I had my oldest son at 16, im now 36 and he is just a cpl weeks shy of being 20, we still get the brother sister comments, he laughs, but I also now have an almost 5 yr old and if all 3 of us are out in public they assume my oldest is the father of his little brother and that im the grandmother… he has never been affected by ppl assuming we are brother and sister "thank goodness " but I can live without ppl assuming I have an almost 5 yr old grandson… good luck
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My daughter is 33 I’m 49 she told everyone I was her sister most of her life we have a great relationship
I had my son at 15 too. It worst when they get old, I saw a old boyfriend and he thought my son was my boyfriend…
went to court with him, custody of my granddaughter and tried to explain to the judge and she told me as his girlfriend I had nothing to do with the child when I told the judge I was the grandmother she apologize. Son 42 me 57…
As a kid of someone who’s parents had them young we grow out of that weirdness. I used to hate it because people thought I was dating my dad or my mom was my sister but now I just don’t even care. Its honestly on people and the assumptions they make, not on you.
You think that’s bad. I got an even better one for you. I was 20 when I had my daughter. I happened to be staying at my parents house when I went into labor. They drove me to the hospital. They made my Mom sign me in because I looked like I was only 16. The same thing happened at my gynocologist office the first time I went. I brought my ID in with me and my mother for my 2nd appointment and wasn’t even questioned! Still till this day I have people questioning my age. But most of the time it’s when I’m carded for alcohol and I love it! I’m 52 now! 
I take it as a compliment now lol
If this is your biggest problem in life, then you are doing well. 
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I got pregnant with my son at 15 too he’s 32 now but I always had people telling me I wasn’t old enough to have a son that old and it was funny
Lol I look younger at times then I look for my two oldest, when I would come for the interviews for the first time I think the teachers would all be a little shocked I guess I wasn’t what they imagined my kids are biracial and I had them in my early 20’s.
Had my first at 15 he’s now 23 his friends have hit on me not knowing I was his mom he takes it all with a grain of salt
This is me and my 8 year old. I’m only 4’9 and 90 lbs. happens all the time to us too.
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I’m in the same boat i had my daughter at 15 she’s will be 13 next month i used to have to tell her teachers and kids i am mom all the time
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This is me and my mom. She had me at 16 and we always get asked if we’re sisters even though she’s 100% white, and I am very obviously half hispanic lol. She’s 44 now and i’m 27. I even get asked if I’m in HS or college at times if I’m not wearing makeup. Sometimes I’m super flattered, others I’m annoyed.
I was 16 and my son will be 9 in May and I’ve been asked too if I was his sister before lol
Take it as a compliment.
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Just smile and politely tell the, you are his mother and you have the documents to prove it. Then ask them to continue. You can’t let other people bring you down, and you can handle it gracefully. And if they get shitty about it, let them know that when they’re dealing with kids later on in their lives, yours will be grown and you’ll be the young hot mom on vacation.
Well I was asked if I was my 15 year old sons grandma the other weekend . by a Lil girl I didn’t even know I laughed n said no I’m his mom but I am a grandma .also I’m only 42
My son is 14, 6’4 and 300lbs. I get I.D.'d all the time and people think he is my brother. I had him at 18. My son is starting to not like it either, but I proudly correct people that this is my son! They are shocked yes but then I say something nice about my son when they say I look young. So I keep my son in positive spirits.
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I’m a white women with mixed children , try being asked several times in a row if you’re the mother and when you answer yes several times you get a dirty or shocked look from their face.
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Its nothing you really can do. I mean you had a kid young and probably still have a baby face yourself. Trust me, your son will get over it and be fine. I had a son at 19 and he’ll be 23 in may. Wait until he’s grown then it will REALLY be awkward when people think your son is your mate:woman_facepalming:t4:
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Tell him he better be glad you dont look like his grandma:rofl:I had my last at 40 and I’m sure I’ll look like the grandma soon:rofl:
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I was 19 when I had my first. He will be 17 in just a few days and he went through this while in middle school. Everyone assumed I was his sister. It never bothered him though he always just said I looked young.
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Just wait till they bout 20ish and their friends start hitting on momma…oh man that’s when they get really mad…my son is 29 now I had him at 16…
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I had my son at 17, he is 6 now and in grade1. His teacher literally won’t even give me the time of day. It’s one thing to be judged by other parents but by the teachers
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I was 14 my son is now 13, we get the same assumptions from people
People use to give my oldest sister dirty looks and rude comments about “having her hands full” she is 19 years older than me and has a son 1 year younger than me. She was a 20 year old single mom. People would assume I was her daughter.
I had my first at 18 hes going on 11 in august…i dont look 28 at all and hes almost my height. We all go places with my dad sometimes an people will assume im his sister im like no im his mom an they just look at me funny…my son an his uncle are a year apart my little brother is a year older than my son they go to the same school and the teachers always say oh your brother to him an he goes no thats my uncle…the teachers called my mom asking why my son called him his uncle my mom was like um well he is all i told my mom was see what u get for having a kid when im 17 & then have my own kid a year later
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Yes always got mistaken for my daughter’s sister.
I guess I look old for 30 because I had my daughter at 21 and have never been questioned the same way some of you have. But if I were questioned I would proudly let them know I am her mother, and yes I was young when I had her but that shouldn’t matter!
I’m 30 years older than my oldest child. I get the same comments. He called me mom once & this woman said “he called you mom” & laughed. We also get a lot of people who think he’s my boyfriend/husband. Had a neighbor who insisted it (she’s a piece of work anyway). Idk what to tell you. Eventually both of you will just learn to laugh it off.
I have 7 kids. My oldest is turning 13 this year. I had her when I was 17. People like to assume that I’m a nanny or other stupid crap a lot. It is frustrating but there isn’t much I can do about it. People like to say “well they couldn’t all possibly be yours!” And I say “okay well you are welcome to try to tell my vagina that, but surely she will disagree with you.” They usually shut up lol
They always ask me if my daughters are my younger sister
Just politely say I’m his momma, ur doin great, ppl will talk just kill em with kindness. One day u both will have some laughs… and to the rest of u dealing with the rude ones, I’m sorry u have to… u are all doing great mommas!
Live & love it. I had my daughter at 34, I’m 43 now and people call me grandma. (my daughter yells & says my mommy is too young to be a grandma) I want to crawl under a rock & die.
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I had this had my son at 17 hes now 18 soon to be 19 and apparently I look like his sister haha. He used to get mad but now hes used to it x
I always had the problem n actually to this day still with my grandkids… “Oh, your not the mom“ (when I’m out with grandkids) Wow, you like them young” (when out now with son)… lol
I just laugh n say thank you n yes I’m old enough to ground them… My son n his friends find it funny n grandkids just smile…
I had my first child when I just turned 17. I get a lot of “you’re not old enough to be his mom” comments but what can ya do 
. Just let it be known ahead of time you are his Mother and be the best mom you can be.
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Just smile and gently correct the person that you are his mother but appreciate the compliment. I had my son at 16, so I dealt with it a lot. I had a friend who had the opposite problem, as she was prematurely gray lots of folks assumed she was grandma. Her son went out of his way to introduce her as “this is my mom, not my grandmother.”
Girl , hold your head up high
This happens to me a lot! I’m 5’3” so everyone just assumes I’m a young teen… I just laugh and say I am the parent! Sorry I look 12 
Try being the mom who’s boys friends are already saying “your sister is hot. Is she single?”
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Take it as a compliment and if there nasty about it ask them is it because you don’t have wrinkles like the other mums 
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It’s so funny my son’s wife she’s Hispanic he’s white she has three Hispanic kids and then she had his son he’s white too people think she’s trying to steal them but when she would buy cigarettes they would not sell them to her unless she got her ID and show them they said she looked 14 and she was actually 30
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I look younger then I am and when I tell ppl I have an 8 year old they look at me with that really face! And I’m like yup I’m 29 had her at 21 don’t look that old. My dads friends ex girlfriend when she was enrolling me in high school they thought she was the one enrolling she got so mad too of course at 17 I thought it was funny as crap. Just tell him he’s got a young cool momma
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Oh man I wish I had that problem. I had my kid at 40 and I have got mistaken for Grandma. 
WTF
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I’m almost 30 (5’3 and 130 pounds) my four year old is 108 pounds and 4’3. I get told all the time that I have a cute little brother while shopping.
Show up with a cigarette and a beer in your hand beer 
Instant ice breaker! If nothing else they’ll have something else to talk about. jk
Seriously tho, I was 15 when my oldest was born. Honestly, I’ve never had that issue. For me, the parents and teachers who treated us differently (silently) without acknowledging their assumptions was quite difficult. The way that I handled it was to be honest, not be afraid of the Q’s, and command respect by the way I either approached them or carried myself and made it a point to be directly involved at school as often as possible. I also learned that most of those parents had more issues in their personal lives as average age parents then I did as a young mom. Personal insecurity as parents is a huge thing to overcome. Add 14/15 yr old pregnancy on top of that… At 42, I wish I had cared WAAAYY less what others thought of me back then.
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The dentist thought that I was was my daughter and my daughter was my mother I just kinda laughed it off take it as a compliment that is what I do
Just reintroduced yourself as mom!
And get used to it because when he has a child you will be mistaken as mom
Had my daughter at 15 she had a child at 22
Get it all the time
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I had my daughter at 17 and I’ve gotten that alot as well. No advice though as it has never affected us in a negative way.
I had my daughter at 16, she’s turning 2 in 2 days time.
Haven’t had these questions yet but I assume they are still to come.
I was 17 almost 18 when i had my daughter. I get told im her sister- especially when im 5ft tall with anti-aging face! Shes now 7 and im 26. Its gotten to the point where she rolls her eyes n proudly pipes up like" yeah i know my moms awesome. Thanks for noticing" shes a bit sassy but still respectful.
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I had my son at 17 
I had my son at 15, I’m now 47. We got this a lot and still do, lol. He used to get so mad, especially in his teen years. His friends would tease him about his “hot mama”. I’m now recently divorced and dating. He’s a 31 year old lifetime bachelor with no children. We have become great friends and he’s very accepting, often in a teasing way he will introduce me as his sister, lol
Last time I took my 14 year old to the ER the dr walked in and asked me where her mom was- my daughter said umm sir that’s my mom thank you very much. She was very offended. I was too busy laughing because I have a 19 year old daughter as my oldest and I was thinking man if he doesn’t think I’m her mom what about the three older than her?! 
my oldest gets referred to as my sister all the time. But to answer your question I stop people right there in their tracks and correct them.
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I’m 31 my daughter is 12. I went to her class for a party and all her friends thought I was her sister. She just laughs it off and it doesn’t bug her.
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You will always have idiots. Just reassure your son on how much he’s loved.
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I’ve had it happen. Granted my sons only 2 but when I was taking him to daycare for the first time, I got told “will y’all’s mom be coming in too?” They assumed I was 14 years old and didn’t believe me until I showed my drivers license:woozy_face: when I’m with my mom and my son, everybody assumes he is her kid as well 
I guess they assume my tattoos are fake or just drawn on by sharpie because they are very visible and I don’t try covering them:woozy_face:
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I had my oldest as a very young teenager. I was always mistaken for a sibling as well. I always introduced myself as the parent.
When my oldest was in grade school I was in my early twenties. We went to a Girl Scout meeting. The lady in charge came over, tapped on my shoulder and said “sweetie the 5th and 6th grades are over there”. I was mortified and the poor lady was so embarrassed after I explained who I was. Now it is a funny story in the family.
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Oriana Wallace-Edwards does this ever happen to you
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Sammi Chu-Youde your tribe
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I wasn’t much older than you when I had my son and he’s now almost 13 never had an issue. You know your his Mom and he knows your his Mom. The teachers need to more respectful
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It happened to me couple times with my oldest. She’s almost 17. I had her at 25. Her teacher thot I was her sister…lol.
I was 17, my son used to get so mad, everything though I was his girlfriend. He got used to it and would Say t hat’s my mom all proud
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I also had my Son at 15. He is now 21. I also have a 2 year old. I’ve had people think we were a couple and that my 2 year old was his. Its definitely an awkward feeling
My mom had my sister at 19 and would always get called our sister, she typically just laughed it off and corrected them if we were with acquaintances or doctors, etc. Your kid will get over being bothered about it once he learns it’s really not a big deal. I was bothered by it till I was a little older and noticed how good it made my mom feel when others thought she was so young.
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Aw try not let it get to you and just remind your son people make mistakes. I was a little older when I had my first…but I am 31 with a 17 year old sister and people assume I’m her mum! Which would make me around 14/15 having her. I guess what I mean is it can go either way. It’s very normal to have a child at that age now, and less common to be older. I hope once these people know your his mum and are respectful of that x
Hey…own it! Yeah you had him young. And you’re rocking it. When people question you and ask for a parent, stand up tall and correct them. You have nothing to be ashamed of and neither does your son.
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I’m really little and look younger than I am and this happens to my son and I often (he’s 11) he thinks it’s funny when his friends think I’m his sister. But I hate when teachers assume I’m his sister.
When my oldest son was in kindergarten, the other moms (roughly the same age as me) thought I was a teenage volunteer from the high school on campus. I was 25. People always thought I was my son’s older sister, since he was 12ish. We just corrected them. Idk what else to do besides gently correct those for whom it’s an honest mistake, and chide those who do it maliciously.
As for your son, listen to him and acknowledge his feelings. Perhaps ask him if he has ideas, and tell let him know you’re willing to at least give something a try, if it’s something you’re comfortable with. Honestly though, kids that age will be embarrassed of their parents for one reason or another. Don’t take it too personally, and just do your best to be respectful of his feelings.
Wish that happened to me! I had my daughter when I was 17 and she’s now almost 13 and I’ve never had that issue. I’d be chuffed!
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LmFao… I get the same. Enjoy it while it lasts.
I was 15 when I had my 1st also. However neither of the kids ever had a problem with it. In fact they both say they can’t even imagine having older parents. & my kids are now 30 & 26, my oldest granddaughter is 12 (I was 33 when she was born).
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Just own it 
I actually had my daughter in my 20s but im really short and still look young. My daughter is almost 13 and she’s taller than I am. We went to taco bell awhile back and she places her order. The lady at the counter was like “what does your sister want??” 
the look on her face when my daughter said that’s my mom was priceless
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Lol I’ve had both ends of this. I had my first child at 16, my fourth child at 20
Spent 20 years being told I didn’t look old enough to have four kids.
Then my fifth came along and some cow called me his grandma!
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Dress like an adult for teacher mtgs, and introduce yourself as his mom from the start.
My mother had me at 16 and she’s very pretty. She was often mistaken for an older sister when she came to pick my sister and I up from school or when we went to the movies or shopping. It always made my sister mad for some reason but I could see my mother enjoyed it and it never bothered me. I had my kids late to balance it out lol.
When hes in his late teens and all his mates think you’re a ‘milf’ it wont be that bad
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Yes ma’am I still deal with it to this day. I was a young mother. By the age of 16 I had already had my 3rd child. Fast-forward to now the 3 orders are in their 20s. You get use to it. I think the best part is seeing the person’s face when you say. Sorry that is my child
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I had my daughter at the Same age, but my daughter says she doesn’t mind it bcuz that means she will get to have me around longer since I had her so young. & all her other friends have older parents
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I had my oldest at 19. When he was in 8th grade I had to go to his school for a meeting and a teacher stopped me and asked me for a hall pass . It bothered him more when he was younger, now he loves it. It may just take time and some maturity on his part.
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My son is 14 yrs old & 6’ 2. I’m 32 yrs old & 5’1 
he hates going in stores with me. Everyone either thinks I’m his sister or gf:sweat_smile: we leave in a small town, so his friends & teachers know I’m his mom. It used to make him mad. Now he just laughs about it
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I had that issue at local fairs. Not letting my daughter on some rides because a parent wasnt present. I lifted my shirt showed them my road map of stretch marks. Yeah my kid asshole.
Be proud of YOURSELF…look at the positive side…people dont have to know your age…smile!!
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You’re a grown adult now. Be thankful you look so youthful and nice. I’d laugh if someone thought I was my kiddos sister and then proudly announce that I’m momma. If they want to assume stupid crap, laugh at them and then turn it around.
Their issue, not yours.
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That’s when you get to be like “HA, I am his mom.” In their faces
My oldest son and I struggled with this. When he became a teenager. He looked older with a beard and mustache. I looked young. We would be mistaken as a couple. Waiter’s would give him the check.
One time I was test driving a car with him. The salesman asked if I had kid’s. I said “yes, he’s sitting right next to me!”
We’ve also been mistaken as siblings.
Everyone used to think my mum was my Grandmother, she had me at 36, l was Embarrassed by that. I would never let her pick me up from parties etc.
What I’m saying is kids always have a problem with their parents no matter what .
100% he loves you.
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Me 37 my oldest is 19. We always get mistaking for sisters
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My Granny is 78 and my grandpa is 53. They’ve been together for almost 35 years and people think they’re mother and son. My Granny gets a kick out of it still especially when they kiss a people’s reactions are priceless own that shit girl!
I had my youngest at 29, she is now 16, we were in the store and the cashier thought we were sisters. I am 46 and a Grandmother to 3 from her older sisters. We laughed about it. My point being, be honest with your son, and introduce yourself as his Mother at the school, and it is nobody else’s concern about weather you are his mother or his sister.
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My son is 16. I had him at 20. We drove through the drive thur lane at McDonald’s the other day . Apparently another teen that knows my son from school looks at me and him and goes “Randy, is that your sister?” I just laughed, my son turned red. I was like damn Randy you got a young ass mom. It was just funny. I was always the young mom . Seems must kids my son age were their parents “love child”. Randy also has a 2 year old sister and 1 year old brother and 1 baking. ( fertility treatments the whole mess. Was told i couldn’t carry) so OOPS.
Same! I look like a teenager or everyone tells me i do and i have a 9 year old whom people think hes my brother but i take on my mom role fast yes this is my child mind your business I am his mother not his sister.
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This has happened to me once too with my son ! Lol (he’s also 12, had him when I was almost 16) I’m sure in time he’ll feel a little different about it lol maybe just his age right now !
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Congratulations on being a hot mom?
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I had my oldest son at 18. He is now almost 20. People always assume I’m his girlfriend. We just laugh and go about our business.
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My mother had me when she was 20 and my sister at 27 And everyone assumed she was My sister and when my little brother was born in 2003 they assumed he was mine and my mom was still my sister always got a kick out of it just means we look young. Lol but give him time hell get use to it
I got pregnant at 16, Shes 15 now and loves it.
I can see how it would be diffrent for a boy though.
Enjoy being the young mom. I take all those comments as a compliment
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I am always looked at as the sibling as well. 31 with my oldest being 13. Heck even with my 6 almost 7 year old I get called his “sister” They always say “you look like 17” I always take it as a compliment and tell them “well good. That means when I’m old I’ll still look young” It doesn’t seem to bother my kiddos though as of yet.
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I had my daughter when I was 17. She’s 13 (5’2.5) now and I’m 30 (5’2)… her friends and a lot of strangers mistake us as sisters… she HATES it. I love it. I told her “well they could think I was your grandma”. She thinks that would be better than being mistaken as sisters
It happened to me with BOTH my parents .
He’ll eventually get used to it. I didn’t like it either. Especially when my friends would tell me my “brother”or “sister” were cute or attractive. That would piss me off .
It isn’t any different now that I am an adult. I have children myself and no one believes that they are their grandchildren .