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It is his responsibility to help so sit him down tell him to step up or youâll find somebody who will.
You being stressed isnât helping.
Check your bmi. Doctors can give weight loss meds if you qualify. Mine had to be 28 or more.
Lose all the weight you need by dumping his ass.
I would get my thyroid checked out⌠for the weight loss thing. Youâve had kids⌠something could be up with it 
I would askâŚ
Your man is gonna keep doing what you allow him to get away with. Give him no choice but to do those things. Talk about it. If he still refuses I vote throw the whole man awayâŚ
Stress hormones can effect your ability to loose weight.
Iâve started thrive and feel so
Much better and have slowly started loosing weight. It fills in the nutrients gaps in your diets
Iâve always found a low carb high protein diet helps me loose too.
If he is NO support to you and NO support to the kidsâŚMMMMâŚWHAT IN THE HELL IS HE THERE FOR??? A RIDEâŚUMMM NOPE!!! YOU CAN DO THISâŚYOU GO GIRL⌠DO IT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDSâŚ
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Howâs your diet? The best way to lose weight is lots of water, exercise with a combination of cardio and weight training, and being in a calorie deficit.
Working out alone will only get you so far
As for your husband, you need to tell him that he helped make the babies and so he needs to help care for them. Parenting involves both of you and if he canât understand that, then he needs to understand that you will do whatâs best for you and your littles and sometimes that means walking away
Depression can hold a huge part in our weight, be it under weight or over weight , once we get our minds healthy we can work on our bodiesđ
Hula hooping! Smart hoop or weighted are amazing
I find that using what a call a sandwich plate that itâs smaller than a regular one and when you put food on it, it seems more than it is . I have also cut down on my portions. I didnât need to loose much, but wanted to lose 15 pounds and itâs been 3 yrs and from 175, Iâm down to 158, not bad.
Hypnosis for weight loss. This isnât my focus, but the clients I have had have had great sustainable success. Iâm happy to take on a weight loss client 
mind body is intimately connected Calendly - Natalia Griffin, Board Certified Hypnotherapist
Thrive for real and drink more water
Metabolic is a great resource. They teach you what to eat, how much and not to skip meals. People talk about the cost but the only thing I bought was their protein drink mix. All the vitamins you can by at any nutrition store or Walmart. Work their plan and it will definitely work for you. I lost 33 lbs and 52 inches and kept it off for 15 years.
He sounds like another child. He needs to step up or step off.
Food allergies weâre stopping me from losing weight from inflammation.
Hey Momma! Hang in there. I lost 150 pounds with gastric sleeve surgery just to gain most of it back after losing a baby and then having a rainbow baby and other stresses. Iâve been struggling to lose it again. I just discovered ketone drinks and itâs working!!! Let me know if you want more info.
Depression and stress are the biggest contributions to stuck weight. You can work out, eat the best way you can, but your body is still receiving signals to not lose by the amount of stress youâre under.
If you canât get the hubby to help, lose some weight by losing him. Heâs a dad, he has responsibilities with the kids just as much as you do. If heâs just being dead weight, you might as well just be a single mom since youâre already doing the work of one.
Get your thyroid checked on the weight issue. Tell that man of yours itâs both your kids your a family and he needs to contribute equally!!
Iâm in the same boat weight wise but I blame my mirena. Do you have an iud or on birth control that can be to blame?
Youâre already being treated like a single mom so maybe take that step and youâll lose probs 150 + lbs in the process
Stress will pay a huge part in keeping weight on. I would honestly suggest therapy. We all have things that we sometimes need help with, and just having someone to vent to, if nothing else, often works wonders. I stayed a much bigger size after my 6 kids until I finally got out of my stressful marriage to a nam child. This might not be exactly what you need, but therapy always seems to help. I know that you can do this 
See your doctor and have your thyroid checked. Always, always consult your doctor before beginning any diet program and please do not use any MLMs. Count your calories. Burn more calories than you eat. Eat small, frequent meals. It helps to raise your metabolism. Download MyFitnessPal from your mobile App Store. That was a huge help for me!
Losing weight is 80% diet, 20% workout. Even though you are working out are you eating In a calorie deficit?
Things sound stressful and that doesnât help one bit. Sounds like youâre a single mum with one of them being a man Child. See your doctor, could be an underlying health issue. Good luck 
As someone who has struggled with her weight her WHOLE life, itâs ALL about how you fuel your body! When I started eating better, I dropped weight and quickly and itâs not some fad or magic pills or wraps or anything like that. I make mindful choices about my nutrition and what I put in my body to fuel it. It is sustainable and if consistent, the weight will stay off. I will also be the first to say that I fell off the wagon pretty freaking hard coming up on a year ago. I got hurt at work and was on light duty for six months and Covid on top of it and with where I work, delivery for food breaks was quicker to go with the fast paced nature. I got lazy about it, and thatâs my fault. I wasnât as diligent about what I was eating since I wasnât able to be up moving and burning it off like I was used to. Long story short, drink half your body weight in ounces of water (if you weigh 300 pounds, then you need to drink 150 ounces of water a day), be mindful of snacks, eat lots of veggies, and minimal carbs at dinner. Stay diligent and focused and it will happen. Feel free to PM me if you need a buddy or anything like that. Good luck!!
Have your thyroid function checked. Sometimes it slows down (hypo) it causes weight gain, inability to lose weight.
Yes, stress certainly wonât help. You need to have a serious sit down talk with your guy.
But also, have you had your thyroid checked? After I had my kiddo it messed mine ALL up.
Do cardio until you sweat, and drink more water you have ever drank in your life
I lost 120 after all 3 of my kids
You could just get rid of him and that drops a lot of dead weight immediately.
But on a real note, stress and being depressed have a lot to do with retaining weight. Other than that itâs calorie deficit. Burn more than you eat.
I understand your situations my was different but I have made little changes to my diet and they have helped me so much I have removed sugar , bread, fried food. I used Mazola corn oil Heart Healthy got my high cholesterol under control and stop eating at 9pm, only coffee or water after 9pm. Good luck stay positive and you are always beautiful remember that.
Have your thyroid checked!!!
Sounds like you need a new man. Donât let him bring you down! Stay positive YOU CAN DO IT!!
Take measurements. Sometimes the scale wonât move but measurements do. Calorie deficit and try to minimize stress
Make sure your getting plenty of fibre and water
Look up intermittent fasting i lost 60 pounds doing it
Skip sodas & cut out most sugar other than fresh or frozen fruit. Cut carbs as much as you can. Substitute brown rice, 100% whole wheat or whole grain breads for white, including whole wheat bagels (1/2 bagel is a serving). Use whole wheat, edamame, or chick pea pasta. Strive for a vegan/vegetarian/pescatarian diet. Look up some veg. recipes online or get cookbooks.
If you must eat meat and poultry, only organic w/o growth hormones or antibiotics. As little cheese as possible. Do your own cooking as much as possible, eating out, order appetizers or half portions or split entrees. When I eat out, I get a to-go box right away. I put half or more of the meat & carbs in the box, eat all the colorful vegetables. Then add colorful vegetables to the leftovers for 1 or 2 more meals. Find places like Cava, Sweetgreen or Panera or whateverâs available near you. Get unsweetened iced tea vs. soda.
Also, are you on antidepressants? Check with your doc to see if your birth control or meds are adding weight, or if youâre hitting early menopause.
Family therapy for hubs.
My doc told me. Lettuce, water, and walking 20 mins a day after I had Essure birth control implants and gained 100lbs in 2 months from it.
Depression and anxiety can cause you to retain weight. You need to ask your doctor for a full work up on your blood because your thyroid may be âsluggishâ after having kids. That tiny little organ can throw so much chaos into your life.
And if your partner isnât helping with the kids⌠go on STRIKE! Stop doing the one thing you want his help with.
Count your calories. That is it.
Have your thyroid tested and talk to your Dr about insulin resistance. I have PCOS and am insulin resistant so itâs so hard for me to loose weight
Read labels & know all the names for sugar on everything you buy that isnât fresh produce. If you must eat potatoes, go for sweet (only 1/2 or 1/4 of a potato is a serving), or buy a bag of mini potatoes & Nike 4 at a time. Hard boiled eggs are good snacks, so is plain popcorn, crunchy vegs dipped in hummous, sunflower seeds & a small handful of nuts, plain, raw, or salted. Walnuts & almonds are great, cashews & macadamia nuts are very high in fat. Measure out portions once a weekâtheyâre smaller than you think. Buy or make cupcakes instead of a big cake for birthdays & eat one and give away the extra (except for what your kids will eat in the next 2 days) so you donât have cake sitting around calling your name. Go out for one ice cream scoop in a cup instead of buying a half gallon to sit in your freezer unless you have a big party & will use it all up on the guests. Count Starbucks coffee as dessert unless you drink it black (make it at home & save the $$ too). If you must, use skim milk & stevia. Skip diet sodas & drink seltzer if you crave something fizzy. White wine & vodka drinks are your best bet for alcohol, or lite beer, but alcohol generally packs a lot of calories.
Make sure to add weights into your workout along with cardio. Tracking what you are eating will help to, you may be eating too much or not enough depending on your activity level
Dont drink calories, only drink water it can save you 1200 calories a day .
Eat meat, veggies, fruit, Dannon lite and fit yogurt. No soda, deep fried foods, bread, pasta, rice, crackers, chips, or cakes, cookies, or sugary snacks. If you have a craving, or feel hungry at times, eat a heaping tablespoon of natural peanut butter. I buy Peter Pan natural peanut butter. Itâs delicious. Iâve been doing this for less than 2 weeks, and I have lost at least 13 pounds, or more. I only weigh in, once a week. I feel great already, and Iâm 60 years old. About your significant other, thatâs a big red flag, Honey. Be careful, and good luck to you. 
Lose the guy and you lose his body weight and the stress youâre carrying due to him. Youâre doing it all alone anyway, mama
Lose the partner. Lose the weightâŚ
Sounds like hubby may be causing some stress and depression which can also cause weight gain. Maybe getting rid of his baggage will fix that
Dump the manchild. Your will lose plenty of weight and feel so much better.
Keto will fix you right up. Just make sure your taking in good fats, not bad ones. And being a married single mother sucks. Needless to say, heâs no longer around since i may as well have been single anyways lol. I have much more fun now
Exercise is great for you but itâs also important to change your eating habits. Keto might help but itâs not easy for any of us who struggle to lose weight or just to be consistent with eating habits. When you are stressed itâs harder to focus on weight loss. You might want to get some supportive.counseling.
Losing weight is 90% about what you eat. Keep track of you calorie intake.
Also keep in mind alot of stress makes it hard to lose weight. When Iâve been stressing I can tell on my waist lineđ
There are a million different diets and we all swear by the one that works for us. Trial and error is the best thing I can say on a diet. Activity is key. Regardless of if you can run or walk get your heart rate up for at least 20 minutes. It will help burn extra calories. I use a fasting day every other week. Just donât over eat when you come off the fast. Eat a normal portion and if your still hungry drink a glass of water. Stressing about your husband doesnât help the weight issue. It actually makes it harder because your body is in stress mode. A lot of guys struggle with the task of taking care of kids. I hear it alot and it was that way with my kids father. When the kids dad finally decided to talk about it he admitted he was scared he would do something wrong or hurt the baby. It got better as they got older.
Stress will make it hard to lose weight. Hormonal imbalances also. Vitamin deficiencies too. Thyroid issues too
I followed a 1500 calorie a day diet and lost 15 pounds in about 2 1/2, months. I used the my fitness pal app to help keep track of calories. You can pretty much eat what you want as long as you stay within that calorie count. Only aim to lose 1-2 pounds a week. You can do it. Good luck! This was what my doctor recommended to me
Drop the extra 150 pounds then, and you will go back to having 3 kids and a healthier life styleâŚ
My partner and i are about to embark on a weight loss journey and plan on a.fasting diet to reset our digestive systems
Skip the fad diets and just watch your calorie intake.
MyFitnessPal is free, there is a paid version but Iâve never used that version. I track everything that I eat and allow myself 1,650 calories a day. You earn calories back by burning them through exercise. I started a month ago and have lost 9 pounds. And I donât even exercise honestly. The most I do is walk my dogs and thatâs not even daily since itâs been so hot.
I take some supplements, theyâve helped me lose 50 lbs and helped my husband go from a 44 waist to a 36, message me if u would like info
Praying for you mama
Have a conversation with your husband about helping you with HIS KIDS. Idk why men think they donât have to help raise their own children. You deserve better and so do the kids. If he isnât willing to change get rid of him.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Trouble losing weight and getting support, please help?
How many pounds does he weigh. Youâll lose weight just getting rid of him
Please consider therapy. If he wonât go, go alone. You need help and a way to communicate to him. Praying for you.
Maybe itâs time to dump him and go on a low-carb diet. Give it a try.
I understandâŚ
First off.
See your doctor. Talk to then about your weight and you need help. I did. They proscribed me Phentermine @ 15mg.
Down 15.5 pounds since July 9th.
also, have them check your thyroids so ask for a panel screen. Found out I have t4 issues
( unexplained weight gain and depression) look up T4 symptoms.
As far as husband, you might start asking questions. Donât want to jump to conclusions, but I will say, trust your gut and go with it if you know what I mean.
Hopefully this was helpful.
I have lost 67lbs! When I hit a plateau I switch work outs. Do something fun. Like just dance on youtube if you dont have the game. Walk with the kids in the morning. Or have a dance party with the kids. Me and my son danced for 45 minutes the other day. Itâs fun and makes you happy! Lots of love weight loss is hard. If you still cant lose weight. Do a check up something else could be going on
I been going through that. But found out that by cutting bread period and not sugar helped. I drink a breakfast shake in the morning, eat a nut bar as a snack if i get hungry before lunch. For lunch i eat some fruit or something light. For dinner i eat normal. I lost 15lbs doing this and plan to keep going. It might work for you too.
Stress will keep the weight on.
I was the same way! It was so bad for years people kept asking when I was due bc of my stomach. I found an all natural hormone place in my town. They ran labs and my estrogen was 3xs higher than it should be plus I have PCOS. Since going to this all natural place I am on multiple vitamins and more. I have lost 10 lbs in a month and a half. I worked my butt off for years and would only loose half a pound. They explained as we get older and after having children our hormones go crazy of course but we canât get them back down on our own sometimes. Dr tried all these big pharmaceutical meds but they were awful and I stopped them. This total body and wellness office has been a dream come true! For the first time in 6 years Iâm happy, I feel confident and energized!!
But mainly high vitamin D, and specialty ones to bring my estrogen down. I was 3xs higher than what a normal level should beâŚ. No wonder I was crying and super emotional all the time
Go to the weight dr they give you anapex if I spelled that correctly but that helps not it off super quickly it cuts out all the cravings but u have to cut out the bread cheese milk noodles and of course oil lard boil or bake stay away from frying ur foods this is also what helped me and honestly sounds like ol man has lost interest in beening a husband and father time to move on.
Are you in a calorie deficit? If not you wonât lose weight. Sounds like you have a lot to unpack here. Maybe work on your relationship problems. Stress increases cortisol which is not good for weight loss. Good luck!
He sounds like a total ass and maybe itâs because of stress you canât lose x
NOOM , the app is really helpful as it teaches you portions and you track your calories, it works slow and steady, I lost 12 lbs over 4 months and kept it off and learned a ton about eating wisely
Heâs the weight you should loss.
Get rid of the dead weight
I am a mom if four and done a calorie restriction diet and exercise. It takes a lot of dedication but if u can stick to it, it will help. But that worked for me, it may not be whatâs best for you. Try to start with simple lifestyle changes like ur diet and start out waking . Then up ur game. You can do it!
Not having a supportive partner will sabotage you in all areas of your life.
Stress makes it harder too, dump the dead weight (him) and talk to your doctor about a low carb diet (those seem to work well for a lot of people) and you may need a different work out routine, not all are made to lose weight, some just build muscle and tone. Your Dr could refer you to a nutritionist too. Good luck! Once I have this baby (last one!) I have to get some of this weight off too so I feel ya!
Have your thyroid checked. And, if he cannot ad value to your life - LEAVE.
1st problem if your having trouble loosing weight(and yes Iâm not a woman but I live and breath healthy life weight my food etc.) means your on wrong diet, find what helps you follow people on Instagram ladyâs that have been pregnant and are loosing weight so on they will tell you what to eat itâs 90% eating 10% cardio, as for your
2nd problem if he didnât help before and the baby didnât motivate him to help than your on your own.
FACT
Some partners are like that, you can blame him but I doubt it just happened over night if youâve been with him for 5 yrs.
Could lose 200lbs just getting rid of the man.
Iâve lost 90lbs recently though, and am still losing. After 25yrs of being completely stuck.
Iâm doing keto, with fasts & feasts (feast =cheat weekend every month)
Try drinking chia seeds. Buy Chia seeds and put them in a glass of water
Shitttttt I lost 156 lbs by losing my baby daddy 
Cut your portions in half
Balance hormones
Detox
Sounds like you have 4
Kids. He needs to do better. Youâre probably depressed and some people eat their feelings. Losing weight is 80 percent nutrition.
Count calories and stick to it.
Forget about the word diet and only weight yourself once a week.
I would advise weight watchers as itâs healthy and you get lots of support from people that are going through the same as you. Good luck you canât do it
70% of your weight loss is gonna come from what you eat. Incorporate more water, fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein. In order to lose, you need to be running on a consistent calorie deficit. In other words, you have to burn more than you consume, so keeping track of your caloric intake is key.
Get your thyroid checked