Is it best to ignore your 5 year old when they tell you “i don’t love/like you” my 2 year old is picking up on that too now… I get he’s upset about something but I don’t want him being disrespectful.
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Change his surroundings. He is picking it up somewhere.
When my 4 year old tells me “I don’t like you right now,” my response is something like, “That’s okay! I love you!” I truly think it’s developmental. They don’t know the impact of their words. So I don’t take it to heart. And they know it’s cool if they don’t like me (usually because I’m being a parent, not a friend), but I’m going to always love them. So I verbally let him know. 
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I tell my now 15 year old son who has said this many times and will say it many more . That it’s ok not to like me, I’m his mother not his friend. Your child saying that, in my opinion, tells me you’re doing something right!! Keep on momming and don’t let what they don’t understand bother you.
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I just reply back well that’s a shame because I like/love you very much then carry on with what I’m doing usually within 5 mins I’ll get a hug and an apology
I just tell my 8 year old and 4 year old “well I LOVE you”. I’ve always been told to take it with a grain of salt so that’s what I do. It doesn’t hurt me cause I know they are just upset at the moment and will apologize later.
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He’s 5 ignore and and say that’s fine but I sure love you. And go on with your day.
My daughter was in the 2nd grade and told me she didn’t love me. I told her that’s ok I love you. She started crying and said I love you mom. I told her I know you don’t where did that come from. Come to find out her teacher was saying you don’t love your parents when you do something wrong. Boy did me and a teacher go round and round
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I have just reassured them “that’s ok but I will ALWAYS love you”. I have 1 that will argue. I just keep telling him that I love him no matter how he feels about me.
I tell mine “that’s okay I don’t like you all the time either but I ALWAYS love you”
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Do not take it to heart, I’m sure that your older says that when they can’t get their way and when they are mad ,in my opinion is normal / common for a child to say that but they don’t mean it.
Just tell them that it’s Oky not to like you , that you love and always will.
My daughter told me that once and I told her” well if you don’t like me I will stop liking you as well , so I’m not going to take you out , play with you or buy you stuffs or take care of you , I will do it for someone who loves and likes me “
She replied “ I was joking mom , I love you “ 
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Don’t take it to heart. Yes it hurts our mama hearts when they say it but I promise you it’s normal. My son is 16 and he’s said it before to me and it hurt me to the core. I’ve said it to my parents. Just reassure him that he’ll always love him. When he’s done being upset get down on his eye level and explain in words he can comprehend that it hurts mommy’s heart when he says those words and reassure him again that you’ll always love him.
I think all kids do it. When mine was a toddler she told me she didn’t like me anymore and that I’m not her best friend anymore and although it does hurt your feelings, I just told her it’s too bad because she’s stuck with me and I’m still her mom.