When should kids help do the dishes and take the trash out? my husband thinks our 7 and 8 year old are too young for stuff like this but i dont…i wantt o teach them responsbility and start them young but he thinks I am being “cruel” because they are so little…help us settle this debate
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No. Their not too young!!! Have at it with patience, do they set the table??? That’s an easy chore??
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Let them wash cups and bowls and go from there but I personally don’t think they are to young for chores
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Never to young mine were rinsing them at 5
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My daughter just turned 7. She washes easier dishes (silverware, Storage containers, cups), feeds and waters the dog, sweeps the kitchen floor (most of the time without being asked) and puts the trash on the porch for me(she’s too short to open and close the lid on the big trash can yet). We’ve always made household work a team effort and she enjoys helping. The only thing she complains about is cleaning her room and making her bed. 
I’m 
% agree with MOM ON THIS ONE! (JUST TAKE CARE OF ALL THE SHARP KNIVES YOURSELF MOM!)
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My 8 yr old does dishes.
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My 4 year old actually helps me do it, not forced but because he wants to do it.
Simple as putting his own dish in the sink, rinsing it with water. Or putting it in dishwasher, helping me unload, he especially loves putting in the little pod too haha.
When u teach them young it builds responsibility & also he doesn’t view it as a “chore” it’s more like natural for him to do that haha. Just like if you have trash u throw it in the trash can not toss it on the floor
They are old enough to help. I was 5 standing on a chair washing dishes with my 9 year old brother drying them
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Mine are 6 and 7 and they help me
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My four year old helps with dishes and laundry.
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My 7 & 8 year old boys love taking the trash they will actually fight if I don’t specifically tell one of them to do it.
Not to young at all . I say the younger you start them the easier it will be later . My experience .
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Just taught my 9 year old girl how to do dishes and wipe the counters off.
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I was 7 and put kettle onfir tea
My daughter is 7 and every time i start the water for dishes she tells me that she has to do her chores.
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My 3yr old loves drying n packing away the plastic dishes, she does it so nicely they learn and teaches them at a young age they not too young to be responsible and to clean up after themselves, obviously start off with light chores make bed, take out trash , sweep up etc
My youngest who is about to be 7 has been helping me with dishes since he was 2.
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My son wasn’t even 2 yet. He wanted to help. I put a tub down with soapy water on the floor with some Tupperware in it. Let him wash and slop water. After l was done washing dishes we would mop the floor. He loved it.
My 9 year.old.son helps with taking out the trash /recycling bins, he helps feed the pets (2 dogs and 3 buns) he also help clean out the buns areas hes also supposed to.keep his room clean witch doesn’t usualy happen lol he also puts his own clean laundry away in.his drawers.
My 7 yr old will wash like plates and bowls but I don’t have her do silverware or anything that can break - and she helps with loading the dishwasher and unloading
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Mine all started at 5 & 6. .my 9 year old washes dishes daily now
Its important to teach them life skills from a young age.
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Mine just turned 6 and helps with dishes and laundry. I don’t think they’re too young. Perfect age actually
I don’t let my kids do dishes only because I’m ocd about them being actually clean lol but they’re definitely not too young to do chores.
Just remove the knives are anything sharp. And let them go for it
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Everyone of my children started helping around the age of 6 my 8 year old loves doing dishes I do all the glass and knives and I let her do the rest… 7 & 8 are the perfect age
I mean I was washing dishes at 4.
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My kids started as soon as they could sit up! It is never too early!
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My daughter loves to “help” (as much as she can lol) with the dishes. She is 2. Her favorite task everyday is feeding and watering the dogs!
A 7 and 8 year old are definitely not too young for chores.
Girl next year when mine is 7 we will do the dishes right now we take out all house trash keep our rooms clean and clean up after ourselves you are not cruel
Then make him do the dishes!!! Never to young to start helping
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My 5 year old cooks on the stoves (very supervised) and cleans the dishes he dirties.
My son 7 vacuums and does laundry but I don’t let him do dishes yet.
My 3 year old already grabs a chair and starts doing dishes with me. She has own cute lil basic swiffer as well. I honestly don’t thing too young is ever an issue to learn basic life skills. I’m lucky she’s so willing to do it but don’t get me wrong we’re still fighting over picking up toys and not walking away and the after spending the night at a friend who’s kid tosses things on the floor she now thinks that’s cute but it’s all about redirecting with her age. Definitely be getting your boys to help. Their future wife will be thanking you they know how to clean lol
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My 1.5 year old loves helping me unload the dryer and unload the dishwasher. My 3 year old loves taking the trash out and putting trash bags back in the trash. And she helps unload the dryer and dishwasher.
I started mine as toddlers, giving them baby wipes to clean with . Work with them make it a team deal till they know how to do it .
Hmm, does your husband take turns with the household chores?
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7-8 is a little young to me. Mine started dishes at 11. They had responsibilities at7-8 but not dishes or anything in the kitchen.
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My 2.5yr old vacuums, brings dishes to the counter, helps put away clothes and wipes windows down, throw clothes in the washing machine. You teach them young.
I side it at 4yrs old both my parents worked to give us a good life
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The younger you start the better
They are totally old enough to do the dishes. They might not be strong enough to lift a full heavy kitchen garbage bag yet but I guess that depends on how strong they are or how heavy the bag is. At 5 years old my kids were able to help with the unloading/ loading of the dishes and now at 8 and 11 I don’t need to assist them with the dishes they work together to do them and use a stool to reach the second shelf in the cabinet. 7&8 can certainly collect bathroom trash can bags or if you have smaller trash cans by a desk or somewhere like that plus taking out things like empty boxes or empty gallons/jars etc to a recycling bin outside. By 10 my oldest could lift out the kitchen trash bag with no trouble.
My kids have been helping out since the could walk, teach them skills early and they have time to learn greater things as they get older. Learn it to earn it. Gives them a sense of self appreciation and accomplishment.
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Have them start by rinsing, drying and putting away
Mine are 5, 8 and 9 and they’ve been helping with chores for a few years now(they earn electronic time for helping out) dishes, laundry, dusting and vacuuming.
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At 7 my kids were unloading the dishwasher, vacuuming, sweeping, taking out trash, and doing their own laundry. By age 10 they can both clean the entire house and cook a full meal by themselves if needed. They don’t, we all help out, but they are capable.
Tell your husband that he can do them instead then, you cook so he cleans.
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My 7 and 10yr old have chores to earn $10 a week. Trash, dishes, sweeping and helping me cook sometimes. We all take turns with what chore we do
when they are tall enough to stand on a chair and understand what you’re saying
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They should be pros by 7 and 8.
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uh doing dishes by themselves by hand I do agree is young. Trash as long as it’s able and not heavy they can help with. I’d start with having them help rinse and carry smaller bags out of trash. sweep, clean up floors and living quarters. if thy are also not use to doing chores, it’ll be better for everyone to just start out small and slow and don’t expect everything to be perfect or done right away.
My 4 year old takes out the trash and washes the dishes (silverware and cups) no knives! 
She loves to help out!
Sometimes my 9 year old does dishes and lately my 4 year old has been helping with dishes too (he asks to help).
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My 5 year old’s chores are making his bed, putting clothes from washer to dryer and dryer to basket, picking up his room and living room floors and furniture (straighten up pillows, organize, etc.) and I let him vacuum the one room we have carpet in because he likes to 
and his extra chores for when I’m disciplining him and he wants to earn back activities are dusting or magic erasers on walls/trim/doors.
My 12 year old has done dishes just this past year because I don’t trust her to do them throughly (we don’t have a dishwasher but I think 7 & 8 is appropriate age for a dishwasher loading job!) she cares for cats, her room, helps with laundry and bathroom, swiffer wet jet when asked but she has fewer chores since she willingly helps out with anything we ask her to… like fixing little brother snacks/meals when I work from home and can’t… or she occupies him for an hour after school until dad gets home. She does so much more than asked 
7 and 8 year olds absolutely can do the dishes. They can contribute to the household chores…. It’s not cruel at all!
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Definitely not too little. My 2 y/o is trying to help with dishes. She also helps me load laundry and tries to vacuum. Teach them to be self efficient while they’re young so it’s less of a hassle when they’re whiny teenagers lmao
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My 4yr old started when he was almost 3 to wash his plastic dishes & clean up his area of the table. Chores well he began to pick up his toys when he learned how to walk. I’d say"pick up your toys" to put his own clothes in the dirty laundry same thing. Now he likes to do his “own laundry” as in put the laundry detergent, fabric softener etc & he wants to learn how to fold his own clothes. The younger the better in my opinion.
My 3 yr old, almost 4, switches over laundry, and puts laundry away, he sweeps, puts dishes in the dishwasher, vacuums, ect.
My 3 year old “helps” with dishes 
she loves helping me with everything
Old enough to feed themself - old enough to wash their plate
He will be 3 in a week!
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I was 5 when I started doing chores! We had no dishwasher and I washed , dried and put away dishes and kept my room straight including making my bed.
Minds been helping me since he could walk and is 8 almost 9 and does the dishes and helps with laundry ect.
There’s nothing cruel about teach little ones that a family is a team, and a team does best when everyone contributes. I have nine children, ages three to 25…they were capable of different chores at different ages, it can vary from child to child, but they all started helping where they could when the we’re physically and intellectually capable. It’s not about forcing them to work or being cruel… it’s about teaching them team work, empathy, independence, and developing their willingness to try things and learn.
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They can absolutely help and learn how at this age once you do start letting them help they’ll never wana stop I have to shoo mine away sometimes so I can just get it done fast lollllll
My daughter is 3 and has to clean her own room and she helps me tidy the house 
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My 8 and 12 year old help with the dishes vacuuming my 12 year old puts his own laundry away has been for a few years now want to say he started at 8 and my 8 year old helps put laundry in the washer adds the detergent and fabric softener they put their own clothes in the hampers clean the guinea pigs cage, rake, clean the bathroom my 8 year old loves helping me around the house and I allow her to because why not. She even helps put a new trash bag in the garbage can
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The younger the better and easier
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My 4 year old granddaughter washes dishes, started so at 3. It’s play time for her and she loves it. I wash them after her of course but some things she does a really good job on her own.
She also dusts, cleans windows, picks up toys, dirty clothes, sorts laundry, loads washer and dryer. She loves helping with household chores. Oh also with feeding our dogs , cats, and chickens.
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My 3 year old stacks dish washer, bins in and out, wipes down tables. Helps cook dinner your setting them up to be a human that knows how to do things.
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There is no reason they can’t help with age appropriate chores. My daughter just turned 5 and she helps rinse and dry dishes. She also helps feed and water animals and helps with laundry. She is expected to pick up after herself and keep her room clean. She also likes to help me cook and bake. Kids need to learn that stuff. The younger they are the better in my opinion. As she gets older, she will have more responsibilities.
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My son is 2 almost 3 and he helps me with like bowls and plates. I scrub them then he pretends to rescrub them. We rinse together and I show him how to put them away. Make it fun and always be there when they do it.
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That’s a great age! Let them do plastic ware and silverware first nothing sharp!
My 9 yr old started doing her own dishes at 7 and at 9 she helps with all the dishes and she knows how to wash her own clothes.
As soon as my daughter was able to walk without falling over all the time. She started helping with house hold tasks. Like laundry, cooking, dishes, feeding the animals. My daughter is now 7 years old. Gets herself ready, brushes her own hair, feeds the cats and dog every morning, makes her bed, makes herself breakfast and know to put her dishes in the dishwasher. She also helps with pulling out weeds outside, dusting the house, vacuuming, has her own showers, helps me make her lunches, sometimes. I don’t think it’s bad for children to learn responsibilities, we all live under the same roof and have our part to play.
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Our oldest will be 8 on the 12th and he does dishes lol.
Our 3 year old wipes down the table after every meal + shares in the responsibility of cleaning up their room & the playroom with our 8 year old. 19m old takes her diapers to the trash and is starting to pick up the toys in her room at night.
I believe in teaching kids to pick up after themselves as soon as possible. Less work on mama + good life skills for the kiddos 
My 5 year old helps with laundry, cleans her own room, she cleans the kitchen table off and wipes it down, she vacuums, can sweep (with help) and mop. She also helps load and unload the dishwasher. She likes to help and is really proud of herself when she accomplishes tasks like these.
My son has been loading the dishwasher with me since he was 4 as well as cleaning his room and folding and putting away his clothes
5 and six is a great age for learning household chores…
My 9 year old does dishes everyday. Sometimes twice day. Teach them young
My 6 and 9 year old help with taking out trash , vacuuming, picking up, they take their laundry to the laundry room and put away their own laundry. They also help unload the dishwasher, clean tables, counters , sweep, clean their own rooms, etc . My 2 and 4 year old help pick stuff up and I give them Clorox wipes and they “wipe” stains and marks off the wall. The earlier the better .
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Not too young at all
My nearly 12 n 10 yr olds have been alternating on a weekly basis floor sweeping and wiping table and bench after breakfast n dinner.
The one in wipe duties will often help sweeper or I will designate a job to do…rubbish out, sort the recycling (get the 10c containers out of the bucket before the rest goes out to bin)…or go shower first.
They put away their own washing but at your kids ages I was e getting them to help me with this.
My 6 soon to be 7 washes I put in dish washer and my 9 year old empty’s out dish washer
If they can build a hospital in mindcraft they can do chores
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That’s a great age my 6 year old and 10 year old do dishes together
My 3 year old does the “dishes”. He’s not the best at it, but he loves to help out. Hes almost 4 now and helps peel garlic and cut (butter knife) or break broccoli etc while I’m cooking. They are never too young to help out.
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I have four kids, youngest is 18 months. Others are 3,5,10 and do all sorts of dishes,barn and yard work they are not too young & love it. It gives them a good sense of self confidence & character building. The more you coddle them the worse off they will be in the adult world.
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They can do those chores and others. May need some supervision, but definitely time to start.
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I was doing dishes in the sink, no dishwasher, at 6/7 years old.
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Dishes is a bit much for most 7 year olds to actually get clean. Drying and putting them away with you on the other hand is great responsibility and time for one on one chats.
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My kiddo has been doing dishes and helping with chores since she was 5. She’s now 15 and does a lot still to help.
Literally JUST made my 5 & 7yo bring in the bins & take some rubbish out.
As for dishes my 9 & 11yos stack & empty the dishwasher because the little boys would break stuff
8 is a good age to start teaching them to help out. My husband thought the same. An when they became teenagers an I had them help w dishes. It was a huge fight. Easier to just do then myself. 
nothing wrong w teaching your kids good work ethic at a young age.
My daughter just turned 9 but she’s been unloading the dishwasher since she was 7
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My 9 year old does dishes and my 7 year old keeps their bathroom tidy and they both clean they’re room together
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They’re old enough.
When I was 6, I was responsible for cleaning my room and bathroom.
By the time I was 11, I was washing my own clothes, hanging it and ironing it. Unloading the dishwasher, sweeping and washing floors.
Basically everything.
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Actually washing dishes I think it’s too young but helping put them away is a good start
My 6 year old has been doing laundry since 4, taking the trash out since 5 and cleaning her own room since 4. She also cleans the cat box and takes care of her fish. She can wash dishes but I’m particular about dishes lol I have two others who do that and more that are older but I went with the youngest for reference.