Yeah so we gonna pretend that dude don’t even exist… some things are better kept secret. Lol good luck mama
I wouldn’t put him on anything and I wouldn’t tell him nothing … he can’t need to know …
Don’t tell him he doesn’t need to know
Do not tell him… he sounds aweful Mama.
Keep him as far away from you and the baby as you can. Let him keep thinking there isn’t a baby. Don’t put his name anywhere. You don’t want to expose your child to that piece of crap whether he is the dad or not. Your child deserves better than that.
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Don’t tell him, you are doing what best for your kid and they do not need to have that in there life. He is toxic
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You are in a very difficult situation obviously. It is a very emotional time and it is hard to think clearly. Is it too late for an abortion? Do your kids know you are pregnant? It doesn’t sound like you have the time to devote to a new baby. I know it sounds harsh of me to say, but even if you choose to put the baby up for adoption, I don’t know how adoptable the baby may be, especially if it is autistic. Genes are powerful.
I would be very afraid of what the baby is going to inherit. For your mental health and that of your children, you need to put this chapter behind you.
The problem with this whole thing is, he is going to know because her sister is dating his best friend. Don’t you think the best friend is going to tell him.
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Don’t tell him
Your still pregnant and your keeping your baby
Don’t list him as the father
But I have to ask
Why you suddenly jumped into a physical relationship with him to start with
Before you found out more about him
No I’m in no way judging you sweetie
I’m just trying to understand how you got into this situation
Sorry you didn’t know you jump in a VOLCANO, no doubt you must move on, like now, maybe consider adoption, no future here, run as far as possible,
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in that order… 
Runnnnnnnn
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I wouldn’t tell him and I would get a restraining order
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You don’t think that your sister and her boyfriend will tell this man? I’m glad you weren’t blind and got away from him.
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Tell him nothing because it would be an ongoing battle and your child would suffer for it! Good Luck and Congrats on your baby!
Is this a true story…?
No, I definitely would not…move away, maybe even out of state and get far away from him as possible…Also I would seek help for his son, his son sounds like he is in an unsafe environment
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Yeah forget him dont tell him shit and when your child gets older tell him what ypu want to tell him bout his father but that dude can f-off
Do NOT tell him. I have a narcissistic ex and we have 2 kids together, he is pure evil and makes life so chaotic. Consider yourself fortunate and never speak of him or to him again. Best wishes to you 
Kid could meet fertilizer of your seed when he’s older, like 18. You’ll only go thru he’ll with an unstable man
No need to tell him. He sounds evil and needs counseling. Deny he is the father. You sound strong, you are right, you don’t need him in your life.
I say, don’t tell him yet. Unfortunately, with how he sounds, I would move (easier said than done).
If he does find out, I would be afraid of him coming near the child if he knows where you live.
Holy sh*t, this is a novel, really? Maybe I’m old fashioned.
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There is no way I would let that man near my child. Please try to seek help for his son as he is obviously suffering trauma. I would definitely reach out to the mother to have her input however the Dad was happy when he was dating can you imagine now what he’s put in that kid through? I would rather my child and Foster Care then around a narcissistic abusive father. Me personally, I don’t believe in abortions however I would tell him that you’ve had one otherwise he’s never going to leave you alone. Or tell him that you had an affair when with him and it’s not his.
Please Do not tell him!
Nope in your situation I 100% think that keeping your baby safe means not telling him.
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i wouldn’t tell him but in the future, he may or the child may do dna thing to see where the bio father is.
Do you really need to ask? You just need to have the child tested for Autism so you can get the proper medical treatment should he test positive. Do not contact that man ever, but remember one day the child will b an adult and will ask?
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I would let him believe u had abortion …and stay as far away as possible
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Regardless he’s going to find out
I was in a similar situation. My instinct was to move & never tell him. I fell for the *but he’s the father", “men have rights too”, “you’re depriving your child from their father” etc mentality. My kids & I suffered years of abuse from him, his xwife & his son. Even after I got rid of him he had me harassed. I ended up getting a court order allowing me to move away.
Don’t subject yourself to that. First stop ALL contact with him & anyone that knows him. Create new social media accounts in a different name. Keep your old account. Second, move as far away as you can (idk what your custody limitations are with your other kids). Second change your name. If your other kids have a different name than you do now maybe take theirs. Better if you can change everyone’s last name to a name he won’t associate with you. Pretend to live where you do now on your current SM accounts. Mention going to places near you, wish your kids a happy first day of school for the school they go now etc. That way if he has you stalked by someone they think you’re still around. Only friend people you trust not to have any contact with him on your page. Same with giving info about baby. It’s hard but you need to get rid of anyone who talk to him. Stay safe! I hope you the best.
He having no rights if he’s not on the birth certificate is not entirely true. He can still obtain rights. If your sister talks to him & tells him you had the baby he could legally get rights. Sadly you may have to cut your sister off as well as him.
Absolutely don’t tell him!
I would just let him think I had the abortion. Keep him as far away as possible from your baby and block him from all contact!
Dang gurl
No don’t ever put his name on the birth certificate and don’t include him in the child birth either cut him out completely
you just need to move on and let that go and you also need to move so when you have this baby you won’t have to deal with him.
Good luck
Don’t ever see or talk to him again.
You don’t need him. Keep him and his toxic ass away from you