On top of that I wished you could listen & take advice.
Everyone is suffering in this house including this hungry baby who can’t stop crying right now, all because of what I just mentioned above besides your miscalculation of things, time & wrong decisions"
Time to end it, for the kids sake and your own happiness.
People argue and things are said. Don’t think it’s a reason to walk away. All you people give up wayyyy to easily
if you have more bad days than good days together, then it’s time to end it. The kids will be the ones that suffer especially if the parents are always fighting and unhappy together.
Another question; what school has school on Saturday?!
Ok…does he work while you stay home with rhe kids or do you work while he stays home or is it half and half? If he works and you stay home,then kids are your responsibility. However…he should help out some when off work. My husband will take off work if i have a drs appt and watch the kids. However…we own our own business so it wont count against us if he takes off. It just depends on the situation. Sit down and work it out. Society is too much about get up and walk away lately. Giving up too easy. Those kids wont understand why if do…and it is hard for kids to adjust to a change like that…
Work together to have healthy communication. Recognize each others faults and improve.
Um did you reply with fuck off ??
It’s very difficult to handle 5 kids.
Leave the kids behind and take a adult vacation for the weekend and if he says no then you got your answer on staying
Oh hell I’d be ripping him a new one
Well, look, I don’t think anyone should say “you don’t listen” like first of all I’m not ur fuckin child, jot that down. But, I do think you need to ask him to elaborate on the rest of the situation. Like, if there is a problem you could work on, why wouldn’t you? If there’s a problem with him, then make sure you tell him to work on that too.
Communication is key. Pray about it and you will find the answer.
He is an adult and a father. He can deal with things if you aren’t around or haven’t done things just so. Sounds like he just wants you to have everything done so he doesn’t have to do anything. Has he always been like this or is this something new? You guys either have to work together or things will just get worse.
Yall are overwhelmed! Maybe a weekend getaway just you 2 to refresh?
I’m ending a 10 year marriage with 2 kids because of behavior like that. It’ll just keep on going.
Go on a date night ! Get a sitter ! Remember why you fell in love 
date nights are a must 
First, you need a date night. Second, his response doesn’t make sense. Was this advice given to you before you did all of this? There seems more to the story than you running around and him getting mad.
Is there any truth to what he is saying? Sometimes it’s hard to hear what we already know and it puts us on the defensive. If none of it is true and he’s not going to be a hands on dad and a help to you why bother? I wish you the best.
Tell him to do it himself if he thinks he can do it better. 5 kids is not as easy as it sounds as well as getting yourself ready.
He cant feed that hungry baby while you are running the rest of the house t.f?!?!
So you knew he had this behavior and you just kept having a kids ??? This behavior does not pop up because of just the kids . Did you both ever communicate on this many kids or he just likes the fact you did everything or does he feel you do everything in an angry mood and he helps or does not help ?? So many holes in the explanation of why the text . If you left a crying baby and he can’t deal or never has learned to feed or live with a crying baby or multitask as you do you just had 5 kids with a boy and not a man .Your asking for advice instead of saying you have communicated all this to him and he ignores or chooses not to hear or help . We all get overwhelmed and snap at our kids when overtired especially when everyone is used to us doing it all and they just sit back and expect it . That behavior was apparently tolerable or you would of not kept having children to get to number 5 .I’m sure he’s always been this way and you just now had enough ?? Two choices communicate all this and work through it or pack his bag or yours and leave with your kids . Show your kids that men do not behave like this with a family . Easy choice . Communicate fix or leave.
I’m disappointed in a lot of these comments, praying and a date won’t help 
if my partner messaged me saying the baby is crying hungry and it’s my fault for being unorganized….oh boy would I LOSE it. He can feed the kid instead of crapping on her. Takes two to tango, they BOTH need to contribute and work on positivity/co-parenting. Very clearly sounds like he is around for all this….he is just as responsible for taking care of the children. And trust me I would be angry and unorganized if I did everything for 5 kids by myself with a useless partner.
Tell him to go shuve a #### up his ass and #### off
You go on vacay and leave him there. Tell him to do it all. , then come back. And y’all both go on vacay, with baby of course.
Sounds like gaslighting to me. He knows you do everything but he needs you to feel weak & powerless. Girl, LEAVE NOW. Its going to get worse until he screws up your head. I’m actually surprised you have survived 10 years with him.
Why can’t he feed the baby? What am I missing here? Is the baby exclusively breast fed with no pumped milk or something?
You are doing your best. His got no right to make you feel less of a person
Why doesn’t he get off his rump and help?
He needs to.explain further.
He doesnt sound nice from how you have described him…You mention arguments often about the kids…Is it a similar thing were he blames you for everything?? If so thats serious red flags in my opinion x
Sounds like you have a man child
Next time he whingeing
Stick a dummy (pacifer) in his mouth
He is desperate to be heard and his point of view acknowledged.
I know you are doing your absolute best …when we stop and just acknowledge a partners feelings of being overwhelmed , it can be a game changer.
Are you angry and disorganized?
Tell him to help you or stfu.
I’m going to need to hear the other side of the story before I can give advice or an opinion. 
You’ve got to think about your kids, you have to disengage, or diffuse the arguments with your husband, children will become damaged with continued exposure to that, the texts are just an immature psychological display of an ill prepared father
Let him take over all the duties if he doesn’t like how you are handling things.
“This hungry baby who can’t stop crying” ?? If you were out and he had the child then feeding that child would be his responsibility.
Sounds like there is no communication btw you. Sit down and discuss the text. He’s asking you if you know or realize this is how he perceives you. Ask him why. 5 kids are hard. It will take both of you to raise them. Even if you split it will still take both of you to raise them but it will also take the people you end up with if it’s not you two. Strangers will be raising your children. Think about it. If you don’t have communication you don’t have a relationship. Sounds to me like he wants to talk about how you are so busy he feels put upon. Work it out together as adults. Not screaming immature adults. God bless.
Sorry, I can’t get past the hungry baby part to even give an opinion… is the baby ok?? That’s the real issue here… 
Question does he have a full time job. In less I missed that. You also have a full time job taking care of your kids your house. And cooking three meals a day. Seven days a week 24 hours a day!!!.
I never relay on a man thankfully inhave friends to help me good luck
It’s time to leave before this goes further. He’s calling you abusive and treating you like that
And WTF was he doing all this time ?
He’s a Narracist and gaslighter
Women, let us be wise! We are can do bad by ourselves than allow some POS men gaslight us. I will like to know what this man was doing in the midst of this chaos than sending this nasty message. I hope you find strength to look out for yourself and your kids and don’t add more problem to the tough life of being a single mom. Sometimes, being a single mom can be peaceful. Goodluck.
I would ask him to explain…if you do struggle with organisation ask him his ideas and let him know how he could help in areas you’re not so good at …some times it’s beneficial to see things from a different perspective as you can be stuck in your own routine xx
What a dis functional family!
You all need help
Sure you not got 6 kids ?
Does he work? Clearly not helping around house or with the kids 
he’s a lazy twat why have a go at you over a hungry crying baby in hes care hes kid too ! Either walk away for everyone’s best interests or professional help for both of you hes gaslighting you and being just as nasty and abusive… put a stop to it now before the kids see more
You’re the only one that can put a stop to this. Do it now before it gets too far. Do it now before he does it to your children also.
Why isn’t he helping you with all that?
LoL!! I’d be like, ok awesome you think I’m that bad of a person? I’m going to take a two week vacation away from here so you can think of how you truly feel and to see what all I do say after day. After that if you feel better without me I can pack my bags and go. I will not be talked to our disrespected like that. Your choice.
Tell him fine…
For the next week… I will sit on my arse and u will do EVERYTHING to show me how its done as ur so perfect! …
So he literally just sits there doing nothing while u run around like a headless chicken…
Kick his backside into touch the cheeky so and so!!!
Never enough info on these posts! Lots of holes in story….
Have you had a conversation with him? Most men, don’t know what a wife/mother goes through daily. Some don’t realize and others just don’t care. Step one is to address it with him. If he gets defensive and nothing changes, it might be time to tell him goodbye, regardless of how long you’ve been with him or how many kids you have with him. If you have addressed the issue with him and he just doesn’t care, then he’s showing you that he just doesn’t care, and it’s time for him to go. The women who tend to the kids, cook, clean, work, maintain the house, basically do it all on their own, might as well be alone. You’re gonna be doing it all on your own with him there or not, might as well take the negativity and abuse out of your life. You’ll be alot happier.
I would leave for at least 3 days and nights… let’s see how well he manages, organises, makes choices, deals with timing etc. When it’s just him doing all the work. He would probably still fare better too because he won’t have someone standing over him judging and pointing out every error. 
I feel like we need more info
Why isn’t he helping you?
There are 2 sides to every story and women do most of the things for the children it’s normal
Sounds like projection if your the one running the house seemingly alone
Sounds like my asshole ex.
Y’all need to get in to therapy now, while there still is a y’all.
Why doesnt he lend a hand instead of just runnin his mouth. U need to take a holiday away. Go for a week, hell id take 2. Let him captain the ship solo. I bet his attitude changes real fast
It takes 2 to run a household, if he has issues then he needs to be a man and help out around his house and with his kids…leave and let him run the house and kids for several days…and he may change his tune
then leave him. Plain & simple
Oh hell no!! I can’t even with this guy!
Honestly if this keeps continuing seek marriage counseling and if there is still no change after that or any sort of progress then two homes are better than one at this point.
It doesn’t matter whose working, whose not or if you both are providing… it is BOTH parent’s responsibilities when it comes to your kids. That includes helping with messes and the kids needs.
He seems selfish and a narcissist. When kids are in bed sit him down and flat out tell him it’s time to get the help you guys need to fix your marriage and if he says no and fights about that too then there’s your answer
Are you angry? I know when I was home with the kids I was.
Verbal abuse is real!! Yup I am guilty of that too. I also did all those things you listed. Advice to you is look deep into yourself.
Also can’t give help with the entire story isn’t attached
Take a weekend off go somewhere anywhere and leave him to it. He may have changed his mind when you get back…
If it’s down to trying to make eachother feel bad, I’d be gone.
Sit down after a good meal, out of ear-shot of the kids … lay out on paper what has to be done every day, in order - then put his initial next to it, or yours.
Put that on the front of the 'frig.
It sounds as though you’ve gotten in to some bad habits that need to be broken.
Does he work?
Do you?
Fit it around your schedules and your house will run like a good, well-oils machine.
Definitely need more information
Are his hands broken. Can he not drop off kids at school or step up and make breakfast or get the others dressed and ready? Sounds like you do everything and all he can do is complain if the kids are bothering him. Leave the ass and you would have one less ungrateful man child to take care of.
So you fuss when he tries to help? When he tries to give advice, do you get offended instead of hearing him out?
Y’all need therapy bc it sounds like neither of you listen to the other & look to lay blame for some moral superiority.
Grow tf up.
Maybe he should fucking feed the baby, then.
Sounds like you have a hard time taking criticism and you are that mom that has zero time management so you run around the house like a chicken with your head cut off yelling at everyone while patting your self on the back that you do everything and your husband is sick of the attitude because in reality you didn’t accomplish anything. Everyone wants to be the victim in their version of the story, and I’m
Sorry but you aren’t the victim here. Put your ego aside, grab a piece of paper and sit down at the table with your husband. Make a damn list of the routines for each child including yourselves and what needs to be done the following day. Then use realistic time expectations for each task. Then set out what you can to shorten that list. You and your husband take tasks equally and work together. You’re a team, it’s not about you or him it’s about all of you. Stop working against each other and start working together.
I feel like there is more to the story.
It sounds like a problem for a therapist. I recommend marriage counseling and if he’s not willing to do it then maybe rethink what kind of partner you want
Classic example of having too much on your plate. And not having the right person to handle it with. He was out of line. Sounds like you’re already stretched too thin.
Should not have so many kids in the first place he is unhappy
There’s more to this we need to know to answer it. What prompts him to use the words angry and abusive?
I think there is more to the story and a lot of being left out here.
Why can’t he help out then
Your kids go to school on weekends?
Need more info but to me this seems like a real realisation from him and what he feels. Sometimes we have to admit when WE are being the toxic one. When WE are being horrible sometimes. Its not always gaslighting.
There’s gotta me more details being left out in order for us to know what’s really going on because I don’t think he would use those words to describe her unless something is going on
Why he left the baby cry of hunger??? He can even take care of that ??
It is his responsibility tooo !!! I’ve been there so you better take a decision!! U wanna live like that ???
I am really appalled at the kind of advice I’m seeing on this thread. No one knows key details such as if the father is the sole breadwinner, if the woman works etc.
Yes these things do make a difference and we literally read one message filled with holes and everyone is automatically giving the man the wrong here, even advising the woman to leave.
This is why homes are broken up due to terrible advice.
No one is considering the full picture or what the husband is feeling.
No one knows if she is in fact disorganized and toxic. No one has an idea of what is really going on, yet here we are , reading one text and concluding on this situation where we made the man a victimizer.
The only advice here would be to seek therapy, and if therapy didn’t work out, then do what’s best for the kids.
Stop encouraging separation when you don’t even know the full context of the story!
This is BS
I can tell you’re overwhelmed with all the kids and everything you need done every day. He has time to complain about the hungry baby but instead of putting you down, is it not more important to him to help out and make sure baby is fed? Sounds like he expects you to do everything and honestly even the most organized person can start losing it after constant taking care of home and kids with no break. I’ve been there and I’m honestly just trying to take it day by day, but it’s so hard. He’s telling you that you’re making bad decisions, etc. Sounds like it’s more convenient for him to put you down but what is he doing around the house to help out, other than the verbal and, mental and emotional abuse which is obviously making things even worse for everyone…That’s one thing about emotional and mental abuse, it’s hard to explain to others and pin point at a specific thing. And it’s hard for others to see it, unless they experienced it themselves. I can definitely tell he’s comfortable in putting you down, which probably happens often enough to stress you out even more on top of everything you need to deal with. I’m sorry for what you’re going through but unfortunately I don’t have any advice. If he is what I imagine him to be, he will most likely never change or start taking responsibility as in his mind, he’s already perfect and doing nothing wrong.
Only if she wants to escalate the argument rather than solve the problem.
Or if she is a ignorant classless idiot…
A normal, intelligent person who try to discuss the issues.
Why does he feel like this?
Why a text and not a face-to-face conversation?