Should we keep going?

I'm 19 a freshman in college , I have been dating the same guy since sophomore year of high school and up untill the past 4 months we were great. The story: he graduated in 2020. He went to community College. I graduated 2021 and went to a university.. I now live 30 minutes away from him instead of 10.. we just dont communicate anymore.. we barley speak anymore. I don't have feelings and I dont think he is. We haven't texted in 3 days.. is it worth it to keep going?? I already have feelings for someone else..
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I would talk to him about it. Ask him how he feels, share how you feel, see where to go from there. It sounds like you’re both on the same page but it’s always nice to end it mutually & nicely

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You literally answered your own question. No. End it.

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If you don’t have a feelings then you already have your answer hon.

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You’ve answered your own question here. Time to move on. X

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U need to do what’s best for u chick. But u need to meet up with him and do it in person not by text x

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Why would you keep going if you have feelings for someone else? Talk to him, give him a break up so he can find someone else too.

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Umm you answered your own question 🤦

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No honey, time to make that relationship a friendship and continue to grow in other ways! Just because you won’t be romantic anymore doesn’t mean you have to never see or talk to them anymore!

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I would talk to him to tell him I would not leave it go the way it is … don’t leave him hanging after being together so long

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No… maybe talk say you’ve grown and want different things

You know, you just haven’t accepted it. Move on, you’re both still young, still growing and still changing. Find a love when you’re grown and enjoy being young for now.

Um it already sounds like it ended unless he is sick and in bed. Idk.

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leave this love behind and move on to the next

Grow up live life there’s likely too be half dozen more bf

If you have feelings for someone else sounds like you ended it awhile ago that poor man

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Time to grow and explore life. Don’t remain in a relationship that no longer serves you, out of familiarity.

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Sounds done to me… sounds like you’ve already made up your mind

30 minutes away??? Is that considered long distance now??? Lol sounds like you’re done. Just break up and live your life. :woman_shrugging:

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You are young. You should be living life, not worrying about some guy even if you have a history. Go be free, girl.

Its better to just end it civilly and mutually so there’s no animosity. Y’all were young, as u get older and grow feelings change thats normal and ok. Don’t stay BC its comfortable, this is a time in ur life to have fun and experiencing as much as u can, the both of u.

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Holy 19 you’re SO YOUNG. Move on. If it’s meant to be, you’ll find your way back to each other, I’ve seen it happen and I’m literally twice your age.

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You already have feelings for someone else… So what’s the point here? Sounds like it ended a while ago. Move on.

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You’re a baby move on

I guess you answered your own question!! Go enjoy your life!!

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Spare him and let him find someone worth his while.

You answered your own question

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Cut it off, maybe you two can stay friends.

It sounds like it is the end. Your life is just beginning-if neither of you are committed and working to keep things going, then it seems pretty clear it is over. Do talk to him, though and let him know where you stand.

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You answered your own question. You said you don’t have feelings for him anymore and you already have feelings for someone else. Move on!

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That last sentence is your answer sweetie. As we mature feelings, values, ambitions etc change and there is nothing wrong with that. It’s just how life works :revolving_hearts:Tell him that. Time is precious for BOTH of you to be wasting it not being happy.

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Live life 19 you have so much to do in life. If your feels are gone end it.

Time to move on. It’ll be okay.

Sounds like you already know what to do girl!!! Good luck

End it but end it the right way

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You ha e your entire life ahead of you. Take a break and follow your dreams

If you have indifferent feelings you should just end it

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If u have feelings for someone else then u need to end this relationship with current boyfriend

No? You already answered your own question sadly

If neither have feelings just be friends at this point

If you don’t have feelings then no. It’s done it’s the end.

You gone miss you blessing over simple communication cause when he get somebody new you gone want em back but to each is own honey

Sounds like things might have run their course

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Just end it. Y’all need to be honest and say “hey it’s obvious we no longer have a connection, instead of dragging this relationship out let’s just end this and move on with our lives.” There’s nothing wrong with being honest. It’s not hard.:slightly_smiling_face:

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I feel like you stopped because you found someone else. It has nothing to do with how far apart literally you are.

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No it’s not worth it to keep going when you already have feelings for someone else. Obviously you checked out of the relationship a while ago. Please do your bf a favor and end things instead of continuing to lead him on.

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If you don’t have feelings, break up. 30 minutes is no insurmountable distance if you actually wanted to be together. Why waste your time?

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You are young don’t burn people because karma is real. Break up amicably. Enjoy your young life

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IMO you answered your own question with your last sentence :woman_shrugging:t4::smirk::flushed:….If you’ve got feelings for someone else, then WHY string your boyfriend along?!

It’s time to move on. I recommend doing it now, while things are still on a positive note. :heart:.

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You answered your own question… try to end things on a good note you might end up with a great friend vs an angry ex

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Move forward, not backward.

Sounds like you’ve answered your own question. Don’t keep what you have if you want something else hun. I’m sorry you feel this way but move forward with your life if there’s nothing left.

You’re 19. Move on and have fun in college

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I think you just answered your question already. You have feelings for someone else and you and the guy haven’t talked. Then I would end it. Be friends.

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If you already have feelings for someone else, you have already given up on the relationship. If you were fully committed to the current relationship, you wouldn’t have feelings for someone else. If you want to remain friends with your current, end things with him mutually.

Sounds like y’all are practically broken up already, just without being officially done.

Your last 7 words answered your question, you’ve already moved on.

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Girllll bye ! Have fun in college boys can WAIT !!! Focus on your schooling! And have fun !

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When my daughters now husband went to college (he graduated high school the year before her) he broke up with her once he was in his apartment. It was just a different atmosphere and he was overwhelmed. They were apart for 8 months. Got back together and have now been married for over 3 years and are in the process of building their dream home. If it’s meant to be it will be. Take a break and see how it goes. Good luck!

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Nope, move on baby. There is so so so much more life to live! And you don’t want a lukewarm relationship!

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Some of the stupidest questions come through this page :joy:

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You seem to have answered your own question. Why would you keep going when you no longer communicate with each other, no longer have intimate feelings towards him/her, and you have started to develop feelings and an intimate relationship with someone else!? This relationship has clearly run its course. Just be honest and end it before someone ends up getting hurt. Maybe this is mutual on both sides as well.

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If you can look at anyone else then it’s over. If you don’t feel it in your soul that he’s the one, leave. Neither one of you deserve it.

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Move on date different people enjoy being single and learn to love you

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You answered your own question. You have feeling for someone else… End of story

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U just answered your own question

Why would you want to force it? You said you dont have feelings so why not just do yourself a favor and move on. Take it from someone who didnt have feelings anymore but kept trying to make it work. Its exhausting

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Sounds like he’s distancing himself from the relationship. Maybe he’s found someone else, too.

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You already answered your own question. Move on

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Sweetie you answered your own question. Take care.

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You literally said you don’t have feelings for him anymore.

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You should definitely keep dating someone you haven’t spoken to in days and no longer have feelings for.

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You just answered your own question.

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It’s time to move on, but you need to call or text him and tell him that you no longer want to date and you think it’s better that you just be friends at this point in your life.

He’s already moved on

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Definitely get married to him and then have a baby. Solves everything.

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College is the time to date and explore. Learn yourself have fun because as you get older such behavior is frowned upon. ALWAYS PRACTICE WITH PROTECTION

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You’re 19 lol move on

You answered your own question when you said you were developing feelings for someone else. Time to move on.

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Live your life …have fun…go to school and enjoy life…

I think you knew the answer before you asked the question. Just woman up and call it quits. No sense dragging it on, especially thru the Holidays. You both will be much happier. Good luck.

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You answered your own question, if you’re developing feelings for someone else then obviously your guy now isn’t the right one.

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Move on, have a conversation with him first say why etc

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Move on, that’s the only way you will know if you miss him or not. If it’s meant to be it will happen in the future.

Please
Just be honest with him!
You’ve outgrown each other

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At least talk to each other so both of you feel some sort of closure. You never know what the future has in store.

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Do you really have to ask? I think it is time to move on but think with your head, not only your heart

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You’re young girl, focus on you

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Let it go. If ment to be you will reconnect

Safe to say you can move on… just be honest with him and split in good terms.

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You have your entire life ahead of you!! Stay friends and go live your life!!!

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Go for a girl you’re young you got your whole life ahead of you do whatever you got to do to make you happy

If young people are passionate about each other then 30 miles and different schools aint even a speedbump, you guys friend-zoned each other long ago so you both need to go find some heat

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You have feelings for someone else…your answer is right there

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You already answered your question.

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I think you already know. You’ve grown apart. Time to move on.

You both are growing up and out, don’t be sad about it, both be happy and both move on.

If you cared about him you wouldn’t have feelings for someone else, let him go so he can find someone that just wants him

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