My granddaughter is addicted to her phone that I got her, looking at inappropriate things chatting with strangers etc. I’m visiting her for Thanksgiving. Please I need suggestions!
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honestly, nothing. It’s not up to you to parent her unless you are raising her
I’m not crazy about some of the things my step-daughter does, but she doesn’t live with me and so I don’t get to say anything about it
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What’s the age of the girl? If she’s doing anything that could potentially harm herself, whoop her ass. No strangers on the internet, PERIOD!
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Nothing. Only thing you can do is cancel the phone if you’re paying for it. Otherwise its the place of the parents
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Stay out of it. It’s not up to my parents to raise my daughter, that is my job. If my parents stepped in because they felt my daughter was using her phone too much I would be livid. Let her parents do their job, you raised your babies, now it’s just time for you to enjoy your babies babies.
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So I’m super close to my grandmother. If you bought the phone and pay the bill. You should say something about how you don’t pay for her to have a phone to look at things. It’s to contact you and parents. Maybe even embarrass her a little bit jokingly ask her if she’s looking at nudes at dinner or something silly.
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Unless she’s living with you or you’re paying for her phone, the only thing really you can do is bring it to the parents attention
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If you bought the phone for her, you do have a say! But make sure her parents know what you are doing.
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Take the phone away. You paid for it so you have the right to take it away.
All of you who are saying stay out of it. You are part of the addiction problem. It’s Thanksgiving there is no reason to have a phone by anyone. Especially at the dining table.
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There’s nothing you can do expect for possibly saying something to the parents like telling them your concerns, but if your paying for the phone id stop paying for it. Your the one that bought if for her so your able to turn it off until further notice
Have a talk with her parents first, yall could sit down and talk about the things shes looking at and why you feel its inappropriate, especially with the talking to strangers, if you pay the bill, you could turn the phone off, you’re her grandmother, you do have a say, especially when her safety is concerned
But seeing as you are her grandmother, let her parents decide on the discipline, but have a talk with them
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Who pays the bill?? Easy fix… Stop paying.
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Get off your phone. Go play outside.
I always found talking about a fictitious person in their same situation works. Like this, " my friend Joan has a daughter around your age, a tad bit younger. Joan caught her talking to strangers inappropriately. The worst part, she is ALWAYS on her phone. I told Joan I just dont know what she should do. What do you think she should do or say to her daughter?"
It gets the kid to problem solve about the same situation without being put on the stand, freaks them out if they are doing the same thing and doesn’t step on her mom’s and dad’s toes with parenting.
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Distract her, ask her questions and talk to her about what she is doing… in school, after school, hobbies shes into, concerts she would like to go to, does she want to travel, what’s her dream job - what steps does she need to take to get there.
Talking will make here eventually put her phone down and have some time with grandma.
If you are concerned about her safety talk to the parents about what safety measures they have in place, is there gps in the phone does she have to check in, do they know who she chats with, have they had convos about not meeting strangers.
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My grandma was my best friend. If she told me not to do something…I didn’t do it ( most of the time) those times I did do it… she had no problem putting me in my place.
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She needs a good scare get u a new SIM card and open a new account make like u one of the people she’s chatting to and tell her if she’s not going to stop u are sending all her chats to her family maybe that will scare her
Make sure the parents know what she is doing…those things arent ok…talking to strangers can be harmful…sit down with the parents and come up with a discipline…
How old is she in actual fact
When it came to family events, it got to the point where the was the “phone box”. You come in, smartphone goes in the box. You can grab it when you leave. A few were on call for work, it stayed on counter if it rang, someone answered it and grabbed said person if they weren’t by the phone.
Take the phone away!
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Does her parents know what she’s looking up and who she is talking to? I’d suggest talking to them and bringing up parental controls on said phone is she’s young and be reckless on it
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How old is the granddaughter? If shes over 17yrs of age just let it go.
Just say you wish you’d never got it for her and let her think about that. Be like “if I woulda known you weren’t mature enough I would have saved my money”
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Take the battery out!!
You’re the Adult!
Take it from her, shes over stepping boundries
How do you know what she’s doing on her phone?
If she’s like 15+ it might be less inappropriate than you feel it is.
Discuss safety concerns and try to bond over the phone you gave her.
Do her parents seem to think it’s an issues or just you?
Discuss w/ parents of child
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Take the damn phone away.
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Tell her to knock off her shit or it’s gone.
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Depending what her age is , (underage) i would bring it up to her parents about the content she’s watching and the interactions she’s having via phone if she’s older of age well not much u can do beside imply that she tries to spend time with you when your around her because it sucks you bought her something and she can’t manage her time with it when your around or your gonna cancel the line! Hahaha no not the last line, unless its your last resort , i don’t feel as if grandparents have to be so nice to grandchildren because they will just walk all over you and that’s a big no to me
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If she is over 18, make her pay her own phone bill. If she is 17 or younger, take the phone away. Put it in a lock box and hide the key.
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How do you know what she’s looking at? You said you are visiting her for thanksgiving so I’m assuming you don’t live near her. And news flash all teenagers and most adults are addicted to their phones. It’s a problem if she’s a child and if so, you are the one who bought it for her so…
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Depending on age, I would go to her parents first… and maybe have you and the parents sit down with her, if she’s under 16 I would take the phone away.
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Um. My personal rule is no eletronics when we have family time or we get together and eat like a family. No electorins when we have company over unless its my mental health worker. I also try to set a limit on electronics. That doesnt work. And they get mad at me.
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Depends how old she is. If she is 18 and over then just leave it. Bring it up with her mom. But if she is younger, definitely say something
Who pays the bill?? Easy fix… Stop payment.
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I think you should suggest that the family have a electronics free thanksgiving. If they aren’t willing there really isn’t much you can do since you will be at their home. Maybe bring a board game or something that family can do together to distract from their phone and electronics.
Join her. Send texts like, " Hey super granddaughter of mines, look up 
" age is a big factor here, but many don’t realize how long they are on their devices.
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Does she live with her parents? Do her parents set the rules? I’d talk to them about it.
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You are currently talking to strangers right now. Is this what you mean by talking to strangers?
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Should be your daughter/son’s decision on HOW TO PARENT THEIR KID! next post will say my MIL thinks she can come and take my kids phone away what should I do?
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Tke it away.really.how hard is that
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If she’s under 18 take it away if she’s over take it away. You paid for it regardless so repo it and when she can afford one on her own she will get one
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I wouldn’t say shit. Take it away! Be the adult or otherwise you may see your granddaughter on the news next. Sad and crazy world we live in. Protect her! Not comfort her!!!
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I’m taking your damn phone away!
Too risky, the phone needs to go until she’s mature enough to know what’s dangerous.
it sounds like you bought it for her as a gift, and it’s unknown whether you pay for service. it’s also unknown how you know why she’s looking at. so going on assumptions here - i’m assuming you bought it for her and she or her parents pay for the service in which case you can regret your gift all you want but taking away a gift because you don’t like that she uses it seems like a dick move. if you DO pay for the service, you can take that away.
if you see what she’s doing because you have access to parental controls or whatever, then shut down that access. if you know what she’s doing because her parents told you, then they are aware and they need to deal with it.
as far as electronics at thanksgiving, personally i think it’s rude for anyone to have it out. mention it once then drop it. it’s a parenting issue in my opinion.
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You bought the phone and if you don’t like what she’s using it for you have the right to take it away. If her parents have an issue with it tell them to buy her a phone that she can use like she does or pay you for the phone you’ve already bought in full.
Take it away! If she’s not mature enough for the responsibility then she doesn’t need it. Take it away. Simple as that.
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Visit the phone to the toilet water🤷🏼♀️
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Her parents need to know that she is on inappropriate sites an talking to strangers if they don’t care then maybe you can explain to the whole family the dangers…if your paying for the service then stop paying for it an explain again about the dangers
Take the phone. Simple.
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Quit paying the bill.
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Take it away when i was younger I did the same thing and didnt see the harm in it after growing up i realized my life and family could have been in real danger, so just take it away or monitor it theres apps that you can install that wont let you uninstall it without a password and she wont be able to access adult sites or certain apps you lock
Talk to your kid (aka her parents) about your concerns. You gave the gift but you don’t get to add strings now.
I would put a limit (through your phone plan) change the password and handle all of it yourself. It a real thing and I do it myself. You let her continue, it will be even worse. Goodluck. One mom who understands, to another.
Or. Turn off services.
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Take it away. Get her a basic screenless phone
Take it from her and tell her parents
Tell your son or daughter to be a parent to their child! Or simply take it away since privileges are being abused.
The phone was a gift, so you have no more say in the matter (unless you are a controlling asshole)
It’s her parents that should and do decide her boundaries.
Kids nowadays are not growing up the ways we all did, get over it.
Talk with her parents
I can’t believe some parents ugh
How old is she? … That’s the key here isn’t it… If she’s 18+ she can pay her own phone bill and What she’s watching isn’t really your concern…