What can I do about my ex husband not taking the kids on his weekends? We have a court order that states he is to take them every other weekend and he never shows to pick them up. Can I get his rights terminated?
can I do about my ex husband not taking the kids on his weekends? We have a court order that states he is to take them every other weekend and he never shows to pick them up. Can I get his rights terminated?
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That’s not grounds for termination. If there were other issues, possibly. Take him back to court and he will be held in contempt for violating court orders.
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You could and if he don’t take the kids on his weekend go to the court house
Theyll probably give you supervised visitations… But who knows. Up to the judge really.
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It’s hard to terminate rights. All you can do is keep a record of it and if he wants more visitation fight him on it. You can’t force a guy to be a dad.
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Cant get him for abandonment unless theres no contact for 6 months…no cs nothing…
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Nothing you cannot make the non custodial parent use their parenting time.
You can document it and ask for reduced visitation after a year. You can file abandonment if he goes 6+ months without any contact or paying support. Not a whole lot you can do to make someone be a parent though.
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Not that it really matters but, why doesn’t he get them? Does he pay child support? Document and take him to court.
Never force anyone to be a parent to your child. They either want it on their own or they don’t and when they don’t your child could suffer physically or emotionally. Get your child a counselor to talk to about it if he had issues. Help you child heal from the rejection but don’t force them into a relationship of rejection
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Be sure to keep a notebook documenting everything. When I got divorced in 1987 an older gal who had been divorced many years prior gave me two pieces of advice
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never let them think the weekend off from kids matters because they will attempt to sabotage it
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if it matters and you need time off from kiddos then have a back up plan! Have some lined up to watch the kids. Everyone needs a break
The idea of documentation comes from working several years for a family attorney.
It’s tough especially if kids were counting on the non custodial parent to show up.
My dad was always available to be there. He was their father figure growing up.
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I think if you document it well enough they could be ordered to pay more support if you take it back to court since you have them for more of the shared time than was originally agreed.
Mine stopped visiting. I was told by my lawyer to just go with my life. If he wants visitation again he can take me back to court for it. If he does I’ll just tell the judge how he didn’t follow through last time. A judge isn’t going to charge a man with abandonment or contempt. He admitted in court he hadn’t seen my kids for 4 years prior to our latest agreement.
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No but u can get it where u have full custody of the children.
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File a contempt of court
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Absolutely nothing but keep documented records. If I violated the court order I’d be arrested. It sucks so much not gonna lie. See if his family wants to visit the kids on his time, that might help you get some “you time.”
If he gets his rights taken that means no cs either
You generally cannot force the other parent to exercise his or her visitation if you have full custody of your child. Visitation is considered a “right”. Similar to other rights – such as voting – you have the ability to exercise your right but can’t be penalized for choosing not to exercise that right. Your right can be taken away from you only for good cause. In contrast, supporting your child is a responsibility. A responsibility – such as paying taxes – can be forced upon you if you choose not to honor that responsibility. The Court has the ability to force the Obligor to pay child support even if he or she doesn’t want to.
If he doesn’t want them, why force them to be with him? He’d make them feel like crap.
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Keep great records. After a year take him back to court and ask for more child support. Your support is based on visitation. How much time the children spend with each parent. I kept records of all the missed visitation and the court increased my support payments
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I would have them terminated due to fact it extremely horrible mental abuse for the child
Document everything creator gave us his children to watch over them. And to keep them safe. Remember we are his children.
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Just document it. Keep track of all that.
If he is not picking them up that’s on him but you don’t just terminate some ones rights coz u had to have them extra
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Have you asked him why? Conveyed to him that it hurting your children?
What are his reasons?
My ex did the same…I would just make my own plans then an follow thru with them. It’s disappointing for the kids but in the long run better that they aren’t exposed to God only knows what? Who? So just make a life with your kids that makes them happy. As for the legal aspect, consult a lawyer.
Track then go about your way with the kids. Don’t tell them when his day is. Never bothered me, I just kept options open for my Ex . Seldom came around though but he wasn’t home allot when married. Just take care of the kiddo’s.
Keep records. You cant do anything. Just enjoy having them to yourself. Hes choosing to be absent. His choice… so keep records and times, dates…everything. if you need a break, maybe see if any of his family members would like a short visit with the kids. Like a day visit. Grandma or grandpa, auntie, uncle.
Cant force him to be a responsible parent. It’s sad. Wait a year, take him back to court. Say nothing.
Document it. Don’t force it. Maybe after awhile without contact he will be considered alienating his child and may have his visitation taken from him. Depends on the laws of your state.
Why force them onto him? He is losing his time and that’s on him, not you. You can’t force a guy to be a parent. The children want to see him now but eventually they will see it and not want to see him when he decides to get his head out of his ass. Keep records of when he doesnt show up. Dont text him asking if he’s gonna get them. Keep every single text he sends you about the kids. Print them up. After so long you can file abandonment on him
Keep records take him back to court
It’s an order more to enforce you giving him the kids on his weekends but it doesn’t force him to take them, that is his choice. Keep records of each missed visit and you can try to take it back to court but most likely he will just be scolded. It would take him not seeing his kids at all for quite some time before rights would be taken from him.
I tell people this all the time the best way to know your child support laws is by looking them up on Google for your state. Because I know here in Florida things are very different. First of all child support is completely separate from visitation. Visitation don’t care about child support you pay are payment and see your kid. Now you don’t pay child support. okay that’s enough to suspend your driver’s license and issue a arrest warrant. Okay so now you sit in jail. They can give you 30 days 60 days 90 days or 6 months. Now that is 6 months of sitting in jail not being able to pay child support. So now you get out of jail you have been in there 6 months which is enough time to issue a brand-new arrest warrant even though you just got out of jail and they can come find you once again to put you right back in jail. Now you may be in there another 6 months. That is a whole year’s worth of that man not being able to pay child support because he is sitting in jail. I know this because I’ve been through this with plenty of my friends that owe child support both men and women. now this cycle does not end it keeps going because the more they said in jail the ward I can’t pay it. Even if they wasn’t paying it before. now they’ve got six whole months they’ve got to catch up before they get put back in jail again for it. Because they’ve got to make up the six months and still pay the current child support. And usually if you have court orders and you break them you do go to jail. I’ve seen that too with my friends. To me it just don’t seem worth it. If I were to divorce my husband right now I wouldn’t even bother with child support just like my girlfriend who went and took her ex husband office of child support. she done that right after she got out of prison because she said that she wanted to be a good ex-wife and a good example for her son. So she dropped the child support and she will even help with groceries she would even help with money of her own out of her own pocket. And she will buy things if they need it. And it’s all because she wants her son to remember her being a good ex-wife to his dad. She also said how he had just got done paying child support for the first son. She decided to give him a break. Lol
You need to keep a journal right down dates and times he does not show every court tale journal entries very seriously at least in family court my sister is a lawyer and always tells me right everything down,but I don’t believe that is reason enough to get his rights terminated he may not be using his time but he is also not putting/is a danger/in fit to be a parent he just making poor choices ,it’s not that simple to snatch rights away.
Yes actually you can. As long as you can prove that he isn’t holding up to a court order and isn’t making an attempt to do so. However, you must also prove that his actions are resulting in mental harm to your kids.
Please do not punish your children. They will get the impression that you do not want them either on his weekend. Every arrow aimed at your ex. gets lodged in the heart of your children. Just take care of your children and make them feel wanted and fill the empty space in their heart left by their father.
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That’s a question to ask a lawyer. You can’t make him spend time with his children but it’s his loss and your gain because as they get older they’re going to realize who was always there for them and who wasn’t. Even if he doesn’t visit with the children he still has to pay child support. Have you ask him if he wants to terminate his parental rights? Each state has different rules for that question so your best bet would be to contact an attorney regarding this matter. Good luck
It’s his loss for not visiting , even if he dosent visit he still has to pay child support. Just make sure you document everything even the smallest little detail , I’m sorry for your children 
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Hes in contempt of court no doubt. Back to court for you. For those saying dont punish the kids… pretty sure dads already doing that. Back to court.
I make the best of his weekend with our kids if he fails to pick them up!! Why worry about it, the kids will see who’s always been there in the long run. Just Document it so if he ever tries to say you’re not allowing him to take the kids, it’s noted that he failed to show up!!
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Yes. You must call the children’s services (not sure of the exact name) but they have an office in the courthouse or call the DA’s office and report him. They will summon him and you both will probably go back to court.
Gey everything in text that way u have proof text him when he is supposed to pic them up ask him if he is going to pic them up if he is a no show text him back and tell him it is past time is he comming kerp a journal
You can’t get rights terminated because of that. He in time will regret it in the long run just focus on you and your children.
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Unfortunately nothing. You can not make a person be a parent. I’m sorry that you are going through this must be hard.
You could also go to court and ask for his rights be taken away, maybe he would change his ways 
but doubt
I would ask to go back to court.
You can take them to court again and try to prove them as an unfit parent… document everytime he doesnt take the kids on his weekends and such
How old are the kids are they old enough to understand what is going on. Never bad mouth dad it may bite you in the ass later
Go back to custody court for contempt of court
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You can but it’s hard to do depends on judge
Step away from the kids for a while call the police (the non emergency #) have them file a report do this every time 6 months
Don’t contact ur ex except to say hey what time will u be here to pick them up. (He has a phone he can contact you to check on them) keep every text u send and receive
Don’t bad mouth him to the kids done even let them feel unwanted after 1/2 a year go to court (6 months in most states is abandonment)
Depends on the state
Do u have full custody?
Nope. Since he is not following the visitation orders agreed upon, go back to court and get the child support increased That will get his attention. Always does.
From what I understand child support he pays goes by how often he has the children. Since he is not having them then he pays more. Sick of these so called fathers who turn their backs on the kids because he is pissed at the mom.
He doesn’t have the time now but on his death bed he will be begging for them. That’s how they all do when they have been absent infidel fathers. All of a sudden he’ll want to see his kids when he’s about to cash in his chips.