I did reach out to the”other woman” in my man’s world and she did not know about me BUT told me that she didn’t want him, it was strictly for the sex that he was paying her for.
“I’ve dealt with this before… I’m considering leaving him”
So much to unpack with that but what is messaging her gonna do? Stop the next girl he picks up? Make him better at hiding his infidelity?
If you have dealt with this before, what are you hoping to accomplish? Making him not cheat?
Once is a mistake. Twice is on purpose. He isn’t just doing this to you, he’s doing it to your children.
Messaging her is your call but if you aren’t going to stop letting him treat you like that, why bother? 
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What are you trying to find out or resolve by calling another women in another country to ask about your cheating husband? It doesn’t matter if she knows he’s married because HE KNOWS he’s married and he’s the one made the wedding vows. What is there to argue over? A man that has no self respect or dignity and truth be told the “woman” he’s sending money to in another country is most likely the same person that sent your grandma a letter claiming to be a Nigerian Prince. Just leave.
Not sure if she cares he’s married if she’s getting money from him .& even so, what’s your point of reaching out?
Wouldn’t bother with the “woman” it’s probably a scammer anyway, but I’d confront him and then leave.
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I’d reach out to the woman.
Sorry but once a cheater always a cheater.
Why would you stay with a man who as absolutely no respect for you
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It’s probably an old man 
. Leave his tiny pp self and UPGRAAADE
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She owns you absolutely NOTHING, he is the problem , he is the one you should be questioning.
First off is he your HUSBAND or child’s father?
Next, if you confront this woman, are you willing to END your relationship? 
If so, call her up and tell her who you are.
If you don’t plan on leaving him then don’t even bother.
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Why are you even bothering with this guy?
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Is he married to YOU? Sounds strange that you say it’s long distance and he is your “child’s dad”. Why not call him your husband? Makes me think she is the side chick and maybe she found out he has another.
I have a letter drafted proof of everything for past 8 months. When all is said and done I am mailing her the packet. They moved in together.
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They never change go with your gut
Id be more upset about the fact he’s sending her money. Honestly I doubt she’d even care. She’s baiting him for a payout and don’t have to physically put out. Deal with the part you can actually change, ditch his ass.
Leave him. Tell her. She deserves to know. You deserve better.
I’d tell her and confront him
Why? just stop dealing with him. You aren’t married, don’t live together nor do you live in the same city/state. He’s showing you that he’s still single.
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She probably does not care she’s in it for the money
Tell her and walk away from him
I would message her, but you better be telling him off more then her! & leave his ass
Just leave. What does it matter if she knows. He done what he’s done and it’s not the first time. Sorry
Make a fake account and get him to send you money too 
After you break up with him or course
Reach out but leave first F all that noise
Laura Dyann says long distance relationship doesn’t say wife. Plus long distance = your single 
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I once got a message from the wife of a man I was “dating”. I had no clue that she and their children existed. It broke my heart, but I was glad she did.
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He’s cheating on you & you haven’t filed for divorce yet? Yes I’d definitely talk to her. I was once in a relationship that he claimed he was divorced but wasn’t. There were a lot of red flags. Like I couldnt call him. He could call me. I’ve never been to his home etc. Of course he had excuses for everything. I called (this was the time of landlines) when I wasn’t supposed to. A woman answered. It was his wife! I stumbled for the words but we both stayed cool headed. We made it so the 3 of us were in the same restaurant at the same time. We left him sitting there alone & had a nice lunch together 
This girl may not know you exist. Call her & inform her.
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And what if she says she knows?
Then what?
Your issue is with your husband not the other woman.
He pursued her in another country you here asking FB instead of the man in your house.
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Sending her money is usually the first sign he’s talking to a catfish.
Are you reaching out to her because you want her to leave him alone? The only person you should be talking to is your husband, the one who is obviously cheating on you, and not being committed as he should be

You should reach out the her and also confront him and if all is true get rid of him
So in my opinion, it seems like your here for validation of your feelings. Hun you don’t need validation, you already know all the reasons you have to leave. If you want to reach out to this other woman, make sure your prepared to sit down with your man and have a conversation. Whether things are in a cheating nature or not, financially supporting another woman across seas may as well be cheating anyway, it’s taking food away from you and your child’s mouths. Regardless how any of those conversations go, I would still say see your way out the door because he has show y’all aren’t the first priority. Hope you find some answers and clarity on the situation
He’s probably being scammed leave his silly a$$
No don’t call her . Put the blame where it’s due your husband . You can’t take any man away that doesn’t want to be taken
Nope (unless you’re just planning to warn her. I wouldn’t even have a convo). Stop considering and just leave him.
You’ve already been thru it before and it’s clear that it’s not only continuing, he’s spending money on them that he should be using on his family.
Hell naw.
Be done and enjoy your life without the scumbag.
Next girl u deserve better. Move on to someone that respects u and wants only u.
LW sounds plain stupid wouldn’t put it past if it’s a fake letter
U could tell her hes married . But I wouldn’t say anything other than that !You should leave the guy! It’s not the woman’s fault by any means. Whether she knows or not- Your husband deliberately chose to pursue someone else regardless of the fact he is with you! And this is just one person you KNOW of. He could be seeing other people in person
Nah uh. Cheating is bad enough. But once he starts giving her money that you should be getting ? It’s definitely over. Don’t let him know you know, get your affairs& finances in order , make all arrangements, get a lawyer, & take h for all you can so she doesn’t get it. I’d usually say something nicer but I’m petty when it comes to a man giving another woman money .
are you sending him money?
I’d tell her and leave him.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s been catfished and it’s actually a dude —- posing as a woman .
Have you talked with him about this. If not, find out without accusing him as to why he’s sending her money and talking with her and if you have anything to worry about with her.
Be prepared that since you guys live in a non conventional long distance situation- he may have told her you guys are separated etc- given the circumstances, she may not believe you and it could just cause a lot of problems- I would focus on your moves- I’d get detailed billing or call the provider so you can view the actual messages and see the content of the communication and then determine how you want to proceed- since you’re still married- maybe take advantage of that and ask for money for a few different things and get ready for a divorce
I’d tell her she can have him, you don’t want a cheating pos.
Is he getting scammed bc yeah I watch Dr Phil
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Yes confront her and your loser husband!!
Wait… are you the wife? You said your childs dad first and long distance relationship… something is off here
Ask him what is going on and walk away
Your husband is stupid and is being had by this woman. I went through it with my husband several years ago, he met her on the internet and sent her $3,000 to come to the states. I turned it over to the FBI and two months later was shown a pic of her, not even close to the one on the internet. Needless to say, I am no longer with him, $3,000 for a lesson learned.
Nope, I wouldn’t reach out to her. She didn’t take vows to you, your husband did. I’d take this up with him. He’s violating your marriage so address this him.
You never said you are married… just a long distance relationship with your child’s father. What’s the deal? He might be married to her??? Sounds weird to me.
Sounds like he is messed up in a catfish scheme. Find out if she even exist. I believe that by taking money from him is a felony now. Get the evidence and show him as you are giving him the boot
If he’s sending her money and she’s in a different country that ‘other woman’ could possibly be a large 400 pound man just scamming him. Just saying, people fall for it all the time. Joke may be on him!
I’d send her an email and Cc him in it. Including pictures of the family and a copy of divorce papers.
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Two choices - leave and don’t take any shit from him ever again
Ask but you may just get more bullshit
Trust your gut xx
Change your locks and serve him with divorce papers. No warning
She’s not the problem though. Posts like these can’t be real.
Talking is one thing, sending her money is a curiousity, either way if you think screenshoting a picture of your divorce petion with the words “he’s your’s” will help-- your wrong, take the high road and just end it, he’ll know why
I was contacted back in I think may by the other woman my so called partner was also seeing. He was literally going from my house. Telling me he was going to work when in reality he was going to her house. I am eternally grateful that she contacted me and made me aware. We both got rid of his lame ass! Definitely tell her but don’t be nasty to her about it. It’s not her fault. And also don’t consider leaving him. Just do it. You deserve better than to be treated in such a way xxxx
Yes call her and have a chat she probably doesn’t know about you
He’s probably being scammed. Women fall for it all the time. Send me money honey 
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It’s probably not even a woman if she’s from another country people scam people that way just my opinion but I would say something.
If he’s done this before, and is doing it again now, he will do it again. Tell him you’re done, and be done. At that point you can nicely reach out to the woman and let her know he is married, and you are now planning to divorce him. She deserves to know what kind of person he is. But only contact her to inform her about him. No name calling, no being condescending. None of that stuff. It’s not her fault.
If women would just stick together and call them out it would stop so much of this. Yes contact her.
Oh boy… this is why I am divorcing my husband… He did this on 3 different occasions that I know of… first thing I will say, don’t reach out, she likely isn’t who she claims, this is a catphisher scamming him, but the fact that my husband did it thinking otherwise and was sending our money to them, it was the final straw for me, the first, he thought was a young blonde who looked like a teenager, my son helped do some digging and we found out she was a middle aged obese woman and I found out about all the scamming she did. She was sending him cashier’s checks and he was opening accounts to cash them, he tried to end it, she threatened police and he freaked out and that’s when he told me about it, then he went on and did it twice more with other people, and then fell for it again after I left him, this time the woman claimed to have been beaten up by an ex, took pictures in the hospital and they were clearly faked, she said she needed help with money to be treated for her injuries… well her “mom” asked for the money. It’s crazy
If he’s sending money overseas to someone is it even another woman?
He could be getting scammed?
Either way, your trust is never coming back.
She is not going to care if he is sending her $$
Definitely yes you should contact her and let her know
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There should be no consideration. Call him, call it off.
And let him know you know what’s going on
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Nope. You don’t confront the other woman she owes you nothing. He however does. And if it’s happened before and happening again it will never stop. He obviously has no respect for you
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? It. Will. Just. Cause. You. Hurt.
Girl! Throw that whole damn man away & start over. You already know he can’t be trusted. I’d reach out to her just bc she may not know what she’s getting into. Kick him to the curb & move on. You deserve better.
I woke up one morning after husband went to work… To a message from a man who said his old lady was talking to my old man…. So when husband called me on lunch I asked how Tiffany was he said who’s Tiffany 
I said well make sure u tell Tiffany her husband knows and ur stuff will be pack and ready for ya when u get off work:woman_shrugging:
If you’ve been down this road before, then you know what you need to do
Yes. It will eat you up if you don’t. The mature thing to do is keep it simple
But than there’s that uncertainty of weather or not you will receive the truth or a lie.
Who is he married to? If he’s not legally married to you, then his only obligation is to support his child, and you need to go to court to get that in writing.
Ummm… he’s married and from your post doesn’t sound like it’s to you either. Call and tell on yourself too.wth kinda question is this?
Walk away and don’t look back:walking_woman:
Not married. Nah. Keep. Your. Kid. He’s. A. Philanthropist
“Considering leaving him”?..
County or country? If it’s county, call her up then ditch him. If it’s country then it’s probably another man pretending to be a woman. Laugh at him, then dump him. Hoping some woman is just gonna go away because they find out you’re married is childish. This action is his and his alone, he’s the one you need to be dealing with.
Do you have a joint Bank account or access to his account? If so, girlll you better hit that cash back button everytime it pops up and slowly start a separate savings. It’ll only show that you spent $*. at Walmart or whatever store. Know but play dumb until you’re ready to leave
She aint bothered if he is taken!! Shes getting money xx if you no longer trust this man you know what to do x
Is it a scam caller? If he’s sending her money she could be a scammer.
Your first conversation should be with him. Get a gage of where he’s at. If he talks shit, coz ladies we know when they’re talking shit, he’s not gonna stop. Cut him off. Easier said than done I know but if I can do it after 19 years with someone who I actually respected loved and cared for, then you can do with this Muppet. Be strong hun.
Why is he sending money? Sounds like a scammer to me