Mommas what are tour thoughts of getting your baby’s ears pierced? I have a 5 year old daughter who we got her ears pierced as a baby and after she turned 3 she no longer wanted them so she hasn’t had any in since then. Now I have a 4 month old baby girl and my husband wants me to get them pierced. I don’t want to do it this time with her and just wait until she’s old enough that she wants to get them done, but my husband says it’s better to get it out of the way. What are your thoughts ladies?
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Hold off until she’s old enough to ask for them if she wants it. We had my daughters ears pierced at 3 months old and she constantly pulled them out no matter what we did. Finally, we just took them out and when she was 3 she asked to get them done. We made a big deal about it, went to her favorite place for lunch and took her to build a bear for a bear to hold while she got them done. She’s had them in ever since.
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I’m waiting until my daughter asks.
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I waited until they asked for them my 12 year old never did has no interest my other daughter wanted them at age 7 so we took her. It’s not a requirement just because they’re girls they may not even end up wanting them
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It’s a super fun birthday gift for her when she’s old enough to choose for herself! I could not have watched the pain it caused my little tiny baby. Immunizations hurt her and she wailed. I believe there is no need to make a hole that will cause her pain until she picks her time! It’s a cultural choice for many though…
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I believe that they should be able to tell you that they want it done. Jewelry is for adults, I feel if you need to get your child’s ears pierced as a baby to prove they are a girl or try to make them pretty, you are the one with a problem. This is my opinion. Yes I do have a daughter and granddaughters
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I personally wouldn’t do that to a baby. To me it’s cruel. It hurts, the healing process hurts. For what? So people know your bald headed baby is a girl? I have boys, so this was never even a topic brought up. If I had girls, I would wait until they were old enough to tell me they wanted them.
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I let my daughter make the choice, hoping she was going to be closer to 8 or so before she asked. I think she was in Kindergarten. I think it’s great to let them ask, it let’s them make the decision for themselves.
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Let her choose when she’s older. It’s her body. Babies are too young for unnecessary painful procedures.
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If they aren’t old enough to understand what a piercing is and how it works and how to take care of an open wound like such then they arnt old enough for it. My 3 year old asks me all the time for earnings so I just got her some clip ones for dressing up until she’s ready to make the choice when she is old enough.
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Personally, I’m not a fan (no judgement on those who do it). I just think it’s best to wait until they’re older and can ask for it.
Though the risk is low for an infection, I just don’t think it’s worth the risk 
We did it around 6 months ago. Idk a single person who was mad at their parents for piercing their ears as a baby . If she wants to she can take them out when she’s older .
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I have a 2 1/2 year old and I am leaving it up to her. My mum got my ears pierced when I was a baby and I can’t wear earrings they hurt my ears it doesn’t matter what type they are. My mum always try’s to persuade me to get my daughters done but I feel it’s her choice to make cx
Why does he want them pierced so much? What does that change?
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Personally I’m not a fan. Working in childcare I’ve seen lots of infections and issues from babies having their ears pierced. Its not worth it x
my rule has always been my kids can get their ears pierced when they’re sure they want them and are old enough to take care of them, but that’s just what works for me. trust your gut, mama.
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Let her decide, she’s a whole different person and it is her body, mine ended up getting done when I was a baby and it ended up ripping out of my ear in my sleep and I had to be put under to get it fixed!
My mom pierced my ears when I was 2 weeks old, with the logic that doing it a young age would prevent me from messing with them - essentially, they were just “part of my ears”. I wear earrings constantly, my ears are slightly gauged.
I followed suit with my oldest two daughters (twins) and pierced their ears at a young age, based on the same reasoning. Neither of them wear earrings, and haven’t for years. They turn 21 soon.
With my youngest daughter, almost 11, I didn’t pierce hers. I waited for her to ask for hers to be pierced. She had been asking for about a year now and will get them done for her 11th birthday.
I would wait until she’s old enough to ask, because she may not want them done at all.
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My personal opinion is to wait until she is old enough to ask for them. When they are old enough to ask for them you can turn it into a fun day and have that special memory. When my daughters asked for them we went and got their ears pierced and then went and got ice cream. Plus the look on their face is priceless I love it.
Mine got ripped in kindergarten or Pre-K. Have wished for over 60 years that they didn’t do it. I let my daughter choose and she didn’t want pierced. She had knee length hair and no one saw her ears anyway.
Not until she’s old enough to ask for them
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To each their own and no judging on my part. I won’t pierce any of my kids’ ears until they’re old enough to ask.
Best time to get them done is when they are a baby. If when she’s older and doesn’t want them then she can take them out. Never heard of any girl being mad that they had their ears pierced when they were a baby. I have 3 girls and none took them out, all done as a baby. Girls are so cute with earrings on. 
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Wait until they are old enough to ask for it themselves. My daughter is 3 and we just started to ask her. She thinks mine are pretty but says no. So it’s a no.
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Wait until she’s older and she decides that’s what she wants and then take her to an actual piercing shop
These guns they use at Walmart and Claire’s are not good for you at all.
I got my daughters done when she was a baby, but ended up having to take them out because One kept falling out and my dad being a doctor was afraid she eat it
 We ended up getting them re-pierced on her eighth birthday after she’s been asking for over a year
I’m letting my daughter decide when she wants to get them done. So far there’s zero interest in having anything pierced…
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I waited until they verbally tell me they wanted their ears pierced.
My mom n grandma did mine at 6 months I’m glad they did u didn’t hsve to lol
I’m a mother to 3 girls and I’m also someone who had hers done as a baby by my parents.
I wish they would not have made a permanent modification to my body just because “it looks cute”. It’s not cute when you’re walking around with holes in your ear lobes because you had your ears done against your will and you can’t wear earrings for whatever reason. Just wait and let her make the decision for herself.
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I think it needs to be the kiddo’s choice. I’m also a firm believer in having it done by an actual professional body piercer who knows what they’re doing (not Claire’s or some place in the mall), and none of them are going to pierce a baby.
I agree with what you said then when your daughter is older she can tell you if she wants them pierced…
I wouldn’t do it as a baby wait till she’s older snd wants them it was so fun taking my daughter when she wanted them it’s hard to watch a baby gift them done I have seen many parents take babies in and they are screaming no thanks wait till she’s older
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Each to there own. But personally I want my children to have the choice.
Wait for her to comprehend and ask for them
I would personally wait until she wants them herself. You also don’t want her pulling or tugging on them.
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I’d say let her decide when she’s able.
I’m teaching my kids “my body, my choice”. Unless something is medically necessary, I think it’s best to let each person decide for themselves.
If we have the chose again we would wait till she asked. She didn’t wear them till she was 16.
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Did my daughters at 2 months she’s 6 now and loves them. She can always take them out if she wants.
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Nope that’s something they need to decide once a Lil older.
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I waited until my daughter turned 10 (piercers personal age limit) she was able to say she wanted them done and honestly do not regret waiting they were done. less time to heal than if they were done with piercing g.un no trauma for the ear.
I’m going to just throw the question out there. Doesn’t necessarily need to be answered just to get folks thinking.
Those who say let them decide, when they are old enough, there is no need etc. How many of you are also boy moms and got had your sons clipped?
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My mom & grandmother got my ears pierced at 2months old, after I turned 6-7 I didn’t care for them, didn’t want them, and didn’t care for them and haven’t worn any in my ears since really. I have 3 daughters now, and have decided to wait til they ask for it instead. They’re 6,5, and 1. Hasn’t came up yet and they got friends that has em done
It’s disgusting to put beauty standards on a baby honestly. You have a very short window for a child to be an actual child, why the hell do grown ass women want their daughters to dress like them so bad? Stop sexualizing children, especially little girls. How many have heard men say they are attracted to women with long hair? Plenty right? Yeah, ever wonder how weird it is that’s always the same guy who says crap like “my daughter can’t cut her hair until she’s older and out of the house” or some variation of that? It’s seriously weird that so many women have been brainwashed into that same kind of thinking. “Make sure everyone knows that your kid is a girl” like wtf???
My mom made me wait till I was 13 years old because we were Jewish and when you’re 13, you have a bar mitzvah and that’s when you’re considered a “adult “in the eyes of the Jewish community. She felt like getting your ears pierced was a very grown-up thing to do. I was terrified and I screamed and it was pretty traumatic overall for me, lol even though getting your ears pierced really isn’t that big of a deal apparently to me it was. So I wish that someone would pierce my ears when I was a baby and I didn’t remember any of it. My baby is almost one year old. We haven’t pierced her ears yet and I honestly wish I would have when she was a little tiny baby and wouldn’t have been able to pull them or mess with them because now I feel like I’m gonna need to wait till she’s a little older so she doesn’t mess with them and I’m worried that it’s gonna be, an unpleasant experience to say the least for her
I wish I would’ve gotten my daughter’s ears pierced as a baby. I just knew she would want them when she got older. She’s turning 8 in 2 weeks and wants them so badly but she’s terrified to get them done. She kept saying when I turn 8 I’ll get them. Now that her birthday is around the corner she is now saying wait til she’s 9 because she’s too scared.
I let my daughter choose when.
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I did both my girls young and they still wear wearing a but honestly if they change their mind so be it! It’s not a super obvious hole in their ears anyway! Lots of adults pierce a second hole somewhere and then change their mind with age and take it out
I always advocate on waiting until your baby can give verbal consent. Age 4-5 is a great age that you can ask about them. Go to a reputable piercing shop. Places like Claire’s are not properly trained and certified to pierce, even a lot of pediatricians who offer are not qualified or certified to pierce. Anyone who offers to pierce with a gun is a no go also, they cause A LOT of damage to the soft tissue and causes blunt force trauma. A piercing needle is hollow and removes the tissue instead of ripping through it.
I’d wait till she is old enough to make the decision on her own. Her ears her body it should be her decision
No. Why should Mamas put their child in pain just to make a fashion statement. Babies don’t even know what piercing is. It’s all about the Mama.
Getting thrm pierced at 2 weeks just to get it out of the way sounds absurd to me. It’s not a necessity. Mine was in preschool and a lot of the other girls had theirs pierced. It was her request.
Wait until she tells you she wants pierced ears.
Nah. Once they are old enough to reach their ears they pull on them and knock them out, leaving them who knows where, plus could be a hazard if they swallow the earrings. They won’t want to wear earrings for much of their toddlerhood and early childhood and the holes could close up anyway. Who knows? Pierced ears could go out of fashion by the time they’re teens. Ask hubs if he’d feel the same way about a nose ring or a nipple piercing.
For my kids they had to be old enough to ask for themselves and be good about daily personal hygiene
No I think when she is old enough to decide for herself.
Leave the kid alone. If she wants to get it done she’ll let you know!
I’m one those who strongly disagree no need to hurt a baby’s ears just for show, wait till there old enough to ask,
Wait til you can go to a tattoo parlor. Piercing guns are sooo bad!
Not every child wants it done. Wait.
I don’t like it personally it’s their body I think they should decide
I’d get them done🤷🏻♀️ we waited until my daughter turned 2yrs because that’s what my husband wanted. If it was me, I’d have gotten them done at 2 months. My daughter is 6½yrs old and she LOVES her earrings and picking out new pairs.
I waited till my girl asked
Most reputable places won’t touch a child’s ears until they can verbally consent. Read that again.
My kids and 9 and 10 without them. I said they can go with me to a tattoo parlour when they’re 13 if they want.
So…it’s “my body, my choice” until it goes against your personal liking?
Interesting…
Too damn true. With it being warm, my kiddos and I have been outside all day. So today I took the day to stay inside. Get all the laundry caught up, and the house DEEP cleaned! Put on music, my littles colored, worked out well 
tomorrow they can go back to being feral nature babes 
Her body, her choice should apply here. Let the child decide when she wants them pierced. She is not a doll to dress up.
Mine were done as an infant a month old…I’m fine with it.
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I made it a ritual that the girls in my family got them when they turned 13. It’s cute on babies but I would be afraid they would pull them out and swallow them.
Do it I did my daughters at 1 on her 1st bday
I believe in body autonomy. It should be her decision. While the actual piercing does not hurt that bad they are incredibly painful every night when you sleep on them, they stab you in the neck…
Your kid so you do as you please. You don’t need strangers approval.
I think it’s between you and him.
Most girls in my fam had them done at 3months. I never cared either way if mine were pierced.
Not your body not your choice, like genital cutting.
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Wait until they’re old enough to decide if they want their ears pierced or not
I let my daughter make that choice. She was 8 and we made a fun girls days of it.
Don’t do it . Why does your husband want you to? Wonder if you had a son if he’d feel the same way.
My daughter was 9 months old when I had her ears pierced. She was great when I cleaned them until they were completely healed! Now she’s 28 and has 4 in each ear as well as a helix and a rook 
It’s really a very personal decision, and every child is different!
Wait until they are older and it’s their decision.
I am totally opposed to having my ears pierced and my daughter’s ears pierced. I said she could wait until she is an adult. She did have it done when she turned 18, and regrets it now.
I would wait. I have plenty of ear piercings and like them but didn’t want to assume my daughter would. When she was little 3 or 4, I told her I’d get them done whenever she was 100% sure she wanted them. She just got them done a few weeks ago at 9.
My daughter chose at age 12 to get them pierced, but then developed horrid keloidal scars behind each lobe that literally looked like flesh colored marbles stuck on the back of each lobe. Ick! A couple of years later she had the growths surgically removed.
I never did it when they were babies because I was afraid the earrings would snag on a blanket and hurt them or something (probably a dumb fear). All my girls got them pierced around 8 or 10 yrs old. I don’t shame anyone who does it earlier though.
I have four kids. Three girls and a boy. All have ears pierced. My oldest two girls got there’s done at their pediatricians office along with their shots at six months. My third daughter got hers done at Walmart at six months because we had moved states. My middle daughter got a third piercing at 13 and my son was two. He said “me next” so we pierced his ears. Never a problem. Babies don’t mess with them so they don’t get infected. Older kids will mess with them and they get infected.
Wait until she asks. She may never want to alter her body and you are making that choice for her. I have tattoos and piercings so all for alterations if they want it not if I want it for them.
I’m in my 40s and never had my ears done. My 4 year old will get them done if or when she has the desire. That’s their body. Their choice in my eyes.
When I was born my parents had the same argument but the opposite, my mom wanted ear rings and my dad didn’t. As a kid in school I will say I resented my dad for not letting my mom go ahead and pierce my ears cause every other girl in school at the time had them, however once getting them done myself I see why my dad did what he did. Especially since now days it’s normally done via piercing gun ( which are terrible btw) not to mention after having mine done once the healing process was over I just didn’t care for it 
so I never put another pair on and the piercings closed up, which I later repeirced cause I felt I wanted to fit in again. Now I literally never wear earrings, they just aren’t for me tbch. And now as an adult I completely understand why my dad wanted it to be my decision and mine alone, and I had a new found respect for him after. That being said with a daughter of my own now my husband and I agreed that while we are not opposed to piercings ourselves we think it’s best for our children to ask for them when they are ready to take that step instead of altering their bodies with jewelry when they aren’t even old enough to consent or understand to what is being done.
I think it should be up to the child if they want to get a piercing, no matter if it’s just regular earrings or otherwise. I didn’t get mine pierced until I was old enough to consent, care for them myself, and understand the responsibility. I feel like there is no real reason to cause a child pain for something cosmetic/for vanity unless they are old enough to understand. But that’s just me.
I would look up piercing guns vs needles and do some research snd show it to husband as well. In my opinion based off the facts that research will give you, it’s best to wait until they’re old enough to go to a tattoo shop! That can range from 5 years old to 12 years old depending on the shops around you. I’ll be taking my almost 7 year old for her bday in July because she’s voiced she wanted them and I found shops that will do it 
Me personally would wait till the child asks for them to be done
No cosmetic body modifications should be done on anyone who can not give informed and enthusiastic consent. Babies can not be informed. They can not consent. It shouldn’t be done.
I wouldn’t. It’s not our body to play cosmetics on