In the big ppls world if you keep doing what you’re told not to do you go to prison…best you learn this rule when you’re young …
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I got my butt whopped only a very few times when I was a kid because I didn’t listen to my mother or father but I never got whopped for the same thing 2 times does That type of discipline work on all kids the same way nope I don’t believe it does A tap on the had is not hurting a kid I think you’re being a little older reactive
Something my Dad did to us all the time P.J.
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He tapped your kid on the hand?! No, you under reacted! You should file assault charges; lock grampa up and throw away the key! 
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In my (obviously unpopular) opinion, anyone that has to threaten or be physically aggressive towards their child to get a point across is just flat out impatient.
Also, if you decide that you don’t want your child to be physically disciplined then you shouldn’t tolerate it period. If you’ve made it clear that you don’t want anyone’s hand on your child, you do NOT have to feel sorry for setting those boundaries with the other adult, no matter who it is.
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If I can’t make them mind, I would not keep them. A pop on the hand will not hurt them but will get their attention. You are overreacting, in my opinion.
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Mom of 3 here……honestly a light tap on the hand isn’t gonna cause any harm. It may have surprised your child but it’s not like he was smacking your 4 year old across the face. I lightly tap my kids hands and butts when they don’t listen. I do understand from your point of view that you don’t want any physical discipline and it is something that is hard to do. However even with non physical discipline your child will still push every single boundary and every limit that he can. Yes it’s a great idea to stand firm that you don’t want physical discipline but this situation is honestly not a big deal and you are over reacting to it. I would suggest that you pull your grandfather off to the side and tell him calmly and firmly you understand it was a reaction however you do not want him to do that again. Yes it’s your child and yes you have every right to discipline how you want but you don’t have to post on Facebook about it. Pull the person off to the side and tell them once that you don’t want that done to your child. If it happens all the time I would limit unsupervised visits until that person understands and respects your rules for your child.
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I bet your hands were tapped by the same grandparents, how did you turn out? Your grandparents are going to treat your child the same way they treated you
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Parenting gas gone out the window
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Yes you’re overreacting
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It’s because of this type of parents that our prisons are full. Grandpa should have christened the kids butt with a belt.
She did not slap him, or spank him,. a tap on the hand is ‘softer’ than having his hand yanked away or many other potential ways s/he could have disciplined him. he’s apologized for stretching your rules, Let it go and be grateful it wasn’t much worse. Having access to the elder generation is too important to kids- and grandparents- to deny both parties the memories they can share.
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Overreacting, grandparents see things differently and he said he was sorry. Your child is not glass and apparently doesn’t listen. Hitting is one thing getting a child’s attention is another be thankful you have grandparents that want your child around!! Stop with the drama! I was the grandparent I’d tell you to teach your child to listen and he/she wouldn’t get tapped on the hand!
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Oh my, sounds like the child should go to see his grandparents more often. A little tap??? Get real.
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Perhaps the plants… or some of them could be toxic?! That would be horrible for a child who won’t listen.
Absolutely NOT! NOT over reacting. No one has the right to discipline your child in any way physical. I have been in your situation. The tap was not just a tap. Quite a hard rap over the knuckles from a fork. I wasn’t there and my husband was at work, during that overlap time. I did however see my SIL smack my eldest on the bum…he was still in nappies at the time. Right in front of me before I could react. Long time ago, he’s 25 now so don’t remember what it was about. Wasn’t hugely bad but she was standing closer to him. I went Ballistic!!! no one has the right to hit my child/ren, absolutely NO ONE! We do not hit as a punishment except for our youngest boy who would not stop pulling out plugs when he was just crawling, he would put his little fist around the plastic bit but thankfully never seemed to touch the prongs. Then as he couldn’t talk or rationalize his hand got a slap. He learnt and now he laughs at his little self. Other means are quite affective if you use them wisely. Sorry long story but NO it is not acceptable for anyone else to physically discipline any of your kids.
And this my friends is the reason kids are the way they are today… you’re definitely over reacting.
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Definitely overreacting lol
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This is so ridiculous & obviously you’re a young mom 
- kids need the fear of being punished to learn lessons. To be afraid to piss off your father for instance, is the best thing that could happen to a kid. Especially these days. Kids are a hella mess & people wonder why
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If you feel uncomfortable don’t send him. #trustyourgut
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You realize you were raised the same way by them right? I am sure you turned out just fine, your son will to.
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Look after your own kids then there not babysitters
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Overreacting most definitely!!!
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find a psychiatrist or psychologist to babysit your 4yr old next time, yr husbands’ parents are too good to be emotionally abused by you:eyes:
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Granpa should of kicked his ass 
I wanted to scroll, I tried to scroll but my fingers wouldn’t let me scroll. Now I guess I’m a troll.
Wake up to yourself!!! Your grandparents deserve more respect than you are clearly giving them. Your precious little bundle would have suffered no harm whatsoever but your stupid attitude is clearly harming your grandparents. Check yourself lady!!
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Forgiveness is the thing to do you have your grandparents your child has their great grandparents let them love each other.:blue_heart:
no your grandpa was right it is his house and your child would not listen he kept telling him to stop the verbal subjection did not work so he had to be shown authority from grand pa now he will remember grand pa’s word is law and a peck or spanking never hurt anyone i raised 5 and i was strict and today they set and laugh about it but it was law in our home and they were all strict in there family and i m glad and thankfull to God above he let me live long enough to see some of them become thankful and caring adluts
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Yes you are over reacting. Maybe it showed him not to do that again. Maybe you should show him right from wrong. I’m old school tho
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Yea your over reacting. He didn’t hurt him or scar him for life it was just a smack on the butt. Come on get real
The child is not scarred for life and learned a valuable lesson.Some Plants can be harmful to children
Sounds to me like you need to see a therapist.
Yes I agree you should apology to your grandparents for over reacting. Your attitude is why so many kids are messed up today.
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Definitely overreacting! So many houseplants are toxic. What if he were reaching for arsenic or something else poisonous? Could he then intervene? Same thing. Be thankful he loves your child.
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A swat on the butt or a swat on the hand is not abuse oh my goodness you are way overreacting it teaches the child to listen and to mind…
Don’t take them unless you’re visiting as well they aren’t babysitters
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You are so over reacting! No wonder kids these days are the way they are. You’re lucky to have grandparents that will watch your children. Grow up and get real lady.
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Whenever someone asks how entitled adults became that way
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you new parents weird af to me! Grow up
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i bet he/she is a vegan too
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Tap on the hand ain’t gonna hurt nothing!
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You are very much over reacting!!! Thats why he doesn’t stop when he’s told no, cause you are reacting like this over a little hand tap… You’re going to seriously say you’re uncomfortable sending them over?? Dang…. Your poor grandparents
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A tap on the hand is justified if he wouldn’t shop. Consequences for everything
We are all wrapped in do not hit the child. A tap or a small tap on the butt gets their attention.
You are way over reacting! I’m pretty sure you got your hand popped as a child. How did you turn out?
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I feel sorrier for the poor grandparents. They were ‘caring’ for ur child and he was totally right to tap ur child if he was in danger of spilling the plant. Maybe u would need some sence tapped into that brain of yours. Grow up!!!
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That’s for sure he will do it again he now thinks.its he’s right as he got off so light
Wait until he is no longer tapping a plant but doing other things!! Your son knows there is no consequences to his actions…kids are smarter than you and me…good luck in the future and good luck in your drives to visit your son in prison
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You are being dramatic
Yes! Keep him at YOUR house. He doesn’t listen.
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Yes! Keep him at YOUR house. He doesn’t listen.
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Teach them not to touch other peoples things.They would have got good smack from me if they did not do as they were asked
It sounds like Grandpa is telling the truth. He said it was reflex and he will be more mindful as to not do it again. Most parents used to automatically tap a child’s hand when getting them to stop touching things.
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My grandparents would have done more then just “tap” my child’s hands for not listening. You don’t want your child to not get disciplined for not listening then make sure they understand to not touch other people’s belongings and to mind grandpa/grandma when your not there!
Wow These responses are rough. Well I have a different perspective than a lot of people- I think if that’s the way he has traditionally disciplined then it will be hard for him to do other things when the time comes. The child is four so testing boundaries is expected. Your son will either learn from this and decide to listen quicker or he will continue and your grandparents will either handle it how they do or try to respect you. I think trusting them is ok unless it becomes a habit or increases in severity.
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Overreacting and grandpa did not have to apologize.
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A little tap on the hand and the mom is getting upset? Wow, just wow.
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