I feel like this is something that really depends on the parents and the kids involved. If you feel like your kids are pretty responsible and respectful already then maybe, you don’t need to ask them for gas money just yet and you can wait until they are 18. However, if your kid is struggling to grasp the idea of what it means to be responsible then you might want to take this opportunity to teach them. How you approach this is going to make all the difference. Sitting down and talking to them about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it rather than just ordering them around will go a long way.
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You could take the money they give you for gas and put it into a savings jar for when they get their license
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I can see it both ways. Part of being a parent is teaching financial responsibility, and care for others’ resources; when I was in high school and could afford it, I’d put gas in the tank when I borrowed the car. But I was also living with another family and didn’t want to abuse their kindness. I had to learn those things early because of my situation, and I can see why some people think it would be too harsh or transactional for their kids.
I do really like the idea of secretly saving it up for them. I also had someone do this for me when I was renting a room in college; she secretly put aside $100 a month from what I paid her and presented it to me when I was trying to buy a car. It was so touching.
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He should take the money and save it for her and give it when she starts driving lessons…
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I think they should pay…it teaches them adult responsibilities
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Maybe Dad is making them pay gas money but he’s putting whatever they give him away for savings and not using it?
Teaching them responsibility is part of growing
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It’s teaching them nothing is free 
Nope I wouldn’t… you are responsible for your child till they are an adult. There’s plenty of other ways to teach your child responsibilities other then making them pay for gas…
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I don’t charge my 17yo nor my 21yo(she has her own car) when she needs a ride from me. However, if I’m low on funds, my 17yo will offer to put gas in my car. Is he trying to teach them responsibility or being a dick about it? They’re 16, in school and working. I wouldn’t charge them.
I wouldn’t make mine pay…
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No they should not they are yours and his responsibility until they are of legal age !
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You should make them pay and save it for them without telling, teaches them to save and gives them a reward later. Both of you win.
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I think there is no right or wrong answer.
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If it’s really close I don’t see why I would make them pay. They’re responsible enough to get a job, the least you could do is take them there or have them “pay” for gas and save that money up for them to use towards their own cars.
I would absolutely not make my kids pay.
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Nooo they are bearly 16 yrs old c’mon…if they would be at least 18 then yes.Just my opinion I wouldn’t do that to my kids😒
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I don’t charge unless it’s something outrageous and they want various rides to here and there, all week. I never charge to go to work.
This right here is why I wasn’t allowed a job outside the family business where my dad could financially abuse me and use me for child labor until I got kicked out for the third time at 18. (1st time I was telling my dad and future step mom not to talk shit about my mother in front of my younger brother, 2nd was because I found a fork that had fallen behind my bed and was accused of being a theif, the last time was because I was with a boy they didn’t like, the person I ended up marrying because he wanted me to stay in an abusive relationship with my ex where I was raped and beaten daily). He told me to leave the family business i would have to buy a car. I made 250 a week during the summer by being their personal house/yard/farming slave on top of working 70 hours a week during the summer, and then during school I’d work weekends and make $50 for that, still run the farm, house, and tend to the yard work and still have to do my AP classes. Guess who has absolutely nothing to do with the two of them, despite them trying to sell the land parcel that I know is willed to me by my great grandmother because it was a stipulation when her and her husband gave it to my parents as a wedding present. It’s to go to their first born biological children. Please don’t let him pull this crap with the kids. It’s supposed to be part of raising them to help them get a leg up and take care of them. Thats6the obligation you both took when you decided to have kids.
Each parent will chose what works for them
I would make them pay but only half, and I would put that into a savings account that gains. But I wouldn’t tell them, until they’re ready to move out.
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If they are old enough to drive And have a car
They are old enough to pay for it and the petrol
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They should not have to pay gas money to go to work to their dad. They need to learn financial responsibility, but that’s draining the cistern before the cistern has had time to fill. You’ll burn up your pump. That’s discouraging the girls from working. If they have to give their dad all their work money for gas, what’s the point of working? Let them work and develop a work ethic. Let them learn the value of a dollar. Let them learn to budget their money and how to save. They’ll be learning about taxes as Uncle Sam deducts all year and the IRS taketh away at the end of the year if they don’t file their taxes just right. They’ll the rest of their lives to learn about paying living expenses. If they plan to buy cars… they’ll learn about insurance and license plates sooner rather than later. Ease up, Dad. They’ll be grown soon enough.
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Definitely put some money towards petrol.
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I’m sorry to laugh, but he’s teaching them responsibility. I think it’s cute. My dad would’ve did the same.
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When I was 16 and working i had to contribute gas money to be taken to work if I used my parents gas. Warm weather I just rode my bike or walked. No different than if they had license borrowed car to get to work they would have to put gas in it not let it go empty and expect it to have gas in it automatically. I was told replace what u use if u run the tank out then put more in it. There is nothing wrong with that nothing is free and its teaching them responsibility and its not like they are giving up their whole paycheck so u can still teach them to save also at same time but gas is needed to get to work so u have to pay that to continue getting to work. If they had their own car they would need to put gas in it anyway this is just preparing them for that and it dont need to be much even if its just $10 out of their check thats not alot. U can also choose to use that money they give u towards gas like they think its going to or u can save it to get them a car of their own because technically it’ll be their money that bought their car. When I lived at home and had my son I started having to help pay house bills at my parents house because I worked and it wasn’t much I had to give them $50 each pay so $100 a month. It helped me manage my money so I could pay what needed to be paid before buying anything unnecessary. Now I manage money extremely well when I had my first apartment at age 20 I paid all my bills while having a fiance at time who was terrible with money while raising our son and he just wanted to spend. Over the years I got him better with money we have been together 16yr married 11yrs we are 33 raising 3 kids and 2 of them being teens but my husband works im disabled now and stay at home mom and I still manage all bills and money then let hubby know what we have left we can spend on groceries or whatever and if he needs to use money from our account he tells me what he spends so I can calculate and bills aren’t getting messed up if they haven’t come out yet. All of that is because of what my parents done where I didn’t like it at the time they were teaching me responsibility and what to expect for the real world when I was on my own and I understand now why they done it because I’m great with our finances and can budget and work our money how its needed and even make tweaks and changes adjustments whatever is needed with no problems its done with ease. I’ve hit rock bottom and struggled massively on my own before but we worked it out and got through it ourselves with no help from anyone because we are adults. When I was working and needed help with my cell bill or something as a teen my parents would help and lend me the money but I had to pay it back. As a teen my parents still provided for me by giving me a roof over my head and feeding me everything else I had to provide myself since I worked taught me to be more responsible early on and prepared me better for real world. I say there is nothing wrong with having them pay something towards gas since they work its not like they have to fill the tank to full or put whole check in tank. I get some parents don’t believe in this and that’s fine its not for everyone. Each person parents differently but it doesn’t mean they are a terrible parent because thats how they teach their kids responsibility. Nothing in life is just handed to u because u have to work for it and earn it urself in order to have it which doing that also teaches ur kids that when they are working and have to pay for some things. If my kids want something specific they either get it for Christmas or birthday but if they want it Immediately at that given moment then they are required to save up for it. My youngest son does yard work and he will do yard work for our next door neighbor or one of our friends and they will pay him he saves money and buys things himself. If he wants to go somewhere in particular the same thing he saves and does himself it teaches him to appreciate more and respect more while teaching him responsibility. We give him a roof over his head, food to eat so he dont starve, and clothes on his back while paying for him to have an education those are main things parents are to provide. They don’t need games or TVs or any extra things or go out to movies or skating those are wants not necessities therefore they need to work for it or earn the money for it because then they appreciate it more that way. Never had my kids complain about it they understand and get it to the point where my son will say mom i need to earn some money because I want this is there work I can do around the house to earn that or does someone need work done i can earn money for that. He is getting better with responsibility cuz of it. He wanted to go to a big concert of his favorite band and I bought him tickets and me and him went but he earned being able to go because it was a want not a necessity. My oldest 15 hardly spends money, my 12yr old works for his money and what he wants and is alot more responsible cuz of it, and even my daughter 8yrs old saves her money barely spends it but she will also do things for what she wants because she said she knows we don’t need to let her do anything she wants so she wants to be able to say she got it herself instead of saying we gave it to her. Then everytime she buys herself something she gets super excited and says look I bought this myself I’m proud of myself and she takes alot better care of it and respects her things more when she spends her own money on what she wants. Im not saying u don’t need to buy ur kids other things outside the necessities im just saying they respect it more when they earn it work for it and get it themselves. My kids are very smart and I was teaching my boys that while giving all my kids chores around the house to do like keeping rooms cleaned and all and my daughter picked up on it at 6yrs old and joined in with it. They can only get better and more responsible from here and by the time they are adults they will be all set in life because they will understand money how to manage, save, and get themselves out of super rock bottom rough situations without help because as their parents were here to guide them in right direction and prepare them for the real world. Were not always going to be around to help them out or pay their way when they have no money so they need to know how to manage with what they have until their next paycheck. Eventually us parents will leave our kids behind when we pass and if they don’t know these things or how to survive then we failed in my opinion. I dont want to ever feel like I failed my kids in preparing them for the real world or life especially since I’m sick so we started young. This is why parents start young to teach them the ways nothing wrong with that. Other parents don’t have to agree and thats fine u do u and all of us who do this will do us but there is a surprising difference that u notice when kids are more appreciative and willing to work for something they want and they are alot more responsible because of this method vs other ways when they are just given things they want because they ask. Thats not to bash anyone at all but the difference of responsibility and appreciation level is much different and them being prepared at a certain level is also much different.
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Depends do they blow ALL of their money? Are they responsible? Is dad in dire need of gas money? Let dad parent how he chooses
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Yes should pay for the gas if they had a car pay for gas
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Yes, except put the money away and give it back to them when they graduate.
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Depends how far away it is, and if the extra cost for fuel is a burden if not don’t worry about it, soon enough they will have a car to pay off, and their own expenses to pay for.
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They should be paying. Wtf they are minors. Grow up
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Pay something … teaches them respect discipline and responsibility!! Otherwise they will expect everything in life to be handed to them…they will become self entitled…
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No he sounds like a cheap cab driver and less like a dad.
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If they had to get public transport they would have to pay. They need to learn they have to pay their way in life so yes I think they should give dad a little something, it’s the only way they learn financial responsibility. Does have to be a lot doesn’t even need to be everytime and you don’t even have to keep the money you can give it back at a later day x
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Like why? I don’t get the “I struggled so they should” or “let’s show them how much adulting sucks” attitude. I say no don’t charge them but reminding them if they have other adults take them somewhere offering up some money is a nice thing to do.
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I had to before i got my car
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Nope they should not have to pay.
Unpopular opinion… they have a job they need to learnt to budget and pay. Not a great deal but a set amount weekly should be fair till they can drive on thier own. Might seem harsh but reality is that is how lofe works nothing is free.
If I did this I wouldn’t keep the money for myself. I’d save it and give it back to them like a mini college/post secondary fund. Tbh though, I likely wouldn’t. It’s a part of parenting teens especially if you are a low/middle class family, driving they asses to work lol
Paying is a good lesson.
Why not both each pay half for gas and each put up the other halfs in savings - but that’s just me - our dad didn’t make us pay but we still gave him gas money plus more to do what he and mom wanted
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This is how we roll with things like that because he’s getting ready to get a license. We charge him gas… however that gets out right back into his savings acct he has going for his truck and he does not know that’s what we do with it. It teaches him responsibility and money management. Now I’d never actually charge them and pocket it
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Yes, I do think they should contribute something
He should say they have to pay $20 a week from their pay for ‘gas money’ but ideally he should save that $20 he gets from them and when they go to get their first car he can give it back to them to go towards. At the time it teaches them to pay their way, and at the end teaching them that $20 a week savings adds up and goes a long way. & what goes around comes around. Give and you shall receive
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It teaches them financial responsibility. They don’t just magically move out at 18 knowing how adulting works, it is your job to prepare them for that. They need to understand how taxes work, about paying bills, budgeting, etc.
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Wow. How sad parents charging for gas to take kids to work,and i mean kids ,not adults
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I think it’s fair,they gotta learn that things are not free and if they don’t wanna pay then they can walk
They should pay , but he should ( without them knowing yet ) save up what they pay and put it in a gas card for when they do drive. If he truly doesn’t need the money for gas himself.
This also works for rent , if you charge rent save it up for them to move out with , just dont tell them till it’s time. This way they get the habit of paying thier way .
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wasn’t done to me, not doing it to mine.
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Making them pay is a good life lesson. We aren’t raising your kids so not sure what lessons they need in life.
My kids were required to pay gas to and from work, for their part of insurance and to save for their own car. In real life there are bills. We wanted them to learn money management, hard work and how that pays off before they were required to struggle with it on their own.
Yes they should pay to learn responsibility and budgeting money. This is a great way for them to see how it is in real life.
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Yes they should. I paid my mom & grandfather gas money to take me to work and back. They had to use their own car & gas to take me to & from so why not. Gas isn’t free.
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Yes they should if working learns them how to budget and value money do both half towards fuel half towards lessons 
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Have them “pay” every week but hold it every week and save it to give them for when they move out. Don’t actually make them pay…
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NO they should not pay
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Are they under 18?.. Do you all actually need the $$? If times are that hard then yes $20 a week is fair. If times aren’t that hard I’d make them open a savings account and set aside 25% of every check they bring in that will make for a new safety net when they move out one day.
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Yes.
Our pay got split into 3rds.
1third for us
1third for savings and
1 third for mother for driving and picking g us up.if she didn’t drive us then she didn’t get the money.
Well I’m 42 and my dad will still drive me to and from work for free. When I offer to get the bus he won’t let me and when I offer to pay he won’t take it… When I was 16 and worked full time my parents used to take money off me for my keep but they saved it all up and gave to back to me… I think that would be a good idea especially if you and your husband don’t need the money
They are 16 not 18 and life is tough
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Pay because its not free plus its door to door and safer than public transport
Lessons are learned so much easier when taught young. Teach them they cannot get by on love and free rides throughout their adulthood.
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I charged my son a few times to encourage him to try harder to pass his temp test. He would not let me help him study wanted to do it his way. He finally passed and is learning now but rides his bike instead of asking for rides
They should contribute something. It sets them up for the reality of the real world. You get nothing for nothing. It doesn’t have to be much but one day they will be filling their own car so yes…they should pay something.
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Seriously?? Make a child pay money for gas just because she’s working?? She’s 16 if it was her own car then yes but she’s a child
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It teaches responsibility.
Alternate weeks so they can save and pay
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If its out of his way, yes, some $$ would be good to offer
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Would be a nice idea if Dad puts the money away in an account for them. It’s definitely a good lesson for them. I really think he needs to speak with them and explain why he’s asking them to contribute.
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My dad never charged me but he had a rule half my check went in the bank I could do whatever I wanted with the other half after I turned 18 if I didn’t put half in the bank I had to pay rent I put half in the bank sometimes more than half
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I was paying gas since I was 14yrs old and got my first job. I would ride the school bus to my job but then I got picked up by my mom at 5:30pm everyday. She drove a big v8 truck and we lived about 15+ minutes away.
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Wow, that seems crazy.
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I’m 37 and my dad still drive me/my kids everywhere (hospital appointments, school, sports classes for my kids, takes my kids to their friends house, shopping, etc) I don’t pay anything…bit if he asked me I would
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This mentality of “its abusive to have them pay” is ridiculous. My 19 year old has paid “rent” for a year. He doesn’t go to school or anything. Just works 25 hours a week. He checked out apartments. And said nope. The money sits in bank but it’s the point.
They need to learn that life ain’t free.
Gas isn’t free
Rent ain’t free
Electric and water ain’t free.
Plus additional trips like that puts wear and tear on cars. Nope, they want me to drive them and not walk/bike/bus, they can give 5/10 for gas.
Just last night I had to take my daughter wanted Arby’s, so I took her. She offered either a sandwich 
or 5 bucks.
Teach your kids now
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I made my daughter pay me $20 a week for has to take her to and from work
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Yes prepare them for the world . Nothing is free. Hope you told them to open an account instead of worrying about gas.
Most kids be so excited to have a job and money they be wanting to give …
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Yes! Kids have to learn that everything comes at a cost! Even if you put that gas money into a savings without their knowledge and put it towards their first car once they pass their license, at least that way they will be used to saving money for gas for their car weekly and not asking you all the time. 
A bit of give and take kind of thing 
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They need to learn… gas is not cheap and life is not free
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I think it teaches them responsibility. He isn’t taking their whole pay check ye is making them learn to pay their way in life.
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While I personally wouldn’t charge my kids unless absolutely necessary, let me say this. Gas ain’t cheap right now, some families are barely affording each trip to their own job. If they were to ask a friend, they would have to pay gas money no doubt. He’s teaching them responsibility. Now, if dad is ok financially, I think he should put it aside for their driving course fees and so forth, but if not, then they are learning the true value of a dollar. And in this day and age, that’s rarely taught.
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At 16 my kids paid for gas, 15 a week. They paid for their own phones and their insurance once they started driving. What comes with money is also responsible. Better to teach them early.
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Is it an every work day thing?
Yes, it shows her responsibility. She’s going to have to pay for her own gas when she gets her own car anyway so why not teach her expenses now.
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Pay something he’s teaching and preparing them.
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Mine does a minimum of 20$ every 2 weeks
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My dad started me out at 16. He would buy my necessities. Hygiene products stuff like that. With anything I wanted or gas for work I paid for it. My insurance to. I personally think it’s a good thing. Why not start them out now? My daddy passed away shortly after I turned 18. I’m thankful he showed me what he did at a young age. Shows you what needs to come first. Teach them young. We may not be here tomorrow to teach them.
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It teaches them responsibility yes they should absolutely pay something things are not free. My son did when he was that age & now a recent HS graduate living at home he approached us & said what Bill can I pay? He actually wants to help so I gave him an option on the “smaller bills” to pick from he pays it every month & saves the rest. You have to teach them early or they won’t know how to do it.
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I just came on here to say I am impressed, relieved, and encouraged to see so many of you say that yes, it teaches them responsibility. Amen and amen!! 
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I get teaching responsibility, but let them start paying for gas when they drive
They are growing up but…thats your kid you want them safe drive them anywhere they want …plenty of time for responsibilities…
I think they should have to pay, just a little bit. Responsibility will help them in the long run and gas isn’t cheap anymore. My parents made me pay for half of my license so that I would appreciate it more. They were right. But I also see it in your perspective, they’re being responsible for working to get what they want and are under age. That’s my opinion anyways. I’m sure I’ll get shit on for it but it is what it is!!!
It will teach them how to pay their own way and give them a feeling of pride and self worth and how to manage and budget their money for the future. It’s a good thing to have them to pay their own way n more ways than just one, he is trying to teach them so let him give them a chance to learn!
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I personally don’t think it’s a big deal to help them out and drive them to and from work for nothing, what’s the big deal.
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If they are legit saving the money then no they shouldn’t have to pay gas money. Bit if they are spending it all then yes they should pay
I feel like they should pay a little and it be held back to give to them when they graduate or get a car… I think it’s good to teach them responsibility because they are gonna have to learn to budget for thing as they get older
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If they pay then dad should save that money up and give it back to them at some point to teach them how to save and how it adds up.
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If they had to take a bus or taxi it would be a work expense. It’s teaching them travel to and from work is a budgeted expense. We all want to help our children. However this one I agree with. Also like it or not they need to understand it’s someone using there time to do you a favour. Everyone saying wait till they drive. That’s the point. They will be driving soon. Best get use to paying gas. Otherwise it will be mom I need gas money to get to work.
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Yes , but like 20 or 25 a week , to get them ready for real world , to teach them about life n bils , if thay make over 200 a week 20$ or 25$ is not gona hurt there wallet
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If it be a taxi it be allot more
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