What is a reasonable curfew for a teen?

What is a reasonable curfew for a responsible 16 year old on a non school night? I have an opinion but want to see what others think.

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Mine was 9 on a school night and then anytime before midnight on the weekends

curfew honestly is more about when can I go to bed as the adult lmao, I cant sleep unless all the kiddos are at home safe, my kids know this so are very respectful with their curfew at the age 16 id say if there was one it would be 11 weekends are different.

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Depends on the age and maturity level. But it also depends on if there is a curfew in town. In the town i live in i believe it is 11 for under a certain age. My boys needed to be in by that time so they would not get fined for curfew.

11pm in our house. Nothing good happens after 11

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On a weekday when I was 16 it depended on what I was doing. My parents usually wanted me home by 11 so they can sleep knowing I was safe. They always bent the rules for a special occasion like a birthday party prom, different things like that.

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We have a 16 yr old and she doesn’t get in any trouble at all. Her curfew is between 9 and 930 and if she feels like she is gonna be late then she needs to pull over and call me to let me know what’s going on, then she doesn’t have to rush or be worried she’s gonna get in trouble. We also take into consideration who, what, when, where, and why and we adjust how we feel fit. Good luck

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I’d say, midnight for non school nights

11pm the latest on weekends and during week 9pm plus also by age would be the time and our city had set curfew for age on weekends.

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My mother never gave me a curfew. She let me decide. However, if I didn’t get up in the morning for school or chores she’d take away something in return. I learned my limits and was usually in by 11pm wknds, 10 on school nights

We let ours pick a time, generally it’s not unreasonable. He’s never picked anything later than 1130. But we expect him to be where he says he’s going to be

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If they are responsible, I think midnight. But they should check in around 10 so you know what they are up to.

Does the town have a curfew?

I always go by what it is they are doing and when it starts. Things like midnight bowling require a later curfew, while if you go to a 7 o’clock movie, the movie is done by 9 and you certainly don’t need to be out until midnight.

Even when I was 18 and still in high school (early birthday) my curfew was 11 p.m. on a school night on a non school night I was awake all night if I so chose. Even at 16.

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Non school nights for my boys was midnight and school night was 10

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Midnight. Nothing good happens after midnight.

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1030 on school nights, 11 on the weekends for mine. There r exceptions to every rule, but those r based on what, who and where. Also I have teens I trust to make good choices, so that factors in. Their older sister was a hot mess in HS and it was diff w her…I’m proud to say she is now a happy, functioning adult that’s an amazing mother! I think it’s one of those things that really depends on the kid, and u know them best.

I’m the house all the teens gather at ( not sure why nothing special) I have some leave a 10 some 11 and a couple others just will just sleep over I figure as long as your communicating with an adult idc how long u stay. My 16 year old will just sleek at a friend’s house If it’s past 10 she does not drive and knows I’m already in bed

On Friday and Saturday, 12 am

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I had to be home at 8:30 every night. 10:30 is reasonable lol

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11 pm for my children on a non school night. 10 pm on a school night.

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For my family… it really depended on where they were going, who they were with, and who was driving.

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I never had one but never stayed out past 1am. But that was from seeing the very last movie showing and then walking around Walmart. I worked since I was 14 always got home at 6pm. I was always with my bf, older brother and their friends. My parent never had to worry since I was responsible and big brother was always there.

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Mine was always 11… house bedtime.

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My oldest is 17 and works on weekends, and usually is out for 1 hour after work, on his days off on the weekdays he’s home by 11pm

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Driving curfew is 11 and so is home curfew

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We have a responsible 15 year old, we allowed an 11 curfew on Halloween. a school night to hang out with friends… She was home by 9. It depends on the occasion. School dances end at 9 usually but run long sometimes so 10 is very reasonable in my opinion a movie night on the rare occasion I would extend an hour but it would be 11 o clock no later.

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I didn’t have a set curfew but I had rules. Txt my mom where I was

Between 11 & 12. Usually ours have games though the next morning so if so then it’s 10

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Having the same curfew always just isn’t realistic. Depends on activity, current behavior, how they communicate when they are out, whether or not they drive or if I am Picking them up

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I don’t think it’s a singular set time but a event dependent time. On the norm I would say 11pm but there are events that may alter that time frame such as a formal dance, late showing of a movie or special occasion/event.

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She goes no where during the week and weekends no curfew

Depends on the activity…midnight is probably a good time if your kid is relatively trustworthy

When my oldest was 16 he didn’t get off work until midnight or 1, then he and his coworkers would sometimes go out to eat. So, he didn’t have a curfew.

10:30 is reasonable. nothing good happens after then. no sleepovers either.

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My 16 yr old is 10 weeknight and 11 weekends. But she works and her hours usually last until then anyway.

I had to be in by 9pm on school nights and midnight on weekends at that age

Communication is the key let them use their judgment 9 times out of ten if you have a good kid you won’t be disappointed My girls 17 an 20 have always been home before midnight on weekends because nothing good happens after midnight also on weeknights home by 9 we all have life 360 if they feel like they are gonna be late they let me know like I said communication is key an always know where they are who they with an what they are doing

Well when I was a teenager I didn’t have a curfew but I also didn’t drink, party or hide things so it depends on the child lol.

I’d say 9:30 and then check in if they want to stay out later

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I think it depends on where they are going and who they are hanging out with. For a general curfew I would say 11-12. Fortunately, in CT, there is a teen driving curfew of 11 so that makes it a little easier.

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My curfew as a teen was 11. For my teen and when she’s out on a school night she’s got till 5-5:30 because we live outside of town and it’s pretty much the same on non school nights for the same reason. She’s not great when it comes to the time so I give a specific time only she’s late every time, but she’s also turning 15 in January.
If your teen is responsible maybe 10?

My 16 and 17 year old has to be home by 10pm on school nights.

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I think midnight is reasonable on the weekend. My parents were quite strict but I was allowed out that late if I had a ride home from a responsible adult.

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I never really set a curfew for my oldest. Then again, she started working her first job (by her own choice) at 14, graduated high school almost 2 years early, worked 3 jobs- 2 full time 1 part time (her choice… was able to con her into quitting one job when I saw how overwhelmed she became), and attended college. She’s now 18, works full time, attends college, and her boyfriend and her just put in an offer on their first home. We’ve always had completely open communication and I really do think that’s a very important factor.

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I had a midnight curfew non school night and a 1030P if I wasn’t working curfew

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Home by 9:00, homework done and in bed 10:00

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My parents let me go out on dates maybe 3 times as a teen other than that i wasn’t really allowed to leave or stay afterschool unless my mom called and verified there was practice ( i wasnt a bad kid just overprotective parents) and i had to be home by 9pm

We don’t do curfews. I let them use their judgement. So far we have had no issues with taking advantage.

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If they want to come Home anytime they want then it’s Time for them to have their Own House and make their Own Rules

Whatever the city dictates…here I think its 11 on school night and 1am on weekends,after curfew your police escorted home unless you have proof of working after curfew

I think when I was that age it was 1030pm

As a parent I lay down the Rules you live in my house you abide by my Rules

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Town curfew is 10pm under 18. So Fri&Sat its 10. Weeknight is 9. I allow for exceptions, when appropriate

At that age as long as I was back before my family went to bed lol

Honestly I would say the curfew should be a leave by time vs. Be home at this time and for them to call you before they start heading home.

My hometown had a curfew 9:30 sirens would go off and you couldn’t be outside unless you were with someone 18+

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11 assuming you can trust him he’s responsible etc. I think 11 be good

We have town curfews. Does yours?

My oldest is 18 now so I can’t really set a curfew. Before I would let him tell me what he thought was a good time to be home and we negotiated from there. Make your kids take part in the decision it’s how you teach them to make a responsible decisions when they are older. When we just tell them be home at 10, you’re telling them and not teaching them to get their brains to go through the motions of logic and reasonable thinking.

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In bed by 9 pm on a school night 10.30 pm on weekends

when i was that age
school nights: 10
weekends & summer time/school breaks: midnight.

my oldest is 15 & my 17-year-old stepdaughter is here too and those are their rules as well

If they are responsible and you have that good trust bond with them, I would say set it as whatever the state curfew law is for minors. Cause I can say 11 on a non school night but the law might say 10 and I don’t want them getting into trouble unnecessarily, unless they’re at someone’s house and an adult will be bringing them home, then 11 is good for me.

I’d say midnight for non school nights

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I make their curfew depend on what activity they are doing like if they are going to a movie that ends late be home after the movie

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10 if homework is done and they get sleep for school. 11 weekends . Usually that’s the law as well

<3 I don’t have a curfew for my kids. I have an almost 21 year old and 3 teenagers. I always know where they are going and who they are with. I don’t want them speeding home or being in a huge rush to drive home. I can also call or text them at any point. 10pm is the latest any of them have ever stayed out. I do have good kids though so that might not work for all kids.

Kids and even adults get their best sleep before midnight. Id say 9pm.

Oh like 10pm
Just depends on the kid and the shenanigans they are up to. I’d say 10 for most cases. At that point I atleast wanna know where you are, your plan for getting home.

The more pressure you put on a curfew the more anxiety you put on your child. I had a curfew of 8pm and would be locked out for the night if missed or badly scolded. I will be giving my 16 year old an 11 pm curfew, drive safely let me know when you’re on your way home and eta. Kids have a habit of forgetting to check the time if it’s too late and they are too tired to drive call for a ride.

My kids don’t have a set curfew. It depends on what they are doing. And, I always know what they are doing.

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Really it depends. I have a 17 and 16 year old. If they go to the football game or something, which usually ends at 9, they come straight home. If its getting 930 your pushing being in trouble.(we live 5 minutes from school). Just hanging with friends 9 or 10 depends on the function. And also depends on if I’m their transportation or not.

I’d say 11. Check your city’s curfew laws.

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Ya’ll were allowed to go out as a teen and have fun? Lmao my parents were strict af

11 on a non school night to make sure I’m up and know they get home safe

11… But she’s 17, so she doesn’t actually low its midnight… once she graduates there is no curfew, just communication.

Midnight. If spending the night FaceTime me at that time so I know you are safe

There should be a curfew for your town and if they get caught out then it’s a fine

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I had one, even at 18. I had to be home, in bed, lights out by 9pm through the week and 10pm on weekends. I hated it, resented my mom for it and often told her I was staying at a friends house and then was out all night long. I didn’t want that for my kids.

I never set a curfew with my oldest two daughters. I asked for open communication. As long as I knew where they were, who they were with and what they were doing, I didn’t see a need for a curfew.

They asked permission before making plans, they communicated when they were leaving one place and heading somewhere else and they always called when they were running late.

I’m currently doing the same with my 15 year old son.

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10…11pm at the latest depending on the trust level

Depends if you trust your kid or not…if your child has given you a reason not to trust them then an early curfew but if your child is trust worthy and responsible I don’t see anything wrong with a later curfew

In my state a 16 year old can’t drive after 11pm, so if they are driving or in the car with another 16 year old who is driving they need to be home by 11. If they are out with someone 17 or over, midnight. My dad always told me nothing good happens after midnight and the older I get the more I realize just how true this is.

16 - 9 maybe 10pm. I mean what exactly are they doing on a school night other than school- work. You don’t need

With my kids it depends on where and who they are with and what they have going on in the morning. Anywhere from 10 to 12

Aren’t there town curfews ? And their license is no good after a certain time? Like 11pm or something.

Really depends on the kid and what they’re doing…

If the teen is responsible I should say 10pm if the teen can’t follow that rule they stay home

My kids didn’t have curfews.
I just let them use their best judgement. They never took advantage. Also, even though being home by curfew is a time management thing, I for one use to drive crazy to make it in the door by curfew. I don’t want my kids to do that.
My youngest of four just turned 18.

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Whatever the town ordinance is. I think ours is 1am

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At 16 it was midnight unless otherwise specified and approved, at 18(still in high school) it went up to 2am with a call if you’re going to be late, and once I graduated I no longer had one.

In the 90s, my curfew was midnight. My kids have never had a curfew. They tell me where they will be and with whom they will be with. They usually are home before they say they will be. They all also share their location with each other and 99% of the time they answer my calls/texts or call/text me back asap.

Given I have to drive everyone everywhere and play taxi. The latest I will leave my house to pick anyone up is 8 for traveling short distances 7 for long distances. Once they can drive themselves I would say 10:30 or so unless it’s previously discussed that they will be late that night. We live in a very boring town and there isn’t really anywhere to go at night. Most everything is closed by 10 anyhow.

Our oldest is 17 he didn’t have a curfew but knew he had work that morning and was going so he was in the latest 1am he was also with a great group of kids and I didn’t have to worry about him running the roads or doing stupid crap he is very responsible…

No reason a teen needs to be out after 10 pm.
As my granny said. Nothing’s open after 10 pm except. Liquor stores, ER’s and legs , none of which your teen needs to be in.

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It’s your child and no one knows them better than you but for my child when he started driving at 16 it was 10 on school nights and midnight on non school nights but he’s very mature for his age and has a good head on his shoulders. Usually he’s home way before his curfew.

We start with the “city curfew” and work from there. It depends on the child and their ability to be safe.

I had Be home by last bus so 11pm

I mean mine was street lights, seems reasonable enough to me

8pm for a school night. 10pm for a none school night. kids dont need to be out late at night.