Not mommy related but I need advice, long story short I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my youngest child’s dad. this past weekend I found out he’s been talking to this other women that lives in another county hes been sending her money also. I’m not sure if she knows he’s married so I’m asking should I reach out to her to ask? I don’t want to sound desperate or be arguing about him, I’ve been down this road before so I’m considering leaving him because I’m not sure if I’ll trust him again.
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I got a call from the other woman once and I’m still grateful for it.
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Yes you should. But be clear that you’re not blaming her.
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Yes! Reach out and get your peace of mind 
good luck!
Yes! Either you enlighten her or call her out I believe you should.
Welcome to your future…
Yes. Woman code. Always let them know because he will do it to her too.
Girl code…I’d reach out to her and end things with him. Good luck
This scenario yes. I would
I wouldn’t, because honestly it does matter if she knows he is in a relationship or not… he does. So either tell him to ditch the witch and fix things, or leave… you hold the power here.
I would tell her and leave him. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship.
Absolutely!!! Reguardless of weather your leaving him or not she needs to know he’s married and he needs to know you contacted her. Don’t leave any “what if’s” hanging out there. They can eat you up if you let them.
Best if you part ways with this cheater sooner than later but not before you spill the truth.
Geesh. Definitely leave that relationship! Asap. Let her have him. 
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I’d let them both know I know and forget him! 
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If you do reach out, be prepared for backlash from him. If the other woman doesn’t know he’s married, she’s probably gonna confront him too. Definitely be prepared to leave him.
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You already know the answer…
To be fair, I would. You would want someone to tell you. So why not tell her.
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You should leave. Let that man be in the past.
Hit the road Jack you are woman you are strong 
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Definitely listen to your gut. She isn’t to blame, chances are she knows nothing about you and she’s going to find herself v hurt soon too.
If the other women really doesn’t know she does deserve to be educated.
Then let him know, you know and handle the aftermath
Probably a scam!!! But if not tell him bye! But then again ya’ll aren’t married. One of those rough situations
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Girl, know your worth! Just stop the relationship and move on with class in check! You deserve someone’s full and undivided attention!
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I mean she has the right to know
First you need to talk to your husband. It could be something simple, such as helping out an old friend. However if you don’t trust him, there’s your answer either way. If you can’t communicate with him and you don’t trust him, you should not be in a relationship, let alone marriage with him.
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I would let her know he’s married for sure!! (Hopefully she doesn’t already know and just not care) I’d do it in a non confrontational manner but I’d definitely let her know. And I’d leave him as well! You deserve so much better and sorry this is happening at all
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I reach out her and leave him
I’d get my ducks in a row to leave before I reacted at all. Out of respect I would let her know but in a purely civil manner. No bashing, no accusing, no blaming. She likely has no clue and is gonna feel the same hurt you do.
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Tread lightly…she probably doesn’t know he is married. Either way, decide what you want to do with the information. Do what’s best for you.
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If you tell her and then stay with him you’ll be a fool, so if you’re going to open that can of worms you best be prepared to leave.
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No doubt that person is a dude. Not caring about anything as long as the person is getting money.
Is he Mexican? He’s probably married in Mexico 
I’ll talk to her and she what she says and if she knows we’re married. Then I’ll get his side, but he’s to blame he’s married. I’ll leave no matter what.
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You can reach out to see if she knows, that way it also saves her the trouble. Your husband’s to blame, the only one to blame.
Trust me, he won’t stop. I’d reach out and tell her, but, she might not care bc he’s sending her money. As his wife though, if it were me, I’d tell her.
Jesus just leave for good.
I would give her an FYI. I would not be confrontational and I would leave him
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For clarification purposes, if you are not the wife he’s married to then don’t bother reaching out. Because then she likely won’t believe you & y’all could start a club or society.
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I guess that’s your call but honestly if you can’t trust him why have a relationship with him. Save yourself the heartache and trouble. There are better men out there. Sometimes being alone is actually better than being with someone and being alone.
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Hold up your in along distance relationship with the your child’s father yet you wanna tell the other girl he’s married Lmao shouldn’t you be ringing his wife and telling her you and him are in a relationship 
hardcase alright Lol
Get ur answers and say good by to him
What good would it do? He will probably end it with you and continue with her.
Why are you in a long distance relationship with your husband who is your youngest childs father?? It sounds like you are just as confused about your relationship or marriage as he is. It sounds like you have much bigger problems at home that need to be dealt with first.
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Without trust you have nothing. Leave
Why are you in a long distance relationship with your husband? 
I’m confused
You want to know if you should confront her because you’re staying with him and want to chase her away?
Just leave. No person is worth the drama and secrecy. If they truly love you like you deserve then this wouldn’t be happening.
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She prob doesn’t exist…… or it maybe a dude. If u have been done this road before w him then I’d say there’s your answer to leave. Hugs to u❤️
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He knows hes married so 
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To me I feel like what does it matter if she knows he’s married? He knows he’s married and that should be enough to make your decision.
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So if it is a long distance relationship… are you sure you are not the other woman. Not trying to be mean. But . Are you married to this guy or just dating cause it’s your last kids dad.
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Why is this even a question, hell yes! if she does know about u she didn’t care! & if she doesn’t, then she deserves to know also!
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Yes…absolutely reach out!!! She may not have any idea, as men don’t usually say. And then leave his @Ss. Dont “get his side of the story” he knows exactly what he is doing.
Staying only leaves resentment and trust issues.
Maybe he did the same to her🤷♀️. Good luck.
Ghost him (since y’all are long distance anyways) and FYI her- because I’m sure she would love a heads up that he’s a cheater… so she can make her own decision- and move on and be as happy as you can. Mail him some glitter b0mbs. 
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Most definitely and also him it’s something or he wouldn’t be sneaking or sending money to at least she’ll know it’s not acceptable to you … he is cheating if hes sneaking
What difference will that make? He knows he’s married, why does it matter if she does? I say drop the dead weight, especially since it sounds like this isn’t the first time.
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Girl leave that man alone and move on and why you in a long distance relationship with your baby father? Also is he your husband or baby daddy because you said two different things. Lastly why you calling another chick in a different country lol it’s not even worth it you better check your man 
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Nope! You check HIM! She didn’t make any commitment to you…HE did….if you’re going to leave, then just leave, no words need to be exchanged.
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I’d contact her and give him divorce papers at the same time
Here the problem is not the other woman, it is your husband who owes you loyalty and respect, you have to confront him, I don’t think you can trust someone who betrays you and even worse if it is a long-distance relationship, where you will not be able to know if he is repentant and is being faithful.
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Sure - that way you know what it’s about and take it from there on leaving.
Bonus points: you can use it all in court.
I would definately message or call her. Call if possible, she deserves to know, if she doesnt. Then leave him
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I’d leave him first then let her know he was married this whole time.
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Nope leave! He will never change and there will always be another woman he is talking to. Hopefully he’s being scammed. Confront him and end it.
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Nope!! Just leave him! If its not her itll be someone else
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They’re getting money from him, they don’t care about his marital status ! Your problem is with your “husband”. He’s in the wrong, not the other person, that person owes you nothing. Your husband though, he owes you the respect! All the best !!
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Yes!! Yea to all your questions and please give us a update after hahahah
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I would just get a divorce and be done with him. Sounds like you’re on your own anyway. Maybe he’s giving her money to support a child.
Long distance relationship with your child’s father is a weird way to say husband. She says he is married but doesn’t say he is married to her.
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This woman lives in another county or another country ? Huge difference…if she lives in another county do they work together? If it’s another country then she probably doesn’t exist
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I really hope your “long distance relationship” is just your weird way of saying husband because if not then you’re also the issue here. If you’re not his wife then you really should’ve seen this coming since from the sound of it, you’re also the other woman…
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HE knows he’s married. He’s the problem not her.
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The red flags you are seeing now and ignore, will be the reasons why you leave later. Save yourself the heartache and time and divorce him. He will just get better at hiding his infidelity.
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End your relationship, HE is not going to stop cheating!
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I wouldn’t. He’s the problem
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You can if you want to, but in my opinion you’d be reaching out to the wrong person. He’s the one who is supposed to be committed to you. He’s the one cheating. He’s the one who wronged you. Not her. Who’s to say he hasn’t done this before, or will again? Do yourself a favor and walk away.
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A long distance relationship with your youngest child’s dad? Is he married to you or someone else? Talk to him about it. Just tell him it’s over.
I would let her know. But then leave him for sure. Atleast you’ll warn her. If she knows he married, then they deserve each other. She’s just as crappy as him. Just move on with your life. He doesn’t respect you at all
The fact that you even had to think twice about this just sends me
No you should reach out to YOUR HUSBAND.
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All the people saying just leave don’t contact her, if you were that other woman would you not want to know that the man you are with or getting with is married??
Why are you guessing?
You listed out enough information for us to know for you to leave him.
Why aren’t you?
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Husband or long distance relationship? If both it doesn’t seem like much of a marriage and hes probably finding attention that’s nearby?
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Go ahead , but she might know he is married and not care
Long distance relationship. So you and your husband don’t live together.
Absolutely . It’s only going to eat at you if you don’t. You better not hold that sh¡t in!
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Just leave… Save yourself heartache and trouble and just walk…
Just leave. There’s no need to even bother with the drama. Just file for divorce and leave. Once trust is gone it’s very hard to gain it back.
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U said long term relationship. Not married big difference
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Shes more than likely a dude and he’s being scammed. I’d guarantee it unless you know diff
It isn’t her fault, it’s him you should be mad at
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Yes I definitely would. I found another girl my ex had in his life and he told me a story about it not being real, I wish I would have reached out to her cuz it turned out the other girl was his wife… never again will I go against my suspicions
Reach out to her and let her know and then confront him
Let her know but leave him if he’s cheating. It’s worse if she knows he’s married and is seeing him but she might not know. He’s the real problem though
Obviously you are putting it in writing. You know you don’t trust or the idea of calling her wouldn’t be on your list. Leave him. Depends if you want drama if you choose to call her.
He’s sending money to another woman??!!!Not acceptable!!!Get to the bottom of this!!!
Long distance relationship…with your youngest child’s dad…sooo, are you married or single, how many kids do you have, does he live out of state…too many questions…sooo he’s in a long distance relationship with 2 women…there’s probably a third where he’s staying.
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She is probably a he and he’s getting scammed 
Tell her and then leave him. He obviously doesn’t love or respect you. I’m not saying that to be harsh, it’s just a simple fact. If he loved you, he wouldn’t be interested in someone else. You deserve better and so do your kids.
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He’s being scammed! When he figures that out you don’t need to be there to “fund” what he’s getting scammed out of. Bail while you can!