My 12-year-old daughter wants to do something with the hair above her upper lip, and she wants to tame her eyebrows. I’ve noticed in the last few months that both are getting to be very noticeably thick, dark, and unruly, but I never said anything to her because, at her age, this isn’t something she needs to worry about. However, a couple of girls from school have (sort of) politely brought these to her attention, and now she is totally embarrassed and is determined she is getting it taken care of. I understand how she feels, because I have to stay on top of my own and I am super self-conscious about it, but I just don’t know if it’s appropriate to start her shaving her upper lip and plucking her eyebrows at 12 years old (I say shaving and plucking because waxing is out of the question at this point.) She did start having her legs over the summer, if this makes any difference. Should I make her leave the facial hair alone until she is older, or do I show her how to take care of it?
Go ahead and let her. She’s pretty well a teen now. I don’t see any harm in it
My mom def started taking me when I started complaining about it for my brows I was like fifth grade ish! And eventually bought my own wax pot and it’s saved me so much money!
I started waxing at that age. 
I’m not sure why that’s a big deal? It’s easier than plucking and shaving imo
Hi. I am a qualified beauty therapist and happy to answer this. I also have a 13year old. Defo do not allow to shave will come in stubbly and won’t last too long. Go to a nice salon at a weekend so time for redness to go down and get an upper lip waxed and eyebrows done. I did my daughters eyebrows at 12. No harm in it as long as not too thin x
I was 15 when started getting mine done. But i would start taking her now if others are bringing up to her.
Teach her how to take care of it now.
I would wax the upper lip instead of shaving it. Shaving could leave lots of little razor bumps. Waxing will also help keeps the hair gone longer.
First I would never ever ever let her shave anything on her face that will be complete destruction and she will have a beard. But I would let her wax or whatever she needs done. She is at an appropriate age.
I dont think I’d shave the lip, I’d take her to a salon and have her brows and lip waxed
Take her to a professional, it’s much better than her possibly trying to do it herself or allowing a friend 
Don’t shave! Take her in and have it done by a pro. Shaving we only make it worse.
She’s about to be a little tween… id let her do it. Just remind her that she’s beautiful either way!
It’s better to help her with it before she does something crazy like I did and shave half my eyebrow off in 7th grade:woman_facepalming:t2:
I’d get that stache lasered for her immediately if it was my kid. Self esteem is super important at that age.
Definitely get them waxed
Please do not let her shave it it will only come in thicker and darker only wax
Do not let her shave her mustache That will make it worse maybe try nair if u dont want her waxing… And now is a great time in my opinion to let her pluck her eyebrows…
I waxed my daughters eyebrows at 12
Show her how to take care of it. What you DONT want is to come home one day to find that she decided to do it herself. I’d also suggest waxing or threading. Shaving her top lip isn’t a wise idea.
I dont think theres a correct age as such. But if its affecting her confidence then let her do it if its going to make her feel good. Why make her hold off until an age that others deem suitable? Of course make sure she knows she is beautiful regardless 
Get one of those safe hair removers. She can use it without worry of hurting herself.
Get her brows done and get some hair removal creme for her lip. Its easy and works.
Definitely don’t shave it, if you’re worried about waxing why not try hair removal cream for sensitive skin
I started slightly plucking my eyebrows around that age too, not really shaping them or anything just making them look more put together, i think it’s okay to start at that age. As for her hair above the lips i would honestly wax it cause if she shaves it itll grow back within a couple of days and itd be too much bother in my opinion. But if she is embarrassed about it id definitely let her do something about it at this age 
I would not shave the upper lip. Wax maybe but not shave. It’s totally up to you if you feel shes at the age to have it done. You dont have to ask other people.
Do not shave her her upper lip!! Ever!!!
You should never shave your face…bleach or a removal cream
When I was that age I bleached my upper lip and just tweezed my brows.
Take her to the salon it’s about her feeling okay
I would not shave maybe look into bleaching the hair on upper lip instead of waxing. I would not start waxing or shaving ,the hair comes in more frequently and is difficult. The eyebrows I can see you getting waxed but not the upper lip
When she starts to feel self conscious of stuff
I have always been self conscious about mine, my mom started letting me do all this around her age too. It’s a good bonding experience for you both. I wish I would have started waxing instead of shaving because the hair tends to come back thicker and it stays gone longer if you wax it. Plus then you dont have to worry about tbe razor burn, etc. But at the end of the day it’s your choice! She needs you momma. You’ll make the right decision either way
Flawless works good and is safe … Personally let her it’s so uncomfortable as a kid but show her the right way … But yes try a flawless razor shell love it 
I have always been very hair and I have always been so self conscious about it…I had the bushy eyebrows and really dark and long hairs on the top lip and my legs looked like man legs…my mama wouldn’t let me shave till I started my period so I faked a period for a whole year just to be able to shave and I literally shaved half my eyebrows off because she wouldn’t take me to get mine done…I was 12 when all this happened…so I would take my daughter if she had issues with hair…
Shes at that age. But no shaving her face. That’s all bad. Wax only
Let her do it. If she’s getting made fun of i feel like she’ll just resent you if you don’t let her. Plus does it really change anything?
Seems like a great opportunity to bond with her. Make a girls day out of it! I would definitely get it taken care of before she finds a razor and attempts herself.
Take her to get her lip and brows waxed. You don’t want her to dread going to school because of something like that. At least she came to you first, 12 is an acceptable age and it can be something you two do together.
Its perfectly fine to do it at that age,take her somewhere or teach her how to properly maintain a cleaner look.
So you’re self conscious about yours and keep it tidy but you want to force her to keep hers? Say what now? I highly doubt her peers were “polite” about it, they’re 12 year olds who bought something to her attention and now she wants it gone? Yeah, there was nothing polite about it and surely you know that.
Don’t shave them. Why is waxing out of the question? That’s probably the most appropriate for her right now until she decides if she wants permanent hair removal later.
I had a full on unibrow and moustache when I was in 4th grade, I got made fun of it and that night my mom waxed me. I think if it bothers her than take care of it, just know there will be upkeep now
Wax or thread !!! Dont shave or pluck her eye brows let them be shapped
At least let her take care of her upper lip. Show her how to comb her eyebrows if you don’t want her waxing them yet. Yes waxing, it’s faster and a lot less painful than plucking
I wouldn’t shave anything on the face! but I’ve always been told If they are old enough to be embarrassed about it they are old enough to be taught how to take care of it in terms of shaving the legs or plucking eyebrows.
I tale my girl in to get hers done professionally, she has an unruly unibrow, and kids make fun, so I take her in about every 2 months and her out taken care off for her, if done right they will grow to love it, it’s mommy and daughter time for us
Definitely need to get rid of the facial hair now! Only a matter of time before other kids start to bully her and life in this age is difficult enough for girls her age.
It’s impossible for hair to change it’s structure after shaving or waxing. It will not grow back thicker or darker, I don’t know why people think that .
I would say if she’s really bothered by it, let her wax it.
Take that baby to get her stuff done!! It is so hard for girls her age to fit in. Especially when others can be so cruel.
If she’s old enough to ask she’s old enough to get them fixed. Don’t make her suffer.
if its effecting her show her how to do it or take her somewhere to get it done and show her how to keep up on it (threading her lip maybe better than shaving). shes already shaving her legs… just think of this as an extention of that and help her feel better about herself.
Got my 11 year olds done. It’s ur child it’s up to u.
My daughter will beturning 11 next week and for her birthday she is getting her eyebrows done for the first time. Her eyebrows are pretty thick and she does have a unibrow going so that’s what she asked for because she is in junior high and becoming self-conscious about her upper lip and eyebrows
Let her. These kids are harsh these days
My daughter is 9 and I’ve been doing her eyebrows for a few years now. She just started shaving her legs as well. I think it all depends on the child. My daughter had other girls making fun of her when she was 7 so we started cleaning up her appearance to help boost her self esteem and it surely has
I say waxing. When I was young I had hairy legs and wasn’t allowed to shave. I was so embarrassed when I had to dress out for PE. I wore knee high socks to hide it…
My oldest took her sister to get her eyebrows threaded. She said it hurt but wanted to do again; definitely made her feel better. Shes 11.
Yessssss! It’s is time!
Why not take her to have them waxed? If she feels uncomfortable with it, you should help her. It doesn’t matter the age, she should feel comfortable and confident. It’s just hair. The main problem I see is not her age, just that she takes care of it properly. Think about your insecurities and if someone made you live with them.
Take her to get it done.
Take her momma. 12 is fine
What it’s a myth about shaving your face you can I do for a smoother look make up goes on smoother. There’s razor made for women. In fact it’s a good exfoliating way to get dead skin off you look amazing and you will look younger. Tweeze away brows do it!!
I’d take her to a salon & have it waxed. I don’t understand why that’d be out of the question. I feel like 12 is old enough, especially if shes self conscious about it. Kids can be extremely cruel in middle school.
Bring her to a licensed esthetician to learn about proper skin care… she won’t listen to you because you were her mom but she will listen to some cool chick in her 20s tell her how to take care of her skin and shave and pluck. Will be the best 50 bucks you ever spent 
As long as it is her idea, I would take her.
Take her to get it professionally waxed. Honestly its quick and painless and helps shape her eyebrows
I get my stuff threaded. It’s better for the hair
I would take her to get it taken care of professionally. I know that 12 seems young for that, but just think of all the anxiety and self shame you would be saving her. It’s so hard fitting in. At 29 I am still so self conscious of my mustache. If you don’t allow her to address it the right way she may decide to do it on her own, and that could go really badly.
Don’t let her be bully for something stupid like that. Say yes mom.
Show her how she is at that age let her do it
If it’s bothering her take care of it. I don’t believe there’s an “appropriate age” associated with this kind of stuff. Every girl is different. Great opportunity to teach her how to do it properly and safely.
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Go ahead momma! I was in the same boat at that age. I got picked on a lot because I had hair on my upper lip.
My mom let me start shaving when I was 12 it’s nothing wrong with her doing her eyebrows and shaving at age 12 I was doing it
I would get it waxed at a salon.
Take care of it! Especially if it will make her feel more confident
Take her to have her lip waxed and teach her how to pluck her own eyebrows! My mom was pretty strict about that stuff, no shaving no plucking no tampons… my grandma ended up plucking my eyebrows and teaching me to shave behind my mom’s back… my aunt and cousin bought my first tampons and taught me how because we went on a camping trip and I told them I couldn’t go swimming because I was on my period and they were like oh hell with that lol my mom was furious when she found they let me use tampons… just don’t be too sheltering, I don’t see anything wrong with her learning how to do those things, she’s going to have to take care of all that for the rest of her life anyways so might as well learn it from mom
I would definitely take her to get them both waxed. She did the right thing by talking to you about it rather than taking it into her own hands. It proves she feels like she can come to you. Shows maturity. Reward her! #Parenting done right. #Good job Momma
My daughter is almost 13 and hasn’t even asked about shaving, but my oldest son ( now 21 ) had his uni brow waxed from age 8. If she wants to do it, no harm. I always leave things like these up them.
I wouldn’t shave or pluck. I’d wax. And if she’s old enough that its impacting her self-esteem, I would teach her that what other people think doesn’t matter, but give her a little freedom to do what she needs to be happy with herself.
This is definitely something to worry about at her age, kids are cruel and u got your daughter who is almost a teenager walking around with a mustache. Smh. Take her to get it done this is the perfect age to start grooming her facial hair. Seriously poor girl.
Have it done professionally, for sure. And you can trim brows tio and that makes a world of difference!! I trim mine way more often than I wax them!! But dont let a young girl be self conscious. Maybe make a mommy daughter day of it and have yours done as well, to ensure her that this is COMPLETELY 100% NORMAL and all women deal with it!
If Shes bothered bybit. She’s old enough to take care of it. Take her mama
Those girls probably wont be polite about it for very long since they went out of their way to even bring it up. So soon you will be dealing with her being bullied and her confidence dropping…Why don’t you get a wax kit and make it a girls day where you can bond/talk about everything going on? I personally would never shave any part of my face…waxing on the other hand…everyone has preference though…
Regardless I would try make a fun day out of it, do each others nails, etc. Let her know that shes beautiful regardless but you understand how she feels and will help/support her however you can.
She is old enough, my mom plucked my eyebrows when I was 12 because she caught me. I was about to shave my eyebrows off because they were thick and I didn’t like them. She’s a preteen and if it’s noticable take care of it. She is becoming a little woman.
My friend took me to get my nails done and eyebrows waxed for one my birthdays I think it was my 13th
Take her to have her lip and eye brows waxed and once she gets her eyebrows waxed once and they shape them, teach her how to pluck them to keep up with it and keep the shape
Teach her how mamma. 12 is plenty old enough
The amount of grown women that believing shaving makes your hair thicker and darker is mind blowing. Yall it does not change the texture, color, or rate of growth 
If it’s bothering her and she is asking you about it, I would definitely show her how to do it properly. No harm if she wants to do it. It’s just unfortunate that kids need to grow up so quickly these days in order to “fit in” and not get picked on.
Do not shave your face…it only makes it worse…
Show her how to take care of it. 12 is old enough to be taught.
My mom started plucking and tweezing mine when I was 12. I’m also Italian and our brows get so thick 🤦 say yes! Definitely don’t let her be bullied or teased
If she is asking, let it be done. Don’t let her feel bad about herself.
Show her how to take care of it Momma please kids can be cruel and the last thing you want is her to feel self conscious or try to do it herself. I think it will be a great bonding time for both of you maybe get face masks and do a spa day at home with her that includes doing her eyebrows and shaving her upper lip
Get it permanently removed so she doesn’t have to deal with it the rest of her life.
my son is 13 and has been shaving his face since he was 11. It made him self conscious for having facial hair and a lot of it at such an early age. Kids can be cruel now days, maybe just show her how to properly do it.
I see nothing wrong with it. My sister got her eye brows waxed yesterday. And she is very tom boyish. But get them done professionally. That way they can wax her eyebrows to a good shape and thickness.
Take her to a hair salon where someone will do it the right way. Don’t let her do it herself… a 12 year old doing that to herself sounds like recipe for disaster
A friend of mine’s daughter has been getting her eyebrows threaded for about 6 months— it’s simple, inexpensive, and done professionally— I would take her to a reputable salon and have let them take care of it!
Also, waxing makes the hair stay away longer