What does it mean if the stepmom never acknowledges her spouse’s kid? Does everything great her own kid, but doesn’t consider the other. Doesn’t even come to their home for special occasions or anything. This kid is like a nobody to them. I’ve been trying to wrap my head around it for years now. This kid is now 14 years old. Everyone says the stepmom is fake & is an ugly person, and I agree. what are some reasons for you to not acknowledge your spouse’s child(ren)? I say none. If you cannot love and accept their kids, have no business with them. So tell me your reasons, do you have any?
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Jealousy, being petty, or straight up a hole. This is something the husband should deal with. Poor kid.
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He never should have married her.
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At the end of the day that’s how she is a ugly person . But is she the problem ? Mmm not really it’s the dad who chooses who is going to be in he’s life and he’s kids . And if he knows about her way of being then it’s not all her it’s the dad .
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Deff jealously or shitty soul in my opinion, if I had a partner and he showed he wouldnt treat my boy as his own I would tell him to fuk off tbh.
It’s mean that she is childish, petty bitch! And this child’s father should NEVER allow this to happen!
Its both the dads and stepmoms fault. The dad should want sum1 to love their child like they do.
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Are you sure the dad didn’t tell her to be that way with them? Sounds so dysfunctional
I’d say jealousy, that’s how I saw it with my stepmom
Lots of emotions on this one.
- It takes a strong unselfish good person to love someone else’s kids.
- If you can’t be that person move on… kids need to feel wanted in their home.
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I son’s dad has a new baby with a girl who does this. Drives me nuts.
What does it mean? It means they’re an asshole and it’s time for a divorce.
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I try my best and always have to make my stepson ( bonus son ) feel just as special as my own bio children, I’ve always made it a point to make his birthdays about him and go all out I’ve been in his life since he was 21/2 and have known him his whole life! at first it was rough because I didnt know how to parent another person’s child but as the years went by we learned and we have a great bond, of course I domt overstep and he does has his mom in his life but I always make sure he knows I’m here too just like mom and dad 
My kid’s dad gf has bullied and treated my kids like crap. They want nothing to do with her. She tried attacking me at one of my daughter’s functions.
He just turned 8 in feb 1st.
My ex’s wife had major animosity towards our daughter. He even talked about it.
She was basically jealous of the relationship our daughter had with her daddy.
She also had a daughter- who moved out because they had such a toxic relationship.
It’s sad, but it happens.
It makes me so mad 
and very sad for the kids
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She doesn’t sound fake. She sounds like a woman who doesn’t care to take care of someone else’s kid and doesn’t bother hiding it regardless of everyone else having a fit about it.
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I’m wondering why the dad hasn’t dumped her? Nobody comes before my kids. Sorry not sorry
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She’s a horrible person.
I couldn’t imagine treating any of the kids any different the one big happy family I have two incredible stepson and I have three wonderful daughters
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Shes just a cold hearted person, enough said 
The dad needs to get a clue
The real reason is why is he allowing his child to be treated that way
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I started dating my bf when he son was 6 weeks old… So im all hes ever known at dad’s house…we got him every other weekend and all summer till recently he lives with us full time Hes 9 now… I dont know what exactly was going thru his 7y\o brain… But he was very confused and disapointed to learn I was not his “real” mom… Lol. I’m just mama Sara and his mom is mama Lauren.
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Could she possibly have mental health problems shes avoiding getting treatment for? I struggle with depression and anxiety and when left un treated i become bitter toward everyone including my own kids.i dont mean to but my heads so fucked up my depression just gets me so down that i just dont want to exist anymore.
Absolutely none! Not one reason. If you choose to be with a partner that has children too, you love and treat them exactly as you do your own.
Just means your family grew. I have 5. My love has 3. So now WE have 8.
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It means she’s gross
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Yeah she’s a horrible person for doing that , but the dad is really the bad guy here. I wouldn’t marry someone who didn’t treat my kid as theirs too.
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im sorry i have to agree with you my husband (now) had 6 kids when we got together n 5 differant baby moms dont ask lol but i told him idc that if i can accept him i accept all his kids before me its only fair if u cant accept his kids then u should find someone without kids thats not fair 
n now me n my husband got 5 kids together n we got 6 grandkids just from him and we have 3 grandkids from me i had 3 kids with my exhusband so yes im sorry i do agree with u all are treated equally including grandkids
She doesn’t deserve that child. Dad shouldn’t be with her if she can’t love that child and treat the child correctly.
I still include my exhusband’s kids and husband’s exwife’s kids when we talk about our kids, although we only get to spend time with my biological 2 and his biological 1. I would happily welcome any child related to our 3 biological children and my husband’s exwife’s kids in my home for any reason (and that’s a lot of kids - like 15 between an unborn baby through 27 yrs of age). To love and protect my kids I’m open to each of their siblings from their other parent.
I guess my point is, why marry someone if you don’t want their kid/s too? I can’t think of reason short that child being a predator or generally violent
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There is no reason. When you love someone with children you love their children as well. They’re a package deal in my opinion
My step mom is like this. My dad and her got married with i was 3. She’s literally hated me since i was 3 yrs old. Now being a mom i dont understand how you could hate a child. I figured it was bc i look like my mom. She hater her also. She’s kept my dad from me most of my life or made my life miserable when i was with my dad. Im 28 now my mom passed away 1.5 yrs ago and she still hates me for no reason. So i dont get it either. But it hurts. I love my dad but he’s made it very clear he loves her more and thats the way it is. Not much i can do, sadly.
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My fiance has 5 kids plus1 together and I love those 5 as if they were mine!`I knew what I was getting into when we got together and honestly my step kids are so awesome I feel blessed to be apart of their lives! I hope ur situation gets better!
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Just wondering how you know the stepmom is doing this??? Is the child saying this, I’m only asking because I’ve been in the stepmom role for 28 years and my bonus daughter and I now have adult conversations about things she said happened that really didn’t happen and about things she was told to say happened that didn’t happen, she also said she would do or say things to get attention. I’m not minimizing what is going on in your family and believe this is happening to your family
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Have you thought about asking the gf why? There could be many reasons why and you’ll never until you get it from her.
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Cinderella’s Step Mother does exist. I had one myself im my teen years !!
She is dammed if she does and dammed if she doesn’t …If she is too involved the mum carrys on if not they still carry on she has done what’s best for her or simply she doesn’t like the child
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Is it s step child that was there before the relationship? Or a break baby? I don’t think it’s right to ignore a child period, but I can understand if it’s a situation where the child cane during the course of the relationship, how difficult it might be to build a bond. If the child was there before the wife - throw the whole wife away
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I had a evil step mother like that. She was a horrible jealous bitch, she always had some reason to keep my dad from attending my functions like bdays and stuff. From the time I was 3 until 28. She finally hit the bucket and I let the state have her body. My dad took the funeral money and went to a casino and asked me to pay. Oh heck no, he allowed her to treat me like scum and he could of manned up at any time. So they where both wrong, but I got my satisfaction in the end. No more evil step mother, and she’s in the county cemetery alone where she belongs. She let her own teenage daughter go on the street and put her own grandson in foster care. Some people are evil and karma repays them.
Blame the father. He doesn’t love his own son. He loves his evil wife more than his son. So sad for children nowadays.
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Id never ignore my boyfriend’s other child I don’t see her often (he has to go THERE to visit or doesn’t get to see her at all) but phone calls & times she has stopped by with her grandmother I’ve always talked and made her feel welcome.
I still love my daughter’s dads 2 sons like they was my own, they know they r welcomed at my home anytime. And I still live my exhusband’s kids like my own except the son bc what he did to my daughter and then his other daughter dont like me bc she says it didnt happen🤷♀️ his youngest daughter and his oldest 2 sons still talk to me. They r all adults now and live on their own. If u get with someone with kids it’s a package deal.
What about when the step mother has tried to be a part of the step kids life but they dont seem to care about the step parent
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As a stepmom to my husband’s children, I have been wanting to have a good relationship with his sons. When my husband and I were still dating, I always tried to reach out to them. When we got married, I tried to co’parent, made them feel like my own. I give them presents that I picked my own for them and write them letters letting them know that I could be there for them no matter what. They were happy when we’re together but things changed when their bio mother started throwing shades at me. She created wall between me and their sons. She’s actually not happy when his ex remarried. We actually reached to the point that we had to move far away from her because she always wanted to interfere into decisions and called my husband from time to time even in the middle of the night for no reasons. And each time we go out without their sons, she would make a big deal about it. She would yell my husband just because of that.
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Honestly its only if the mom is a psycho. My sons step sister isnt even allowed over to my house to play with my son (this is ex husband’s girlfriends daughter)
Maybe the mom was poison from the beginning and didn’t respect her. I was told on here. “They have a “mom” they don’t need another one. “ There’s too many women with men who have a child or children and blame the new wife, the new gf, or the new fiancé. They cause drama like no ones business. This is mental abuse and sometimes women (stepmoms) need to disconnect themselves to not get hurt and protect their own.
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No one without a warped mind CAN understand something like that. Some people are just warped and trying to understand them is futile.
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I grew up in this kind of situation and with both parent new significant others I was shipped from Home to home from 3-13 when I finally got a real job and move on my own 
never went back
Yes my step son said something you don’t say to a NY woman and he was in his 20s.his dad heard him he threw him out.
There’s all types of situations. I have 2 stepdaughters 12 and 14 I’ve been with their father for 2 years now and I’m pregnant with his baby. The girls spend one week with us and one with their mother. But while they are with us they do not follow the rules in our home at all and they are constantly asking their father take them to see their boyfriends and having him spend money on unnecessary things like new cellphone and other things. I feel so used and taken advantage of because I go out of my way to make them feel at home I bought them their bedroom set I always include them in all the activities with me and my 5 and 9 year old children. I invite them out with me even if dad stays home and it’s sad to say I dread the days I know when they’re coming over because I know it’s just going to be another argument. Just this week the oldest flushed a pad down the toilet and clogged it, they left 10 water bottles in their room, candy wrappers in their drawers stuck to their clean clothes, slime all over the brand new comforter set I got them and I’m just to the point where I’ve had enough and I don’t want to try anymore. I mean I know they’re his children and there’s no way around that but I shouldn’t have to feel this way either. There’s always two sides to every story.
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Step parents have, in their unreasonable minds, reasons for treating stepchildren like out casts. It is awful, but there is little that can be done. You can’t control their childish behavior. If your husband isn’t supportive of the child, then limit your son’s exposure. I would especially around the holidays.
I excused myself and my children from toxic events whether anyone liked it or not. My exe’s exwife didn’t like me around his family’s events. He didn’t correct the problem so I limited my exposure. I even left his mother’s birthday party bc he didn’t have the balls to tell me she was going to be there, even when I asked. He often told me that she is still part of the family and mistakenly referred her to his wife.
I bought my own house and moved. I felt that if he couldn’t remember who he was married to then he didn’t deserve me. I mean he didn’t let go of her, so I let go of him.
I think the problem is the kids dad. How are you with someone that doesn’t respect your kids
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To this degree I’d be pointing finger at the father for enabling it
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I literally left my ex-husband because he treated my oldest like shit
If you can’t love ALL of us you don’t get any of us
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Maybe the stepkid has been a little bastard to her ECT. Maybe biomum has caused that much trouble she has distanced herself from the kid and biomum
I have 2 [Step] Daughters that I Love Very Much. And They each have 3 kids each. I have 4 children who have Children and I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT I LOVE THE GIRLS JUST AS MUCH AS I DO MY OWN CHILDREN AND I LOVE THEIR CHILDREN JUST AS MUCH AS I DO MY CHILDRENS CHILDREN.I DO NOT NOR WILL I EVER MAKE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EITHER OF THEM. WE DO FAMILY GET TOGETHERS WHEN WE CAN. I AM PARALYZED AND CAN’T WALK SO WE DON’T GET TO GO TO THEIR HOMES LIKE WE WOULD LIKE TO. MY HUSBAND IS DISABLED AND HAS HEALTH ISSUES TO. I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE CAN’T EXCEPT THEIR STEP CHILDREN AFTER ALL THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE JUST AS SPECIAL AS YOUR OWN.
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It means exactly what you said. The kids mean nothing to her. Move on. You and your children deserve better. There coukd be another scenario. Are the kids treating her badly and your putting on your rose colored glasses to it? If that’s the case she’s simply not allowing herself to get hurt anymore.
I see constant posts about evil stepmoms who treat their step kids badly. I really believe that theres more good step moms than bad. At some point you have to hold the bio parent responsible for allowing the new spouse to treat their children like shit! They CHOSE to let that person into their kids life! They are responsible!
I think mom should reach out to the new wife as soon as they start dating and make friends with them. Far to many dont and the kids pay.
Animosity between the mom and the step mom ruins any chance of coparenting.
I’m not saying that theres not really bad step parents out there but put the blame where it really is. The bio parent that married her and allows it.
If the op hasnt addressed this with the dad, her ex, she’s dropped the ball! If she really doesnt like her child and shows it, she should put an end to it, whatever it takes.
There is never a reason for anybody to treat kids like shit.
When a person marries a person with children they also marry the child
Marrying someone with childrens is loving that child too. Package deal or scram.
My grandpa loved my grandma so much that he raised her kids with her. When she died he maintained his relationship with his kids. I’m the daughter of his step son. My grandpa loved us because we were a product of our dad who was a product of the woman he loved with every ounce of his being. He was so present in our lives even tho we were the military kids who were never around. I don’t think you can mistreat someone’s seed and still say you love that person. I watched my brother raise 3 kids that weren’t his. When he and the mom parted ways the kids always kept in touch with him. He kept in touch with them too. Several holidays they spent here with us. Birthdays we still spend together. They had their birth father but they preferred my brother who was always around for them. He has a daughter and treats her siblings like they’re all his. He went from loving those kids so much because they were an extension of his partner, to loving them so much because they’re an extension of his daughter. 14 years have passed and those kiddos have grown and they always come to visit my brother and my mom, they come to family functions, to school activities for my daughter. Love really knows no boundaries. Step parents are parents too and their actions affect the kids. How can a child love you as a parent when you don’t love them as your child?!
As a step mom of 2 i cant comprehended someone being a step parent amd being like that… last weekend it was my step daughters birthday, her wish was for me to be her mommy too, this made my heart swell to the point of tears, in my heart my step children are my children, (i just didn’t have to be pregnant 2 more times and rip my hoohoo apart again to obtain them BONUS).
Ya idk she cray cray. My stepdad walked me down the aisle, buys me gifts every holiday and birthday. Helps me with anything I need. He’s the best step dad ever. I have my mom break up with him if he pretended we didn’t exist. But he’s only 3 years older than me and has been with my mom for 11 years.
I dont have a stepchild bc my bf an arent married! I dont have anything to do with his son bc his son isnt allowed to be here when I am here bc of shit that had happened 2yrs ago. So unless myself an my kids move out he refuses to come here as well as his mother and his father and stepfather. None of them want him around me bc I am nothing but trouble so his father will go and spend time with somewhere else bc i dont have a car or license…
There a selfish person and my moms did that since i was 4 and i am not 38 years old and my brother is 37 but my moms husband has no problem With my kid
There is absolutely no reason I can think of other than shes awful. Unless the step child really doesnt like her or respect her at all or toxic in some way
So even though I’m grown I “technically” have a step monster. She was all great until December 2018. Then she talked to my sister and I like we were dirt on the ground and had a secret wedding with my dad in January 2019. She’s been the devil ever since. I grew up with my dad being my very best friend and I now have a 10 month old that he didn’t meet until he was 2.5 months old and hasn’t seen him again since. He can’t be around me or my sister unless his wife is present to babysit. So I’ve just removed them from my life because she is beyond toxic. If the stepmom won’t acknowledge and love, TRULY LOVE, the kid the dad needs to be done with her. Or his relationship with his child will NEVER be the same. I’m speaking from experience and it is heartbreaking.
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I can’t even imagine that. I’m a step-momma to a beautiful 14 year old girl. I’ve been in her life since she was 6. I think of her as my own. When her dad and I got married, she asked if she could call me mom. Her mom, step-dad, real dad and I all have a great co-parenting relationship. Better than most. She calls her step-dad; dad. I treat her as my own. She gets the same treatment, discipline, ect as my bio son. She’s my daughter. I love her to death. She is a great sister to her lil brother. We have her 1 week on, 1 week off. I can’t even fathom a stepmom doing crap like this. When you marry that person who has a child from a previous relationship, you marry the child as well. It’s no longer step or half, it’s just family.
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The other parent is to blame in my opinion. If my husband had not been able to genuinely develop a relationship and bond with my son then I would have never married him.
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Selfish, narcissistic behavior is my take. It is sad and the child(ren) know it! There are people out there who don’t have kids and if you can not love another child like your own- find a childless person or be alone! No child deserves less!!!
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When I first met my husband, my two youngest were in elementary school. They all were crazy about each other. My youngest once told my I couldn’t be with my man bc he was his best friend and that was just wrong. Fast forward 7 years and him and my daughter have a love/hate relationship. Him and my youngest basically hate each other. It hurts me so bad but neither of them seem to care. My son tells me to divorce my husband and my husband says he’s going to kick my son out. I wish I knew how to make it better. It really has gotten much worse since my son has gone through stage 4 cancer and is in remission now. I can hardly handle it anymore 
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When I was a single mom of 2, it wasn’t even in the books to date someone until I knew it was 100. He knew before we met that these kids come before me always. 6 years later, added one of our own and he treats them all equally. If he didn’t, I dc if we had a kid together or not…id leave his ass in a heartbeat. If I dated and went long term with someone with kids, it goes the same way. This is a shame and truly the parent picking lover over their children and that’s so so wrong!
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Maybe the dad needs to kick her to the curb. I have a stepson. I love him like he is my own child. In his grown now but lives with us because of some.personal reasons. If the stepmother can not accept her stepchild them she needs to go and if the father does not stand up for his own child and ask her why then to me he is not a man.
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Selfish. Maybe she feels as though the child takes away her affection when said child is around. Still no excuse for that behavior. I believe I would ask why there is a problem with my child. I’m a lion when it comes to my children you need to watch where you step
I love my step children (although I don’t call them that I consider them mine) but unfortunately there other coparent says some mean and nasty things about me and almost makes it to the point of the girls hating me “because I’m not there mother” apparently she thinks I’m unaware of this. I just treat them like I treat my own I don’t try to be there mommy and I respect they have a mommy so it is very frustrating at times but I still just love on them but I often hear how come you dont do for me what you do for your kids… (aka I dont mind going to the bathroom if my bio kids are in the shower, but I was raised not to with kids not of your own, I don’t kiss my un bio kids on the lips it’s always forehead kisses, I was told not to talk about them growing up aka changes within there body’s with them so when I speak with my children about it the other kids get upset…) so it’s a catch 22 but I do the best I can they all get the same love, they all get the same amount of anything in my house and i just try to respect said co parents rules and stipulations
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Could be jealousy and/or just plain selfishness. I mean some women feel that the man they are with has to be fully committed to the child/children they have together above a/the child they had before just for the simple fact that they are the present family. They do things spitefully to exclude the other child or children but that something that the father has to address because it’ll only be a problem if you as the mother try to address it
Sounds exactly like my stepdad. He doesn’t like anyone who takes my moms attention, even other family unless it’s HIS kids n family. Just glad I finally got the heck outta there
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Don’t think u r the only one in this kind of situation and even the grandparents encourage it. Children grow big one day.
So glad we have no stepchildren. However, there is also no excuse not to acknowledge them if you do. Have you asked? Because your ex should be the one ensuring they both have a relationship.
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Not sure why a person would be with anyone who doesn’t accept their children net alone marry them the step mom is fake and the dad is stupid and if I was the mother my child or children would not be around them
There’s no excuse for her behavior and if I was the husband, I would divorce her.
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I wouldn’t have that crap my step kids are my kids. And my husband is a great step dad. I could never be with someone like that
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My husbands son who is 12 now has been my sin since he was a yr and a half old he was never my step son in my eyes he was my son even now with my hysband and my 5 children yes still my son and always will be
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Can I ask does the kid ever come to their home. You say she doesn’t go to the kids house. I’m a little confused. Is it the ex wife’s house? Maybe that’s why.
I’m a step mom and I go to birthday parties and other celebrations for the step grandkids and my hubby’s ex is their.
Shame on that dad
Kid needs new parents!
What type of spouse would allow their child to be treated this way by a step parent?
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This is DISGUSTING to me. I couldn’t be with someone who mistreats my child.
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Brandon is good with all your kiddos, thanks b
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Why is the dad still w her is the real question 🤷
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Jealousy…because step-parent is in competition for hubby/dads attention.
It means shes a piece of crap stepmom!!
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I agree with, If you cant love them as your own you have no business with them. Question, why does the biological parent put up with this shit? I have 3 kids, have never been put in this situation, but you best believe if your not loving and accepting of my kids you wont be loving on me! Shame on all you ugly ass people putting children through this unnecessary bullshit.
In my opinion if you get with another person who has kids you are supposed to lobe and treat that child like your own. My husband has a son of his own and his ex wifw had a daughter when they for together. I had 3 of my own at the time. We didn’t become step anything. We became a FAMILY! Even get along great with his ex wife. We later took in a family members baby and he has become another son to us. We never have made any of the children feel as if thwy aren’t family! During holidays each gets the same quality gifts as the others. Nobody was treated less. For both of us, the extra children we were blessed with, however they came into our they were always loved and made to feel as if they were created by us in love. If you are not woman and grown up enough to treat a child as you would want another man or woman to then you have no business to be in a relationship with a person that already has children. They have been brought into a situation they didn’t ask to be! It’s our jobs to protect them from any uncomfortable situation.
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The step parent don’t like them n the other parent needs to make better choices when meeting ppl to engage in their childs life
None. She needs to be taken out of the equation
It means that man made a mistake and should’ve never married a woman that wouldn’t accept his son. There is no acceptable reason for that.