Sounds like she thinks her vulva is her vagina…
This is a tricky situation. This coming from someone who was abused around the same age by a family member— minimizing it and sweeping it under the rug makes it seem like it isn’t a big deal and when the situation presents itself again… the child will have the same attitude and approach. Also, I hate to be graphic but even at that young of age things feel good and exciting…. And you’re too young to really understand why it’s wrong. However, being too harsh and approaching the situation with anger and fear and all those natural emotions a parent should have can make an innocent “mistake/learning experience” very traumatic. There is such a negative stigma on having a child in therapy but it can be soooo beneficial. I really wish my parents had taken that approach with me. Feel free to inbox me if you’d like to discuss further. But my honest opinion is have both children see a therapist— don’t make it a negative thing or seem like a punishment. Let the professionals do their job. Treat it like a normal dr visit like a check up or the dentist— just this one is for your mind.
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Curiosity is normal at that age. And self touching as well as touching others does not mean that “someone is doing it to them”. There’s absolutely nothing wrong or unnatural about masterbation or with curiosity, but they should be encouraged not to touch others.
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I know it seems horrible but it’s normal for them to be curious like this. I know sooo many kids who’ve done this and they weren’t sexually abused in any way. But you teaching her about her no no areas is the best thing you can do and also keep a close eye on them if he comes over again.
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This is not not normal behavior I would talk to the parents since it’s family and take it from them and have a talk with your daughter
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That behaviors learned somewhere so at that point I would take her to a child’s psychologist and a doctor to check of any type of assault keep the kids separated. Do not have that child come over and then you need to find out what happened to the 6-year-old because that behavior is learned.
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Way to young to be doing this
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I’m in the uk. My 6yo grandaughter brought a letter home from school advising her parents that lessons on self stimulation would be beginning
At 5 /6 yo they are getting age appropriate sex education. Personally don’t think self stimulation is age appropriate and is something a child will learn when they are ready.
Are they getting similar lessons where you are ?
Have they seen something on TV or walked in on parents /older siblings?
Sadly they grow up so fast now and so much info out there they can find.
Its probably perfectly innocent curiosity but of course the other parents must be informed of whats happened and both children spoken to about private no touch areas on others…careful not to shame them and maybe look for books on appropriate/inappropriate touching . A good open relationship where questions are welcomed and answered honestly is essential
Remind her she did nothing wrong. You love her. That if she didn’t want that to happen you are sorry it did. If she enjoyed it, that’s normal, natural, and she needs to wait until her brain is bigger for big people activities. Tell her that her privates are for her only right now.
Remind her a thousand times she did nothing wrong. As someone with a similar experience, I’m telling you she needs this NOW more than anything.
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Nephew was more than likely molested. Probably by someone related to him or a close family friend
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It’s definitely normal for kids of that age to explore and do this with other kids. I know of a few kids were caught in the toilets at school showing each other their privates, a girl included but it turned out it was just behaviour one kid had heard older kids talking about. However I’ve also seen it from another child when they were 5 and the said boy was being abused so was enacting what he’d been through. Definitely have a talk to your sister and look deeper into things to be sure no child is being hurt. Don’t embaress them but make them aware it’s not ok to touch others private parts and be sure they feel comfortable to talk about it and try to get it out of them where it come from with out making them feel they are in trouble. If you feel you can’t communictae this with them then definently seek help from a councillor.
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Keep them away, no exceptions. And if possible, inquire if the cousin might have been exposed to pornography or abuse. They should not be under the same roof.
I grew up in an environment like this… all I have to say is let your daughter stay as far away as possible, when she’s older she will remember it! It’s even gonna hurt more to know that the family protected the one who causes the problem within her life
Im not sure what I would do but i would keep her away from him.
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Sexually abused kids abuse other kids. It’s a proven fact.
Your nephew, sister, and child all are in some level of danger with this. They all need help immediately.
*Edited to add- the child molestation, abuse, and murder in my mother’s family was traced back 5 generations. Don’t be like our forefathers and keep nasty generational secrets. We do everything we can to protect our kids now.
Don’t hide people like my skeezy great great uncle. Screw that. They don’t deserve it. Expose whoever is hurting your poor nephew, burn some shit down
Need to sit down with your sister and all the kids involved and explain why what they were doing was wrong…Let them know that it is NOT ok to touch others that way. Ask the 6 year old why he did it and your 5 year old why she let him and tried to hide it. At that age that is NOT normal behavior…especially to be touching others at such a young age and your daughter needs to know it isnt ok to let someone touch her like that or hide it. I remember in Kindergarten kissing a cousin on the lips…he kept wanting to do it over and over ,so i had to move seats on the bus bc i thought it was yucky. Lol. Anything beyond that is not normal for this age. Also…like others said…you and your sister need to ask the 6 year old where he learned that it was ok to touch others like that in case he was molested himself… If it continues then they need to be separated.
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While it’s not super normal for kids to do this . It does happen because they are genuinely curious. Now that does not excuse it or make it okay by any means. I would definitely talk to your sister and talk to the children about what happened and make the both understand that it’s not okay at all to be doing that. Also make sure they both know that is they are curious about anything that they can come and talk to y’all instead
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At that age I believe that behavior is learned. That 6 year old should have a chance to be open with someone about where that was learned from.
After being a victim around that same age, I was hypersexual and didn’t understand. I asked a therapist as an adult if that was normal. She said that’s not normal and is a red flag for abuse.
There is curiosity with bodies, yes, but the secretive nature is concerning.
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They are young. Same thing happened with my step cousin and I when we were younger. I never told anyone though because I didn’t think it was bad. Just talk about it to your sister more and set boundaries with the kids.
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It’s learnt behaviour from somewhere … I really don’t think it’s normal not at that age!
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I dont think a 6yr old knows to do tht less something happened with him 
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Talk to your sister and the 6 year old. Make sure he is also getting the talk about private parts. It could be your sister has not had that talk with him. If she has then be stern and make it clear it’s not ok for him to touch others like that. Also keep an eye on them when he is over and if it happens make it clear that is not ok and if it continues he won’t be allowed there.
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sorry this is long and also has a TRIGGER warning**
What everyone does in this situation is going to be different, especially depending on age. Younger children are going to be curious of each other’s bodies. That being said there is a difference in 2 young children looking at each other’s privates and something as you said as massaging a littles girls vagina. Massaging her vagina makes me think this little boy knows and/or has seen way more then he should at a young age. I would absolutely most definitely talk to the mom and he would absolutely under no circumstances be left alone with my child. I had a similar situation in my family. My son, he was about 7 at the time, my daughter, she was 3 yrs old, and my nephew, he was about 12 maybe 13 at the time, were all in my son’s bedroom(more of a playroom as he never slept in it and always slept with me) playing Xbox360. I was between upstairs and downstairs putting away laundry. While I was downstairs folding the last load my nephew came flying down the steps saying “bye aunt Jenn” and ran out the door. My son wasn’t too far behind him and even before my son came down I thought something was up as my nephew ran out so fast and you can tell he was nervous. So my son comes down and I could tell something was up and he had told me his cousin had touched his sister. While leaving out specifics my nephew had told my son and daughter he wanted to blindfold my 3 yr old daughter and “play a game”. I thank God every single day my children talk to me and I talk to them. My son knew what his cousin was doing was wrong and stopped him before going any further. Being my nephew was going on 13 I knew this was not just curiosity. And there had been other rumors involving him. My husband and I went to his mom, which was my husband’s sister, and she threw it under the rug and didnt even really say 2 words to him. Long story short CYS got involved, the police, my daughter and son had to be interviewed by Family Crisis workers, my daughter was examined by a Dr. I didn’t want charges brought up on anyone, I wanted help for my nephew. We ended up finding out he was being abused also. He ended up being ordered to get counseling which my SIL took him once, smh. This incident had tore our family apart. We wanted our children no were near my nephew especially without getting help. My SIL just didn’t think it was a problem, she didn’t believe my daughter and son, etc. She just wanted everyone to turn a blind eye. A couple months after this incident my sister in law died of a heroin overdose. Two days after her death my mother in law died in her sleep, I truly believe of a broken heart. At the time of her death we were not speaking. My last words to her were to “Get the f*** out of my house”. It’s been almost 6 years since and I still regret my last words and regret the way things were handled but there was no seeing eye to eye on the matter. I could not in good consciousness just ignore what happened to my children. My nephew is now an adult and is still not allowed near my daughter’s. My daughter was 3 at the time and I’m not sure if it’s because of how young she was or if she blocked it out but she doesn’t really remember, my son however does. To this day I thank him and let him know how much of an awesome big brother he is and how much I love and appreciate that he can come to me no matter what the situation. And also as a side note there are still issues with my nephew even now. Not long ago he was accused of fooling around with a 12/13 yr old even though he’s going to be 19! So no matter what your decision is and how you handle the situation trust your gut and protect your child!!
Talk to both children! Discuss the situation with them in front of each other to not make this something secretive. They need to understand their privates are private and touching other people’s privates is inappropriate. It needs to be discussed with the 6yr old especially to find where he learned about this to see if he’s been abused or was exposed to something, and boundaries need to be set around their playdates. They are both so young so don’t shame them. 
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I think all kids are curious about their sex organs and what it all means. It probably is innocent enough but have the talk with your kids. Tell them your privates are private etc.
I would obviously keep her away from him and tell your sister to keep a tighter eye on him because it sounds like he’s been exposed to inappropriate behavior as well.
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My daughter was touched on her school bus when she was 6 by a classmate it ended up being learned behavior from the other child’s family. This definitely needs to be investigated further I am soo sorry this happened to you.
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If either kid has ever bed shared or co sleeps with parents they could have seen or felt parents do that to each other and been curious. Boys that age can play with their penis and realize it feels good. It’s totally normal.
A 6 yo child should not know about that unless he’s seen or been introduced some way…it’s just my opinion and this needs to be addressed now…and protect your child
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you need to discuss this with your sister and find out if there is any reason why
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Though scary. This age, it is not abnormal. Though it raises possible red flags…kids at this age are curious. I would keep them seperate. And definately have the sister ask questions to her son. It isnt something to keep quite about but also to not jump to conclusions because it is unfortunately age appropriate. Make it safe for your daughter to talk to you and explain private parts and good touch(hugs) and bad touches. Dont blame anyone. But i would be concerned about the little boy.
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Learned behaviour , i agree discuss ted in people like this and I know 1 still angers me
I’m concerned why he would do that at that age
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I had an experience with this as a young child from a cousin. The cousin was being abused by her parents and she literally had no clue it wasn’t okay. Talks are needed. Definitely address the situation and let him know it’s okay to be completely honest and that you will believe him no matter what.
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Sorta want to punch people saying this is learned behavior 
In some situations it 100% is but if you feel like you can trust your sister and she’s as heartbroken as you then first speak to your nephew and just make sure nothing was done to him etc…thats a good first start…then if not… read up on it… a lot of situations it is just curiosity. Have a talk to both of them together with your sister - just let them both know its not appropriate and why etc and a serious talk about private parts and everything else under the sun…in my opinion the more you speak to your children open and honestly the better. Even how to react if someone ever tries it with them… treating him like he has the plague is not the answer here. Supervised play right now also.
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The 6 year old is in school and that is when curiosity sets in and it is a subject that needs to be discussed. Also might be helpful to say nobody is allowed to touch her private area unless mommy says so!
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Have a good talk about consent and boundaries, all should be learned from dot. Keep her away from this child, it is not normal behaviour at all, it’s not ‘curiosity’ there is something else going on behind it.
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I’d say don’t come to conclusions… what bothers me is she said massages & how would he know those terms to say to her if he’s never been exposed or been around that behavior in some way. I would talk to sister and little boy needs talked to also and asked where he learned about that. Could be nothing. He could have heard it on tv or listening in on parents. I’d keep her away from him Atleast for a short time. I’d also explain to him an her that it is not ok to do. I pray it’s nothing more and it’s just experimenting. Honestly I wouldn’t keep bringing it up to your daughter. If ur not sure how many times it happened maybe bring it up one more time. Kids at that age cling to trauma into adulthood if it’s repeatedly brought up. Yes it was wrong but they’re very young. It wasn’t a older child. I’m speaking from experience to not keep a topic of discussion with ur daughter over & over.
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This is age. Both kids are young. He is 6 years old. 5 and 6 is the age of curiousity. I’d definitely have a chat to your sister, so she can have the age appropriate conversation to her son regarding respecting people’s personal space and privates. Your daughter being 5 also needs to have that chat as well. I have four kids and by no means an expert, three are boys and one is a girl. And my boys at that age were just dumb and curious, getting into eachothers face while rough housing on the trampoline, tickling eachother on the thighs and so we had to sit down and have a talk about it, it doesn’t mean there was something happening in our home that was sinister, kids need explaining and boundaries.
They don’t know any better, I have had numerous chats with their maternal health nurses and it’s that age unless there’s a signs or proof of abuse.
Now how ever if you feel as a mum that there’s something more going on with your nephew like sexual abuse etc then communication is the key. But I’d tread carefully on that.
I’d also keep a close eye on both of them next time they are together and they aren’t to be alone.
You will also realise when your child goes up in grades in primary school, by middle school so grade 3 and 4 in Australia kids know about porn, and these kids come from good parents and the reason for this is because kids hear older kids talk and then you have devices that are unmonitored. Doesn’t mean there’s abuse going on but definitely communicate things and observe.
5 and 6 is to young for it to simply be sexual curiosity. This sounds like learned behavior and that little boy needs help bc someone is showing him/ touching him.
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Well that good to have a conversation at young age and the appropriate names for the body parts of make sure they understand it’s not hoo hoo or a cookie, or pepe or something else… this is a conversation that if your sister open with for you both to sit down and speak to both children at the same time… and discuss the meaning of boys and girls are different in some ways… and to tell if someone else is doing this to them or sexual acts in front of them…
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Keep them apart. Talk to your sister. U advise n explain to yr girl n yr sister do d same to her son.
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From things I’ve heard it’s not common but also not abnormal for curiosity and doesn’t mean something is wrong with either kid obviously both kids need talked to and not just the little boy being labled either a predator or victim at 6 years old like it’s mentioned she had a scared look maybe she thought mom would be mad at them not that she’s scared of her cousin i think kids should be informed and taught the same it’s ridiculous how there around the same age but already being treated differently by gender it’s definitely a sensitive topic but neither should be shamed about curiosity just taught that it’s wrong with there ages right now and when there older if they have urges it can be talked about and brought back up for discussion
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Kids experiment BUT normally it’s both willing to participate. I would say you and your sister need to talk about their bodies(together & separate), that no one but them should be touching their bodies like that…(demonstrate good touch** as in hugs, high fives ect) then also teach them that they are allowed personal space/set their own boundaries…like don’t force a hug or kiss from a relative…give kids alternatives to said hug or kiss if they feel like saying goodbye. For now…they don’t need to be playing in an area where you can’t see them.
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They’re too young to be exposed with that kind of stuff 
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I’d talk to your daughter about consent, and that if she says no, they have to listen, and if they don’t, come and tell you, or a trusted adult, and ask them to call mummy. You can’t stop others doing bad things, but you can teach her to say no, and get help and keep safe.
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Unfortunately, it’s normal. You MUST discuss that it’s NOT OK. discuss boundaries.
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They’re close in age so I wouldn’t look at this as a molestation, but for sure not ok behavior. Tell your sister and she should take her kid to a therapist to determine if he has been exposed to something he shouldn’t have been and then the children should never be left without adult supervision. Then make sure your daughter knows her body parts and what’s private and no one has the right to touch her in those areas
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If this is true they both need support no 6 year old would come to this conclusion alone
He’s seen or heard something he shouldn’t
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I told my kids as soon as they understood 3/4 that nobody’s hands, face or privates belonged near their hands, face, or privates and to tell mom! And never to let anyone do this to start screaming and to get away. Once my x was changing our daughter from her swim suit… there was blood from his bloody nose and lots of screams. He didn’t touch her but my warning had her fully alert so poor daddy! But she got the point! And I didn’t have worries!
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Had heard of 10 year old’s doing it and secret pedo’s and some religious nutters increasing promiscuity in young children. I’d suggest just asking nicely where he got the idea from and work from there.
Talk to both children with all parents present .
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I would talk to your sister again as if he did do that I would be concerned for his sake with where he learnt it. It could be nothing however it’s best to know for sure.
In the meantime educate and protect your daughter and make sure she knows she can talk to you about absolutely anything. Don’t second guess yourself. You know your daughter best. Trust your gut and protect your kid.
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Wtf happened to punctuation? I can’t read any more of these. 
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There are some good body boundary books on Amazon. Kids should know whether it’s inappropriate touching or just hugging that they should be able to say no and accept being told no.
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Talk to both children at the same time in presence of parents. This is really serious don’t ignore it. Instead of talking to your sister alone talk to children. I am sure they are watching, getting something they shouldn’t at this young age.
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Oh no he must be learning it elsewhere or it’s being done to him, definitely talk to his mom and talk to your daughter that’s not ok NO MATTER WHO IT IS!!! kids shouldn’t be doing that kind of stuff until they are adults and both agree.
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they will forget this
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To much T V we’re else would know
Clearly the thing to do is talk to his parents! At that age he’s obviously around someone who’s either done it to him or he’s seen it done, which either is NOT okay! You need to get to the bottom of it NOW and those kids should not be around each other.
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He probably sees the dad touch the mom talk to ur sis the little boy doesn’t know if he’s doing something bad talk w the parents
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Am sorry but I’d get social services child protection to investigate as no child of that age should be massaging a young childs vagina ffs
That’s wrong kids or not that’s learned bahavour
.it maybe inocent and he has seen sexual acts from mum and dad
But his parents should be having a talk with him to see what he has seen and heard and talk about it being wrong and he can never touch anyone in there private areas
That’s not on I’d be livid if anyone
Family members friends
Another child
ANYONE touched my kids like that
I can’t believe how lightly some people are treating this. This child was molested. Idgaf if it was a nephew or not, I would be calling the police. Is it OK that he does this to someone else?? Would you be OK if some stranger did this to your child. Failure to do anything and treat this like it’s no big deal and what kids do, is also abuse btw
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Talking from experience. I had the same kind of incident happen between my son and my 2 nephews I tried Talking with my sister and she refused to believe me. Have the children present and let them explain their own side of things. Then discuss that it was inappropriate and teach them about boundaries and don’t make too much of a big deal just right and wrong.
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We are talking about a 5 year old and a six year old. He is not a predator. They are discovering their bodies, talk to them both . No one should be in “trouble”…Do not let them alone and under covers while they play. Keep doors open and a straight line of vision till they learn privates are private…
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Okay so there is a few reasons why he did that. He is either getting molested and he thinks what he is doing is okay and normal. Or he is getting curious and meant no harm. Or he knew what he was doing and knows it’s not okay… kids at this age are very curious and they need to be taught that we don’t do this. But please find out what’s going on with him to make him do this… he’s 6 so he’s at the age of knowing right to wrong as well
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No longer able to be unsupervised. Exploring themselves is normal at that age, but another person, not so much. I would talk to them both separately. No need for your daughter to feel embarrassed when she did NOTHING wrong.
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Definitely don’t leave him un supervised wen he’s around or allow Ur daughter over there Definitely be saying something
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He is learning it from somewhere else unfortunately
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Usually when kids touch kids it’s because an adult is touching a child and it’s causes a snow ball effect, it needs to be investigated properly. Women molest male children as well, who knows what that little boy has been exposed too.
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Apparently none of y’all remember playing ‘doctor’ when y’all were kids! I wasn’t molested and neither was my cousin, but we definitely compared parts when we were about this age. It’s time to have the talk about the difference in girls and boys and explain that those are meant to be kept private. Explain that it is not ok to touch other people there and you know that they are curious, but that is how nature made them. My mom even went so far as to have the, “That’s where babies come from” talk with me. These babies are just curious!
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where is he getting that from? massage a girls vagina?
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One time when my son was that age my son had a little boy do the same thing under a blanket they where quiet I pulled the blanket up and I was so mad grabbed the kids by the hand and went straight to the mothers house and told her what was going on the house that her kid was doing weird crap I was livid at the time and didn’t let my son hang out ever again and explained to him no one can touch him period ever or he is not touch anyone either he got the message they need to know it it is wrong yes they young but kids are curious I put my kid in counseling after.
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When a child tells you it is your right and obligation to report it to the authorities. I have been in this position before and reported it… The children in question got help they needed (both parties) and idgaf who did or didnt like it. If you love them you will report it. It’s better for all involved.
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Your Daughter was assaulted, You need to report it! The little boy has been exposed to sexual behavior .
It’s your job to report it for both children.
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Reinforce that children should respect each other, and it is not OK to touch anyone else’s private parts. Also, remind your child to always tell you or another trusted grown-up if anyone ever touches his or her private parts.
Things that are normal:
Touching/masturbating genitals in public or private
Looking at or touching a peer’s or new sibling’s genitals
Showing genitals to peers
Standing or sitting too close to someone
Trying to see peers or adults naked
Everyone’s first go to is said child is being molested if he’s doing this already at this age. But it is actually normal for touching. Have talks with both children. And continue so she understands about respecting her body. And that we don’t let others touch us.
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It needs to be addressed asap. Call the police. It has to stop. Because the 6 year old will be 16 an 25 an who is he hurting then
It dont stop
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She was absolutely assaulted and you need to keep him away from her before it gets worse and he continues through her youth and she will resent you for not doing anything about it. She needs you to protect her.
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I would absolutely find a way to talk with both children in a comfortable and professional setting. 
just to be on the safe side and make sure your nephew is safe and your daughter understands her boundaries. Good luck. 
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This article may help…
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Have a Talk with your nephew
Maybe someone is touching the boy. That’s what happens to me. My sexual abusers were abused them selves, three boys they were 10 12 and 14, separate times but all three of them were being abused and taught that it was okay. You might wanna talk to the boys mother and make sure she has a convo about it with him cause if that’s the case they both need counseling asap. And they both need to know that it’s not okay to be touching other kids.
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Does this child that did the massaging have parents? Talk to them. Also keep him away from your house. If he has to be there keep your daughter right by your side. No playing or anything else. Right by your side. Remove all blankets and coverings when he’s around.
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Talk to both of them. Don’t let them venture off to themselves. After talking to them watch for wrong behavior. Then go from there.
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All yall saying he learned it from somewhere else SMH. I remember playing in church when I was that age playing house and doctor with friends (including my own brother) and we would inspect and touch each other very innocently. We were exploring bodies. Probably should have had more supervision come to think of it since this happened mostly at church and there was never an adult around but that’s beside the point.
My point is that you cannot just jump to conclusions. Have a talk with the kids, the parents, etc.
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If your nephew is doing it, chances are he’s witnessing it or experiencing it.
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He learned this somewhere. I agree with an earlier response he could be a victim of molest too. These are children. They should both be spoken to together and separately. They didn’t learn this on their own. You and your sister have a job to protect these children and figure out why this happened. Who, what, when, where and why. Sending prayers for these kids. How scary for them.
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Most of these answers are ridiculously extreme. The girl was not sexual assaulted and the boy is not a sexual predator. They are kids and exploring is NORMAL. Talk to the boy and tell him it’s not ok to do that and talk to the girl about touching and been touched. If you over react to something kite this it can become a core memory and cause alot of problems with sexual feelings and getting close with people later on. All the people saying report this to the police I can hands down say that if it was your son you would not go to the police and you would put it down to “normal” child behav
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As a childhood victim I’d definitely never leave him unattended around my kid . Always close supervision. Also a unpopular opinion is no kids share blankets in my house. They can have their own but there is absolutely not more then one person or child under a blanket. Easiest way for something to go undetected. I have 5 kids rules are all the same. I’m also a non sleepover mom. It’s our job as mothers to protect and educate until they are old enough to for themselves…my childhood left its marks lifelong some can never be undone so to me what may seem basic is extreme to others…until you live with the consequences 
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The little boy learnt that from someone, he could be getting abused, his mum needs to get to the bottom of it NOW.
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Before jumping to the assumption that he’s learned it from somewhere else that he himself by touching himself thoughr that it felt good…at that age not thinking or knowing the feeling as being sexual showed his cousin…kids like to share things they learn. I would have a conversation with sis then both sit dwn with kids and explain that 1 they are related and they can’t do stuff like that together in general and 2 that they need to keep hands to themselves and not let others touch them in those ways and to tell if anyone does.
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Ok i know im going get shot down for this.
Its a learning and exploring. Natural to many at their age. However the rubbing maybe because seen it when the adults were having their time together
Both need know that its not .ok to touch each others private areas that usually is hidden under their clothes.
Its the one thing i taught my son as soon as he was old enough to understand that concept. When he was able dry that area after a bath i made sure he knew that its not ok for others to do it. And when he went docs for their check up at 4. The doc asked him to drop his pants and cough. (Dad was there as i was at work) son was very loud and said hes not allowed to do that.
Doc was surprised. And agreed that not everyone was allowed to touch but explained why he had to do it. And applogised that it was only way they could tell that things were in right place.
Made son feel much better about it and it was something he had never thought about. I also didnt realise that it really happened.
These talks were stemmed from children exploring and learning.
Need be able to explain it without causing shame as it could lead to body shaming/ loothing etc.
Praise your daughter and tell her she can talk to you about anything. Anytime. Always make time for this to happen like Youre doing.
Youre doing a grand job mumma
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I kinda think it is normal exploring and you just need to reinforce that no one should touch her there other than (parent/doctor/partner when an adult/etc)
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The people saying to report this 6 year old to the police? 
really? They are basically the same age. He wasn’t doing it because he knew it as a sexual act and knew in his head he was going to go molest this child as a way to get his sexual desires met. My goodness people have lost their minds. Let’s just label this child as a predator for the rest of his life. He didn’t know what he was doing.
They need to have a talk with each child alone and together. They need to do it in a healthy way to where it doesn’t damage either child.
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Luv I actually have a camera in my kids room. I don’t trust no one
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I think handle it as a grown-up and talk to the kids. Explain why it is wrong. Explain individually to them why because of (whatever is appropriate for their age etc). Speak to your sister and confront her. She probably doesn’t know aswell. At that age kids learn by example.
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It’s normal for them to be curious about each other’s bodies and the differences. It’s very age appropriate for them to be playing I’ll show you mine and you show me yours, etc. I think it has you more upset that they’re related…. Anyway, just reinforce with your daughter that her private areas are private and have your sister discuss this with her son too. Next time they are playing you just need to supervise more and control how and where they play together.
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It happened to me throughout my childhood! I am Normal. You have to take on a whole New thought process! It wasn’t my fault that it happened so those that done it will pay for it in due time!! I’ve had time to think about how to handle it in the future if something should happen elsewhere though hence my response.
…If I were you I would get them together and have a STRONG SERIOUS talk with them MYSELF. I would explain it to him that it could get him in really bad trouble TODAY right at this very moment or in the future if he kept on doing it to her or ANYONE else! He would also have to apologize to her for his actions! If he done what she said then there may be something going on with him elsewhere as well, or he may have seen something he had no business at his age. That type of behavior is not HARD WIRED it’s LEARNED from somewhere!! After that he could only come over on SUPERVISED visits!! No more ALONE play. Front and Center! Until I felt comfortable with his presence around my daughter!
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Obviously going to be an unpopular comment but…
Has anyone asked why the girl said he was massaging her vagina? Maybe she was showing him what someone is doing to her.
What has he said happened?
Her scared look maybe due to guilt, for them both being curious.
Are parents not aloud to touch each other once a child gets that age?
That’s where it was seen?
So much blame thrown at this little boy and accusations of him being abused.