Currently pp 5 months and feeling signs of post partum depression. My husband is not very supportive at all in the way I am feeling or anything in general. I went from having no kids to helping raise his two step children (7 and 9) who don’t seem to have respect for no one/anything especially me to now having a newborn and them. He has told me that I am the reason they are that way even though I have only been here for two years with them and my husband belittles me when I try to correct their behavior. My husband was injured in the military and gets a retirement through there and will be stay home with our son as of two weeks from now since I am returning from a leave of absence since a complicated pregnancy, early delivery of our son and an extended maternity leave. However all he seems to be interested in is playing games with his friends and not being very involved with our son’s well being while I have been home. I am scared to leave him home with him since we dont have a daycare locally and my backup caretaker is having shoulder surgery in two weeks. My husband is very mentally and verbally abusive. I am breastfeeding so that and our son seems to be the only reason I am going. I dont know if I should try counseling for myself (even to try to save my marriage). I need advice to help myself so I can try to improve our sons life.
You said yourself he is abusive. There us no getting better until you leave or he sorts himself out like the grown ass man he should be
I’m sorry but your husband needs some counseling.
Its ok to talk to someone! I have PPD if you want to message me feel free too!
You want to improve your sons life… find a sitter… get back to work and move into a small studio apt. Counseling may help but if hes set in his ways and doesnt help as it is… then just get out while your child is young to avoid further exposure to dumb drama caused by his father. And so you can get some peace from the unneccesary chaos that he refuses to assist with
First my sister Pray… God will heal your heart. Seek counseling for yourself so you can get mentally stronger. Then you will know what your next move might be. You might not even want him after you take care of yourself. Happiness is everything, Peace of Mind is everything once you get your strength you will have those 2 things! Stay Blessed!
Get out with your child now!
I wouldn’t trust him to care for your son. He obviously has some mental health issues. If he’s not helping you with your son now, how is going to deal with stress of caring for him when you’re back at work. & yes, you need to seek counseling for your PPD.
I am sorry you are going through this. In my opinion Couples and solo counseling for you both maybe even family counseling to help with the step child issues as well. If you are concerned about him not stepping up to care for the baby, talk with him about it communication is key. If he is being verbally abusive consider an ultimatum he needs counseling if he is a vet they offer free services at the VA. I hope this gets resolved soon for you and the little ones sake neither of you deserve to be treated so poorly
Maybe go stay with family or a close friend. That situation sounds all bad. He is supposed to be your biggest ally, your support, your rock, your partner. I’m sorry you’re going through this but get outta there before it gets worse.
It he is abusive u need to leave asap seriously
Ummm i would leave him.
He’s the problem not you
Was he like this when u dated him or did the kids act like this when u guys dated… if so leave his butt
People will treat you how you allow them to. Get away things will not get better.
I dont think i could go to work and leave the baby with him