The plan for thanksgiving was to go to my MILs. Plans were canceled as my SIL is/was COVID+, MIL was just going to come to our house. MIL asked yesterday if SIL could come as she’s not symptomatic any longer (think she’s 3ish wks out?), we said we didn’t think it was a good idea as my 67y/o grandmother lives with us and we have a 3, 2 & 6-month-old. MIL asked again today if SIL can come bc she tested negative today. What would you do?
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If she’s 3 weeks out and got another test which came back negative, what’s the problem?
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If it’s been 3 weeks and has tested negative I don’t see what the problem is 
how do you know everyone else coming doesn’t have it?
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I would want to see the test results myself since they are are so wanting for them to come and what about everyone else that lives in the house hold. They could have it without knowing.
Negative means no Covid What’s wrong with that?
if she is testing negative it should be ok hopefully you can all get together and celebrate Christmas
Let the SIL come since she as an negative test.
… She’s negative after three weeks. She would have tested positive by now. Let her come
Shes recovered and been cleared. She would probably have the least amount of risk, she had it once and cant get the same strain again. Unless where you are has reinfected cases then i wouldnt worry about her.
If she tested negative and has it long enough to have tested negative let her come.
Protect your own this is new no one know for sure all the in and outs I would be afraid of the other people that live in the house
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There’s a huge difference between being not symptomatic and being negative…
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If it makes you feel better maybe ask everyone attending to wear a mask?
A family friend of ours tested negative, went back to her home from the hospital just to fall sick a week later and tested positive again (she never left her house after that week as she works from home). If you want to take precautions take them 
If she tested negative she’s safe as anyone else you’re letting into your house. If you’re that concerned about the kids and your grandma that lives with you then I wouldn’t have any type of gathering that consist of anyone from outside your house
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If she is 3 weeks past being positive, she is the one that you should be the least worried about.
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Are you making everyone else coming test? Her test came out negative second time. seems like you have an issue with the SIL. don’t host things if you’re going to be unfair.
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If she tested negative she should be fine
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You’re either being unreasonably paranoid or looking for an excuse to exclude your sister in law.
Only you can answe which. But if shes cleared the virus she poses the least amount of risk to your family.
Nursing homes, hospitals, doctors offices are letting people come back 10-14 days after testing positive provided they no longer have a fever.
If it’s good enough for them while working with a very vulnerable group then it should be more than enough for you.
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Has your MIL been around your SIL while she was positive? I would be really cautious with this. Negative doesn’t always mean no covid. This is why they don’t recommend anyone getting together. Its not just your SIL, but has anyone else in the family been around her?
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I think the bigger concern here is having multiple families under one roof. Especially if you’re only testing the SIL… someone else (MIL, kids, YOU) could be a asymptomatic. I know a few families who have gotten sick because one person came over. I just wouldn’t risk having ANYONE over, for your grandma’s sake as well as your babies!
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She’s negative… so… just try and work through your feelings on it. Or ask a doctor, to help make you feel better.
Good luck
As a nurse, we transfer post-Covid patients to regular floors 10 days after a positive test and their symptoms have cleared. We don’t retest. At that point we consider them negative.
If she tested negative what is the problem? Or is this an excuse for her not to go.
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How do you not know the MIL doesn’t have it
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If you’re worried about it then have everyone go to the health department and get tested, or go to CVS. Or have everyone at least wear a face shield (while eating) and a mask(not while eating)…if it was me I would invite her.
Did you see the negative test. I would ask to see proof
Just say no sorry but you gotta think of your children and grandma
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I personally wouldnt have anyone who didnt live in my house come this year, esp if your grandma is high risk. Tell them you ll have thanksgiving at a later date when it is safe.
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I work in a hospital, which is full of covid, we take people out of isolation after 20 days if they are there that long. We have not had any problems at all! Ultimately you have to do what makes you comfortable!
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No! We still don’t know that much about the virus! Don’t allow anyone who isn’t part of your immediate see every day family to attend a family gathering!
If she is asymptomatic and has since tested negative then she is no longer a risk for transmitting the virus.
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If you’re not comfortable with it then tell her that. If she can’t respect that then it’s on her. You gotta look out for your babies. I would not be comfortable with the SIL coming along and I would try to say that as respectfully as possible
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As long as she tests negative sure…just be safe…
No, and your MIL can stay home WITH her daughter and they share Thanksgiving.
Hell no do not allow them in your house they need to stay home and you can door drop off food. Do not even risk it please
She is testing negative for heavens sake!
Yes she could. Our employees come back after they test negative
I say do what your comfortable with and what you feel is best for your family.
No think of your children. Celebrate later. It is just a day to pig out
I’d play it safe and say no.
You have the right to say no
I’ll start with saying ehatever you feel safe with is what you go with. If you feel uncomfortable it’s up to you. You have a high risk person to be concerned with. But also, if she is already over it and been tested the risk is probably very low she could spread it.
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If SIL already quarantined for 2 weeks and now has a negative test, I don’t see why she wouldn’t be able to come unless there’s another issue. Have plenty of hand sanitizer and soap available for the family to use.
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If she quarantined for two weeks then she’s fine by the doctors standards, she’s no longer contagious. As long as she doesn’t have a fever. I had it and my 65 year old mother insisted on coming and helping with my 4 year old and my 5 month old cause I was not in good shape and she didn’t go get tested for it but her only “symptom” if she had it was a bit of a sore throat and tired. Wayyyyyy easier than me:sob:
not to mention everyone is all about what the doctor says and what the cdc says and they say 2 weeks is safe:woman_shrugging:t4: so why is it easy to believe everything else they say (even the lies) but not when someone is considering “safe”?? I’d let her come.
Also the virus can still be in the body and not contagious and I have read some doctors notes that people have tested positive For it even 6 weeks after they first contracted it.
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I would stand by my decision that it is not a good idea. No point in taking any risk with elderly and young children involved.
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Restest was a good idea.
I know someone who still tests Covid-19 positive after almost 4 weeks quarantining himself.
So now that she has a negative result, it’s up to your comfort level.
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If she’s negative then it should be safe! But I understand your concerns xx
Well she hasn’t got it anymore so it’s fine for her to come over
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I’d want 2 tests done first to be sure, as it’s possible to have a false negative reading. Personally, with at-risk people in the house I wouldn’t have her there. I would even go so far as to not have the MIL there either because I’d be concerned she may have been in contact with SIL while contagious. Actually I’d just delay the whole friggin thing and have a family gathering when everyone is well and can be there. To me it’s just not worth the risk. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Suggest that you all Celebrate Christmas with New Year. Another week will make all the difference, and give you peace of mind. Split the mount of the children’s presents in half, so they can open gifts both days of celebration. I think compromise is needed at this difficult time for the world. Blessings for a happy family time…
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I wouldn’t risk it personally, you have vulnerable people living with you. Even with a negative test she could still pass it along. Just my opinion 
I’m sorry that you have to make this decision, I hope you work it out
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Your no longer contagious after 21 days.
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I would tell them both no
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Ehh i give it about another month 
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I wouldn’t let her since you have a baby in the house
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Make her go take a test for COVID-19 a rapid test
Better to be Safe than sorry
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If she tested negative, she’s probably the safest person in the house.
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After 2 wk quarantine shes fine.if tested negative also unsure of your issue unless another reason.
if she is no longer positive. then why not? ask her to test again?
Safety first. Thanksgiving can b a different day.
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So risky because you just don’t know 
so sorry love
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2 tests then ok I would say no touching kids xx
Wow why would you even risk it🤦
Your house your rules. If you don’t feel comfortable tell her no x
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As a grandmother, I say let them come. Let me enjoy being around people and visiting. I might die of something else before I see them again
I would let her come 