I was married to a serial cheat for over 30 years. We have now split after his latest girlfriend. They never change
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Once to many dear 
he doesnt respect your marriage not does he value you…you are worth more than that…
Walk away with your sanity intact. It will happen again. He obviously has no respect for you or your marriage. I am speaking from experience.
He WILL cheat on you again & AGAINNNNN!! It’s just a revolving door cause he knows you’ll take him back&play his role of"changing" 
for a few weeks but it’s your life&relationship he loves what he can get out of you&what you do for him basically taking advantage of your love&kindness. Unless he’s like super rich&takes care of you with no problems with it. take advantage right back 
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If it’s happened in the past, and he keeps doing it. You don’t deserve that. Nobody does.
10 years and cheated 5 times. You already gave him chances and I think you already know your answer deep down. Time is precious and life is fleeting. Do you think you should waste any more time knowing it’s going to happen again? As many times as it’s already happened, it will always be something that bothers you and the trust is already gone. Even if you give him another chance, you’ll be anxious, depressed and constantly on nerves watching and waiting for it to eventually happen again. It’ll constantly come up and you’ll be accusing him of being unfaithful in arguments, with emotions high. It will always be the elephant in the room. Five times is five times too many. It shouldn’t have happened once.
Meh I wouldn’t have stayed the first time if I were you and I didn’t.I’m sorry its such a hard situation to be in. It’s never easy and you must always do what’s right for you. Not your family. Because at the end of the day everyone will be happier if you are happier.
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Absolutely not ! You’ll never get the trust back you’ll never forget the other women and he will never forget that he can do what he wants and still have you at the end of the day . Walk away love yourself until someone who’s actually worth your time comes along .
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Only you can make this choice. But you need to seek professional help together
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He has had enough chances, once maybe but at least 5 times no way. You deserve better 
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Once a cheater always a cheater
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Once a cheater always a cheater!
I would of been gone after the first. Value yourself you can do better!
No way not if you’ve already given him chances if it was the first time maybe but not now he’s taken it way too far he has no respect for you or your marriage walk away because he will never change
O baby. Once was enough to leave. 5 or more times. Run for the bloody hills. Divorce this child and find a proper partner that doesn’t cheat.
He’s only sorry he got caught. He won’t change and he won’t stop cheating. He couldn’t even tell you the full truth.
Go live your true life without him bringing you down. You are worth way more than this. Block all his family. Leave him. And be happy
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Respect YOURSELF.
Don,t put up with that…
IMH he doesn’t,t deserve ANYMORE CHANCES WHATSOEVER
You deserve better.
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HELL NO!!!
Once a cheater always a cheater!!!
He will continue if it’s already happened that many times imo
He’s had chances, plenty of them! His family are basically asking you to continue to allow his behaviour and let him treat you as a mug and a doormat. If he was gonna change, he would have done it by now. Each time you forgive and let him back you’re actually allowing him to cheat again as he knows there are no reprocussions for his actions. You can do better than him.
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Excuse my language but FUCK NO you shouldn’t give him another chance…
Walk away they always say it will never happen again but it does. Start a new life for yourself you deserve trust and respect and you are not going to get it from this
CHEATER 
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Your husband should be that ball….
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Time to exit gracefully and kick him to the curb
Agree with Debi Jackson
How many times does he have to say he has no respect for you, before you give up on him in self defense.
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Once you give them one chance they take it as permission to do it again cos they know you’ll forgive them hun.
He won’t change the whole time you keep doing that so if you want him make him work for it and ask yourself can you live like that always wondering when he’s going to do it again .
I’m so sorry you’re going through this but I think you know what to do otherwise you wouldn’t be asking hun
All the best to you sweetheart
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Please have more respect for yourself and ask yourself why you’re scared to leave? Is it security ? Is it fear of being alone? There’s a reason you haven’t left already.
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He’s already cheated on you at least 5 times. He hasn’t changed yet and he never will. Speaking from experience.
My heart goes out to you, but I don’t think he respects you enough to focus just on you. You are better than second best, change is hard and it’s going to hurt like nothing you have experience but once you come out of the rose colored glasses of your life as it is you will Pat yourself on the shoulder. You deserved to be loved whole heartly to a better future 
He will tell you what you want to hear and then continue to cheat. He will find other ways to hide it better. He won’t change.
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He has done this before and is still doing it. He will never change. Leave
He could have changed the first time but he chose not to. It’s called manipulation and he will continue doing this coz he knows he has you wrapped around his little finger (I am sorry to sound so harsh).
It’s very sad because you have invested so much into this relationship, blood sweat and tears girl. You only have one life lovely, are you sure you are wanting to spend it with him by hoping and praying he’d change? this is a question you need to ask yourself.
10 years is a long time, and he has cheated on you 5+? No no no babes… once a cheater, always a cheater and especially with broken promises.
Time will not wait for anyone lovely, and hey I believe there is the perfect man out there for you. Don’t waste it on “tears”, when you can use those tears when the perfect gentleman proposes to you. 
Stay strong, you got this!!!
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If you still love him, stay…you and pray to God to help you…if you do not love him anymore…you know what to do…and at the end of the day… what’s your happiness? focus on you and of you have kids…let them make you happy… Anyway at the end of the day,we can advise you here,but deep down you truly know what you want
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Hell no I would be saying C YA LATER
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What would you tell a friend to do? Follow that advice. Take care and Look after yourself
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Leave now. He isn’t changing… you may forgive him but that doesn’t mean you should put up with it.
Once you forgave him for the first time …It was you telling him… I don’t love myself enough and I’ll continue to put up with it.
Please Value yourself.
Don’t allow a cheater to degrade you.
You deserve better!
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Enough is enough. You’re worth soooo much more than that. I know it’s hard to leave… but it will get better once you do. Good luck x
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You need to put yourself first and realize you should never allow yourself to be disrespected and betrayed. He has proven over and over he doesn’t respect you or himself, and has no intent to change as his behaviour has continued. Please find the strength in yourself to believe you deserve better than a self entitled man child.
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Leave him. He’s a liar & will do it again
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No his wake up call was probably 10x ago at this point baby… Like if you suspecting wasn’t good enough, he admitted to 5x so realistically it was at least double that… Girl it’s… #TimeToGo
#SorryNotSorry
#OwnYourInnerQueen
#DontWorryAboutHim
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Cheating is by choice and actions speak louder than words… Also hunni what made it different this time … You need to take you out of this and put you first. Besides you can’t change a 25 cent into a dollar
He has a wondering eye. I wouldn’t settle for that. One chance is more than enough. It’s time to leave.
Ummm did he learn from the first 5 chances??? They don’t change honey. They get better at hiding it.
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He doesn’t love you nor respect you. He puts your health at risk every time. Get into therapy learn to love and respect yourself and move on from him. Get to a lawyer and a doctor asap. You can live without him!
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You gave him enough chances. Leave for your own good. You don’t deserve that
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What kind of effort is he making to change? Just empty words? Or are you seeing action? Is there counseling taking place? Removal of temptation? Unless you actually see effort being made to change the core of the problem (him and his disrectful, selfish behavior) then leave. I’ve been in your shoes. I can say change is possible, but not without action. If all he doing is saying he’s trying to change, leave. It doesn’t get any better. Also, please allow yourself time and grace to heal from this.
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No more chances, you are worth more than this. Ask yourself if your were for sale in shop window, what would your price tag be ??? You should be thinking millions if not trillions. You are worth much more than you think. Walk away they are plenty more opportunities awaiting you. Wishing you all the best
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Once a cheater always a cheater. He’s making you look like a fool for taking him back. Now, he’s doing it because you pretty much allow him to. He wouldn’t have cheated the 4 other times if he really wanted to change. Why believe it now? Suppose he cheats the 6th time and a kid is born, what will you do then? It’s time to open up your eyes, see your worth, and move on to bigger and better things in life; if you choose to stay that’s all on you.
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Why wasn’t his wake up calm the first 6 times? Don’t fall for that spiel.
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Seriously? You need to ask?
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Nope nope nope !! They don’t change !!
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Leave and stay away from him once a cheater always a cheater
You are responsible for your own happiness realize your worth
He will change…
When he’s too old and ugly to get another woman … but do you really want to waste your life waiting around for nature to take its course? 
leave that man. he’s done it more than once, why are you still with him? you know for a fact, because he has proven it… that he will never, ever change.
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Kick him out temperately, make him go stay with his mom and earn his way back into your house, you need some kind of Peace of mind if he stays living with you’re just going to have that constant thought in the back of your head of wondering if he’s cheating while under your roof and in your bed
No way!
Once he has manipulated your boundaries, he will always do that… And clearly he has done just that many times
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You deserve to be treated better than this , he will keep doing it again & again if you keep accepting it , you need to be strong & end it . Someone will treat you with love & respect is waiting for you at the right time . X
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The fact that you are asking this shows what you want to do and what you should do. He is not trustworthy and does not respect or value you or your marriage. One word RUN
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Please run and live your life, they don’t change
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Whatever your heart says follow it. Fuck him n everyone else
You owe him nothing…move on…he will keep doing it…he needs a reality check!!! He is too comfortable with doing this to u…he has done it so many times already and he knows that u will just sweep it under the rug and suck it up…show him u don’t need him and move on…life is too short to waste it on someone that doesn’t want to make u #1 and only 1 in his life!!! Good luck
I would say you gave him one chance to many. Time to let that go.
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Leave him girl youl find better
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No No No get away now.
Run, run, run and never look back!
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I’d leave. Not because he did it, but because he lied. Lying makes it 1000 times worse.
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Unless you want to stay and continue to get cheated on then leave. If he’s done this 5 or more times then that should tell you what your future together holds.
Sorry to hear this is the way you are treated. No way That is not exceptable! Honestly you have said he has done this over and over again. You deserve so much better. Do you have children? If so they also need to know this behaviour is not ok in life.
His family also need to think would they let this happen to them! I highly doubt it. They have no right to expect you to stay with him x
Girlfriend…at this point, he knows you are doormat…and will continue to treat you as such. Don’t you want real happiness?
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They way i see it you’ve already gave him 5 chances
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It’s hard to just end it there. You want to believe he can change, otherwise you wouldn’t be debating staying. The trust will never be there for you. You could separate but go back to the beginning, doing the date thing and all of the fun stuff. But the times when he isn’t with you, you will be questioning him. And this world is already full of horrible shit clogging our minds. You don’t need a scumbags wrongdoings adding to that. I hope you find happiness
All cheaters say they’ll change, very few do. He can only cheat on you if you allow it. He’s disrespecting you, Putting your health in danger. No respect for your marriage. You have to decide for yourself what your willing to put up with. No one else lives with him you do and you need to think of yourself and do what’s best for you!!
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Walk away and keep what little self respect you have left… he has repeatedly humiliated you and will continue to do so, he will just get better at hiding it… RUN… cheaters aren’t worth it… they are narcissists… its all about them and their ego and what people think of them… by staying with him you’re telling the world he is a great man… when he isn’t…
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No fukn way if he’s cheated 5 times you have already giving him more than enough chances geez have some self esteem your worth way more and deserve way better…
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LEAVE!! They don’t change! 18 f’n years of empty promises. We even renewed our vows on our 10yr anniversary and he was going to be a different person. Jokes on me:woman_facepalming:t3:
Yes I had kids so I did the whole stay for the kids crap. (Don’t ever do that.)
Now remarried to an amazing guy. Leave and find your amazing person. I wish you luck in whatever you do.
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It’s really up to you you need to decide if you are willing to chance him cheating again me personally I wouldn’t have given him a second chance after the first time
The question is not “one” more chance, its are you willing to repeat this cycle over and over for the entire relationship? These men do not, will not, cannot change. Save yourself. I wasted 12 years with one. Just pack your stuff and go. Make sure to educate yourself on “trauma bonds” so that you dont return before the trauma bond breaks. It will, give it time. Best of luck
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First time shame on him. Second time shame on you. You keep letting him get away with it, he’ll keep doing it.
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It’s over!! Sorry if he was comfortable to do it 5 times he will do it again!
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Walk away now. He hasn’t changed yet and he won’t now. You already know it
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How many times have you given him one last chance? If this isn’t the first time, then he doesn’t deserve it. Run.
First of all, big hugs. But if you’re serious about giving him another chance maybe you should even things out and get yourself a fwb. Tell him suck it up buttercup. Or buy some toys for you to use by yourself. I think you know he’s gonna cheat again. He’s gotten away with it much more than you already know of. The relationship is doomed, it just depends on when you’re ready to give up on it as well.
It’s disgusting and disrespectful he’s done it numerous times and the fact his family supports it and dismisses his behaviour throw him in the bin divorce him and never look back why would you put up with that and worse the woman had to tell you
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You’ve got to be kidding… 5 times? No he’s not going to change at this point, why should he, he knows you take him back each time. He doesn’t love nor respect you , or he wouldn’t have done it once let alone 5 times. That is crazy
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You’ve already gave him another… 5 chances. He will NEVER change. He not sorry he just sorry he got caught. You deserve loyalty and honesty and that ain’t coming from him. You have to put your big girl pants on and say enough is enough. Best of luck x
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If you like it, I love it. Sounds like this is the norm for you & you are ok with it. 5x??? Oh my! Boy BYE
Nope. He’s done it multiple times because he knows you will forgive and move on and waste more years of your life on a person who doesn’t deserve it. Hes only wanting to pretend he will change because he’s been caught out. Know your worth
People only treat you the way you let them. Don’t stand for it!!! 5 times really??? What number is acceptable??? 0
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Oh hun run and don’t look back he’s done this to you before and more then once. You deserve better, he’s not going to change and you take him back so he will keep doing it
He’s had enough chances.
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Have some self respect 
get rid of him… there will never be any trust…just Run
Girl know your worth! Get rid of him!!!
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Leave! And put him in the bin on the way out 
. People will treat you how you let them and you’ve let him do it by staying. Not only is he not going to change, he’s taking the Mickey! He’s only saying sorry to get another chance. Being sorry is an action, which would be not doing it again. Anyone can say sorry.
You’re worth way more than than
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Lol. He’s not only kidding himself he’s kidding you too. You want him to really have a wake up call? Kick his sorry a$$ out! There’s his wake up call.
Fuk no move on , U deserve better
You should of been gone after first why would he change you allow this behavior
In this day and age…no more chances!! What happens if the tables changed around …would he give you chances?? And staying for the kids well you want to suffer with this on your mind when he leaves the house? no way think about you and the kids I’m sure you will be happier without him …best of luck I’m sure your a strong woman …
10 years of devoting your life to another person is enough time for them to do the same… my advice get out now before You devote ten more years to empty promises plus u deserve better then constantly trying to heal from selfish decisions he’s made like cheating I get why u stayed even after five times but at a certain point u have to ask urself is the betrayal I keep facing because of him really worth the uncertainty of a future alone… bc I can guarantee you this you will be so much happier once u figure out ur worth more then a husband who can’t or won’t commit the same way u have
I’ll just say this… every time you forgive someone for how they have treated you, you are showing them how they are allowed to treat you.
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