Oh my, now did I ever survive? My grandpa whip me all the way from the pasture to the house for eating the cows salt block. Never will know why I didn’t die from it. I was 4 and I love my grandpa till the day he died, 10years later.
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Get over it! The kids not hurt
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This is why kids act the way the do now…
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I would hate to see your kid when he hits his teens.
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I could see if he was only like 18 mos., but a 4 year old knows the meaning of “don’t touch” so it seems he isn’t used to doing as he is told. It was a “tap”, your words… Seems like it was more about getting his attention than physical assault. 'Probably swatted his hand away from the plant. I don’t see it as a big deal.
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Omg he tapped him get over it… next are ur still going to baby him when he is 18 and shooting up schools doing drugs etc… if u don’t want anyone to watch ur child then do it urself…I’m sure at 4 he has a phone or a device to use… My God sorry to wake the hell up
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Literally nothing wrong with this at all- they sound like amazing grandparents honestly
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Big difference from tapping/whipping and a beating
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You need parenting classes one of the reasons this country is in a mess is because of the lack of discipline now days
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Listen, we all make mistakes. He let you know what happened and apologized for it. That shows that he’s trustworthy and honorable. You have overreacted to this situation.
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Get over it !! Kids needs to know that no means NO
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I think he’ll be ok. A tap isn’t bad to re-direct
you are over reacting and your child needs to learn that no means no.
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should have stopped first time told could mean life or death sometime
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One time?? No… please don’t take your child away from their grandparents for tapping your child! Just let them know what you expect from them. Jeez Maybe a little too extreme reaction momma
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Over reacting
Get over it
The fact that your parents are even watching your child is amazing! I have 13 grandkids and I baby sit 7 of them! I use gentle parenting but if the two year old with autism will not listen when I say no, then I pop his hand. Undisciplined children become disrespectful adults!
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YES overreacting. Be thankful they care enough to tell you
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PLEASE don’t deprive ur Son the love of his grandparents over this…
Like he said, it was just a reaction & he is super sorry
I’m sure it won’t happen again
Did they beat you or mistreat you when you were young?
Did they mistreat or beat you Mom/Dad when they were younger?
If so, then don’t let him go there by himself!
I seriously hope you reconsider ur decision & let him go there to visit them…
The more people that are there to love ur Son, the better Man he will be in the future…
Good luck:blush:
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a slap on the hand is a long way from his heart will not hurt him but handcuff in ten years will get over it where is the hnoledge of the meaning of NO
Probably did you a favor .
Kids need good discipline, that is the problem with this world now, parents don’t want to discipline
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I agree with Liana, overreacting!!
Get over it maybe you should disaplein your child more when you tell him to stop he should stop, I work in a school and kids now a days have no respect for adults cause there parents let them get away with things
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You would deny a relationship with the grandparents over a tap?.
Chill out.
Yup next time grandpa says no to touching pants constantly: kid will listen.
My q is why would your 4 yr old not listen prior to the tap, if you as a parent use other methods?.
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Kids need good discipline, that is the problem with this world now, parents don’t want to discipline
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There are other ways for dealing with a 4 year old that “tapping” their hand, bottom, etc, a benign word for physically assaulted, slapped, etc. The fact that Granddad could not cope without slapping woukd mean that I would not leave my child with him unsupervised unless he learned some new techniques for getting little ones to do what you need them to do or stop doing. Distracting the child, removing them from that room, taking them outside for a walk, or to the park to play and use up some energy. Even just moving the plants to another room until the child is collected…and in future move the plants to their bedroom before the child visits to keep them out of temptations way. Raising children is NOT done the way they did it, nor even how their children did it…and one must respect the Parents wishes. If an adult cannot follow the Parents wishes or cannot control their own actions, they have no business babysitting imo. I am an American living in Scotlandd
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No one wants to discipline any more.and that is why our world is what it is…
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Absolutely over reacting. Sometimes it is just a reaction.
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A tap on the hand is not going to hurt ,he might learn to listen.
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why didn’t the kid stop when he was told to? How’s your method working for you?
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A slap on the hands is OK he will learn not to touch its not like he tried to hurt him
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kids need a Bible and a Belt, just sayin!
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SMDH!! He did not hurt or abuse that child in any way. You are hurting and abusing your child by removing a loving grandparent from his life because you are something I can’t say because fb is one also.
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Honestly a slap on the hand is minimal punishment. My gram used to slap the back of my head when i was a kid, HARD when i didnt listen.
May not have been the best move on her part but i mean… I learned to listen.
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Definitely overreacting!
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This question may be the reason we are in such a state of affairs in our country right now.
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Have read down through a lot of these comments. Mom you are raising a child that if it continues will have NO RESPECT FOR PEOPLE OR THINGS. A tap or slap is not ABUSE. I was taught respect and proper behavior with a paddling or a smack. It didn’t do me any harm.
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Keeeep sending them over,bet you they’ll learn to listen 
and obey, that’s not abusing,
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Maybe YOU should have gotten your ass tapped a few times. Maybe that’s the problem in your world. Overreacting? Please, you should be ashamed to admit this in public. 
Omg 
You pull him from there over what most of us think is not even an issue and put him in a commercial or crappy facility and you’ll wish you just let this go as nothing.
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Honestly it’s not a stranger I wouldn’t mind it it’s not gona do any harm he said sorry we were batered as kids
Seems to me if a 4 year old doesn’t understand what no or don’t touch means somethings wrong with the way she or he is being taught.
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I NEVER ha d Grandparents & it SUCKS…is that how you want your kids to feel when they get older… a “tap” is FOR SURE not a “beating” ! and to rip the child away from the Grandparents for a Darned TAP is is ABUSE in Itself!
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Get over it. Many parents in the past spanked or slapped their kid hands and butts and they lived. If more parents did this today we likely would have less thugs and disrespectful teens!!!
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Definitely overreacting…
Nothing wrong with smacking your grandkids on the hand or the butt for not listening 3rd time warning! That would hurt the grandparents keeping them away💯 OVER REACTING MAJORLY…
Good grief get a freaking backbone. Kids now a days are soooo coddled. When does no mean no? A spanking or being slapped is not abuse!! Discipline shows boundaries and love for a child not to discipline means you could care less about his behavior or disrespect for others. I know so many non spanking parents and their children are a miserable non boundary nightmare.
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You’re overreacting, honey. Not sending your child to his/her grandparents will steal precious memories and learning experiences from the child as well as the grandparents. Don’t you dare do that!
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It was a tap… Even if its against your rules it was only a tap and you’re totally overreacting. Keeping them from their grandparents over a tap is absolutely insane. Your child will recover
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Probably the only discipline this child ever had
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If you keep that baby from your grandparents, when something happens to them, YOU will regret every second of it!
I say a tap goes a lot further than words when a child doesn’t listen… you might need to try it sometimes
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So when your child keeps putting their fingers in an electrical outlet, you are going to just put them in time out?
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Sounds like you need a good “tap” on the head to have some respect for your grandfather and the “minor” disciplinary action he took on your son who wouldn’t listen 
what the fuck is the world coming to 
Stop being such a fairy and wake up! How is a Tap on the shoulder hitting?
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You truly are overreacting. Would you rather them yell at your child to get them to stop? What if that plant made your child sick?
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I feel that if you’re not comfortable as the mother, then don’t send them him over there. You feel a way for a reason, and that’s the only reasoning you have, you didn’t say they couldn’t see him, you just don’t want him alone.
Teach ur kid to respect his nana and papa💯
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And your kid will more than likely be a problem when he gets older from not listening and not being punished. If I tell my kid no she wont listen but when I smack her ass and make her cry then she realized she done something wrong. Hell when I was a kid I got whooped on the ass with a cut 2×4 with different sized holes drilled in it that left marks, straightened me up real quick
Omg. So YOU’RE that Mom huh? Really?
Good luck with that:rofl:
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A hand slap? Really? Nothing to get your panties in a wad over. Children need discipline and a hand tap is not abuse nor did it hurt your child. Kids need grand parents in thier life. If this is your only gripe, move on and allow these grands thier visits with the child. No harm done.
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Without discipline I can only imagine what your child is going to be like and a tap on the hand is certainly not going to hurt him
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I never spanked my children and they turned out great I disciplined them in other ways but your grandparents are a different generation I would still trust them but explain to them you want them disciplined in different ways and explain it
Sound like you need a slap on the hand too
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You are overreacting.
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I think you’re overreacting. A tap on the hand is going to get his attention and he’ll learn from it. It’s clear that your son doesn’t understand what “no” means.
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Umm you better discipline your kid there is nothing wrong with tapping that butt or hands if you do not your gonna have a problem child when they get older .
You’re overreacting.
They recognized they did something you were not okay with. But your child is fine.
They didn’t beat your child, they don’t abuse your child.
Get real!! Be thankful you have loving grandparents that want to be involved. And tapping a child’s hand is NOTHING traumatizing.
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A tap is not discipline, you on the other hand need to get your act together before your Dad turns around and says " don’t bring him here again until you have taught him to respect other people’s property" let’s see how long that takes.
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Just goes to show everyone! There are 176 people that actually like this idiots question. Popped him on his hand because he wouldn’t listen. If I were his grand parents I wouldn’t care if mom didn’t bring him over! This is exactly why we have all these violent youths today!!!
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If he’s four and still not listening apparently your Waze are not working
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I just wanna know what other ideas u have to get a 4 yr old to listen 
if they had to ask him repeatedly to stop touching the plants that doesn’t sound like he listens well.
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You’re mad because your grandfather tapped your child’s hand? It’s a tap not a beating. Teach your child not to touch things that don’t belong to him. Problem solved.
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Your parents survived
I am a Grandpa. When in my house, we go by my rules. Not being mean. Just stating what I know works and seeing from the child’s misbehavior what don’t work. Better toughen up or that child is going to have a tough life.
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Yikes. A tap isn’t going to hurt the kid and at 4 they should be understanding what no is.
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Smack that hand at my house not tap it
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You are overreacting! A tap on the hand is not going to adversely affect your child. Let your children visit their Great Grandparents
Now, it may be that they are just too old to care for the child… that is a different story. They just May no longer have the patience to keep up with the little ones and May need support from the parents when the children are there.
It takes a village after all…
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Your child- if you’re not comfortable then stop letting him go over without you
So what if you’re over reacting in others eyes do what you want you can always decide differently at any moment
your child will ask to go to grandma and grandpa
Then explain what happened and maybe he will understand and not touch other people stuff when ask not to
Definitely be thankful pop apologized
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You are over thinking it. Let it go. Everyone makes mistakes but if became a habit then it’s a problem.
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Full on ass beatings were handed out at our house growing up and we deserved them the end result was four respectful adults who say yes sir no sir or mam and help anyone they can we also learned please and thank you which I still do at 51 years old
o wee, daar gaan die baba saam met die badwater!
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then don’t send him there you are going to have a spoiled child😡
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You had better let grandpa tap that hand so latter someone don’t kill him for touching something that he was not supposed to. Over reacting yes👍
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Overreacting, a smack on the hand or on the bum was given to me growing up & it never hurt me a bit. Raised my son the same way & didn’t hurt him either.
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I agree! Grandpa’s house, his rules! Don’t like it don’t send them over there. Pretty simple. I couldn’t imagine the look my dad would give me if I told him how to watch my kids 
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Over reacting their your grandparents they probably did it to u too & you still love them. get over it & move on
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No let your grandparents have their time with their great grandchildren don’t be stupid
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Tap and hit are 2 different actions … how many times was the child told no but still did it … it is called discipline … it all starts at home … parents should teach their child the meaning of no and the consequences if the child does not listen.
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Yes there are other ways to discipline a 4 year old who has been told numerous times to stop doing something, spank him on the butt! You don’t have to beat him, but a nice, firm “tap” should get his attention…
No grandparents teaching the child a lesson the could hurt them tapping is not hurting the child slapping would hurt more
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You are over reacting im sorry to say. A tap on the hand is not going to damage your child in any way and honestly if at 4 years old they cannot listen to and follow a simple instruction there is something wrong really. I would expect that behavior from a child of perhaps 1 or 2 maybe but in saying that my daughter isn’t quite 1 and she understands what’s she allowed to touch and what she isn’t. Don’t take away from your child or the grandparents over something so minor especially considering there has been an apology 
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I understand why they’re upset with you. I would be too.
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That’s what grand parents do
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Girl you need help. I can’t believe you even brought this hear. I feel sorry for that poor kid!
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This is only the beginning… you need to teach your child that if someone ask him/her to do something then they need to listen… this was just a plant who knows what the next time could be…or when school starts and his/her friends ask to stop doing something and they hit … your child your decision
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I see nothing wrong with it if you don’t make them listen to you they will run all over you and other people spanking never hurt me not beat child abuse is wrong but a spat is not abuse
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at least he got disipline that has worked for years
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Good on you girl,problem with old school tapping it turns into a boot in the ass which ends in the bash,if that was my old man I’d fuck him up,don’t ever touch my fkn kids I don’t give a dam,if you got raised in the sixties you probably couldn’t wait to get old enough to return all that nasty shit back doubles time,come on this is how people with no parenting skills end up in jail,if you still into using physical tecs instead of verbal.