anyways, they change when they want to if they want to. Narcissists never change really. They twist things to get their way. Don’t give in. What’s he doing to even get a job? Did he have a job before? Why wasn’t he paying support then? Nah girl, he’s just using you to get more money for his drugs and crap. Same as my ex. Always guilt tripped me and junk and used his family something fierce to supply him. He doesn’t want to help support, I agree…sign over his rights. Have him do it then he can be free to continue supplying himself with drugs. Or keep at it hold your ground and be the strong woman and mother you are, by making him help. It’s for your child not for him or for you, but for that 10yr old who never asked to be born, but thankfully was. It’s for the child…hence child support…plus his parents enable him don’t be an enabler.
No. End of discussion. That is his child his responsibility.
Why give him a free pass to continue being a dead beat?!?! It takes 2 to make a child. It isn’t your fault that he refuses to be responsible for his child. Financially or Emotionally, and your child didn’t ask to be here. I wouldn’t drop it. I learned this the hard way with my own children. Their father convinced me to drop his child support & arrears on 3 occasions, w/ the promise he’d help. I ended up opening a case again because of his lack of responsibility. My eldest is 21, and her brother almost 17. Their father now owes me $40k, which will loom over his head & stop him from getting a mortgage ever unless he gets a real job & pays.
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If he ain’t help now his never guna help n about he can’t get a job cuz of cs is a bunch of bs.
I’d tell him no and he needs to figure it out himself.
He can file a dispute to try to get his stimulus. All the others won’t be giving back to him until he is current on child support. I would leave the case as is and continue it. You can stop collections at a later time if you want to.
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Nope! He needs to man up!
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Tell him to sign all rights over then. 
I mean, if you’re already supporting her 100%, but he doesn’t want to pay, tell him sign all rights over.
No, I would not drop it. He deserves every consequence for not supporting his child. My ex is a drug addict, has not had a driver’s license in over 15 years, I’ve gotten his tax returns thru child support and has been to jail several times for non payment. His parents helped occasionally but it was his place, not theirs. I also appreciated everything they did. And I don’t feel the least bit sorry for him. He did it to himself.
Do not drop the child support. He needs to step up and pay u child support
HELL NO
don’t let him get off, just cause he wants some $. Screw him and how dare he even ask
He won’t be able to get his stimulus back because he owed the child support at the time. They will keep taking everything until he pays it. I wouldn’t drop anything, he is her father. You didn’t make your daughter on your own. Don’t give him the easy out. Tell him to get clean, get a job, take care of his responsibilities, and he wouldn’t have to worry about losing everything.
Ohhh NOOOO . Screw him.
Ask him to sign all his rights away then we won’t have to be responsible or her dad any more. See what he says and hopefully that will have him think twice about paying for his daughter!! Also there isn’t a point to get him put in jail over child support that is silly… there are so many mom’s out there who refuse and or can’t pay child support and they don’t get locked up… the system is BS
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Do. Not. Drop. The. Case.
Don’t do it!!
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Dont drop that. He helped make that baby so he helps take care of the financial responsibilities no matter what.
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No u deserve it, and so does ur child, sometimes u need to not care and care more about urself
Heck NO! He is taking clear advantage of your sweet kind heart! Listen you didn’t make her on your own. Sorry you get none extra money, when your daughter isn’t priority number 1! F him
Dont drop it. He’s using child support as an excuse to not get a job? Are you serious? So why does he want the Stimulus Check? He’s not going to give you child support either way. He sounds very selfish and immature. Do not cave in to help him out. He needs to grow up and be a man. All I can see, is nonstop Excuses from what you explained.
I’m no longer with my baby daddy, But! He helps with our kids! He buys what the kids need, he pitches in to watch them when I need a break. He gives child support even when it’s late, he gives a lil more for the inconvenience when he is late on it. Me & my ex, are not fighting and aren’t acting immature or selfish, we do what we need too for our girls.
Do not get rid of the CS case against him. That’s my advice. Good luck mama.
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Why does it matter if HE asks for HIS family to help… thats still his family, and as long as he is asking them, that makes him just as responsible. The other stuff i can understand your issue
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They didnt tell him to have you dropped it, I’d bet money they told him how he could pay it.
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