Hello I need info on how to treat my 2.5 year old boys with curly hair he pulls his hair out he has natural curls but he absolutely hates his hair to be washed combed any to do with his hair he hates when I tend to his hair he screams terribly and crys. what do I do
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Squirt on no more tangles and comb it out twice a day. If that doesn’t work clip it’s short.
I would trim it to a more manageable length if it were my child.
Buzz it off. Easy to take care of.
Buy Mielle products! Ain’t cheap but totally helps with combing thru ringlets!
You cut it! What’s the need to have his hair long if he is trying to tell you,it uncomfortable
Honestly, cut it. I let my curly haired boy grow his for pretty much 4 years, only had it trimmed at 2; it was a fight and struggle daily. We brushed during baths with conditioner in and that helped some but it was still a fight. He finally agreed to let us cut it this past weekend and he’s so happy that he doesn’t have to deal with all the hair he had. It was long when wet, past the middle of his back so I’m sure it was heavy for him, and he’s so excited that baths aren’t a struggle with brushing anymore. If cutting isn’t something you want to do, invest in a good detangler or leave-in conditioner, brush from the bottom up. You might even see if he’d be willing to use a bonnet at bedtime, it’ll help significantly to avoid knots and tangles, and pillow fuzz (so much fuzz 
lol) from getting trapped in the curls)
I know a bunch of products and we’ve found a way to help my curly haired baby. (Her hair, when wet is down to her waist and coil to shoulder length when dry)
“Cantu” from Kroger is a really good brand that has curl activator, shampoo, and conditioner.
There’s also “Not Your Mother‘s” activating curl talk mousse that I love to put in the hair afterwards. Just a little dollop goes a long way.
Another that has become a quick favorite in our house is something called “Salerm 21”. It’s a leave-in conditioner that absolutely does WONDERS for her hair. Again, a little goes a long way.
When washing hair, I put shampoo (Cantu or my Tea Tree shampoo) in every other wash because for those with certain types of natural curls, you don’t always need to shampoo as their scalp holds a lot more of the oils than straight hair does.
I will always use conditioner (Cantu or something specially formulated for curly hair). So after I have soaked the head fully, I will put conditioner in. I’ll let that set for a few minutes and then I’ll take a comb that is flexible and isn’t super rigid to help work through the curls.
I do small sections at a time and yes, it takes time, but anything helps to not hear those sad cries. When I first met her she wouldn’t let ANYONE do her hair and she and I have worked hard together to gain back that trust. Toys, bath bombs, bath paint, story time, music, other parent distracting, singing, etc were all used. We worked our way up from a 45 minute bath with me walking her through every step to a 15 minute bath where she’s just eager to get it over with so she can play with her bath toys without me turning her head this way and that 
When finished I let her hair air dry for a few minutes (no more than 5-10 mins) and then take a dollop of Salerm and Cantu Curl activator and spread it through her hair- roots to tips and then claw clip it up as best as I can atop her head where it’s not pulling anything straight. Once it’s mostly dry you’re good to go 
Her hair lasts for quite a bit (depending on weather) and we use a silk cap at night to keep her curls happier too. I try and wash every other day just because she’s a kid and messy and also because it helps to lessen the knots to do it semi-frequently.
If he is pulling his hair out, though, I do agree with the others that it might be best to keep his hair shorter with a hair cut until he is able to handle longer hair if he wishes to do so. Or you can even give him a fade on the sides and the back and have a little bit on top to make it more manageable for everyone.
I’m wishing you luck no matter what momma!