So my real question is: is it wrong of me to not let my ex in the delivery room after we are not civil at all and i had a bad experience with him last year with our first child together? I just want peace and to enjoy bringing my last baby into the world without arguing and worrying about each other. I have asked his mom to be there with me but at this point, I just wanna be alone.
I broke up with my ex June 2021. Ever since then, he stole my laptop, pawned it and lied about it when I filed for stolen property and his name showed up at the pawn shop. Court was in December 2021, I did not file charges. I am pregnant with our second child and went 5 months without working due to him telling me he will help out with bills. That lasted a month. He has failed to provide financial help for my home and has barely helped me keep my home decent. When i clean after multiple attempts to get him to straighten up, he blames me for not keeping my home clean while pregnant this whole year. He believes that it wasn't fair that when he worked, he had to come back to my home and clean and cook. But when I worked during my pregnancy, I didn't have to. Fast forward to yesterday; my doctor ordered me to be on bedrest and to stop working for the reminder of my pregnancy. I'm 38 weeks on Monday. I sent my ex home last night after he has been on his game console all day except for when we had to go to town twice. He is 21 and I recently turned 29. Not sure if that helps. I know I did enable him to still stay at my home but I figured he would mature mentally and finally be a man and better father, but that was a fail. I plan on having baby and then continue to work so I have income since child support from my other 2 children are non existent. My mother has offered to help financially but i feel that is wrong.
You already know the answer to your questions!!! The real question is … are you strong enough to NOT allow the birth of your baby to begin with “negative energy”? As you’ve stated, you’ve already dealt with giving child birth of a baby shared by both of you.
According to your post, the father of your child, is in fact, a child himself (21)! It’s apparent he’s not mature enough to step up to the plate! You CANNOT change ANYONE except yourself. You are only responsible for you and your baby! If your mother has offered to help financially, why not allow her? Is it because you don’t have a good relationship with her? Or, because you’re being stubborn? How is your relationship with his mother? When you say you’ve asked his mom to be present, but want to be alone … why would feel this way?
In your post, for me as someone replying, you’ve left many questions and answers left unsaid. Put your baby FIRST regarding decisions you make. Keep your heart out of any considerations; because, now you have another human being to protect. Everything stopped being about you once you gave birth to your other babies … and now pregnant with this one!!!
Best of luck to you ~