If its affecting your marriage, move.
You need to work out whatâs more important your relationship with your husband or money?
So, yall stressed living with in-lawsâŚbut gonna move out and be stressed financially living on yall own?!
Living with Inlaws, was the worse thing I ever did, Id never in my life live with any of them again⌠So I didnât just move houses.
I moved countries, back to my own (New Zealand) 
Better to be happy and financialy poor than vice versaâŚ
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Thatâs a difficulty position to be in. But if you have been living like this, this long be positive for each other knowing the end is in sight. Make a plan, have a goal. Itâs better to run into something rather than run away from something. If possible donât run out with your hair on fire. Go with a smile on your face and heart
At one time I worked a full time job AND 5 part time jobs to stay independent. My Mother babysit so I had cheaper sitting services than most. Was it worth it? Yes. Were there regrets? Yes. I gave up a lot of time with my daughter to provide for her in the manner needed but it did give us a closer relationship. Point is, MOVE and make it work.
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Youâve been there for 2.5 years, whatâs a few more months to save up and be financially secure and to find a decent place to live?? Clearly your income over the last few years hasnât been enough to save up towards a place. Maybe your husband needs to get a better job also before you move out.
Iâd put my mental health (and marriage) ahead of financial stability any day!
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To SAVE your marriage - MOVE.
Thereâs no point in rushing and getting yourself back in the same position you are. Wait a few months, save more look into different areas and find a fit if you rush and itâs not right, to expensive, needs unexpected works youâll get behind in bills and possibly lose your place putting you right back where you started but the second time it happens itâll be worse and then itâll be a real struggle.
Do it now. I have been there but I had two kids under 3. We stayed and we shouldnât have. It almost broke my marriage. My husband went through a horrible depression and almost took his life. Donât wait.
Compromise! Im in a similar situation where id rather be tight too and be out on our own,but he is similar to you.we compromised halfway
Move out even if yâall have to tightly budget things. I moved out of my in laws ASAP when I found out I was pregnant. Couldnât stand it there at all and I know if I wouldâve stayed out relationship wouldâve ended.
Following. I am in the same boat
If you are both working then I suggest ASAP but if itâs just you working then Iâd suggest waiting.