What did it look like? Was it dingy? Ripped? Smelly? Sometimes kids comfort items need to be replaced.
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So how did your child react? If she is doing well then it is what it is.
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Have you even spoken about it to him or just assuming he has thrown it away? Itās possible he just forgot to pack it or your daughter possibly misplaced it.
Go be a grown ass adult and message your baby daddy instead of half the internet who is probably just going to rev you up and make everything worse.
What a jerk! Get it back or replacement for her. My 27 year old still has her baby blanket in pieces but she has it. Itās still called her ābooā. When sheās stressed just holding it helps her.
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Did you ask him about it?
Did the child lose the other comfy, and dad then replaced it with the bear to help her?
Cuz kids DO lose their stuffies, and then us parents get to go crazy trying to find it or replace it with something theyāll accept.
If daughter seems fine with itā¦itās fineš¤·.
Just cuz she doesnāt have it anymore, doesnāt mean dad took it awayā¦
She could have very well lost it and dad just replaced it with a ācheapā bearā¦
Sounds to me like someone is just trying HARD to find stuff to use against dad cuz they madš¤·.
Esp if youāve never asked him what happened to the other stuffie/specialā¦
Youāre ASSuming that he took itā¦when he just may have replaced it after she lost it. It happens.
My own kid did it like 3 times til he finally stopped attaching himself to stuffies lol
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Definitely wrong to take away your childās security item
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Coming from a parent of a 5 year old who still takes her blanket everywhere, Iād be seeing RED. I canāt imagine my daughter being away from the security of the only family she really knows and then having her blankie lost, taken, etc. Sheād be heartbroken.
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Sorry need more informationā¦ was it dirty, destroyed, lost? How has she negatively reacted to said comfort toy? Maybe the new toy from daddy is her new comfort???
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Maybe you forgot to tell him that the child was attached to this itemā¦you didnāt mention this in your statementā¦I know itās heartbreaking and it breaks your heart to know that your child was without her comfort itemā¦take her shopping and let her choose another item of her choiceā¦make it a special time / dayā¦and make sure your x husband is aware that this item is to stay with and return with your daughter ā¦
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They replaced it, so mayb it was lost at some point. I mean what would be the point of them taking it away only to replace it. Sounds like your reaching for a reason to sweat the other parent. I mean yo should probably google the stress of being so young and sent to a strange place for an entire season away from their primary care giverš¤
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my sons father took his security blanket when he was age 3. he was absolutely devastated bc it was actually mine and my som suffers from severe separation anxiety so that was his security . i was livid bein as though his father had just come in the pic - pretty similar situation so i absolutely think that he was wrong for taking the security item away from
the child.
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Poor child!! So wrong, total asshat move on their part.
The very first blanket I wrapped my son in is his security blanket. He named this blanket Mr. Fuzzy, everyone in the house knows Mr. Fuzzy and calls his blanket by name. We donāt go anywhere without the stinky thing (can wash it over and over it just stinks always) and he MUST have it every night or he doesnāt sleep. He will be 5 in February.
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Lost, damaged, or whatever, he shouldāve said something. Thatās just wrong.
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Both my daughters 20 and 16 still have theirs on the bed.
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My child is 10 and still uses his blankie every night. We did get a backup blankie for him to keep at his dads when he goes there because he has forgotten the first one and it was a melt down
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Iād be upset if I could see my child was in distress over it other then that no if your child is fine then maybe you just like that she had a comfort item .
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Is your child okay? I think thatās the most important aspect of this, if nothing is wrong and your child is happy to have a new security item them I think itās okay, itās only a matter of time at this age and maybe it was a good thing that they did it and not you. Might have dodged a bullet.
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I would be furious. What did they do with itā¦
It would be over my dead body she went againā¦what cruel mean ppl to do that to a little girl
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Is she upset about it? If it doesnāt seem to be bothering her now I wouldnāt worry too much.
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If you can get another one get it and send it. And tell them not to throw it out. They probably did it to make you mad.
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My almost 9 year old niece still carries around the blanket i gave to my sister at the baby shower. I would definitely be wanting to know what happened and why it was taken or replaced and how it affected her. Have you not asked about it?
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No matter what happened to the security toy doesnāt make it okay for him to take it away. He could have told you that he didnāt want the child to have it anymore. If your child isnāt taking it well maybe get full custody and just not deal with the guy anymore. My kids dad is the same way for our youngest and it royally makes me mad when he says crap about her. I can always keep my child say from him if I wanted to. Heās not on the birth certificate.
Guys are so stupid most of the time.
I hope you get the exclamation about why he took it
Anything you send to her fatherās house, should come back to you! If itās ruined for some reason, it should be returned in a bag!!!
My son has an emotional support item (a blanket thing with a animal head on it and its scented). If I even thought about sending him to bed without it, breakdown would incur. If heās having a bad day and wants it all day I let him. I see no harm in one and it means he has put trust in a very portable thing when heās not with mummy (hard to have mummy at daycare nap time). I think your daughters Dad was in the wrong for taking it away and possibly giving her emotional stress. Sheās very young. Maybe explain it to him before he next has her and if it happens again, I would bring it up in court if it is about your daughters custody arrangements. Make sure to bring lots of evidence about emotional support items and also the effects of taking one away too soon.
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My girls each had a stuffed animalā¦ the older one had a Tigger n my younger one had a lamb. They still have them.
Yes. Doesnāt matter the meaning behind it; if she brought it with her and they took it away, itās wrong. You donāt take things from kids, unless itās going to hurt them. That was a BS move on their part and Iād ask for the items back. In the future, set boundaries; āWhat I send her with, I want returned when I get her back.ā
My oldest had the biggest stuffed cow that she always needed to have. She carried it everywhere until she was almost 4. And heaven forbid trying to wash it for her was horrible she kept yelling that he was drowning. And yelling he canāt swim. I would definitely be asking questions as to why it was taking.
She might have not needed it attheir house.but should have given it back to you.
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I still have a blankieā¦
24 here and still have comforts, admittedly not the original one I had as a baby, but as a child it was unicorn teddies and right now itās a hanky. Iād be pissed
My fiance whom I met when he was 19 yrs old still had his pillow from when he was a baby. And still slept on it. It lasted til he was 28 before it was no longer any good.
Our son is 15 and he still has his baby blanket.
Yes I think itās wrong.
I say he did it because he knew you would be upset!!
I would have raised hell tbh. Have you brought it up to the father? If so, what was his reason for taking it? Iām assuming she didnāt bring it back with her, thus you realizing he had taken it from her.
My son developed an attachment to a pink blanket of mine. A full size, pink, very soft blanket and got to the point we had to carry it around wherever we went. I had to sneak it away at night to wash it cause it got very dirty, very quick. I finally had a seamstress basicallly cut it in half, and reattach parts for it to be more manageable. His father did not like his son carrying around a pink blanket, let alone one that size, and even tried replacing it with the same blanket, but diff color and our son would NOT have it. He had to have the pink one. He is now 15 years old and itās still part of his bedding. At night, he uses it as a pillow. I know the stress it caused him as a toddler to be away from it, and to this day, he says he canāt sleep right without it. Itās been through the ringer- its been repaired more times than I can count- but he loves it. Itās comfort. So I know if your daughter is as attached to her comfort item as much as my son is to his blanket, taking it from her caused major stress whether her father admits it or not. I hate to think this was to spite you, but exes can be like that.
I would have a SERIOUS conversation with him about it. Preferably over email or text so you have a hard copy. When I was going through nasty custody battle communication that way was a life saver. Thereās no he said/she said that way. Its right there in black and white.
I see taking a babies comfort item, causing them avoidable stress is abuse. Any thing done to a child just to upset them can cause issues with their mental health. This is 100% cause for a conversation at the very least.