Should I get my husband something for Father’s Day even though he didn’t get me anything for Mother’s Day and never does? On the one hand, I don’t want to get him anything because I am tired of feeling unappreciated by him, but on the other hand, I want my kids to celebrate Father’s Day with him and also get him something…which obviously would come from me. What would you do?
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I personally would. Show your kiddos what should be done <3
Let the kids make him some homemade cards, gifts.
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Have the kids make him something.
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I agree let the kids make him something . Tell him Happy Father’s Day and keep it pushing. Then in the future have a conversation about how you feel .
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Better to give than to receive
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I wouldn’t, but I’m petty like that.
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Just have the kids make him something
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i mean, i didn’t get anything for mother’s day. my daughter actually passed ON mother’s day this year 23 days after she was born. different concept, but i’m still getting my SO something for father’s day. why be petty? just get the gift. i feel unappreciated, but still… just get the gift.
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Don’t be petty. That’s childish to even ask. You absolutely should have the kids get him something. Because you’re feeling some type of way doesn’t mean to not let the kids do something for him. 
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I would have the kids make him something.
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Theres no right or wrong answer.
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Get yourself something and if you still feel guilty get him a card.
I usually do something like a bbq ( I cook because he cant) and get a cake because we all enjoy it.
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I would have the kids make him something, like a card, or hand prints or something cute like that.
Then like someone else said, later, have a conversation about how you felt.
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Nah let them color him a picture
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I give my husband cards for every occasion and he never gets me one. Do l get upset? Nope!!! I just like buying cards
I would not get him something if you did not get anything but I would let my kids set up own homemade gift if old enough that way you didn’t do anything
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My SO didnt get me anything for mother’s day (he forgot) but I’m going to get him something for Father’s Day from me and the kids 
It’ll make him feel shitty for not getting me anything
Yes. Just because he’s thoughtless, that doesn’t mean you should be. Buy the gift, then later have a discussion about how you feel.
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Let the kids make him something
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Let the kids cook him breakfast and wreak havoc on him all day!
If you find it in your heart, do it. I personally wouldn’t. But That’s just the person I am. I would probably tell my kids to make him a card.
Personally i still would. But thats me… guys are alot of times idiots and dont realize importance. Your actions reflect on you personally, your children will see you have tried regardless of everything.
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Just get the kids to make him something.
Set example for your children . Do what your heart says . Gifts are to give , so it’s not based on about what you do or do not receive . I lived this many years, my boys ck in , sometimes there’s an unexpected flower arrangement or dinner not too often gifts though . I’ve learned to live with it . But just because you don’t get honoured in the way you should make you any less of a great mother and just because someone doesn’t gift you should you do likewise.
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I would have my son do something for his father whether or not I got something. It shows your child(ren) respect and to be kind to his/her/their father or any adult.
Wow, for you people telling her not to be petty baffles me… he clearly didnt let the kids get her anything on mother’s day either! Instead of judging and shit, offer suggestions!
Let the kids draw him pictures! More fun for them & a big haha to him!
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Get him something and model the behavior you want your children repeating as adults. When next year rolls around, ask him if he’s going to take the kids shopping for your Mother’s Day gift. If he’s not going to, take them out yourself to buy you a gift.
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Have the kids make him something instead. Like a card or picture.
Let them color him a card. Dont buy anything
Get him nothing an let kids make him cards 
I understand the feeling, feeling unappreciated is awful. I would have the kids make him something. If he doesn’t make it a point to have the kids celebrate you or give you gifts, I wouldn’t waste my money. But I would definitely have my kids make their dad something special. I would still teach my kids to show appreciation, regardless of how I felt about it personally.
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Have the kids make him cards and a craft. Thats all the effort I would put in and most of that effort is from the kids.
Let your kids make him something. Why put in the effort if he doesn’t
I have the same question - only mine is an exhusband. He celebrated his 12 yr older girlfriend but nothing on my end (raising his 3 kids) when he only does every other weekend and Wednesday nights. Fun times all.
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U dont need gifts to celebrate
Get him something, let the kids pick it out. Your hubby is showing poor manners to his children, don’t reinforce it.
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If he never acknowledges mom’s day nope, just get the kids to draw a card and call it a day. I wouldn’t spend money.
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No… let the kids do something special (homemade). And you get him no gift at all. Just tell him happy Father’s Day and give him whatever the kids make for him.
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My kids always made him something, and we barbecued for him, I told him I don’t give you anything because you aren’t my father, but because of me you are one, and my gift to you are our kids. He doesn’t have a problem with it, and now our adults kids we still barbecue for him.
Let your kids make him a card
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I’m divorced and I still have my son get his father a gift. It is to teach him to do right if nothing else. When you know better do better.
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Um, I’d be petty 
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What he does or doesn’t do shows his character, what you do or don’t do shows yours.
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Absolutely NOT if he couldn’t be bothered to get you anything he deserves the same
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Nope … Tell the kids to make him a card
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2 wrongs don’t make a right. Get him something from the kids!
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Let the kids get him something!
I always prepare something for Father’s day even he doest give me anything on mother’s day. Even on his birthday etc hahahaha
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I wouldn’t personally buy him anything but you can definitely buy crafts and bits for the kids to make him something. Handmade is much more personal to me
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Get him nothing but them supplies to make a card or craft something
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Let the kids make him macaroni art. It’s cheap
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Nope,he doesn’t deserve a damn thing!
I’m in the same boat 
Yes! From your kids. Show your kids that their father is appreciated although he didn’t get you anything 
We’re here to teach our kids to show love and not be spiteful.
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Fair is fair. Every yr I get told u don’t eat candy so I didn’t get you anything, every Easter and Valentines day from my husband. This yr I didn’t go all out and buy a thing. And yes, he noticed! He asked why? I told him since it’s no big deal to ignore me, I figure it’s no big deal to ignore him. Guess who got a Mother’s Day gift?? 
. An eye for an eye girlfriend. Good luck 
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No, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander
I would just do it you need to be the example you want your Kids to follow. Personally these days are not about gifts in my opinion they are dedicated to spending time as a family and appreciating what you have so being petty abouy gifts is silly
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My kids dad never gets me anything for Mother’s Day, but I always make sure they have something to give for him for Father’s Day christmas birthday etc because I want them to know when they’re older I cared. Plus they’re always happy when they give it to him. It’s not bout what he does for me it’s about what I can do for my children.
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Yes.
Two wrongs don’t make a right.
Treat others the way you want to be treated, teach them the difference.
I’d spend NOTHING & have your kids make a card out of notebook paper 
saying Happy Father’s Day & call it a day yourself 
What goes around, comes around!!!
you get the kids craft stuff if they don’t already have it, help them if they are too young to do it themselves, for older kids you can suggest that they make something for dad and you would appreciate it if they made something for you when it is your day, then leave them to do what they want. This whole gift buying thing is based on commercialism anyway. Homemade stuff or special activities are much more meaningful.
Just because your husband is a jerk doesn’t mean you have to be. You’re responsible for your own soul and if you feel obligated to be the better person and get him a gift or card from the kids then do it.
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I wouldn’t get him anything but I would at least let the kids make or pick out something for him if they wanted to.
I think you should get the kids to make him something like a drawing etc… then it’s just from the kids.
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And always buy yourself something on mother’s day or treat yourself to something because you deserve it!
Take your kids out shopping and let them pick something that they want to give him and then have them give it to them that way you’re out of it other than paying for it
Nope!
Let him see how it feels.
Take whatever money you were going to spend on him and go spend it on yourself for Mother’s Day then if he asks you tell him. If you want something from the kids have them make a little craft or something small that’s from them.
Tit for tat really be the better person.
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… yes you get him something. It doesn’t have to be some expensive or huge. Literally go to Walmart, head to the fathers day stuff and grab the cheapest thing. You don’t have to be petty about it
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Have them make something
I didn’t get a gift this year, so I bought my husband something he wanted but not necessarily needed: a bidet attachment. 
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I would do the adult thing… teach my kids it’s better to give than receive.
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Jesus…some of you asking for advice are horrible human beings. IMO.
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Have the kids make him something. Dont buy him nothing.
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Just get him a bar of chocolate for kids to give him the smallest bar you can find the selfrish sod!
I hate that I see all these women say no. Just because someone doesnt buy you a gift, doesn’t mean you should be hurtful and do the same. If you live someone and you like showing them you love them. Then yes buy the gift or still do something nice. You don’t always need to get a gift. Make something with the kids for him or let them pick him something out. You don’t have to spend a ton of money but you dont have to be spiteful.
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Maybe “help” your kids make some homemade gifts or cards. Really Mother’s/Father’s Days are for kids/parents, not spouses. We get each other’s parents stuff on those days. I never expect my husband to get me anything because I’m not his mom.
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Are they old enough to shop with you? Let them choose something simple and help them wrap it. Let it be from the kiddos but you paid for it.
My husband of 54 years says I’m not his mother. He didn’t get her anything either, though.
Why do spouses need to get each other gifts for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day? Its about being a parent and celebrating motherhood/fatherhood not getting gifts from people. Just spend the day with your kids. Maybe go out to eat as a family.
It’s better to give then to receive. Just because he didn’t get you anything doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get him something. Instead of buy him something have your kids make him a card or something homemade.
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I would still get him something from the children and let them make him a card.
You answered your own question. You said you don’t want to get him anything. Let the kids make him something.
How about have a conversation with him?
Take the kids shopping for him. Don’t get him anything from yourself.
Have them make him a card
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This sounds pity… maybe show your kids that you’re better than that & have them pick something for him. Obviously kids need to be taught how things go whether the other person gifts or not
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Be the bigger person. Even if it’s your kids making him something instead of spending money… gifts are meant to be given because it’s wanted not because someone else did or didn’t give you a gift
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Make something with the kids for him.
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I wouldn’t. If he doesn’t show any appreciation to you, the mother of his kids, why should you show him any? Does he even do anything for the kids or house? If not there’s nothing to appreciate.
Be the bigger person. Get him something from the kids.
Get you something disguised as a gift for him
Like a pressure washer or a steam mop or really something you just need around the house.
Or buy him chocolates and then eat them with the kids before he gets a chance.
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I already told my husband I wouldn’t be getting him a Father’s Day gift because he did nothing for me on Mother’s Day. Fair is fair.
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An eye for an eye makes the world blind.
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Be the bigger person. Smile and be polite
Wish him a happy fathers day when you pass his supper plate to him.
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Let them make a gift.