He sounds just like my ex! He’s not going to get that check no matter what. Don’t drop the case!!
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His struggle is NOT your problem. The only thing your responsible for is your child. You take care of your child, he should have had to own up to being a parent too. Instead his parents are doing it. Just ignore his pleas and keep pressing, he owes your child, you, and his parents that money and to in some way fulfill his role as a father by at least paying back what he owes. The repercussions of him not getting his shit together are on him.
Don’t do that. He’s done nothing to help you or your child all these years, why help him?
If he’s not working and went to the court they’d lower it. Happened to me. $25 a week and he still wouldn’t pay it.
Child support doesn’t prevent him from getting a job. My god.
Idk where you live but here if you pay anything, $20 even, they’ll leave you alone. So him losing his L’s is his fault.
Even if he never pays it, when she gets grown it’ll be her decision to go after the back pay or not.
Hell to the mother fucking no. Don’t fall for the sob story bullshit. He had that money spent on drugs…
Don’t drop the case he won’t get his check back. I would feel bad too because thats the father of my baby. He need to learn responsibility without his parents even though he’s not there yet you dropping the case is going to take him longer to grow up.
he will still owe back support,unless you forgive it.
No I wouldn’t if he doesn’t even attempt to try to help you’ I could really see if he was doing everything he could to try to help you a few dollars here and there! I get it. The struggle is real I been there with my kids dad from yur post he doesn’t have nothing to do with the child and doesn’t try so no I wouldn’t bend for him. Tell him you start making attempts and being In her life and show me your trying then we will talk until then it’s staying where it’s at! I understand that it’s hard when he’s begging you trust me. Don’t give in so easily make him be involved if he isn’t then move along don’t drop it if he’s trying to help and be more helpful then yes help him out once your behind so much it’s hard to get caught up and get back on track
Dropping it won’t get rid of the arrears he owes so he still won’t get a stimulus or license until he starts making payments
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Absolute NOT! It’s is nit yours our your child’s fault he can’t get a job! It’s his own fault and his parents are letting him get by with his habit and as long as that is still happening he’ll never have any money! He owes it to his child!
DONT DO IT!!! He’s lying. If that stimulus check was taken from him, you’ll be receiving it soon 
Worry about that baby! He can chase his bags elsewhere.
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No, do not drop it. I’m basically in this exact situation. The check is already yours even if you did drop it now they aren’t gonna give him a new one and you aren’t gonna give him yours so there’s no point. Honestly him being on child support is for your child yeah it helps you out but he needs to be accountable for his child. Don’t take that away from her. He is learning his lesson that children cost money and that’s too bad if his license is suspended and he’s “losing” money. Men need to learn the hard way if they’re this type of dad they aren’t gonna get off the hook so easily. So please don’t take him off cause the extra money is gonna help your baby
No way in the world would I drop it!
Why would you drop it? Just because he asked? I wouldn’t!! My ex is $25k in debt for child support and I’ll probably never see a dime but at least I attempted it 
My ex SIL owes my daughter ALOT of back child support payments and all of his income tax and stimulus $$ goes straight to
My daughter!! Do not drop it!!
Well first your just STUPID. If he wants it dropped have him sign his rights way to her.
No. Owing child support does not stop him from getting a job.
Just leave it as it is and let cs do what they can. If he wanted to he could work without a license and pay child support. His problem is ultimately drugs not child support, going to jail or not having a license. Removing the child support order just removes more accountability. I would talk to his parents about possibly rehab and/or intervention if necessary. If his family doesn’t support that though then he would have no choice but to get sober in prison
lmaooo men take women for dummies lol… keep the case open pumpkin…
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Leave it open, or you may not be able to get any kind of help in the future- whether it is from a job, taxes, stimulus, gambling winning.
No way! I paid for my child. He should pay for his!
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Nope it he ends up behind bars his drugs will be harder to get and maybe will get a break
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If he would have just paid from the beginning then he wouldn’t be in this mess He made his bed.
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Lmfao the fact that even thinking about dropping it is crazy
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If he is addicted to drugs, I would say do not drop it. If it was just a down on his luck kind of thing, then maybe. But if he does drugs, he is gonna just spend that money on drugs.
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I don’t know your setuation but please read your own post and you might have your own answer. With all honesty I am NOt trying to be rude or disrespectful or anything negativity but just maybe by reading it to yourself you might see the it from a different postective.
Best of luck
not a chance in hell
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Surely he was on drugs when you went to bed with him. Xx
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Or if you want to give him a second chance to be a good dad and be there for his child you could always drop arrears and keep current support that would put him back at owing $0 so he could get a job and get his license back I have done that myself only to try and be helpful when I had zero help myself! I’m not telling you that’s what you should do that’s all up to you you know what is best for your child’
ABSOLUTELY F***ING NOT! Too many Mother’s left struggling to support kids she didn’t make herself! He laid down and made that kid, By God its TIME to stand up and support her!
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Are you sniffing glue?! He helped make your daughter, then he needs to support her. It’s his fault he can’t get a job, it’s not your problem if he is having money problems. Let him figure it out
I dropped mine. Only because my ex is battling cancer and my kids are grown. My advice to you is don’t do it.
Nope. He needs to own up to his responsibility.
Its a dead horse. Drop it move on. He doesn’t want to be a father.
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The only way you would have anything to do with this is if you had an open case for child support against him.
In that case, YOU will be awarded the stimulus…
They never told him he’d get a stimulus check back he’s not getting that back nor is he getting the taxes back and they’re only only spending his license cuz he’s not paying the stuff if he would just start paying like he’s supposed to he get all of those things
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It’s not your job to remove the consequences of his bad decisions and life choices. He needs to grow up and CS is NOT stopping him from getting his life together. Do not drop it.
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Absolutely not. I would not drop it. It’s not your fault he can’t man up and act like a parent or an adult. Therefore he can suffer the consequences of his actions.
Don’t drop it he’s a dead beat dad
Don’t drop it! He needs to take care of his responsibilities! Him having other problems on his end does not constitute an emergency on yours when it comes to him needing the child support case dropped. Jo ma’am
He’s not getting nothing back do not drop it
Absolutely not! That’s money for your child. It may be the only money you get from HIM for your child. And sounds like if the stimulus hadn’t happened you wouldn’t see anything anyway.
He will not get his stimulus even if you drop it- it was part of the deal that anyone behind on child support that the check would go towards that so he’s telling you wrong - in our state you can’t drop it if he’s behind it must be paid
No you shouldn’t. It’s his fault for not taking care of his responsibilities from the beginning
Do not drop that case against him. If he truly is an addict being enabled by his parents he will drop dead soon and you can collect social security. As a matter of fact, go there now and register for benefits.
This guy does not care about you or his kids, why are you even giving this a second thought?
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Nope don’t drop it take it every step of the way
He is not getting that money back. And he needs to be held responsible. Don’t drop it.
Yah no f that!! Keep that on him
I agree with the other 700+ comments. Nope.
Nope. He laid down and made the baby with you he needs to man up
Do not drop the case, you are rewarding him not taking any responsibility by making even have less responsibility.
May i ask how you got sole custody.
Absolutely not! He wouldn’t get it even if you did drop it. I’m glad you and your daughter have a good relationship with his parents. 
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I never filed because it wouldn’t have made a difference but if I were you I wouldn’t drop the case. He can always find away to see his daughter if he can always score a bag they find away, talking about personal experience.
He’s not going to get his stimulus check if he has back child support - if you dropped it he’d still owe. So I wouldn’t
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Noup. You don’t drop it. He will use it for drugs.
i wouldn’t drop it and i would still accept the help from his family at least their doing the right thing and kids will remember who was there and who wasn’t !
I’d tell him to sign his parental rights away if he wants it dropped.
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Do. Not. Drop. It. The father of my oldest is $50k behind and doesnt see them. I am still not dropping it. My prayer is that he gets arrested and cleans up off the meth.
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What the entire feed resonse said… nope
Oh now his stash is low help a brother out
Sounds like his sins are coming home to roost. Let it hit hard a little so he can know a taste of the hardships you’ve known as a single mother.
Bullshit he’s a lazy addict absolutely do not drop the case make the waster accountable
Don’t drop it. He’s lying to you for starters, he didn’t get his check because he doesn’t have a job and didn’t pay taxes. If he did have a job his check still would have gone to you because he probably owes upwards of $10,000 in arrears at this point. What you should do is contact domestic relations and find out what they are doing about him not paying his support. In my county they lock deadbeats like that up.
Make him pay suffer dude.
No. And all because you drop the child support he’ll still owe the back child support
No. Don’t drop it.
I know you want to, because that’s your Daughter’s father, but at this point, this may be his only chance of becoming sober if he’s as bad as you say he is.
Sometimes, they truly need to hit rock bottom before they see what they are messing up.
Don’t do it, out of spite or anger, because yes, being a single mother is hard, (I did it with 3 boys for 5 years) but do it with hope for your daughter to maybe get the chance to truly know her Dad and to have a good role model.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Don’t drop the CS case, and just keep pushing on Mama! He sounds like he needs serious rehab.
Prayers to you honey!
Him not paying has consequences. It’s his responsibility to fix not yours
Let the courts deal with it. Worry about your daughter
Don’t drop it. My ex is behind on child support, he didn’t get his stimulus money, I did.
Nope don’t do it! All the problems that he is having are his problems not your daughters.
Years later after mine are grown guess what i got his check the stimulus check made me feel soooo good cuz he never helped me at all took the check an spent it long over due from him
Unless you are receiving cash public assistance, you can close the case with the Child Support agency and they will stop enforcing (collecting) the support order and past due support. If you received cash public assistance in the past there could be a portion of the debt that is owed to the State for that time period. Closing the case doesn’t mean he no longer owes monthly support or past due amounts, it only means the CS agency isn’t collecting it. You can close your case and reopen it again 5 years later and if he didn’t pay you directly during the time it was closed he owes the debt he had before and has 5 more years of debt so unless you “forgive” the past due amounts-state in writing that he no longer owes it- you can still have it collected for years after the fact. Maybe talk with him about forgiving part of the past due amount he owes if he will start making monthly payments. Or possibly have the order modified (in most states you can agree on a monthly amount that is different than the calculated guidelines amount) to a lower amount to help him with being able to make payments. As a parent he has a legal and moral obligation to help financially support his child -even a lower amount is better than nothing - so I wouldn’t recommend “dropping it” completely, but maybe working with him to make it easier to start addressing it and giving him a chance to get a job and on his feet. There are alot of options available to him to start getting it taken care of without you having to give up anything owed to you. His owing support isn’t stopping him from getting a job, he is using it as a convenient excuse hoping you will feel guilty. Encourage him to contact his child support worker and start working with them to help himself. I encourage you to contact them as well to find out your options as well.
With the stimulus checks that was one of the stipulations that it could not be taken for back child support so he is lying straight up if he even got one sweetie and don’t by any means drop the CS case bc that is not is what is keeping him from working that’s his choice so he doesn’t have to pay it but get further behind in it. It’s sad that his parents have to do it for him but at least they love your daughter enough to do it which says what good people they are anyway. And furthermore sweetie I don’t know of any CS office that would return any money to anyone that is behind on child support even if the case was closed - he’s blowing smoke so don’t believe anything and if he has lost his license due to non cs that’s on him as well and so is the warrant - don’t feel sorry for him just pray dear bc as you said you drop it you enable him as well. Good luck sweetie and if nothing else change your number and don’t allow him to have it.
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I would not drop it. He helped make her he should be responsible just as much as you are.
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Simple. Don’t drop it. Hold him accountable. Its his fault they took the money, not yours
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I wouldn’t do it, my child’s father is wanting me to do the same time
No. Do not drop it. He laid down and made that baby and now he can make one measly sacrifice that, really, he shouldn’t have even gotten in the first place.
Hell no! You should get his stimulus check. She is his responsibility just as much as yours. Speaking from experience he will never learn if his parents continue to enable him. If he can afford to buy drugs then he can afford to pay child support. Never understood how someone that doesn’t have a job can afford to be on drugs, he must deal them also.
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It’ll be his excuse for never growing up.
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And why do you feel bad? He dont feel bad not taking care of his kid, he dont feel bad not providing for his kid he dont feel bad at all but you feel bad screw that.
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No don’t drop it that’s part of his responsibilities as a father child support is the least he can pay and his stimulus check and having his license suspended is the least of his worries of he doesnt pay
Nope. Dont drop it in my opinion. He needs to take responsibility of his daughter. Dont be crying poor me now. He needs to grow up and get his shit together.
I wouldnt don’t do it,
No do not drop the child support, I fought for child support for 22 years. I finally got some money but he doesn’t deserve to be able to go do the things he wants to do. He needs to take responsibility for his daughter. He needs to grow up.
Absolutely DO NOT drop it! He feels no guilt for not doing his part, don’t let him guilt you into dropping it!
Don’t drop it, that’s his responsibility!
Nope, Nope, and Nope!!!
Push him to do what’s right don’t give in
Why would you take on all the raising of said child, and let the other w no responsibility. This also means no classes, extra help when you need that other parent or showing child experience 's for her growth. Everything takes some money mostly. Hold accountable.
Keep him on child support, sounds like a dead beat to me if he is dependent on drugs. Also he won’t get it back bc that’s back child support he owes and sadly he sounds pretty pathetic for even trying to run to his father. Also no case worker would just tell him that only for the fact is he needs to contribute to his daughter
Nope. As a daughter/victim of a deadbeat dad, they will come up with every excuse under the sun to try to get out of it, just so he can purchase beer, drugs, etc.
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Stick it to him. He deserves prison.
Such lies please dnt fall for that.
Don’t drop it and get on a tanf program where you are paid the child support he owed you a month regularly from the state…then the state goes after him themselves to collect it. Basically the state sees.you are.paid the agreed upon child support…then he makes arrangements to pay the state back.
He needs to answer to authority figures that require him to meet their agreed upon payment plan or face the consequences.
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If he was active in her life doing the right things. I’d say drop it. Considering he isn’t there and it’s his parents. Don’t drop it. Time for him to grow up.
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Depending on what State you live in and if you’ve ever received any kind of assistance including medical for you or your child… they won’t drop it even if you want them too!
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Nope because this will make him own up and be the father he should be
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All he has to do it pay child support and he wont have these issues
I stopped reading once you said she’s ten and he’s never helped. 
no you should not drop the case. YOU deserve HIS stimulus check
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