I would follow the advice of your attorney and I wouldn’t tell him when the baby is born. No way. And also, I would tell your friends not to say a word either. And when you tell them that, I would show them everything you e been dealing with regarding this guy. He’s no good for anyone. If it was me, I may also call cps because of his current child’s living conditions. Sounds like he’s incredibly unfit. That child is in danger. Good luck, momma.
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Bye FELICIA! Good Luck! I’m years to come
When the child asks about his dad… a traveling salesman!! Then once the child is an adult… spill the beans!
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No no no don’t tell him! He sounds like psycho to me! Sounds like you have already been thru enough! Don’t look back!
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Nope i wouldnt tell him nothing
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He thinks your having an abortion. So say nothing. Maybe in few years he’s gotten himself straight maybe just maybe tell.
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Don’t tell him he might ask for a DNA test to prove it is his
Don’t tell him a thing. And if he keeps pushing the situation just tell him you went thru with the abortion even tho you didn’t and lose all contact with him. If he continues press charges. Regardless you said you have proof of everything and your attorney said you’d win the case then don’t worry about it and listen to your attorney
Don’t EVER tell him.
When the baby is old enough to understand tell him/her the truth about their sperm donor and leave it at that.
DONT!! It will effect the baby on the long run. i did the saame thing with my narcissistic ex and at the end he found out took me to court for custody fwd 6 years later and now my son has to do therapy for all the hell he has brought to him
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Half porch witch lady story was better needs more dragons
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I would be questioning how much of a friend your friends boyfriend is? Clearly he doesn’t know him very well?
Good luck mama. You do what your HEART tells you.
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Idk what state you live in. But when you go into the hospital tell them to ghost you. The only people that will know you are there are the ones you tell and trust. The front desk can’t tell anyone weather you are there or not.
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Why would it even cross your mind to put a narcissistic, hateful man’s name on your child’s birth certificate ? NO!
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Nope I wouldn’t tell him. You need to raise your children in peace
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You already know in your GUT what you NEED to do to protect yourself and your unborn baby. IF you decide NOT to tell him then THAT is what it is. NO further contact with him. Move away if you can. Change your phone number, change your name if possible, leave the fathers name blank on the birth cert. Thats what I did. When your baby becomes a legal adult and he asks questions make sure you have all the correct answers. Put a picture of dad, and any other info you have on him in a very safe place and tell NO ONE. IF he continues to harass you have a Personal Protection drawn up. Surely you are aware this baby could have the same Spectrum diagnosis…are you prepared for THAT? How close is your sister and her bf to this guy…will they keep your personal-ness from him? You may have to completely distance yourself from them if you want to be free from the daddy. My prayers are with you. If you have concerns talk to a Pastor or a Lawyer.
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Wake up girl nooooooooooooooo
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I wouldn’t tell him anything however if he’s your sister’s boyfriends best friend he’ll probably know right?
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You answered your own question! You don’t want a toxic narcissist in your life or your other children’s life
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I think you tell stories too
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I would not tell him anything.
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Just disappear with the baby… f that guy you’ll save yourselves so much trouble
This happened to me, minus him being almost 7’ Nigerian.
I told him and I regretted it.
Don’t tell him. That’s YOUR baby.
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I’d have my baby and never tell him ! Definitely don’t put him on the birth certificate.
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You will save your baby an yourself a lot of misery DONT put him on the birth certifcate … i would not tell him … MOVE ON FAST …
In my opinion, he lost all ‘rights’ when he wanted you to abort. So, I think you should lose his number, forget his name, and have nothing more to do with him. With all the lies he told, you don’t really know who he is so putting ‘Unkown’ on the birth certificate is totally true!!! Good luck.
I’d have my baby and never tell him ! Definitely don’t put him on the birth certificate.
How has been charged with child endangerment but has custody of his son? His sons would have been in foster care. Doesn’t matter if the mom is out of the picture.
Cut your loses. Don’t ask for support and don’t put him on birth certificate than he has no rights unless he takes you to court. But if his record is that bad he wouldn’t do that anyway
No ! You need to cut contact for the health and safety of you and your baby !
Wow. First of all I would be mad with my sister and her boyfriend. If this guy is a best friend of your sister’s boyfriend, they should have known what he was like.
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Oh hell no! The DV paragraph did for me.
WOW! You really stepped in a pile of stink. Hope you’re up for phase 2.
I would cut off all contact with him. His other child is being raised in an negative matter, yours will be worse, especially since he told you to abort it.
You have stated you have other children and you’re struggling to support them. Maybe it is time for you to consider adoption for this baby. So many people would love to have a baby and can’t, think about it, they could give it all the things you can’t. Think about this and make the right choice for the child, your other kids and yourself.
Don’t tell him.And if you can move somewhere else.
Girl, in my opt, he lost all rights when he wanted you to abort. I would loose his number, forget his name and thank the Lord for letting you avoid this train wreck!
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I wouldn’t be telling him, ever.
He didn’t want you to have it. Don’t tell him you had it now.
Nope don’t tell him his loss he don’t deserve to know
My son’s father became an entirely different person when I got pregnant. He started to control me and made me quit my job and would have the neighbors spy on me, like he would get home from work and would know the conversations I had on the phone and I decided to leave him after basically crying for help to my parents and my best friend and they all helped me get out. After I got out he pretty much stalked me he would leave gifts for my children on the porch in the middle of the night and I would find gifts in a bag hanging on my side mirrors on my car when I went to the store and lots of things like that I actually decided to allow him to go to my anatomy ultrasound and we found out that we were having a boy and he started to deny he was the father just because he was a boy and he said that all his brothers had daughters so it couldn’t be possible that he was having a boy. This man was also 49 years old and I was 24 you would think he would know better LOL. But I stopped contact with him after that and then I did not tell him when I had the baby and I told the hospital not to allow him or anyone else in that I did not authorize just in case he found out. And I did eventually let him know that I had him because he knew when I was due and we went for child support because the county automatically filed and he brought his neighbor with him and they accused me of hurting my baby because he had a very prominent vein on the bridge of his nose and they were telling me that it was a bruise and I punched my newborn in the nose and that he was going to take him away from me and had me bawling my eyes out at the county office. So if everything you said is true I would absolutely not tell him and I would also watch your back because you never know he seems like the type that would stalk you or try to cause trouble.
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Call his former lady and find out what she went thru. His boy should be taken away from him!
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If it’s the sisters boyfriends best friend I’m just curious as to how she is going to keep it a secret from him unless she cuts all contact with her sibling.
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How can you type all that and then ask if you should tell him 
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Say nothing. Pretend he doesn’t exist and move on. Block him on everything. The only thing is he’s best mates with your friend so it’s possible he will find out.
Why would your friend set you up with him
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Don’t tell him ,you and the baby are better off
Run don’t walk away from this guy.
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Don’t tell that man shit. Period. You and your baby will be so much better off with him having absolutely zero part in y’alls lives. Wish you the best 
You’ll save yourself soooooooo much stress by not telling him. I wouldn’t trust him around my child and he doesn’t sound fit to be a dad so there really isn’t any point.
If/when he finds out the baby was born, you need to be ready to be as devious and dishonest to him as he was to you. Tell him that you were sleeping with someone else, too and that a test proved the other guy was the father. Wouldn’t you rather have him thinking you were a whore than have him ruin your life and your child’s life?
Don’t tell him. If your child wants to contact him when they’re grown, that’s their business, but the way he’s acting right now, don’t let him near the child.
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I would never tell him, he has lost his rights already!
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Don’t tell him and if he finds out he would have to pay for the paternity test. This is your child. Don’t even bother finding out anything more about him just let him go and don’t look back.
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Do not ever tell him!
Absolutely not !
You do your thing and leave him out of hun .
No good will ever come from telling him.
He has zero rights when it comes to this child , do not put him on the birth certificate either.
I wish you all the luck in the world hun but you’re a strong woman and you don’t need shit like that in yours or your child’s life !
Id love then tell him thru court ordered papers requesting child support…get a restraining order also
Run don’t walk out of this situation. Break remaining contacts. Protect yourself and children Wise up fast
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stay clear if you don’t need his support baby would be better without him. unless he finds out prior to giving birth and then i’d probably lie and say it was a one night stand. sorry i know that’s wrong but i just wouldn’t trust that guy.
You absolutely do not let someone like that in your life…… sounds extremely unsafe for all. Let the child make the choice when they are old enough right now your job is to protect the child and yourself. He sounds like a total criminal borderline insane.
Don’t tell him, he may try to steal your child once he/she is born. Just cut ties and run!!! In the name of safety and security.
I pray your child is born healthy. 
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Don’t tell him at all. Telling him would cause sooooo much added stress in your life.
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Leave him out of this…
Don’t tell him!! You answered your own question with all of the red flags 
!!
Your job as a mother is to protect your kids!!
If you tell him, my guess is that you enjoy hellacious drama… as if having a baby isn’t drama enough, don’t add fuel to the fire!
If for some reason he finds out u r still pregnant, I’d seriously lie and be like “ I ended up having a miscarriage or abortion and got pregnant a month later from a one night stand. 
ANYTHING to throw him off the trail to leave u alone!
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Shouldn’t of gotten involved with him in the first place with all the red flags that you saw from being around him. Not a good situation all the way around. 
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Hell no, he doesn’t want to be a part of their life anyways. You are saving all of you a lot of trouble by not!
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Nope I wouldn’t say anything to him
I read the whole the thing.
No. You dont own him any thing. As far as he is concerned you had an abortion. Leave it at that. And stay clear of him and anyone he would associate with.
Heck I’d physically move if I could.
It would be safer he couldn’t just check up on you in a few months.
But, for real. Stay away. He seems toxic and you don’t need that type of drama in your life.
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Please don’t tell him. Please relocate if possible. You have revealed so many frightening specifics about him.
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Get a restraining order against him. He threatened you. And NO, do not tell him ever about that child. Have you learned anything from that relationship?
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Absolutely tell him nothing! He is abusive and you don’t want or need that. He knows where you live so I would get a restraining order against him. Keep him off the birth certificate.
Cut all ties, and keep the baby low key. He’s a hot ass mess
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Don’t tell him anything else at all. Especially don’t tell him about the baby.
Don’t say a word get a pto and petition for him to not have any rights if he finds out show proof of his prior and he won’t be able to be near the baby
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DO NOT get a restraining order! If you go for a restraining order you have to go to court at least twice. Once a week or two after the initial filing and he will notice that you are showing. The second court date is 60-90 days later and he will definitely know you are pregnant by then. He will take you to court at that point requesting a paternity test. Do not file a restraining order, move if you can but no court!
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He’s been arrested for child endangerment, no I wouldn’t contact him at all. Get a restraining order, and protect yourself and your babies!
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Nope as far as he knows you don’t have the baby. He is not worth your time. Go on and take care of all your babies . Men really r not needed once that seed is placed . Especially men like him .
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Nope. Don’t tell him. Live your life away from that mess, not just for your sake, but for the sake of your current children and future child. That man is not a father, he’s a sperm donour. Tell him you got the abortion and BLOCK HIM! Don’t even bother with a restraining order or anything else because you’ll run the risk of him finding out. It’s best to get out early on.
Nope I wouldn’t tell him and def would not Put his name on birth cert. Bcz if u ever need a passport or other stuff legal it will require he sign or something. He sounds SUPER TOXIC. If he finds out about the baby let him figure it out and take u to court. Best of luck
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Yes don’t tell him at all.
Make sure your friends or your family don’t tell him either.
I’d lie to him tell him I had an abortion (although I don’t agree with abortions AT ALL) (if you don’t want the baby out him/her up for adoption there’s so many ppl out here that would love to have a baby that can’t) i would take him/her ) jus sayin!! but I’d move away from him and I’d raise my child on my own don’t ever tell him anything about the baby ever!! I wouldn’t have anymore contact with him what so ever!! Cut all ties with him he sounds crazy and I wouldn’t dare trust him about anything!!best wishes prayers for you and your children I pray you make the best decision for you and your family!!
Um…I saw this same post was posted a while ago. I thought you reached a decision? Why is this posted again??
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Sounds like a scam…if this in GA sperm donors have zero rights until they have been legitimized.
Don’t tell him at all. You’ll set yourself up for a life of hell for always being attached to him and having to worry about “what will he do next??” Keep your baby and yourself far away from him. I still think you should reach out to the child’s mother and see why she isn’t in his life. This could always help better your case against him if he were to ever find out
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Don’t say anything move on and away
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Nope, avoid the man at all costs. In fact, I’d probably move to a different location so he can’t stalk you. The guy sounds creepy.
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Don’t tell him…drop him …get AWAY FROM HIM…He IS TOXIC.
Man… I feel like you just described my guy… 
gtfo and away from him, don’t tell him shit, even years later, and don’t let anyone else tell him anything either
I would make sure to cut all contact with him and never let him know. Make sure your mutual friends don’t let him know either.
don’t tell him shit. Stay away from him before he hurt you or your child. Changed your number & keep it moving. Never trust a man like that.!!!
Why is this even a question. You’d be a fool to say anything to him.
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Oh brother! I saw the same thing posted a while back and it’s obviously a fabricated and overly dramatized story to elicit reactions for whatever reason the author has. Seems like you’re being trolled. Whoever wrote that post is very articulate and obviously well-educated because there wasn’t one mistake in her entire story. If in fact this was a real problem in her life, I doubt she would go to Facebook looking for an answer. Anyway by the end of her story she answered her own question.
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Id tell him i aborted and move on with my life. Far away from him.
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Sounds like you already made the decision and want outside validation. Only you can know what is right for you and your unborn child. I have been in manipulated situations on the other side of the fence… with zero say and similar things said about me which were untrue.
Don’t say anything to him.
Ah hell no!
Run and move some place else and quickly
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