One thing for sure, his wife needs to know what a low life he is
If there is no safeguarding I don’t see why not x
Get an abortion.
Later you will realize for you it was the best option.
Wipe your hands … he already show u how ignorant he is … coming from a father of a 6yo boy since he was 1 . My first son of 4 kids . 
Nope he gave up his rights when he suggested abortion
Fuck that. He got himself into it, now he’s gonna have to pay. Actions have consequences.
No
He suggested abortion so he clearly doesn’t want any fuckin rights
Um, rights later on?
Totally your decision
I would choose to leave him out of it
He got to pay cause he wanted to play there’s consequences for those actions im all for childsupport you don’t have to see him but you will support him.
I personally would leave him off
Don’t put his name on the birth certificate you’ll have less of a hassle in your life you don’t want anything that links you to that piece of garbage
No…you shouldn’t. Just move on.
Wipe your hands clean
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Make that fucker pay.
I wouldn’t. You can always put it on later if he wants to step up right
Wipe your hands clean , kids don’t deserve deadbeats
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Forget he exists, momma
If he has no paternal rights he has no responsibility - financial nor otherwise
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Claim it for the child!
I put the fathers name down but used my last name for child. He paid child support but never had anything to do with child until he was older.
Wipe your hands clean
It will make your life far more difficult if he is on the birth certificate. And frankly, sounds like whatever money you would get wouldn’t be worth the trouble.
I think it’s too early to make a decision now and things may change later on. At least he knows you’re not getting an abortion you’re keeping the baby. I would keep proof of everything said for later on just in case. You can put him on child support if you don’t think you’re financially stable.
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From experience: my daughter added her then husband and it’s been nothing but a nightmare so play it safe. He wants this baby dead for God’s sakes!
Don’t put him on it. Then take him to court for support, they test for paternity and order the support. He never has to be listed on the birth certificate for that. But do you get support. He created this life, if he didn’t want it he should have been more responsible. He can support his creation
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My situation was that I wasn’t going to put him on it since we weren’t married. I just had made the decision and literally after doing so he picked up the baby kissed her forehead and left. Haven’t seen him since. Plus being from Honduras he used to threaten to take my other baby away from me. 
Wipe hands clean. He will look for his child if he wants a relationship. And as your baby grows up he/she may seek to know their dad. At this point it will be more stress than you need especially since he doesn’t want the baby.
as far as i know, if you arent married then you cant put him on the birth certificate without him signing an affidavit admitting paternity
If I know what I know now I would have never put the biological dad on the birth certificate
You actually can not just put the father on the birth certificate. They have to be there to sign it claiming they are the father. Otherwise you have to get a DNA test done to prove paternity first.
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If you can do it alone then do it! Get him to terminate his rights asap after birth so you don’t have to deal with it later! Even if you don’t put him on the birth certificate he can still take you to court later and do dna and get rights for your child! Yes dad’s are important but if he doesn’t want this child then it will always be a heartache for you and your child later! My sons father terminated his rights and was the best thing he could of done for him! Yes it hurt but my son is better off and he turned out just fine he had my father around to help with the guy stuff and now he’s 24 with a great job and a very responsible and respectful young man! Good Luck
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No, child support doesn’t get paid if they aren’t willing and I now am in the process of getting him to sign rights over after 30,000$ in getting full rights
Omg. Everyone saying put the father on the birth certificate cause the baby needs to know who the father was…
Listen, responsible parenting can handle that part. Her choosing to put him on there or not doesn’t mean anything if she is honest with the child from the get go.
Putting him in there leads to numerous legal situations later on. If you want to wipe your hands of him, leave it be & educate your child on who the father is. It’s no one or anything else’s responsibility to do it.
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Not having him on the birth certificate won’t stop him if he wants custody later. They will just order a dna test.
Put him on the certificate, give the baby your name.
Depending on your state, child support is not tied to custody (in NC, just because he paid didn’t mean he was able to see them)
He does not have to be on the BC for child support you can sue him for child support and if he refuses they will make him do a DNA and if it matches he is required to pay if he doesn’t match then he will be free to go forever.
YES and it shouldn’t have anything to do with child support good bad or ugly it is still the Childs father. If you plan to give the baby up for adoption it won’t really matter to you anyway. What is important is a paper trail incase of health issues. what if the child gets sick later on in life and needs a kidney or something knowing who the father was could save it’s life.
He can sue for custody later whether you put him on there or not. The courts would just order a DNA test. I’d put him on there, but give your child your last name and stop talking about it altogether in your real life if you currently are. Let him get away with it and keep your child out of his mind. You and your child are entitled to child support, but when you get it, you risk him having a say in your child’s life. And I wouldn’t open that door if I didn’t have to.
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Why? He clearly states he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby. Why make him? Don’t us women protest everyday about the choices people make for US? Leave him off of it and save yourself the grief.
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No don’t do it he don’t want the babe hell no I wouldn’t
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This is a dilemma.
You, and he, are the child’s biological parents. He is just as responsible for the child as you are. It doesn’t really matter what either of you want … it is what it is. If he doesn’t want anything to do with the child, and you want to keep the child and raise it alone, then the birth certificate is the least of your worries.
There are pros and cons to allowing the father to be on the birth certificate. If he refuses to sign it, it’s a moot point. If you want him to take responsibility for his actions, do DNA testing.
The only problem I can see is the child not having access to biological health information that could be helpful in the future.
Of course, every child at some point wants to know who their daddy is, if the daddy is not a part of their life. That’s a whole other chapter you will face in the future.
I wouldn’t put his name maybe your last ex but not his. It was a month fling and your almost 12 weeks. Do the math it isn’t his kid and he knows it. Also it takes up to 2 weeks for the fertilized egg to reach the uterus. I’d do a dna test if I was you before I even attempt to worry about the birth certificate.
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Nah he’s a waste of space just a sperm donor give the child your last name
Depends on the circumstances. You don’t have to put his name on it. If your child chooses to pursue their father when they get older that can be their choice.
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Do not put him on the birth certificate your giving him any chance to take the baby you do not need dna till the baby is 16 keep the baby in your name and if he wants to step up later on then let him or get on with it he’s made it clear he doesn’t want to no so that’s your answer you can’t make a man be daddy I’m afraid
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Absolutely not. Depends on your states laws about fathers rights. Personally I would keep walking. It is very clear that this scumbag wants nothing to do with you or this baby. Someday you will meet a good man who will want to be a dad and take this one as his own. Just keep walking.
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do not add his name you will not regret it later.
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I had 4 children and no father listed on any of their birth certificates. I live in Ontario and the father must sign if his name is on it and he didn’t want to sign. Not having the father on their bc’s does not affect the fact that it is his child and if you wish you can take him for support.
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Choose peace I would call it a day don’t force a baby on someone who doesn’t want one if he decides later on he can go the legal way
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No no no…then your problems will never stop i my daughter did this after i told her not to and nothing but problems…
Put him on the birth certificate BUT give the baby your last name.
I would not put his name on the birth certificate, plain and simple.
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I would wait to put him on the birth certificate. Then after giving birth take him to court for a DNA test & then put is name on the birth certificate once it’s proven he’s the father.
I wouldn’t in this case. I fully support your choice to be a mom, I also fully support his choice to not be a dad, don’t try to force him.
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Sure go ahead and put his name on the birth certificate, as long as you are willing to go through the pain of DNA testing in order to prove to him that he is the father, because someone like him who uses people for his own gain will only dispute the fact that the innocent child is his…Think about it,in other words,No, don’t be a dumbass,that child is yours and only yours, he used you, and didn’t care what the consequences were…
Do NOT put him on it girl. He made his choice clear, you will regret it later !!
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I wouldn’t give him shit but l would give my child all of my love
I’m currently going through the same thing . The guy & I were just a fling , I ended up pregnant , told him , he told me to abort it & that’s all he had to say . I blocked him on all social media & from my phone . He had one time to say he doesn’t want anything to do with my child & if he as a man can wake up everyday & be okay with knowing he has a child on this earth that he doesn’t acknowledge or take care of , regardless of the circumstances of how the child was created , then that’s gonna eat him up in life . But yea I made the decision to block him , I will not be telling him when I give birth or anything & he sure won’t be on the birth certificate. I’m not pursuing child support or any of that either
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I wouldn’t put him anywhere on the birth certificate.
Put him on birth certificate. If he doesn’t want his name on birth certificate then he signs rights away.
I would not put his name on the birth certificate. He made his choice.
Nope he wanted to abort it f that
I was in this position. He was in no position to take care of a baby, and wanted me to abort. I said no, and to sign his parental rights over to me if that’s what he wished. He did.
I was happy, because I didn’t want to abort when he was in no shape to care for a child. I understood that and things have been great for the last 4 years and my boy has a dad now who loves him dearly.
Don’t be too upset or stressed. If a woman has the right to tell a man “I’m keeping the baby!” Then a man has the right to walk away if he doesn’t want to be involved.
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But this about the child not what you want. The child’s rights I don’t understand why you want put him on the birth certificate?
Idk where you’re from but here it is illegal to add a father to the birth certificate without his knowledge or consent. And he has to be the one who adds his info and signs off on it himself.
Leave him off. I had my daughter at 19 with my “best friend” at the time. He was cheating on me and o had no idea until my daughter was born. Now 14 years later, she and I are doing wonderful and I don’t have to get his permission for anything at all. It’s wonderful and blissful, especially when I hear stories from my friends about custody fights and stuff.
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He told you to abort the kid, which clearly shows he doesn’t want any part of it.
You’d be saving yourself so much time, money and energy.
I made the mistake of putting my sons “father’s” name on my sons birth certificate. A year and a half later he gave up his rights and I had to go through so much court stuff.
If he doesn’t want any part of this, wipe your hands clean and just mark the certificate as “father unknown.”
He already took the choice when he said to abort the baby. He doesn’t want nothing to do with the baby. It doesn’t take a space scientist to figure that out. No I dont think he should be put on the certificate. It dont matter about whether he is on the certificate or not. When the child gets older and wants to no who the father is tell the child. What does that have to do if his name is on there or not. If the child wants to no why his name wasn’t on there tell the child the truth. Why lie about it. Cause if he or she goes to see him and he tells the child he doesn’t want nothing to do with her or him. The child will come back to the mother mad asking why she didn’t tell her or him. And if the father does talk to the child. Then the child can ask him why he didn’t want her to be borned.
Send him a text time you to be registry office and if he Shows up then you will know but if he doesn’t then you know he finally made his bed let him lie in it
Personally I would change whole father or unknown thing and have another options to say fathers name along with (estranged) law in that saying father had no.Interest and no rites . But leaving it open to both child or father to persue a later relationship.
You allowed him to “use you”- take some responsibility………
Wipe your hands of him and move on!!!
Don’t put him on there. You can still get child support.
Nope. Just because yall had sex and made a baby doesnt mean he deserves to be on the birth certificate. Dont even go after him for child support because that gives him some kind of rights to your baby and he can then fight for custody. In my personal experience itd be best to just completely forget he exists.
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I gave my child my last name and went after child support. That’s what happens when you lay down with someone and dont take responsibility for that.
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If he doesn’t want to he apart of the child’s life and abortion is not your decision, than don’t make him pay child support. Keep your head up and be a boss ass mom.
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D9nxt put him on the certificate since he clearly is not up to being a dad, but don’t ice him put if he comes.around later. It was a fling, neither of you expected the baby, I’m guessing. However, since you’ll be the sole provider no need to include him unless you seek child support, in which case you’ll force him to be a financial parent.
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This baby was given to you and him only as parents. That cannot be denied and he can decide if he chooses to be a part of your child’s life and will have to live with those choices. But the child has 2 biological parents. May your child be surrounded with many to love, and nurture and guide throughout their life…a village as they say. Later it may be important to know family medical history as well.
Although child support would help, there is no guarantee you would ever see a dime. You chose not to abort and raise the child. Love that child and be honest when questions arise. By putting the dad on the birth certificate you open it up for alot of disappointment and frustration.
He has already made a decision. Go it on your own and best wishes
The best decision I ever made was not to put my ex on the birth certificate and a real father came into his life when he was two, at six I had his birth certificate changed to reflect the name of man who truly loved him and raised him as his own son. He is 32 years old and successful man who adores his dad that raised him. So for me the best decision I made was to forget that ex and follow my heart.
I went the other way and put him on birth cert and he signed it.
Shes 14 now and I think it’d been nearly 8 years that he hasn’t spoken to her .
I’ve even msg when she’s broken bones may have needed surgery.
Had another surgery.
Another time hospital thought she’d had a stroke (turned out to be a massive migraine thank god)
Nothing no reply nothing…
When she turned 10 I got her a phone he answered the first call (im guessing only cause he didn’t know the number) said he’d call he back never did …
The only way I know his still alive is because child support found him .
It’s so hard you want them to know where they came from but I dont know what’s worse .
Do what you feel is best .
I dont know what I’d do if I had a do over .
Good luck
To me not putting your child’s natural father’s name on the birth certificate is wrong you don’t know if he may change his mind down the road but also on the other hand to me as long as you never asked help from the state with your pregnancy then no don’t put him on there but if you’re going to get help from the state to help pay for this pregnancy and the rest of this baby’s life and yes you need to be put on their needs to pay if he’s not interested now he’s not going to be interested down the road but I’m sure he has family and other grandma’s and grandpa’s that would like to see their grandchild so it’s not just him you got to think about
I would think different states have different laws. No one asked mr for father’s signature. Decided my last name and didn’t id his biological father on birth certificate. I had no expectations of his bio father and since he did pretty much nothing for his child it made life easier with a clean break.
Some states don’t allow the fathers name on the birth certificate if unmarried. Also, not naming the father in no way removes their custodial rights.
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in some states he has to sign the birth certificate so I would leave him off you can still go after him for support he will no doubt want a paternity test which is easy enough just know you open him up to having rights to your child if you do so. His can pop in anytime he wants to claim his rights if you start the foundation. Just because he’s not interested now does not mean in 5 yrs you won’t get served with custody papers.
It’s up to you. Only you can decide what you want. But I’m pretty sure that even if you don’t put him on the birth certificate, he can still claim father’s rights by taking a DNA test.
If I were in these shoes I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate/last name/child support or acknowledge him as the “father” just bc it doesn’t seem like a great situation
If he’s willing to give up rights I would not put him on the certificate. Now if you need support with the baby and yea not willing I would put him on but if you don’t than no.
Leave off and tell them the father is unknown because in all reality…you didn’t really know what kind of person he turned out to be. Clearly he has a lot of growing up to do.
Don’t put him on the birth certificate. You can still take child support out on him. You’ll just have to get court ordered dna testing to show the baby is his and he will still have to pay it.
Yes. Not for you, not for him, but for the child, the truth. I say that as both an adoptee myself and an adoptive mon.
Walk away from the scum bag. Do not let him make your life miserable! You are quite capable of being a good mum without him. Choose life!
Never!! He’s made it clear what he thinks! Raise him in your own that’s what my granddaughter did!!
You will find someone deserving of you later. He can adopt him and put his name on the birth certificate.
its about the child and lineage…u can put him on the birth certificate and ensure that u get him to relinquish on paper his rights to the child
You can leave him off the birth certificate and still claim child support.
Um. No. He doesn’t need to be on the birth certificate for rights. He can do a paternity test later on and be legally stated as a biological father.
If you want him in your child’s life then, yes.
That’s a pretty personal decision! You best bet is to talk to an attorney. They would know the legal implications of both decisions!