When it comes to kids sharing a room, do you do bunk beds or separate beds? The kid’s ages are 9 & 14 boys. My one year has his own room, and my 11 girl has her own room. The older kids are my soon to be stepkids, and they just recently got involved in cs, and I need to have their rooms together before they get here. The separate beds will be loft beds, I have one for the 11-year-old, and my 1-year-old is still in his crib.
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My boys share and have bunk beds. It works fine for us.
Bunk beds are a great option. You can do the twin over full so the 14 yr old can have the bigger bed.
If you’re able to ask the kids they might have a preference! My sister and I had bunk beds until I was probably 14 and then we got separate beds
My 7yr old and 10mo old sons share a room and I’m due any day with my baby girl and she will have her own room
My older girls are 8 and 9 and they have bunk beds. Our 11 month old has her own room. We have a 4th bedroom but it’s a toy room at this point. They wanted and still like sharing a room.
Who is sharing rooms with who?
I would ask them what they want. When I was younger I remember my sister and I had bunk beds for a period of time and then my parents split the bunk beds but they were still in the same room.
I have 2 boys, 4 and 6 yrs. They both have their own beds. A twin mattress on boxspring. I had them on a frame but they kept jumping to get on em and I got complaints of noise since I live in an upstairs apt. I have had bunk beds for them in the past but they love having separate beds more so than the bunk bed. I think separate beds are better, I preferred it more as a kid myself.
They can’t discriminate with the living situation as long as they have there own bed and boys and girls are separated
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When I was younger my sister and I shared a room. We had both separate beds and bunk beds. The bunk beds were fine until we got a little older and one of us stayed up longer than the other so my parents switched us to separate beds. Personally it’s all about preference, I was a light sleeper but my sister wasn’t. I’d ask what they’d prefer if you can
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Maybe ask the children they may have a preference and brownie points for step mum xx
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We have a 3 bedroom trailer we have 4 girls and 2 boys we couldn’t fit 2 bunk beds in one room so we custom built a quadruple bunk bed for the girls boys have normal bunk
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For dss regulations any child over 4 can’t share a room with one of opposite sex. We went through something similar for a year. Now I have a trundle bed since they are older. As they get older they don’t like climbing to a top bunk. Lol or that’s what the 6 year old told me anyway. Lol I’d probably get their preference and see what they choose and then make a decision from there. You want to make the transition as easy for them as possible. Good luck. You can message me anytime if you just want an ear to listen. It’s tough.
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I have trundle beds for my room sharers, takes up less space when put away
I have my baby boy has his own room my 11 year old girl has her own room and my 15 year old and 8 year old girls share a room but that was by choice my oldest wanted to share a room with her little sister and it works out great for them
My boys share and my girls share. My boys are 5 and 15 they have separate beds but are asking for bunk beds to have more space. My girls are 11 and 13 they have a loft bed and are asking to separate
So I would say depends on the size of the room and the kids. So when my boys were younger bunk beds gave them more space in the room to play. They got older and wanted the beds separated so we did that and it was a lot less space , but they didn’t need play space. Wishing you all the best while combining your families.
My 7yo and 3yo share a room.
My 3 kids have all shared a room since babies. They’re now 13, 11 and 9. I tried seperating them but they’d still end up in the same room every night. Even now? It’s not unusual to find all 3 crammed into one bed. 
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Your 1yr old has their own room but ur forcing the older kids together??? Lol good luck. Bunk beds save space.
I’m pretty sure but not 100 as long as same sex and seperate beds its fine
Get bunk beds that can be turned in to separate bed saw some cheap ones on Amazon
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My youngest has her own room. My 7 year old daughter and 6 year old SD share a room, and my 3 and 8 year old boys share a room
Whatever the room allows. If the room is big enough for 2 beds go for it. I like the 2 loft bed idea because it gives them both their designated space.
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We do bunk beds for our kids because it saves floor space and plus they like them. We also go the ones with the steps because they were toddlers when we bought it and there’s storage drawers built into the steps.
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My kids shared a room… The girls in their own room my son in his own… When younger i had bunkbeds once i moved the bunk beds got taken apart and separated them they each had their own side of the room… Now im buying a house and they each have their own room… Just go with what fits in your home
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I’d do bunk bends so there is space for a desk & dressers
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how about u see those other 2 kids as ur own and take your one year old, put him/her in ur room since he/she doesn’t need a room yet and make those children that have been thru hell feel loved and at home. if it was UR kids ud be thinking differently… poor babies, they’re probably better off in a foster home than seeing their own family treat them that way… and its notthat this is so sad, it’s bcz of the room bcz if u didnt have the space it wd be understandable, but bcz of the OBVIOUS preference. so sick:nauseated_face:
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I would give oldest a room alone
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I have my daughter (7) and my fiancé has three (boys 9 & 8 )and girl (6). The boys share a room with a trundle bed which saves space. The girls share a room with a trundle bed also but will soon separate into their own bedroom as they are not biological (per county agency).
I would say give the older kid his own room and the other 2 share
I would do 2 loft beds and put curtains up around the loft to give them their own separate space.
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My sons are 19 and 14… They share a room… Me and my sisters shared a room until we moved out…
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So i have twin step daughters they share a room obviously, but currently share a queen bed. Weve tried them separately but they always end up sleeping together. Unless they ask for their own beds we plan to keep them in the queen. Then my 5 and 2 year old share a room with bunk beds. Bunkbeds are nice cause it gives extra space. I say move the 1 year old to your room. Give the other kids their own space/ sanctuary.
The one aspect most of you are failing to see is the two boys moving in are brothers entering a new step family situation. Good job stepmom for thinking to keep them together. Little bro will need the comfort of big bro being the one person from his former life.
If possible ask the kids. If not possible my vote is a single on top double on bottom type bunk bed so that the oldest has a bigger bed so when little guy needs a chat or anything they have a space 
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The boys sharing a room is fine. I don’t know why people act like kids can’t share a room. I didn’t get my own room until I was 16 and I never cared.
I do bunk beds. We just got ours a bunk bed with a trundle since we needed 3 beds 
My kids had bunk beds but decided they preferred separate beds so luckily I bought some that could be used as either. I have a 11 & 7 year old boys. I shared a room with my older sister and would have liked separate beds instead of bunk beds but our room was to small for all that.
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My bous both twins used to share a room with two beds but one kept him awake and now he has his own room and i as the mother sleeps in the seperate bed as he has seizures at night
My son and step sons all share a room. 7,12 &12. Its bunk beds with a trundle. My daughter and stepdaughter share a room 7 and 16. My husband made them a homemade bed/trundle. Honestly we don’t spend much time at home so it works for us.
I had bunk beds, but all my kids wanted separate beds, so we took them apart. Try giving them the loft beds instead
I hated bunk beds as a kid…anytime my sister was sick. Then she ended up sleeping on my bed ( lower bunk). I would give them the option on what they prefer.
My grandson has his own room and 3 granddaughters share a room 9,6 and 4 most of the time 9 and 6 year old share a bed even though they have their own beds that’s the way they like to sleep
I’ve a 9and 11yr old girl sharing then 15 when here. Then 13 and 6 yr old boys. Girls have trundle bed boys have bunk
I would do bunk beds just to save on space. Plus, who doesnt love a bunk bed? The only issue I could see with it is if they fight over top or bottom. But if they fight, tell them to take turns every night or you pick for them.
My 2 boys room share (ages 6 and 3) but that’s only because we live in a 2 bedroom house. If we lived in a 3 bedroom they’d each have their own rooms.
I’m gonna assume they have to share due to probably not enough rooms? I personally wouldn’t have a 14yo sharing a room with a 9yo. At 14 boys are going through puberty and need their own space. I also look at things differently due to being molested when I was a kid and my oldest son being molested. Also may want to look into the specifics in your state. Some states dont allow kids to share after a certain age.
We have my son 7 and my step son 8 share a room. They have a futon bunk bed. The futon is on the bottom full size and then a twin bed on top.
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I would also add to that I wouldn’t put a teen with a 9 yr old. Can you put the 9 yr old with the 1 yr old at all? Everyone is different, but I know when I was a teen I hated sharing space!
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Considering that one of them is 14, they should have separate beds. Teenagers like their privacy and space. Maybe you can divide the room with a room divider? That way, when they want their space, they can just close it.
Something like this, maybe?
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Unpopular opinion possibly. But. Could you not put the 1year old back in a room with you to allow the other 2 to have their own space while they are dealing with a possibly challenging time?
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I would move the one year old and the crib into parents room. Give the older children each a room of their own. Then look for a bigger house for your growing family.
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I shared a room with both of my sisters for YEARS. My oldest sister is 5 years older than me and my older sister is 3 years older. It wasnt until 3rd grade when it went to just my older sister and I sharing a room and at 4/5th grade we all had our own. I didn’t really care until my older sister would only watch scary movies to get me to leave
If the boys were closer in age I would say yes to room sharing but considering the fact that one is a teen is a little different. I would suggest the two older kids have their own rooms because they are opposite sex and possibly moving baby in with mom and dad for the time being and giving the other child his own room also. I have 4 kids and my two older boys share a room but they are only 17 months apart and my two youngest have their own rooms because they are opposite sex and they would never nap or sleep if they shared a room at this point because they would keep each other up. If the children will be living with you full time I would look at the budget and possibly consider getting a larger home.
Yeah I would let the oldest have his own room and put the baby in with y’all
My sister and I are 3 years apart and had 2 share up until that age. I dont see a problem having them that close in age together. Bunk beds for sure provide extra space I would just make sure they get a bigger room then the other 2. Girl definatly needs her own room and baby is 2 young 2 be in a room with someone so much older who probably has a different schedule than he does. I’d also venture 2 say that when he gets old enough he could go in the room with the other 2. At 14 kids just want 2 have privacy but it will keep him out of a little more trouble. It is what it is. Could be worse.
Since CPS is involved, why not put the 1 year old in the same room as the 9 year old?
If they are up high loft beds I think that would be good because then under their own bed they can have their own space, the 14yo may need a desk, the younger one will prob have their toys they play with then the middle area can be shared of you put one bed each side of the room.
We have done bunks before and it worked well but then all of the floor space is shared, unless you put the bucks smack in the middle and each child has one side that is their own space. It is important they have their own space
We had a loft bed and made a chill zone underneath for one of our older ones once and he loved it, we put a beanbag, his books, his games etc under there and hung some colourful string lights underneath, made it a really comfortable place
Depends on the space you have. My boy girl twins shared a room up until recently when it became inappropriate. They are 8 . I would just suggest keeping same genders in same rooms . They had bunk beds and we had separated them at one point and they seemed to like the bunks better for more privacy from eachother and more room space
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If doing lift beds I’d do separate just so you have all that space underneath for them to play and live in
My kids hate bunk beds for some reason, 
if doing loft beds id get two that way it’s open underneath more storage space
I would go with separate so they can make there own personalized space around their beds. Posters, books ect… whatever they like.
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One yr old doesnt a room if his own. He should b in parents room. 9 and def 14 should have own room
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I would ask them their opinion since they are old enough. Under the circumstances that they are coming to you it might make them feel better about being asking what they prefer
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Bunk beds are a pain to make
Depends on the space. My parents asked my sister and I about our preference as well. Either are perfectly acceptable, though.
I think a 14yr old boy should have their own room cause they’re in puberty but maybe the 2 youngest 1&9 can share a room.
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Bunk beds allow more play area. My daughter had her 3 so close in age that the now have a triple bunk. Its fantastic keeps all 3 close innone room but gives the kids more play area
I would make sure if you have the older boys sharing a room that they have a bigger room. They’re going to need more space and it will make them feel less crowded. I would suggest loft beds for both of them so they can have an area their own under their beds. My girls shared a room and they were 8 years apart but we made sure they had the biggest bedroom to help with space
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I would put the 9 year old with the 1 year old. Let the 14 have hes own room.
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Di let 14 yr old nd 9 yr old share room I’d go with bunk beds to make more room in their then separate beds I’d leave the other two kids in their own rooms like u have it now neither one of the older kids will wanna share with the 1 yr old nd since u only have 1 girl she should definitely have her own room
My 4 and 6 yo boys have bunk beds. More room for playing and other stuff.
I think the theory you have in place is fine for now. If it seems to not work you can always bunk the younger one down with the baby, but THAT gap is even bigger, so not real sure why people think it’s better. My boys bunked together their whole lives. I cried on my oldest Sons graduation day, when the boys were getting ready, and they looked at each other, adjusting ties, and discussed how THIS would be one of the last days they did this together…then hugged. There were fights over the years, sure [one boy naturally messy, one quite tidy] one liked to stay up late, one NEEDED sleep like most people need air. [We also gave the boys the biggest room, even giving up a master once] But honestly, their relationship is SO strong. Stronger then my daughters two, and we never roomed them together…in hindsight, I wish I would have, even just for awhile. Kids will fight, and argue despite rooming situations. Please note also, that college is within the next four years for one. It serves them well to learn to live in a small space together, and negotiate differences, if not for that reason alone…
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I’d say it depends on space. If you’ve got room for 2 beds, go for it. Separate genders. As far as the 1 year old goes, I’ve seen comments that he shouldn’t have his own room but mine has had his own room since he was 6 months. I don’t know the rules on babies but to be safe I would put him in your room for now, not in his sister’s room.
It all sounds fine, But personally I would let the oldest have his own room, I have 6 kids (20,18,15,14,7 and 2) and I can tell you the 9 year old with be in teens stuff and there will be no end to the arguing and fighting you have to put up with over it.
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Do what’s best for you. My son and daughter shared a room until they were 13 & 10 because they’re so close they didn’t want to sleep in different rooms.
Bunk beds are good to have. It leaves more space in the room. Plus if u put 2 bed in one room, that will be 2 bed u have to clean under due to kids leaving toys or clothes and shoving them under. Also I have 5 girls and had to play musical rooms cuz they wouldnt get along or were messy so I needed to find out which 2 got along and is cleaner. However u have a 14 yr old son who is in his puberty yrs so he needs to have his own room. All 3 should have their own room and the baby should be with u. My oldest is gone (19) she was sharing a room with my 11 yr old. It was bunk beds. I have a 13 yr old who is the messiest but is getting better. She has her own room. All of my kids now have their own room now that the oldest moved out. And my 13 month old stays in my room. When she turns 5 I will put her with her 8 yr old sister who will then be 13. I have 4 bedrooms. My room is the smallest and I am cramped but not ready for her to be upstairs yet. Shes just not old enough.
I would do the 2 oldest get their own room and the 2 youngest share
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Do you have a basement by any chance that has space to make a room?? Being a teen age boy he would love to have his own space. If not bunking them together is fine.
Me and my sister did bunk beds and I liked then actually because we got to choose who wants to be on the top bed
I’d give the 14 teen year Old his own private room at that age .
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Personally I would have the 1 year old share a room with you and give them both their own room. But two boys around the same age sharing a room isn’t bad. Teens tend to like their own space though.
I completely understand where u r coming it’s hard having 1yo stuff mixed with the older boys stuff. You gotta worry about their electronics and keeping baby safe. Having the older 2 boys together is a good idea they probably share game systems and don’t want a baby getting into all their stuff. As for the beds 2 lofted beds would give them their own space underneath, but bunk beds would save room space wise. I think lofts would be there better option IF their is room able to handle it. Also u could always ask them.
I shared a room with my brother up until around the time I started puberty so maybe around 9 or 10 we had our own bedrooms. But that was due to us being brother and sister. Im sure itd be different with boys
I’d do loft beds for the boys and give them the biggest room out of the kids. It’s nice having a baby have their own room then nothing will wake them. Good luck momma 
Why not have the 1 yr old and 9 yr old share a room and 14 yr old have his own room. The 14yr old is going thru puberty and should have his own room