I’m sure she’s probably thinking you have a baby and are on a schedule the older kids are not n anymore.
If the invite is not there don’t force it their loss
I wouldn’t make it an issue - if it truly bothers you say something.
Be nice and honest feet feelings
No attacking her
Let her explain 
Why?
Until your kid is up and running around don’t push it. It’s different when they are older because then you’re not shoved up their asses all the time so
Living with it for almost 30 years. Lost that loving feeling long ago.
You said you don’t want to hang out with her. She probably doesn’t want to hang out with you either.
Nope-Been with my hubby for 17 years-He has 2 sisters-I think maybe once eac-MAYBE
How about you just invite them over?
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Wait for the right time no need to rush in your daughter to socialize.
You’re over reacting, how much hanging out can an 8month old do?
First of all if your husband is the briother its his place to speak up. Second of all dont chase no body that doesnt include you. He shld say something… But only once.also u can invite her or her kids and not her lol over sometimes If nothing changes move on.UPDATE I just realized she said an 8 month old lol girl move on. U said u dnt want to hang out with her. Her kids are 14 and 16 your kid is 8 mnths
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Let it go if they care about her they will make an effort
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No. It’s rude to invite yourself. If there choose to not have a closeknit relationship you have to let it be.
Never beg someone to be in your child’s life🤷♀️
Maybe she just isn’t close to your husband
Invite the kids to do something or pay them to come help with your little ones.
Maybe she’s worried re covid
Shes 8 months she can’t even do anything🤦🏾♀️
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If you would like to be included then invite yourself, you dont have to stay hours, just a brief hour, invite them for lunch even, or meet in a park. You are family even if you dont see them often. Maybe she doesnt realise that it would be good to all meet up. Sometimes you have to meet in the middle, you dont have to become best friends but at least become friends. She might feel that you dont see her kids either. Works both ways.
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So… why don’t you invite them over? The teenagers can babysit the younger ones while you go out with the in laws… although they may know how you feel about them and don’t want it around them
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Most 14 and 16 year olds aren’t super big into hanging out with and bonding with babies… maybe when yours is a little older and can actually play and interact I could see more bonding with the 4 and 6 year olds… but at this stage it’s not likely to happen the way you expect! And you said you don’t want to hang out with them yourself so I’m not sure if this is more just you feeling left out (which is valid) or what exactly your expectations are
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How about you invite them over?
Invite them over to your house.
Let it go for now she is still young
Invite her to your house
Nah. Count your blessings lol
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You said “her other brother”. Is her other brother not also your brother? If so, that may have something to do with it.
And “other brother” leads me to assume you’re a guy. If that’s correct, you mention having a husband. Could the issue be her not liking you being gay?
It might be because she assumes life is busy with the baby… And perhaps with the pandemic she’s just trying to protect your family. It goes both ways too! Perhaps invite them over to hang out with you guys and see how it goes. She might just assume you wouldn’t want to go over to their place with the baby.
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You ask her to set up a day for you all to hang out. Tell her you want your kids to get to know their cousins. Worst case scenario she says no. But at least you tried. No harm in making the first step. Ignore all the rude commenters who make you second guess yourself, you got this!
I think it’s hard to expect the older kids to hang out and really interact with an 8 month old 
I was super close to my cousins who were closer in age but I also have almost a dozen cousins who are ten plus years younger than me and I have a different relationship with them (in addition to a brother who is 13 years younger than me) the age gap can just make it hard. I’d personally let your little get a little older. My SIL and I have three kids between us who are all 2 right now and we didn’t even start really doing play dates until they were all 1.
You don’t really want to hang out with her but you mad at her for not wanting to hang out with you 
. Why don’t you invite them over to yours instead of waiting to be invited if it bothers you so much.
I know what that feels like. My family does the same th in ng to my kids. They are only invited if the know they will participate in and with their habits. This does not bother me, but feel bad that my relatives do not want want to consider inviting my kids and also for them to behave when they are around them. But to each their own, but when they want something they do not hesitate to come around and take. Right?
Just let it go. You should be enjoying your time with her now. She’s tiny…and she will not always be. Don’t worry about other family. Maybe they’re trying to be considerate towards you and don’t want to bother you and your daughter time. Plus if you don’t wanna see the adult members of family why would you force the issue with the baby.
That’s toxic af. Keep her away from people like that. My husband’s family is the same way. They are “too good for us” -by their logic:roll_eyes:
“more power to em,” I say. Plus it says more about them than us, we’ve always tried to let them be involved, went out of our way to let them spend the time- we thought they needed. when in reality they just wanted us around so they could talk shit. My mother always told me birds of a feather flock together and pick at the best fruit. So let em pick. 
Enjoy your family ya made together.