As a woman I would want someone to tell me so tell her.
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I would sit your parents down and talk to them about the uncomfortable position they put you in. They were both in the wrong. He’s in a relationship, and your mom is very aware of it. That way, you aren’t inserting yourself into their drama, but you can also get your feelings out on the table that this isn’t okay. Good luck with this and good luck in school!
You should tell her! So sorry you are in this position! Don’t destroy your relationship with your step mom because of your dads indiscretions!
I would give them a date to tell her by. If he or she doesn’t tell your step mom. You deserve peace of mind. It’s terrible of them to do that and you dont have to keep that burden locked up. Some of these comments make me sick. I’m sorry you have to go through this. If someone cheated on you you would want to know. And no I have never been cheated on nor bitter because no one told me. It’s ridiculous someone even suggested that above. They sound like the people who have cheated and are okay with others getting away with it. Shameful.
This normally happens after people divorce they continue sleeping together because they’re familiar but eventually it will end. Sounds like step mom is a rebound who might not be in the picture too much longer. I would make your father step up be a man and do the right thing, he created the situation.
I am so sorry, This is a very difficult situation for you. I would tell your parents that either they tell step mom or you will. It’s unfair that they are putting you in this situation and I am sure it’s very awkward being around all of them involved. I know that I would want someone to tell me if my husband was screwing around. Good luck.
Idk I’m torn, she is an adult not a child that walked in on them two, but also, she now carries guilt for knowing their secret…I’d say to both of them they need to knock it off out of respect for the gf or dad needs to end it with the gf and until that happens I wouldn’t be visiting either parent…that way the daughter doesn’t have to insert herself but has made it known she wont be around if it continues… believe me dad will make a decision so he doesn’t lose his daughter…
OMG. Your dad needs to tell her. You should not be in this situation. I am so sorry.
I wouldn’t tell her but I would drop subtle hints right in front of my dad regularly. Daily. Make him sweat. Until he finally admits it on his own.
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It’s gonna look bad if she finds out and you didn’t tell her… She’ll be really hurt
TELL HER! I told mine.
You said you get along great with her and love her to pieces, she would be hurt if you or anyone knew about it and didn’t tell her at all.
FInding out she’s been cheated on and finding out that people knew all along and didn’t say anything, she would feel crappy about it.
Some people do prefer to be told even though in some situations others say not to tell them it’ll fall out eventually but I don’t like that because it could carry on for even longer. So tell her.
Wow that’s really sad your having to deal with that. I’m so sorry your dad needs to be honest with your step mom. WOW he sure is awesome on morals and putting you in the middle ouch.
I wanna say My kid better tell me lol. But I’m for real if any one of my kids were in the situation I would want them to tell me or the other person involved as in your case because In the back of my head I know I taught you Morals as it might hurt aat first but the truth is what is important in my opinion
I would not say anything…
The truth will come out…
Try and enjoy your young years…and learn from this…you sound a nice young lady…
Sorry about your parents…
You cant save the world …look after yourself…
ABSOLUTELY!! I would give the parents five days to come clean with the stepmother. A one-time mistake can happen, but you say they are STILL sleeping together (meaning they never stopped?). That’s cheating in a big way!! It’s horrible to be put in that position, but she needs to know he’s cheating. Who knows, he may be cheating on both of them with other women!!