It’s great your caring for and love him. No disrespect but make sure the dad isn’t taking advantage of you. He should be the primary caregiver.
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As a mom, I always figured the more people in my kids life that love and care for them, the better off they are. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and see what he says.
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Just be his grown up, his person. That’s all he needs from you. Don’t try to fill a position just because you think you ought to, or step back because you think you should. It’s a huge responsibility to enter a child’s life in that capacity, and all you can do is love them and roll with the punches.
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You are doing a great job… just keep doing what you are doing. Don’t ever feel guilty for loving him too much or all all. He’s lucky to have someone like you in his life.
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It sounds like an important conversation to have with the father of the child. Only he can really tell you your place/role since he’s the biological parent.
Anyone can make/have a child. A mother/father are the one’s that gives the child love, meets their needs and protects them no matter what!! Blood doesn’t mean anything! Make sure y’all are on the same page… But I think you’re awesome for loving and caring 
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I tell my step kids… ’ I am not your mom, I am just happy to be in your life"
You just keep loving that baby and looking out for him. That’s all that matters.
Congratulations your a step mom. Keep loving that baby.
A parent isn’t someone who brings a kid into the world a parent is someone who loves a child unconditionally and takes care of them. Don’t feel guilty for loving a child that isn’t technically yours all children need love no matter where it comes from and as long as you are there for him you have every right to call yourself a mother
Its wonderful you love the child like you do, but be careful bc until you fully know your role (marry your boyfriend etc…) I would want to adopt him if that’s where the relationship goes, bc if yall break up you have no rights to the child and will be very heart broken bc u wont just be losing a boyfriend it will feel like u are losing a child aswell…
You are loving a child who needs love and stability. Just be careful of your own life and heart. I raised my exes children from 4-18, stayed in their lives until they were both parents (30’s). Unfortunately when it all came down to it, when we split, they did to, with my grandchildren. For 24 years I was their only “mom” /Grammy, now I’m heartbroken. I’m not sorry. I just wish I had prepared myself better.
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Love develops naturally Don’t be afraid to love the child Children know who treats them lovingly and respond with love in return Take it day by day
Yes just give him unconditional love, I’m a infant teacher and the babies I work with are like mine… I feed them, love on them, change them etc… Some have called me ma cuz they can not say my name and that’s ok … Even though we may not be mom We are a momma to them… And remember you are forming this child, so be there for him… if he wants to call ya mom let him or say I’m not mom I’m ???.. that’s what I tell my kids at work… Good luck
If you’re doing all that what is his dad doing for him?
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It’s not who Made the child, it’s who raises it. If you love him, then I don’t see any issue especially being the mother has really no part of it. I don’t have a step child, but I was a single mom until my boyfriend came along. In the beginning it was hard, I’ve thought about breaking up with my boyfriend many times Becuase I didn’t see it working, but now they both love each other, my boyfriend says my Son is his son and even gets mad when I say my son he corrects me and says our son. I hear that my
Boyfriend is nonstop talking about me and my son. I know jumping into it is hard, esp being the mother figure because we as women are the ones that carry the baby, feel every kick and move, etc but do what every other mom does, read a lot, don’t be afraid to ask questions, and if you feel something is hard talk to your boyfriend. Tell him your struggles, and what you feel.
I would talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. It’s okay to love that child and you should ask to adopt him if you want to. Even if you guys do break up you should still see him because you love the kid and he loves you’d!. The mother isnt a real mother just someone who gave birth to him. Seems like she force into the supervise visits. Idk I just hope everything works out. You should feel bad for loving him and feeling his mom. That’s what a real mom does is love and be there
I am a step mom. Your are the main mother figure for that child while in your care. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Love and protect as you have been. My step daughters are who made me a mother 1st(they were 3.) I loved them with out boarders. They are 10 now and they know no different love from me, I am mom.
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My dad wasn’t in my life. My first stepdad was the one I called dad, he was there when I had major surgery at 9 yrs old, he was the one who helped me ride a bike, he was the one who taught me how to drive, he was there at my high school graduation even though him and my mom got divorced earlier that year. Just keep doing what you’re doing.
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In my opinion, blood doesn’t necessarily make a person family or even a parent in your situation. You love that baby! Don’t ever feel guilty for that!
What a wonderful thing. You love that child 
keep loving him guilt free mama!
Keep on loving that baby…your priorities are perfect.
Just be a good role model
I am a stepmom and I have always called them my children. I made small decisions and left the bigger ones for their father like going on sleepovers, etc. No child can have to many people to love them. I let them call me whatever they were most comfortable with and I have never had regrets.