Hello. I’m glad this is anonymous. Is it healthy for my daughter to see her father urinate? My daughter is now 5, at the time she saw her father’s penis, she was about 3. My family was extremely modest, so I never saw anything like that. But her father is definitely more uninhibited. He liked to walk around the house naked before we had her. Her father and I are not together, but I do everything I can to nurture their relationship. She told me lately that when she saw her Dad’s penis, she was a little uncomfortable. I don’t believed he touched her in an inappropriate way. What are your thoughts?
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Its time to tell the father what she seen and explain he needs to cover up around her. My father never ever came out of his room without sweatpants on. He grew up in a modest home to.
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Uh yeah he needs to cover up
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You don’t walk around your daughter naked. Not appropriate.
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Your daughter is 5? I still get dressed infront of my 5 year old. Im a stay at home mom that never gets alone time. So when i am out of the shower my boys r there.
I dont think its a big deal if the child is walking in on a parent changing.
Now if you or the father is naked 100% walking around the house. That is 100% inappropriate.
Also if its just oh well my kids in my bedroom and changing not a big deal.
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Same for mothers around sons
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I would say 2. Kids start to familiarize themselves with their bodies around that age. I don’t see why a father would feel comfortable whipping out his privates around his young daughter anyway. Are there no doors in the home? Is he disabled? That’s extremely disturbing
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You don’t walk around naked in front of your children.
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She is saying it makes it her uncomfortable so he needs to stop.
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No not inappropriate but now that she’s not comfortable it needs to be brought to his attention and then if he continues then it would be
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When she says she’s uncomfortable, then it’s time to stop.
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At her age, it’s highly inappropriate. Talk to him and tell him while she is there, more discretion is required, especially since she stated she was uncomfortable.
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cover up, especially now she says she feels uncomfortable
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Some families are like that. I’m very good friends with a family where it’s just normal that everyone walks around naked. it’s your own personal preference if it makes her uncomfortable he should cover up but some families are OK with that
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If your daughter is saying it makes her uncomfortable. He needs to cover up.
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I still remember, I was like… 7? Maybe? And I saw my dad’s penis and it still scars me. 
We are a very open family, so it never occured to anyone. BUT if it made her uncomfortable, he should definitely cover up.
Daddys should not walk around naked - my opinion 
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Um. She can get taken from you for something like this. It needs to be addressed before she’s taken.
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It’s not inappropriate until the child or the parent is uncomfortable in the situation. She is uncomfortable. So now is when the discussion should be had with her father about it. If she is comfortable with him let her do it, if not you do to.
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She voiced that it made her uncomfortable. He needs to cover up.
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It just depends on your family. My parents were very open about their bodies and would always explain anything I was curious about. They never made me feel like any part of the human body was taboo. My parents didn’t walk around the house naked but they explained that as a boundary. People like to have their personal time and be naked on their own. They taught me to respect that boundary and that was that. I never had any problems.
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If either one is uncomfortable then probably time for clothes. We’re pretty open in our house and if you barge in to private bedrooms or bathroom then it’s your bad, but around the house we wear clothes. 💁
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My husband has never been around my daughter naked regardless of age. I would deff be putting a stop to that.
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I personally think that if shes starting to realize and making her feel uncomfortable then it should be time to have a conversation with him about it. My husband doesnt see my daughter but shes also a teenager. my son is 3 and i have to start changing in the closet or something cause lately hes says yay boobies so now its time to not do this once they realize what it is i think it would be that time to do something different
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Everyone is raised different to me it wouldnt be uncomfortable or inappropriate … but you do need to have a discussion with him since she brought it up .
If your daughter feels uncomfortable, then, he shouldn’t.
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Bring it up too hhhim. He needs to be more modest.
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Your not seriously asking this question?!
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Ewww walks around naked. Even that would make me uncomfortable lol.
But i feel differently when its a father son. Or mother daughter. I am not sure why.
When the child is old enough to notice the differences, no more nudity.
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As soon as the kid is asking questions and saying they’re not comfortable is when it needs to stop, IMO
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If she’s uncomfortable then it should stop period.
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She said that it makes her uncomfortable… Why are you asking a question here… if she told you up front that she was uncomfortable there needs to be a stop to it. Period. No questions asked.
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Qu’il évite de se promener nu si la petite est mal à l’aise à ce moment là.
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Everyone is raised differently. Personally I dont feel its inappropriate unless she personally has problems with it. Sounds like she does.
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Your daughter expressed her concerns of being uncomfortable with it, then he needs to stop and cover up. You need to have a serious conversation about it!
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Nudity isn’t inherently sexual. However, if nudity is making others, especially children, uncomfortable, then people need to cover up. A child seeing their father’s penis isn’t harming them, though. It’s just a body part. But it sounds like dad needs to understand that people have boundaries.
Seriously, you have to come on Facebook to ask? Especially when she’s already told you she’s uncomfortable! Seriously think about it! He shouldn’t be walking around her naked!
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We have an open door policy in my place…as in no locks. My son is forever coming in the bathroom.
(My nan locked the door and she’d slipped in the bath while trying to put the shower head back up so never something I’d risk happening. Plus my niece managed to lock herself in, we had to break it down. She was hysterical.
I have no idea if his dad showers around him but we both stay in the bathroom any time our son is in there at either place.
If it made her feel uncomfortable then that’s different. If he had no inhibitions prior to her birth then also different. For him it’s natural. But if it’s made her feel uncomfortable then that needs to stop. Yes
I had a water birth. Also natural.
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I walk around naked and sleep naked and while I cover myself with hands or whatever, if one of my kids asked me to cover up I would absolutely. But being naked is a natural thing so as long as no one else is bothered by it I would say it fine.
That being said… your daughter is uncomfortable so I would talk to dad and mention how she feels
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Asking questions does not mean time to stop it. But her being uncomfortable… that is when it’s time to stop.
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I’d def be having a conversation. He probably just doesn’t think about it, but it needs to be stopped.
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It’s already been said but damn it I’ll say it again. If she has voiced she’s uncomfortable it needs to be brought to Dads attention that while his daughter is around he needs to cover up. End of story.
I believe this shouldn’t be on Facebook
Like it shouldn’t be hard to figure out, if she’s uncomfortable there’s your answer
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I think it’s very weird that he was ever naked in front of her. My daughters dad has always kept himself covered around them.
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Everyone is different in body views He was that way before so he hasn’t changed. 5 is probably getting to the age he should be more conscious of his nudity. Im sure my boys still didnt care and walked in my bedroom or bathroom at 5 it wasn’t / isnt a big deal in our house. But don’t make her feel shame because she saw him Everyone has body parts I openly breast fed my youngest past 2 and my oldest was 18 he wasnt uncomfortable and I know he has to have saw my boob. Its all in how you look at life.
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You’re on Facebook asking if it’s appropriate for your 5 year old daughter to see her fathers penis…
SHES 5!! she shouldn’t see any man naked!!
Ok you said she saw him urinate but did he bring her into the bathroom with him or did she walk in on him in the bathroom? And does he still walk around the house naked with her there? I think he needs to be dressed around her if she feel uncomfortable.
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Put a banana leaf on that. Way too old, and honestly unless it’s a boy, I dont think she should be seeing him that.
If a 5 year old said that id question why…Maybe she meant embarrassed or awkward…Uncomfortable… hmm that needs a conversation
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Wait so did she walk in on him peeing? Did he leave the door open ?does he walk around the house naked still?
I mean I have all boys so it was a bit different for my husband to be naked around the kids versus if it was a girl but she’s expressed that she’s uncomfortable with it. He needs to cover up. Basketball shorts are great for men who wanna be half naked for comfort. You need to speak to him about it and he needs to not mention it to your daughter. Just cover up and move on.
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If she is uncomfortable there’s your answer
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He’s needs to cover up. That is illegal actually I think
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You should not even have to ask that question. SMH
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Until either feel uncomfortable 
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How would he feel about another man being naked around her. May be her father but she shouldn’t see that. My son is 5 and I no longer am naked around him. They aren’t infants. They’re children.
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He should cover up n be dressed all the time around the kid. Kids knower days are clever. He must have self respect. Chat to him about it. My nana is two n we don’t get naked when she’s up or in the same room.
Y’all can’t read. The post clearly says " he liked to walk around naked before we had her" it doesn’t say he walks around naked still…🤦🤦:joy:
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If your daughter is uncomfortable than it needs to stop!
Is she uncomfortable or are projecting your feelings onto her? With my kids I make a non-deal out of it. If they walk into a room where I’m not dressed I don’t panic. I personally don’t want to instill that the human body is shameful in anyway. My kids know boys have penises and girls have vaginas and even if one of us is nude it’s a non-event. It doesn’t even get brought up, nobody is uncomfortable.
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He needs to stop now. Never should a daughter see her father’s penis… not at any age. How disgusting!!
Parents shouldn’t be naked around any of their children at all.
If either party is uncomfortable IT’S TIME TO STOP.
Surely if the dad knew he’d understand, just talk to him.
NEVER…not appropriate at ALL!
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Why is he being naked around her when he can just wear boxers? Not weird at all… she’s uncomfortable 
He needs to be dressedm all it takss is going to school daycare ans her saying that ans your world will be flipped around. Sit down talk to him hs either understands or court visit needa to happen
If she is uncomfortable then it needs to be addressed. Every family is different but what it comes down to is what the child feels.
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That’s a little too old in my opinion.
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Jus tell him she told you it makes her uncomfortable ? It’s his daughter her should understand.
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I don’t think being naked around your children is inherently wrong, but if the child is uncomfortable then it’s time to change your behavior.
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If your daughter is uncomfortable then he needs to start covering up. In the future , all it should take is for your daughter to say shes uncomfortable for you to know you need to say something right alway.
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Not appropriate! Same goes for boys seeing their Mom. She is old enough now that he needs to teach her modesty and that boys should not be walking around with their penises out.
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We’re an open family and both my husband and I believe in firmly educating our daughter about the human body. Should he just be walking around naked where she can’t avoid it? No. Should it be a huge deal that she saw her dad naked? No.
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It’s not wrong until she becomes uncomfortable or weirded out. So. He needs to put a pair of boxers on at least.
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As soon as your daughter gets to the age of … "errrrr what’s that " watch how fast he dresses and stays dressed
Tell dad she’s uncomfortable with his nudity and to please wear clothing around her at all times. All it takes is her to say something in public and someone to overhear and you’ll both be in a really tough spot
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I think now would be a time to start bringing it up to her father. Or even encourage her to talk to her dad about it. Try not to shame bodies or her dad in the process. I dont think it’s weird, but now that shes old enough to vocalize it’s weird for her it’s time for the discussion with the father. No big deal in my opinion! You got this
She’s uncomfortable so it needs to be addressed. Either he can wear clothes or she can stay at home with you
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She’s 5 so at this point unless she walked on in the bathroom I think he should be covered
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It is inappropriate when one of the parties is uncomfortable. So now it is and it needs to stop. I’d say the same thing for you. If your daughter doesn’t wanna see mom or dad naked she shouldn’t have to
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Nudity is natural, and is only perverted by those that think it’s wrong or bad.
Modesty does need to be taught but occasionally seeing a parent naked isn’t a big deal.
Talk to the dad about modesty and how the child feels.
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I can’t imagine any father in their right mind subjecting their daughter to that on purpose. Most dads don’t want their little girl to know anything about boys ever at all lol!
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Wait so at 3 years old your daughter saw her dad urinate and had just now mentioned it at 5 so 2 years later? Sounds to me like you are putting words into her mouth to cause an argument
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Never! Very inappropriate!
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Have her check out anyway to be on the safe side and
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Just let him know she said she was uncomfortable about it
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My husband and I never walked around the house naked.
If she says she’s uncomfortable it’s time for him to stop. Period. There’s your sign. It’s one thing when they are little babies, but she’s 5 now, she’s understanding that that is is privates and it makes her uncomfortable. If that’s not enough of a reason for him to stop then that’s a big problem. Her feelings should be valid and should be important to her dad. Talk to him nicely about what she has told you. If he makes a big deal out of it i would be worried and take that as a red flag.
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I don’t think he’s a “creep” like another lady said, but it’s time for him to be dressed around his child
I don’t think dad should be naked freely around a child of any gender beyond maybe age 2. That said, I divorced my ex husband when my girls were 5 and 7 and during his custody time, he had to on occasion take them to public restrooms where he also used the bathroom, he’s pretty clever about how he stands etc but I mean in that circumstance I’d rather them see their dad’s penis than be unaccompanied in a public place.
Talk to him… You didn’t mention anything like that. You should talk to him before anything else. Why bother asking a bunch of strangers? If you are really doing what you can to nurture their father/daughter relationship, you will talk to him about this, not take advice from people who only know what you’ve said.
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She’s uncomfortable and it needs to stop …she is 5 now not a toddler …my concern is how can he feel comfortable with this? 
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I would tell him to dress are get the hell out
Talk to him about it, let him know she’s told you it made her uncomfortable. If he refuses to acknowledge that maybe it’s time to put boxers on than maybe it’s time to take it to court
If you’re very inhibited, it’s completely possible that’s rubbing off on her, despite her dad not being (especially if she spends more time at your house). I think having a talk with her about it being natural and such would be good, and combining in talks about her body being hers to do with as she wants and other people’s being their own, but also respecting the personal space and comfort of others. Also let the dad know that she mentioned being uncomfortable, he can’t fix it if he’s not aware.
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Talk to him about it. He can do it when shes not there.
You can tell living in a one room home would be really difficult for a lot of people!
Hard to believe so many of our ancestors managed it.
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Think all parents should be dressed around their children no matter what the age is.
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It is inappropriate now. It’s important to respect your children’s boundaries so that they feel comfortable coming to you in the future. She has expressed a boundary, it’s time to talk to dad and agree between the two of you that she deserves respect.
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