So I have a friend who has been on and off with her baby father for the last say 8 years. They both go there seperate ways then my friend likes to click her fingers and have him back when she feels. They had a volatile relationship and the baby father wasnโt the best he liked his drink and drugs but with them on and off obviously it messed the children up. He let the children down many of times and it was never about wanting to see the kids it was always about the mother when it came to it. So they are now fighting in court for father to have access to the children. My friend and another of our friends had a threesome months back. Now the baby father is in a relationship with the friend. (I get loyalties and all that I donโt condone what has happened) but obviously I am still friends with them both. So yesterday I had family over and the friend that is now with the baby father was sat outside also with all kids paying out front. My friend and her mother live next door so when they pulled up home they mother started a row and the friends daughter was sat with the friend who is with the baby father. So she started a row in front of all the children. ( I wasnโt here at the time to witness) but when I came home I went to the neighbour as had a missed call. Me and the mother had a little row as she said my loyalties should lie with her daughter as we have been friends longer blah blah. And now saying they are going to have to move if other friend is coming down the street. Now I am made to feel bad and feel like basically Iโm sposed to choose who Iโm friends with. If Iโm friends with said friend then the mother doesnโt want to be friends. (We where all close friends) We are all grown adults I am in my 30โs with my own family and I feel like it is all play ground shit. Am I in the wrong as I feel shit about it right now.
I wouldnt be friends with such Messy people. Especially if youre married and have your own family.
Your friend sounds toxic as hell! No father should have to fight for access to his kids. She has ISSUES!! You donโt make friends choose. You didnโt bump uglies and make babies with any of them so you have every right to be friends with whom you wish! If the first friend canโt recognize that then they can move away or learn to deal with it. Do you REALLY want to deal with her antics and drama? SHE started all the mess anyways. She better grow up or risk losing a long time friend
I mean yโall ainโt friends yโall homies at best because it seems like she only deal with you when needed. However, Iโd they think issuing you a threat of moving because the other friend comes over tell her that has nothing to do with you and go play with your kids
You are so right let them get on with stuffing their lives up
This whole post gave me an STD, trust issues & a headache.
You need all new friends
Why do people ask questions on here that they should be smart enough to figure out on there own
Why have any of them as friends? And people that make ultimatums need to be willing to stick by the ultimatums. Even if it breaks their heart. Any dude that drinks and drugs and doesnโt take care of his children is never okโฆ and to want to be friends with someone like that speaks of your character. If it were meโฆI would ditch baby daddy and girlfriend. And help my other friend realize her worth. And if she gets back with himโฆfade. It isnโt about loyalty at this pointโฆit is about you being the company that you keep.
That is some playground shit. Nope. If they want to stay friends: cool.
If they want to end the friendship over this: cool.
You do you
A true friend wouldnโt make you choose you can be friends with who ever you want to be friends with you your definitely not wrong for feeling the way you do
Youโre the company you keep, and you all sound shady and toxic af 
I think I had a siezure trying to read this. Still donโt know what it says.
You are not in high school! These people need to know you are friends with them all. Like it or not thatโs the way it is. You donโt need friends to dictate who u speak to and or see.
From the bit I understoodโฆYeah, no. Lol. Bye to everyone. You have your family. They sound toxic
Whaaaat?? 
Iโd wouldnโt stay friends with someone who tells me who I can and canโt be friends with. Like nah. Especially being their drama and issues have absolutely nothing to do with you or your life.
You should of told her where to shove it, you are a grown woman with your own family, you can be friends with anyone you choose, if they dont like you having other friends, then they can kick rocks. Obviously the friend that you was talking to has done something to you, then why treat her bad? Its childish that an older woman would act this way.
no you should not have to choose. they made their bed. it has nothing to do with you, and if any friend tries to say who you can and cannot be friends with isnโt really your friend.
Sounds like 8th grade drama. Maybe give them all space and find a new circle of friends.
Birds of a feather flock together. My peace of mind is too important for all that drama personally
Seems like u should drop all of them and get some peace. Not your circus
Iโm sorry I donโt understand none of what you posted. Somebody mad at somebody for some mess someone started, and youโre in the middle. Separate yourself from these hood rats
Drama! Iโd stay away from all of them. Very childish.
Get rid of all of them. I wouldnโt want my kids near any of them
I wouldnโt want to be friends with any of them. Itโs too much drama.
It all sounds like drama and Iโd just avoid everyone. They all donโt sound great to be involved with. If you wanna keep one though then keep the one that didnโt give you an ultimatum. Friends donโt force you to do what they want by holding their friendship over your head. Nope. Bye.
Please do.not let this โfriendโ hold you as an emotional hostage. She is not friend worthy. Nor is she parent worthy if she is going to interrupt a get together she wasnโt invited to to start an argument or fight In front of any children let alone her own.
I would ghost them both. They are both toxic and have no sense of boundaries.
I think I would cut ties with everybody. You have enough on your plate with your kidsโ father. I would do what I have to do to handle that in the best interests of the kids, no booze-no drugs, and get myself some new friends. Move if you have to.
What in the world is a โrowโ?
No one can understand this mumble,jumble
What does row mean? Idk I probably wouldnโt be friends with any of them. If they are going to act like that and cause all this drama.
Get new friends.
Baby momma needs therapy bc sheโs narcissistic & any mother who keeps the father away from their kids a garbage human. If the kids are safe, she needs togrow tf up.
Who needs friends like that , they all seem to be a huge mess.
You will be better if you stay away from all the drama .
Everyone is entitled to the boundaries they set. If she wants to end a friendship over that, let her. Frankly Iโd be pissed if my best friend stayed friends with someone that wronged me. Clearly yโall werenโt that close so probably for the best.
Just because they donโt like her doesnโt mean you canโt like her if sheโs your friend the baby momma, then they wouldnโt tell you to choose. I have friends that canโt stand each other but I love both dearly
Iโm not gonna be friends with no chic thatโll fuck with her friends man.
I couldnโt read all that lol it was too much 
Iโd move and never look back.
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I have no idea what i just read!
Iโm going to have a panic attack 
the girl with the baby dad shows you what NOT TO WANT IN A FRIEND. WAKE UP 
. Your neighbor is right thatโs not right having them over I side with her
Those poor kids to be exposed to that kind of behaviour is sickening. Iโd be distancing myself from all of them if this is the way they act.
Girl Iโm sorry you need consuling
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๐ฟ ๐จ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐พ๐ฝ ๐ฏ๐บ๐๐
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๐บ๐๐ฟ๐๐๐. ๐ณ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐๐๐พ๐ผ๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐บ๐ ๐๐พ ๐ฝ๐๐ฝ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐พ, ๐๐๐๐พ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐
๐พ๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
She needs therapy for herself and children.
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๐๐ฟ๐พ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐ฟ๐บ๐๐๐
๐ ๐บ๐ฟ๐๐พ๐ ๐๐๐๐พ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐จ ๐พ๐บ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ 5 ๐ฝ๐บ๐๐ ๐๐ฟ ๐๐๐บ๐ฝ๐๐๐. ๐ณ๐๐บ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฏ๐บ๐๐
๐ฌ๐บ๐ฝ๐๐๐, ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐
๐๐๐๐ ๐๐พ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐บ๐ฝ๐พ
๐๐๐ ๐ผ๐บ๐ ๐บ๐
๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐พ๐๐พ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐พ ๐ฝ๐พ๐๐บ๐๐
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If you feel you need to choose, choose neither of them. You donโt need their drama in your life.
I see both sides, but I personally agree with the friend. She feels betrayed because her friend is with her ex and now her other friend is ignoring that and continuing the friendship with said friend. You donโt have to choose, but you already have by saying you donโt want to give up this friendship even if it costs the other friendship. Both of you are entitled to feel how you want though.
My best friend completely stopped talking to a friend because she slept with my boyfriend. I never asked her to and would have been okay if she continued their friendship, but she said she didnโt condone it and cut the friend off for the most part. She was there for me during that time instead. Maybe your friend just doesnโt have anyone else, and she now doesnโt feel like she can talk to you for fear youโll tell the other girl๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
Messy. I wouldnt take time with him at all. Thats a lot of abuse
Like you said youโre all grown adults in your 30s. Cut yourself off and tell them to grow up. You donโt โoweโ anyone shit
Sounds like stupid petty drama. Get away from it
You should use code names because that was very confusing.
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100% ๐
๐พ๐๐๐โฆ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ ๐ฅ๐บ๐ผ๐พ๐ป๐๐๐ ๐
๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐พ ๐๐๐ฟ๐
What is a row?? Are you referring to drugs??? Those poor kids!!! I am not a Karen, but Iโd definitely report that to child services if I saw ppl snorting drugs outside with children present!!!
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๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐บ ๐๐๐๐ฝ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐, ๐จ ๐๐พ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐๐พ๐๐๐
๐พ ๐๐พ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐ป๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐จ ๐ฝ๐พ๐ผ๐๐ฝ๐พ๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐ผ๐พ ๐๐๐พ๐ ๐จ ๐๐บ๐๐พ ๐ป๐พ๐พ๐ ๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ๐. ๐จ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐พ๐ผ๐พ๐๐๐พ๐ฝ ๐๐ ๐๐พ๐ผ๐๐๐ฝ ๐๐๐๐๐ฝ๐๐บ๐๐บ๐
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๐๐๐บ๐โ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐
๐๐๐ ๐๐๐พ ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐พ ๐๐๐ฟ๐๐๐๐บ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐บ๐ผ๐พ๐ป๐๐๐
Youโre not wrong. They wanna move? Fuck them 
Let them foot that childish, playground bill.
๐๐ป๐๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐๐ฝ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ ๐น๐ฒ๐ด๐ถ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป ๐ฒ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐บ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐น๐ฒ๐ฏ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐๐๐ณ๐๐น๐น๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐ต๐ถ๐บ ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ผ๐น ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐น๐ฎ๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐น๐๐. ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ ๐ต๐ถ๐บ ๐ป๐ผ๐
Why watch a soap opera when you have all that in your backyard. . Yโall need God in your life and lots of therapy for everyone! God bless.
Walk away from all that. You deserve better friends and family. They donโt know the meaning of loyalty,honor or pride.
I feel like I was just transported back to HS . Your friend needs to grow up
Omg what is with almost all the comments being spam on this postโฆ
Cut all ties with both. Too much drama and that kid is gonna grow up the same
A lot of Drama, but no one would tell me who I could or couldnโt talk to or have at my house.
Iโm a little confused with what I just read.
Those poor children 
IT is pathetic that innocent kids are exposed to these things !!!
What is with all of the spam on this page itโs really starting to get bad. It also very annoying when you are trying to read the comments. I have been blocking but they seem to be getting more and more.
Can you just ignore everyone? It is too damn messy to be involved in all that if your friend still goes back to get bd then there is no point to any of the picking sides drama. And your friend invited the other friend to a threesome. That is all just a clown show at this point. Leave that circus.
You all donโt act like adults. Drama is all this is. You want to be happy - get rid of drama and any/all toxic โfriendsโ I feel sorry for all your guyโs kids- you are suppose to be setting example , provide a healthy and safe environment
Whatโs a โrowโ, an argument?
You should have told her โwhat they eat donโt make you shit!โ
Very confusing story
Not your circus, not your monkeys. Donโt let yourself get dragged into their shitshow they call a life.
Definitely childish. She shouldnโt have been starting stuff in front of children. Kids donโt need to see that crap. If she wanted that man she shouldโve stayed with him instead of playing with him like a yo yo. Those kids have to deal with a deadbeat father and the mother that acts like a teenager in school. Sad situation. I wouldnโt take sides. Let them be ignorant. But I would explain to her she had better not be acting foolish in front of your kids again.
Choose your own friends. The ones who want to be friends with you will stay friends with you. The ones who donโt wonโt. Donโt worry about it. Let everyone go their merry way and you do the same. It will all work out!!
Nobody can tell you who to be friends with. So youโre friends with all involved. So what. If they are on a time out then obviously donโt invite all. Hang out accordingly
I wouldnt want to be friends with a female that takes her friends boyfriend or with a female that makes you choose between her and another female when itโs clearly non of your business. This is clearly petty just stay away from them both
Iโm very confused with this story,
Please just protect the kids and stay Neutral
Thatโs all stupid afโฆ Tell them you are neutral and not choosing sides between friends bc of things that have nothing to do with you. If they donโt like it, then thatโs on them, and what they do is their choice.
Letโs make this simple โฆ. Anyone who makes you chose between friends โฆ. Get rid of that one โฆ. No one has the right to tell anyone else who can be friends with who
Sounds like the one just wants to have him at her becken call when she wants him and is jealous heโs in a relationship.
Iโm not going to say youโre wrong but I see where your friend is coming from because If I was in this situation I would have to cut you off. I would never be friends with someone who is friends with my enemies. I believe in 100% loyalty. I canโt be cool with people who is 2 faced,play both sides and want to be friendly to everybody expecially the people who done me wrongโฆI value my friendships and is loyal and if I dont get that same loyalty than I see no friendship and will dismiss myself โฆif youโre going to be in my enemies face I canโt fck with you. Thatโs why I only rock with family because they will never chill with my enemies and you canโt trust everyone. Iโm cautious about who I call my friends, I been stab in my back before Iโve learned from experience on who not to trust and what fake friends do,
Got so lost in this storyโฆmy head hurts
What the hell does โ rowโ mean??