What do you do when your 16 years old teenager gets disrespectful and says rude stuff to you as a parent?
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Ask them if they’re okay because if they were well they wouldn’t speak to me like that.
Listen.
Might be hanging around with the wrong group of kids. My kids would only be disrespectful once. If they haven’t always been that way then it’s definitely either who they are hanging around with or something else personally going on. Sit them down and try to get some answers. Maybe seek some help. If it’s something that they have always done but more so now then it’s something that should have been handled at the very beginning.
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Teenagers naturally rebel against their parents around puberty and until around 18-22 years old. It’s biological. It could have something to do with what’s going on in their life and the issues they may be having at school or between them and friends or gf/bf trouble. It’s hard controlling the feeling of being frustrated and just sarcastic and irritated at everything as a teenager. It might not even be on purpose. A talk about it might help. Offer a nonjudgmental ear and shoulder. Maybe make a rule where if they tell you something at dinnertime or whatever (your choice) then they won’t get in trouble for whatever they fessed up to that time. They need a safe space to talk about their mistakes and get some advice and insight without feeling like they’ll get in trouble or they’ll be yelled at.
A good smack on the mouth. (Yes. I’m old school). Take away all privileges including phone and all electronics. No allowance. No extra anything.
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Stop and allow them to collect themselves. Then explain what you’re trying to prove.
Have it be chores they aren’t wanting to complete or a conversation that’s needed.
But give them a chance to voice their opinions.
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S1ap the complete phk outa em. I’d dirty dog dare em‼️It’d be their absolute last time next they’re laid out
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Who pays his phone bill? Change the wifi code. Sometimes you have to show them who is boss.
Try to find out if something is going on, maybe make sure the people h hangs with are decent kids, not trouble, if it’s not friends or other issues I would make sure he understands rules of house, maybe turn off phone for a week, if behavior gets worse then maybe consider counseling for both of you together all else fails tell him get a job, and help pay bills in house for a while, bet he learns a whole new level of respect for being allowed to live at home good luck
I let them vent, don’t take it personal, don’t argue back and later on when they calm down they come to me and tell me why they responded in that manner and we talk about it. Later on is when I voice that there disrespect will not be tolerated.
No phone no video games no wifi
Pop her in the mouth just barely of course only enough to get her attention